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I suggest you leave it to your grandparents! Sixty years old is the second adolescence of life. Not too old. The son is gone, leaving the old man with hope of survival. You are too young and deserve a better life of your own.
A few suggestions for you:
One, it will be born in a month at most, and you don't want to see the child after it is born, go back to your parents' house to live. Take care of the confinement and go out to work and start a new life.
Your husband died unexpectedly, leaving you eight and a half months pregnant, and fate has been very unfair to you. Parents-in-law lose their children in old age, which is a taboo in life, but there is no way, if you take the children away, maybe they don't even have hope of living. So you give birth to the child, don't meet, just give it to the grandparents, because as long as you meet, you can't bear it.
Second, sixty years old is not too old, although it is tiring to hand over the children to them, but the children are their spiritual support, and they will live better.
Sixty years old is the second adolescence of life. It is also the time when the burden of life is the heaviest, the old and the young, there may be parents in their eighties, and grandchildren who need to be filled.
In our case, people in their sixties are babysitting their sons and daughters. They put money and effort on it, but they live very energetically, because it is their family incense; descendants of their family.
I retired at the age of 50 and went home to take care of my sick parents. By the time I officially retired at the age of fifty-five, I had already watched my granddaughter take care of her parents. I was very tired and tired, but I was in good spirits. Because I have to live well to take care of the elderly and children, who are my spiritual support. <>
Three, you are only twenty-seven years old, and you should have a better life of your own. Let's go out to work to reduce the pain and start a new life.
The child is the mother's heart, and you may be reluctant to give up, but think about it, if you remarry with the child, can you guarantee a warm home for the child?
I have a very good colleague who divorced during the Cultural Revolution and lives with a son. She is very good. There was a male colleague younger than her who pursued her, and they got married. After getting married, they had the crystallization of their love.
Life is not as good as people think. This man couldn't see the son she had brought, and when he saw it, he was like crazy and angry, and she had no way to give the child to her mother, that is, the child's grandmother. She is in pain and can't get a divorce anymore!
So the long pain is better than the short pain, you give birth to the child and grit your teeth, give him to the grandparents, although the old man is old, he can't give him a happy home, but in the end it is his own flesh and blood, they are related by blood. <>
If you really miss him in the future, don't appear as a mother, you can help your parents-in-law financially and let them take care of the children. If you're not doing well yourself, don't disturb them and give them a quiet living environment.
As for the future, who knows who will come first tomorrow, if the parents-in-law really have an accident, they will be getting older and older, and their physical condition may be getting worse and worse, then you can discuss the issue of raising children! It's better to have a mother than not to have a mother!
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I think it is feasible to give the posthumous child to the grandparents, after all, after the grandparents lose their son, they will definitely transfer double their love to the grandchildren, but it is recommended that you also pay more attention to the growth of the children, so as not to spoil the children with the doting of the grandparents.
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If the grandparents are in good health and you have no one to take care of the children, it is okay to let the grandparents take care of it, but it cannot be completely handed over to the elderly, after all, the elderly are old and very hard, and you must be responsible for the children and the elderly.
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I don't think it's feasible. Because the grandparents are older, it will be very difficult to raise another child, so this is not feasible.
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I think it's okay, because the grandparents will definitely love this child very much.
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My mother was so beautiful when she was young, married my dad with me, after marriage my dad's bad habits slowly appeared, at that time my mother thought that I was a life, I didn't fight or leave the wrong way to live a whole life, she never complained about her own hard life, but when I suffered, she begged relatives to help take care of me in addition to crying sadly. More than 20 years have passed, and my mother has grown old as an old lady with a digging ......I hope she chose not to want me back then, and she could leave my dad to live a good life. It's almost 30 years old, no friends, no lovers!
His grandparents also passed away, and his parents didn't care about him, they didn't love him, he was alone, and he told the psychiatrist many times that he didn't want to be born and didn't want to live!
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I was born in '98, I'm 19 years old, I'm young, and I'm living as a widow. My dad died in a car accident 51 days before I was born, according to the pregnancy period of 280 days, Ying Zishou should be similar to your situation, my mother was 68 years old, 30 years old at the time, before that, it was also husband and wife love, the family was happy, the family was not rich, but it was okay, our house was the first batch of hands to build that year. Now, all the houses in the village have been built, and my family is still the old one.
One of the things that makes my mom different from yours is that she has a daughter and I have an older sister. According to the situation at the time, it was completely impossible, so my mother gave birth to me, and since I was born, the family had all kinds of ideas, directly killed me, and threw me away. Maybe it was too cruel to kill my own flesh and bones, or maybe it was something else, my mother didn't follow their advice.
Because my sister was very beautiful when she was a child, and the little girl was also very likable, so another group of people appeared, and tried to persuade my mother to give me away, and let me live a better life. As your child's best listener and teacher, no matter how busy you are, you should also take the time to check your child's homework, sit down and listen patiently to the child's interesting stories, and understand the child's growth process. During the holidays, you can also bring your children and the elderly to outdoor activities, such as climbing, swimming, traveling, etc., to share the joy of family.
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