You graduated from a prestigious university and usually worked hard, but your colleagues said that y

Uh, if he says that about you, do you admit it, you just have to do your own thing, what others like to say, let him say go, just do your own thing well.

Go your own way and let others say go, you should understand this sentence, you live according to your own way of living, others can't interfere with you, if you do your results, they will be very envious, if you can't do the results, they will laugh at you, this is normal.

This kind of thing is very common in the workplace, so he said that he doesn't need to pay attention to this at all, even if it is a famous college student who graduates and has such a way in interpersonal interactions, it is normal, so don't pay attention to others.

I think as long as you are yourself, don't care too much about what others say about you, as long as you work hard. You rely on your own ability to win the attention of the leader, so you don't need to care what others say.

The mouth grows on others, as long as it is not too much, you don't need to pay attention to those sour words, what should you do.

It's obvious that he's jealous of you, and there are not a few people like that, as long as you do your best.

Well, well, what I want to say is, you said that you graduated from a famous university, and you usually work very hard Well, but some colleagues said that you said, uh, you are the leader, uh, what to do about this, what I want to say is, whether it is at work, study, or in daily life, there are always some people who like to stir up trouble, that is, to say that others have some uh-nothing words, or always guess, always like to talk about others, I want to say that you can't control everyone's mouth, let him say what he doesn't say, What I want to say is uh, this should be ah, this should be a uh you should accept this fact, don't pay too much attention to what these people say, what they say can sometimes be false, but what they say doesn't mean you're just that, what I want to say is, don't argue with the dog, um, the dog bites you, think about it, you're going to get yellow dog, but if you bite the dog, you won't get anything, and you may pay him money, so don't argue with them.

This society is like this, there is no fuss! He scolds his leader, let's do our job well! We look down on people like them!

Do your job well, what others do is his business, if the leader is very satisfied with his behavior, it means that the leader is not a good person, you can consider changing jobs.

Communicate with colleagues often, do your job well, and make your leaders feel that you are a good person.

This is the right thing for you to do, otherwise they will have to inch in and eat you more and more, then you will be miserable, but you must be mentally prepared, sooner or later there will be a meeting and it will be difficult to deal with, that is, sooner or later you have to consider changing jobs, otherwise you will be very tired to stay there.

It's a very frustrating thing to meet such a partner, you have to do a lot of work for no reason, especially when you are working very hard to see him leisurely, it can make people feel very unbalanced. But don't pay too much attention to this person, know that there are two sides to the coin, he brings a lot of trouble to your work and affects your mood at work. Do your part.

I have a female colleague who is like this, all you have to do is be more professional than her, but you don't have to do everything, you can do what you can.

If this person has already reached the level of leadership (which you can't reach), then you can consider changing jobs.

If not, then you can report it to the senior leadership (you have to show evidence yourself), such as a video or something.

Secretly discussed with other colleagues in the same group.,Several people went to reflect together.,By the way, the leader who colluded with that person was also reported.。。。

1. Admit your mistakes sincerely and simply. For example, because someone else handed you something late, the leader scolded you. You can say that what the leader said is that I should really urge more, and when I can't urge it, I should also think of more ways to report to you in time.

This is to catch the leader's emotions with a good attitude and drag him back to the level of rational dialogue.

Don't be in a hurry to show grievances, anger and dissatisfaction, and rush to explain, these will only make the leader want to continue to scold you. After all, the leader is angry, and he will not listen to the explanation, and will only feel that we are making excuses, passing the buck, or challenging his authority.

2. Provide solutions immediately, make up for the losses that have been generated, and reduce the losses as much as possible if they cannot be compensated. Use the opportunity to show your leaders your ability to respond to crises.

For example, you can say something like: I'll adjust it right away, and I'll give it to you in 30 minutes, and next time I'll bring the deadline forward and write it into the work** to synchronize the progress with my colleagues in time and give you feedback. Increase the attention of your colleagues and prevent similar problems from happening again.

3. Finally, there is a very important tip, before leaving the leader's office after talking about the solution, we can sincerely and even a little shyly hand over a thank you for the leader's guidance. This is actually a method of implication to change the definition of this conflict in the leader's mind.

I think you can say whatever you want, and you can't compromise on everything. Otherwise, he's used to always finding fault with you.

The degree of attention that the leader attaches to an employee is not whether you will be a sycophant, whether you will give him benefits and invite him to dinner, if you can leave you, no one's work is as good as yours, and the leader will give you small shoes? Moreover, there is a difference between learning language arts and patting sycophants.

You may not have pinpointed the problem, if a leader takes special care of someone because he is invited to dinner, then that leader is not good. You don't have to mind. There is also whether you have gone too far with the leader, in fact, it doesn't matter if you eat or not, the key is whether you communicate regularly and let the leader know your situation.

