Husbands and wives should not quarrel in front of their children

No. Due to family trivial matters or other reasons, quarrels between husband and wife occur from time to time, and it is inevitable that quarrels will occur in front of the children, which will not only affect the feelings of the husband and wife, but also bring many adverse consequences to the children.

1. Parents often quarrel in front of their children, which will cause worries, panic and sadness in the children's hearts, so as to lose confidence in the future of the family.

2. It will damage the prestige of parents in the eyes of children. Children are sensitive, and parents' mutual accusations, belittlements, and even verbal and personal attacks can seriously damage the good image of parents in their minds.

3. It will make children develop a bad habit of quarreling with others at every turn. The child is very malleable, and when his parents quarrel at home, he will follow the example of his parents and go outside to quarrel with other children. Over time, children will develop the bad habit of quarreling with others.

In daily life, parents should fully realize the harmfulness of quarreling in front of their children, strengthen their ideological cultivation, strengthen understanding and communication between the two parties, and try to avoid conflicts and quarrels. It will have a great impact on the child's personality and outlook on life in the future.

Quarrels between husband and wife have a very great impact on children.

1) The impact of emotions. The couple next door to me often quarreled, and the slightest little thing made the family jump. Their 10-year-old daughter was depressed every day, had a fear of home, didn't want to come home after school, and often asked others why my parents kept arguing.

2) The impact of behavior. Once, a colleague of mine was invited to school by a teacher and told that his son, who was in junior high school, often bullied female classmates. It is understood that it is because his father beats his mother whenever his parents quarrel, and his behavior is because he was influenced by his father.

3) Health effects. Because of the influence of emotions and behaviors, it will have a great impact on the physical and mental health of children. For example, it is easy to get depression, irritability, lack of concentration, and so on.

Therefore, husbands and wives should avoid quarrels or excesses in front of their children. Only by understanding and tolerating each other can families be harmonious.

Happy families are the same, unhappy families are all kinds, it is not easy for husband and wife to be together, there will inevitably be some bumps and bumps in life, sometimes there will be some disagreements in life, when there are problems, two people will have a good discussion, no matter when impulsive is the devil, quarrels can never solve the problem, quarrels will only make the feelings of two people weaker and weaker!

Especially after the husband and wife have children, if the quarrel has a great impact on the child, it will affect the child's physical and mental health growth, will cause a great shadow on the child's heart, and is not conducive to the healthy growth of the child.

Every child does not want their parents to quarrel, they all hope that their parents have a good relationship every day, in a family, the relationship between husband and wife determines the happiness of a family, if the relationship between husband and wife is not good, it will definitely not be happy, and the child will feel unhappy! No matter what time it is, the husband and wife have to discuss it!

Parents should never make any aggressive gestures in front of their children, such as scolding one person or hitting another person.

Especially when the child is about one and a half to two years old, he is very possessive of his mother, and at this time, anyone touching his mother, I am talking loudly, the child will be frightened. Therefore, do not act in front of your child, especially the father should not have any radical actions with the mother in front of the child, which will make the child feel insecure.

Mom and Dad quarrel All families can't avoid this problem, but don't use the child as an emotional outlet to lose your temper at him, the child will feel guilty and feel that he is not good enough to cause the parents to quarrel.

In life, if family relationships are not harmonious. It can have a variety of effects on the child, and it can also have a negative impact on the child's physical health. In the family, if the husband and wife often quarrel, it will cause the child to be anorexic, depressed, often do not study well in school, fight with others, do not like to socialize with other children, and have a tense relationship with classmates.

It will also cause the psychological impact of the child, if the husband and wife often quarrel and fight, it will have a very bad impact on the child's psychology. For example, he often says strange things, often watches horror movies instead of cartoons, and often tells some scary stories to scare other children. There are also some very weird behaviors, thinking that all people are bad, not wanting to play with them, not wanting to come into contact with them, and often playing there alone.

There are even times when the teacher asks him to participate in the show, but he always doesn't want to show himself and always says no, everything is up to his own temperament. When others displease him, he looks at you with hatred and thinks you are his enemy. When there is a conflict with his classmates, he never recklessly smashes his classmates with anything next to him, no matter how persuaded by others, he can't listen.

