Why do you want to push away as soon as someone treats me well?

It's a person's personality that determines it.

You don't want to bear other people's contributions, you think that this kind of pay needs to be reciprocated, so you don't want to accept it, you think it's a paid nature, if you accept, you have to pay back to the other party at the right time, so you are psychologically uncomfortable, you will refuse, and you want to escape, which also shows that you are an introvert in your character, you don't like to accept other people's things, and you are very closed to the outside world.

In this society, the society is open, people need to open themselves, accept others, but also need the help and support of others, whether it is in work, in learning, in interpersonal communication, so we need to recognize the problems in our own personality and strive to change our inherent habits. Happy to treat problems, happy every day!

Or you sometimes say and do a bit of duplicity, afraid that others will owe others if they are too good to you, and also afraid of being lonely and left out in the cold, so it is very contradictory.

This condition is common and often related to an individual's past experiences and emotions. Here are some possible reasons:

1.Past trauma: Sometimes, we may feel panicked or upset when someone is friendly to us or trying to build a more intimate relationship.

This may be because we have experienced betrayal, neglect, or control in our past experiences that have made it difficult for us to trust the good intentions of others.

2.Concerns about autonomy: Some people may value their independence and autonomy very much. When someone treats us too well or tries to intervene in our lives, we may feel threatened and fear that we will lose the ability to make our own decisions.

3.Fear of intimacy: Some people may feel intimidated by intimacy. When someone shows us too much kindness, we may feel overwhelmed and worry that we won't be able to sustain that intimacy.

4.Protection of personal space: Some people may value their personal space and independence very much. When someone tries to enter these areas, we may feel uneasy or anxious.

If you find yourself pushing away from someone else's kindness, try to understand your own emotions and past experiences first. Try to communicate with others so that they understand your feelings and needs in order to build a healthier and more balanced relationship. At the same time, learn to accept and appreciate the kindness of others, not to worry too much about your own reactions, but to try to build more positive and honest relationships with others.

This is a problem of your own mentality, sometimes you may encounter it in reality, what kind of problem has a profound impact on you, so you will have such a mentality at this time.

When others are kind to you, you don't push it away, but accept it and say it.

In interpersonal interactions, you may meet people who are very nice to you. Some people keep the good of others in their hearts and are always grateful. But we don't think that's enough.

Because only you know and remember it in your heart, and others don't know it. Today we are going to talk about the topic: what others are good to you, you should say it.

Let's break it down.

**。1. In front of people who are good to you, you should always mention his goodness.

During dinners, we often see scenes where a person holds a glass to toast another person, then thanks him for his help to him, and describes the scene at that time. This person does this by drinking alcohol to mention the other person's kindness to him again to show his gratitude.

If there is one that is particularly good to you, you should also find an opportunity to talk to him. Let the other person know that they always remember it and always be grateful.

**。Second, in front of others, you should always talk about the person's goodness.

If someone is particularly nice to you and you can't give anything in return, what do you do? The easiest way is to talk about his goodness in front of others and establish a good image for him in front of others. A person's image is also a valuable intangible asset.

Others have done so much for you, you can't do anything else, it's always okay to give him a promotion. In the process of publicity, he not only established a good image for others, but also established a good image of his own kindness.

**。3. Only those who are grateful can go further When others help you, they don't necessarily want you to reciprocate. But for yourself, you must be grateful, and if you have the ability to reciprocate, you should reciprocate.

"ungrateful" people are one of the least liked people in society. Only when a person is grateful can he get the support of more people and go further. Remember, no one is responsible for being so good to you except your parents, and you must be grateful for the kindness of others to you and must speak out.

If someone is particularly nice to you, you must say it, let him know, and let others know. Don't keep it in your mind, that only you know.

There is no evidence that you are drunk driving.

No, he has no evidence to sue you after a while.

This is a kind of "selfish and narrow-minded" love or not love at all, but she wants to force you to keep you in order to prove herself.

The self is not a loser. This kind of tolerant thinking is very "extreme". She wants to ruin everything for the other party, and then take care of the other party by herself, nothing more than to let the other party know: your happiness can only be given by her.

This kind of person's self-esteem is much greater than her love for you, and if she can't get you, she feels humiliated in her self-esteem. In fact, it is very right that you don't love him, because she loves herself more than you, and this kind of person must be kept away.

This shows that your work and life have some intersections, so girls can't get you, but they can still find opportunities to suppress you and slander you, and girls slander you by suppressing you, venting their grievances that they can't get you, and saving themselves from the negative energy accumulation in their hearts.