Don't think too much, if you wear small shoes just because you didn't invite you to dinner, this leader is not worthy of being a leader, and the quality of leadership is too poor, you just do your job well, and no one dares to bully you if you have the ability.

If you don't invite you to eat, you can do it in another way. For example, visit the leader and give some small gifts. This expression should be there.

Then you should leave without hesitation, because you can't always maintain this kind of business. Only relative fairness can be cohesive and motivating.

Inviting the leader to dinner is a personal problem, don't get involved with work, this is the highest level of hospitality, in fact, can it really not be touched? Impossible! On the other hand, even if you do ask, can you be sure that he will definitely arrive?

So sometimes don't complicate simple questions, remember a sentence, human feelings are articles.

In the workplace, because you didn't invite the leader to dinner, then the leader will give you small shoes, such a leader is really not very much, because it is not from the work, to see how your work ability is? If your work is not in place, your work ability is a little poor, the leader glue, you can't complete your work, he wants to drive you away, but he doesn't want to, he doesn't want to say it clearly, so he will give you small shoes, let you automatically leave your job, leave this place, if this is the case, then you work hard and get rid of your shortcomings, if not, then you leave this place of right and wrong, don't work here.

Work hard to study technology and learn skills, so that only others have to ask for you, the leader will also think that you are a useful talent, even if you don't go to the leader, the leader will look up to you.

It's so normal, it's like this now, this kind of thing has been happening since you stepped into society, we can't get used to it, but there is nothing we can do about it, we can only do our job.

Are you in the private sector or in the civil service?

This is the workplace society, some things, if the leader likes to eat this set, if you want to please him, you have to do this, but there are also some leaders you invite him to eat, he will not go to this step by step, this is a human difference, so, under what circumstances, how to deal with this matter, how to have a good relationship with the leader? You also have to do this, and you have to find a way to make your future work smooth Answering questions is very satisfying, hydrogen adoption, thank you.

Because you only care about work and don't do a good job in interpersonal relationships, since you have established a relatively poor interpersonal relationship, it is recommended that you change the environment (change company or department), start over, and deal with colleagues more in the future.

You have personality and want to keep your innocence and appreciate it. But you live in a real society, you need to live, you need a job of your own, but you want to maintain your own innocent premise, this society is not self-interested, the originator of economists Adam. Smith said

Man is both an angel and a devil." Which accompany the leader to eat, drink, and play all day long, not everyone is willing, and they talk to people; Hell talking nonsense. This is a bit vulgar, but seeing people talk nonsense; Who can understand what the hell is talking about!

You can maintain that kind of innocence, but in the psychology, I can understand your noble sentiments, and you can also communicate with the leader through some scenes, don't exclude activities such as eating and singing, so that maybe the distance between you and the group is closer, and the bright ones are easy to stain; It is easy to break; If a person is observed, there is no disciple; When the water is clear, there are no fish, don't use the binary method to deal with everything, there may be gray between white and black, the sludge is very dirty, but you can get out of the sludge without staining, but you can't help but let the sludge exist.

I myself don't like people who love to lead, because I feel that this kind of person is two-faced, not very honest, I prefer kind-hearted people, like that kind of person, I don't like to get along with them.

Such a person is actually very easy to get along with, because such a person is more sleek and sophisticated, as long as you do a surface with him, he will also get along with you, as long as you keep an eye in your heart, don't let him hurt you.

I think you should stay away from such people, not to get along with such people, because if you get a certain opportunity through the person who leads the leader, I don't think it is meaningful, and it is best to work your own.

If you yourself are very disdainful of his behavior, I think you should stay away from him as much as possible, because he may show you everywhere how good his relationship with the leader is, but you are very unaccustomed to his behavior, everyone sees through it and does not say anything, and you can also maintain a superficial peace with him.

You don't want to slap their hearts, if they still want to think so, they are not as good as you think, in this case, why don't you make friends with those more sincere people and make progress together, of course, you still have to be bold to make friends, if you don't try, how do you know if they are good or not.

I think it must be very tiring to get along with people who love to tie up leaders, because if you get along with them, you need to restrain your interests and hobbies, and just be a listener, but in the process of two friends being better, only being a listener and not expressing your own words will be very tiring.

I think this phenomenon is really normal, because only in this way, you can get along well with others, you can only pretend not to know, or go along with him, basically this kind of person is a person with a strong sense of vanity.

I think these people can just live in peace with him, but they don't need to learn from him, they don't need to be special leaders, they don't need to be special to leaders, and they don't need to be particularly disrespectful. It's okay to treat it normally.