How do you maintain a balance between love and life after marriage?

1. In the face of married life, I was depressed

After getting married, you need to take care of the housework and children. The year I just gave birthI was depressed

I need to get up at night to take care of the children, and the next day there is a bunch of housework;

also has a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law!

Now that my daughter is in kindergarten, she gets up at 6 o'clock in the morning and sends her child to school; After returning home in the evening, accompany the children to read, sleep, and do some housework; Playing together on the weekend, life almost revolves around these trivial things.

I once asked myself: Is a woman's life, keeping her family and children, is it her life?

2. Although married life is trivial, it also has a taste

Married life is surrounded by trivial things, but I am committed to myself1 hour of self-solitude must be maintained every day。So:

1. I learned baking;

2. Learned clothing design and achieved 0 clothing purchases;

3. I fell in love with handicrafts and made a lot of rag dolls;

4. Learn hand-drawing, mind mapping, etc.;

5. Read 1 book and do yoga 1 time a week;

6. Start writing, code 200,000 words.

Because in the 3 years I have been a mother, I know the preciousness of time and am reluctant to waste it; The child is growing up day by day, and it reminds me that if I don't work hard, I will grow old.

IIIHow to find a balance between love and life

No matter how beautiful love is, you have to face pots and pans, vegetables, rice, oil and salt.

1. Enjoy love in life

True love is not to go to the ends of the earth together, but to face the long march of life together. In taking care of each other and taking care of the family together, you can experience the love of relatives.

2. 1 romantic date per month

Find a day every month to put down the children, put down the housework, and go on a date with the husband to keep the love fresh.

3. Give love a ritual

On wedding anniversaries, birthdays, Valentine's Day, etc., carefully prepare a gift for each other to make love have a sense of ceremony. It evokes memories of love.

In general, love is in marriage. Entering marriage, I understand that love is not about sending a bouquet of flowers and creating many surprises every day. It's that you can understand when I make mistakes, you can help with the trivialities of life, and you can take care of me when I'm sick.

Live for yourself.

This point is huge, but it is a way to balance your own psychology. Don't let marriage get carried away, in fact, before getting married, you should put yourself in the right frame of mind and think about what kind of life you want to live after getting married? Don't be at a loss because a person gets married, or worse, doesn't know why they got married?

Just at this age? It's really bad, even if you work hard to balance such a marriage, you won't be happy.

Love needs to be cultivated and cared for by two people together, not one person's duty or one person's stay. Be sure to make yourself clear about your positioning, don't really think of yourself as a housewife, you have to have your own unique behaviors and thoughts, you can't be assimilated, you can't lose what belongs to you, and the feelings and thoughts of the love period can also be properly retained, especially don't really think that life after marriage is the life of a family, no, no, love and life can be talked about separately.

Romance and love are suitable for any stage, life is firewood, rice, oil and salt If you find the right point between two people, you don't need to worry about it for a long time, you have all kinds of problems with each other, especially if you have other thoughts in your heart. Give more time for two people, you can do anything, I personally think don't deprive two people of all their time, this time is to let two people talk to each other about anything, after all, a marriage that destroys sincere conversation can fail.

Don't put all your time on the other half, remember that you have your own things to do, marriage is just a step, it will not change the original living habits and behaviors, so what state is what it is before, don't disrupt it, life will still leave a gap for two people, this gap is to maintain love, attitude determines behavior, don't be completely assimilated by life is a point of balance.

After getting married, the temperature of love will inevitably be extinguished by the trivial things of life, and at this time, you need to add some small spices appropriately, such as your husband getting off work and occasionally bringing a small gift or something she likes to eat back to his wife. It's a pity that the two of them occasionally go out to watch a movie together and go to a newly opened restaurant to eat.

Two people should respect each other and understand each other in life, but some meaningful days still have to be celebrated, such as the wedding anniversary, and their own birthdays.

To tell the truth, love is a kind of romance, marriage is a kind of responsibility, there is romance, it takes a lot of time to go through the middle of the responsibility, it takes a lot of time to go through the experience and screening, rational inner thinking, mature planning, clear self-inner needs direction, if you do all this, it is really difficult and arduous, if you want to make a smooth transition from love to marriage, you have to start from yourself.