Therefore, in later life, as parents of children, we should set an example for our children, and should not quarrel and fight often, which will have a bad impact on our children.

Since giving birth to a child, I have always adhered to the principle of "not arguing in front of the child", even if I am angry with Mr. Zhang, I have to endure waiting for the child to fall asleep and then quarrel.

But every time the child falls asleep, the anger is often not so big, and the fight that was originally prepared to quarrel will not end. However, although the quarrel was avoided, the emotions did not disappear, but slowly accumulated, making people more irritable, and it was especially easy to break out into larger-scale quarrels and hurt feelings.

To make matters worse, I found that every time I should have quarreled with my husband, I didn't argue, and it was the child who ended up being unlucky.

Arguing often in front of your child will make your child feel insecure in the first place. Although the children are relatively young, they still have a better understanding of some issues, if the parents often quarrel, they will worry about whether the parents will divorce in the future, or whether the parents do not love themselves, etc., these questions have been backlogged in the children's hearts for a long time, and they will become particularly insecure after a long time, always afraid of when their parents will leave them, and even worry about being ridiculed and so on.

1. When husband and wife quarrel, they rarely care about the feelings of their children, and the two parties quarrel unscrupulously, and even move and drop things. When a child sees such a scene, the child's young mind will be strongly attacked, and he will be frightened by it. If the child grows up in such an environment for a long time, he will be very sensitive to the behavior of others talking loudly, causing the child to become very bold.

2. In the fierce quarrels of parents, many of the solutions chosen after the quarrel are cold and violent, but the child will feel fear and fear when he grows up in this environment, and become inferior, sensitive and cowardly, and if the parents have the behavior of fighting, the child will usually have violent tendencies. Because, the message that children receive from their parents is: If you are not as good as I want, I will hit you!

If your child is angry and short-tempered, parents should reflect on whether they often yell or quarrel in front of him.

3. Because children have witnessed their parents quarreling since childhood, home is like a cage for them, and living with their parents is torment. From childhood to adulthood, I can't feel the warmth and warmth of home, my parents are like an iceberg, I can't hear any expression of their love, I can't open my heart to be friends with my parents, I can't be coquettish, confessed, and even trusting, so that many children want to leave home urgently when they are young, and they don't like to go home when they grow up.

You shouldn't argue in front of your child.

Personally, I think there are the following reasons:

1. A quarrel is a matter between two people. Quarrels between couples can involve a variety of things, and couples can occasionally use this to open up a situation of poor communication.

Second, in front of the child is to exist as a parent. In front of children, parents should set an example and set an example, and parents should spread positive energy in their daily life and learning, rather than releasing negative emotions to their children.

3. Arguing in front of children is easy for children to have a sense of disgust for the family. Disgust is like a small seed, once planted in the child's heart, the child will feel that such a family is not to be treated.

First of all, this should be undoubted, and you can't quarrel in front of your baby. As an adult of the parties, they must not be able to empathize with the baby's experience, but if you think about it from another perspective, you can know. When our parents quarreled in front of us when we were children, we should all know how we feel as children.

In the same way, we will get the same experience in our baby.

Fear, very scared is the first intuitive feeling. In the face of familiar and amiable parents in ordinary life, but at this time they are arguing in front of them, the baby's hellish feeling must be scared, leaving a shadow in the baby's heart.

Secondly, it will also affect the baby's personality and personality development. In such an environment for a long time, the baby will gradually form an inferiority complex, timidity, and reluctance to express his feelings. We have experienced this in our daily news reports, or social events.

Just look at the child's reaction at the time.

Each of our families is committed to giving the baby a harmonious family environment, so it is important to pay attention to dealing with differences between adults at the same time as the family.

No matter what disagreements or disagreements we have in our lives, don't do it in front of your baby. If there is anything that cannot reach a consensus, it must be suppressed first and discussed in a place where there is no baby.

What we do is for the growth of the baby, creating a warm family environment is the best happiness gift that each of our parents can give to the baby, and the first important point of this happiness is the harmony between mom and dad.

So when parents quarrel, how much impact does it have on children? It will make the child's psyche unhealthy and leave a shadow. As a result, the child's heart has an inferiority complex, and he does not dare to go up anything, and he will always hide in the corner.

1. Low self-esteem and negativity.

If the child sees his parents quarreling often from an early age, it will have a great impact on the child's psychology, his mood will become very sad, very negative, and he does not like to play with other children at school, and will always hide alone in the corner. In the long run, he will be depressed, and if parents find that their children are abnormal, they must enlighten him in time.

2. Don't like to study.

If parents quarrel a lot, the education of the child may also be reduced. If the parents do not have a certain education for the child, then the child will become disinclined to learn and be very rebellious against everything. When he goes to school, he will skip class, be disobedient, get into fights, and if it is more serious, he may go to the point of no return when he grows up.

3. Premarital fear.

If the child's parents often quarrel, it will have a great impact on the child's heart, he will feel that marriage is a very unhappy thing, and he will also have a certain resistance to the opposite sex, and he does not want to contact the opposite sex, which may produce some mental illness, become an unmarried, and finally the real sad person is the parents themselves.

If you and your other half really have an unpleasant happening, the relationship between the two people can not be maintained, but for the sake of the children, you must also achieve superficial harmony, even if you can't even do it as a superficial couple, you must tell the children when you divorce that the two people broke up because of something. Don't affect the baby's psychology, treat your children well, and maintain your marriage for the sake of your children.

Between husband and wife, frequent quarrels will leave an indelible shadow on the fragile and young hearts of children. The most obvious effects are the following, as a parent, you may wish to take a look!

1. Irritable and withdrawn.

Husbands and wives often quarrel, to be honest, it is nothing more than the child who is hurt, for a long time this will affect the child's character, the original well-behaved and sensible baby, if you often see your parents quarreling in front of you, the personality will become more excited, irritable, and even become grumpy and withdrawn.

In the inner world of children, they often think that other people's families are so harmonious and beautiful, and slowly form a lack of good speech in front of classmates, isolation, etc. There are many words and deeds that imitate us adults, because the child's first teacher is the parents, if the vicious behavior of quarreling in front of the child, then, the look and behavior during the quarrel, the child will also see it, but also remember it, so that over time, the child's personality will become very irritable.

2. Lack of sense of security, gain and loss.

I believe that there are many irrational parents, as soon as their heads are hot, they start to yell regardless of who is around, and the children must be scared to cry and be scared when they see it, and even think about whether you will separate, then there may be a lack of mother or baby company and so on.

Parents quarrel in front of their children, it is best not to do this kind of very hurtful quarrel in front of the child, because this will make the child's psychology feel very frightened and helpless, and seeing the parents quarrel again and again makes the child seriously insecure. In fact, at this time, the child's heart is very fragile and soft. I have read a relevant statistic, 80% of adults who are afraid of marriage have the experience of discord between their parents or often quarrel with their parents in their early years, and they are disappointed in marriage, or even fearful, which is an insecurity factor formed in their early psychology, which has an impact on their children's lives.

3. Learn to use it for oneself and not be filial.

Cause the baby is not filial piety is not false at all, often see the parents' quarrels or behavior, usually will be transmitted to the child, not used to the parents every quarrel, when they also have emotions or can not control the emotions, the little guy also has a temper, even to the parents tantrums, over time, the child will become unfilial, do not know how to be grateful, in fact, is not the child's problem, the root lies in the parents, really should not quarrel in front of the child.

Suggestion: In fact, the love of parents will be inherited, if a family is harmonious and never quarrels, children will feel the love of their parents, and they will follow suit, so that children are full of expectations for marriage in the future, and let children grow into a person with love in their hearts, warm and confident. In fact, it is good to give the baby a good education instead of spending more money, nor how much knowledge to learn, but the father loves the mother, the mother loves the father, and this love is passed on to the children, which will play a positive role in all aspects of the child's life.