Perfect your personality first.

Love can be carried out by one's own temperament or oneself can live a romantic life, but in the face of marriage, we need to be a person who is rational and wise, do not put, when in love, that set is copied to the marriage life, in marriage, you need each other, improve your personality, a person is stubborn, the other person will learn to be realistically tolerant, even if they quarrel, they can be reconciled in time.

If you want to better adapt to the new married life, you must try to adjust yourself a little, although you should not lose yourself in marriage, but you must also remember that you cannot be stubborn in marriage.

Learn to live with each other's shortcomings.

When we are in love, what attracts us is the advantages of the other party, marriage will magnify, the shortcomings of the other party, the process of two people running in is the process of accepting and tolerating each other's shortcomings, everyone tries to find a perfect person, but unfortunately, in the end you will find that there is no perfect person in this world.

Always believe that even if you are a good person, you still feel that he must have shortcomings, and when you fall in love, you will only care about the other party's advantages, and even you will magnify the other party's advantages ten times and a hundred times.

Looking at it, how can there be so many perfect partners and perfect marriages, some are just a blind eye to the wisdom of the foolish chest has its own hills and valleys of calmness, can make trade-offs, will be balanced, seeking common ground while reserving differences, in exchange for marriage, such as for many years seems to be quiet and unharmed.

We are always married to the good things of a person, and in fact, we have to live with the shortcomings of a person.

1.Communicate well. In fact, this is very common in marriage, just because they are too familiar with each other, and they no longer want to be the same as before, impatient and listen to each other.

Many people's marriages are dying on the precipice of nothing to say, which is a fatal wound, so learning to communicate well is a good medicine.

It will really be much easier to speak clearly, express your feelings clearly, and give specific instructions for actions that you want your partner to change!

When you communicate more and more smoothly, you will naturally talk more and more lovingly, and your relationship will become happier and happier. 2.There is a common plan.

A common plan is also a common goal that belongs to two people, and it requires two people to work together to participate in the accomplishment.

Why is it said that joint planning can stabilize relationships?

Because in the process of achieving this goal, you will encounter a lot of problems to solve together, which can stimulate each other's motivation for life, and will also allow two people to work together for this goal and have more expectations for the future. 3.Know how to empathize.

What is empathy?

It is to put yourself in the other person's position and think about some issues from the other party's point of view, which can make you better understand men, be able to empathize, and make each other less misunderstood.

will not empathize, will force the other party's emotions to attack, will empathize, will understand why the other party is angry, how to avoid the same problem next time. When you think about it from a man's point of view, he is under a lot of pressure and wants to calm down and relieve himself, and when he comes home, he has to face all kinds of questions. In this way, with more understanding and less complaining, your marriage will be more stable and happy.

No quarrels, no communication.

What is the most important thing in a marriage? It's endless quarrels, but what is indispensable? In fact, it is precisely a quarrel.

There is nothing wrong with quarreling itself, what is wrong is that we will make all kinds of hurtful actions to each other when we are emotional, so first of all, we must be a rational person, even if we are emotional, don't say too much, let alone borrow temper, say breakup, or mention divorce, which is very sad.

The quarrel must be because there is a contradiction between you, there is a conflict of some kind of concept, the most important thing at this time is to sit down and communicate well, and the argument will make it clear and bring the file friends, tell them what you are thinking, no two people are born to be together, and in the marriage, it will be necessary to go through the run-in of continuous stupid fights to finally cultivate a deeper tacit understanding.

Marriage seems to be peaceful and uneventful, but in fact, it is precisely because there is no true love that they will not waste time on each other. So there was no quarrel. Without communication, there is no need to continue in a marriage.

Disrespectful to each other's families.

Some people say that marriage is not just for two people, but also for two families, so that after marriage, you will leave your own family and redevote yourself to a new life.

But when it comes to his family and parents. Parents are always your biggest backing and the best haven, if the other half does not have half respect for their family, it is enough to prove that there is no real love for us.