This can only show that this girl is very small-minded, she can't get you, she will ruin you, such a girl can't be with her, she won't have a real good friend when she goes to **, don't talk to such a girl in the future.

Such a girl should stay away, even if they come together, I'm afraid it's difficult to live a life, such a girl belongs to a person with a strong sense of revenge, and living with her will make you depressed for the rest of your life!

Such a person is too cautious, you don't have the same knowledge as him, try to avoid him in everything, don't have any entanglement with him, such a person is very selfish, and very narrow-minded, if you provoke him, maybe he will do something else.

Young man, if you meet such a girl, you have to stay away from her, zhi this kind of girl

If you become her boyfriend, you will be tired, if you talk to a real girl, she will quarrel with you, this kind of girl is very possessive, she will treat you as if she is alone, you will be looked at by her firmly, so, don't be nice to her.

There are such people, however, this kind of people are generally long-haired and short-sighted, and they are not worth making friends.

There are many such people, both men and women. Most of them have psychological problems and have low psychological quality.

She loves you, why are you.

Copy is going to make her angry? You love her.

It's good to be with her, I don't love zhi, why did you provoke her in the first place? said that she was psychologically distorted, didn't you see her so sad for you, you have a heart to show off, right? I don't believe that you love her and can say that she is psychologically twisted??

Why don't you twist it for her? After asking this question, you can see that you don't love her at all, so let's let it go as soon as possible, don't delay others!

It is not uncommon for such things to happen repeatedly because of love and hate, and you are happy about it, because you are not with such a person, otherwise it is a kind of sadness, I advise you to stay away from her, this kind of narrow-minded person cannot tolerate the good of others. You don't want to get into a head-on confrontation with her, it's better to stay away from her.

Let's finally recognize this source person, and we haven't become a couple or even a husband and wife, DU should be a fortunate thing.

Although now the DAO

You feel very annoyed that she suppresses you and slanders you, but we can't control her mouth, and we have to face it!

The body is not afraid of the shadow, go your own way, and let others talk about it.

Don't clash with her head-on with this kind of thing, after all, it's a woman, and a good man doesn't fight with a woman!

Because this girl likes you too much, if you don't like her, she won't let other girls like you; So she suppresses you and slanders you.

It's that girl who likes you too much.

Since, you can't find a girlfriend if you destroy it, and after a long time, you will be around her as a woman, dao may be able to get your attention, or if you can't get it, you don't want others to get it, it's better to ruin it, you still talk to that girl, otherwise maybe you really find a girlfriend, she will also be mischievous!

Such a girl is narrow-minded and not suitable for falling in love or being friends, it is impossible to be all-encompassing, and if she doesn't do it at all, she will lose her temper at all, and she will be tired to death with such a girl.

There are two possibilities, there are possible girls.

I really didn't watch the source q, I don't know if you sent a message, I'm really watching TV. There is also a possibility that the girl has no good impression of the boy, does not pay attention to the messages sent by the boy, and uses watching TV as an excuse to say that she is watching TV. If it's the previous time, it's just once or twice.

The latter may be a frequent failure to reply to messages.

First of all, such a girl's personal cultivation and quality are one word low. Secondly, you should be glad that you did not get together with her, otherwise the suffering will accompany you for the rest of your life. Finally, stay away, and if it is serious, pick up the law ** to seek justice.

It's right for you not to choose such a girl, if you can't get it, you will suppress you, and the girl who slanders you is a small-bellied chicken intestine and a person with a strong sense of revenge, so you don't pay attention to it, your feet are not afraid of crooked shadows, and the rumors will be self-defeating with the passage of time.

First of all, this girl is too selfish, too domineering, and uncultivated. You're glad to leave this girl, or you'll have a lot of trouble and you'll make your family crazy. As for her suppressing you and destroying you, as long as you are upright and not afraid of the shadow, you will fart as a dog and ignore her, and she will ask for trouble after a long time.

1. Go home often, spend more time with your parents, do your filial piety, and let the wrinkles on their faces increase a little slower, and then a little slower.

2. What will never leave you behind is family affection, not friendship or love.

3. Cherish the holiest and most beautiful family affection in the world, and nothing else can surpass this innate greatness.

4. When people all over the world are laughing at you, home won't; When people all over the world look down on you, home doesn't. Home is home, it will only take you in, it will only tolerate you, this is its instinct, the instinct of home.

5. In human feelings, love should not be all, in addition to love, there is also family affection and friendship.

The family thinks of you, and the two words feel very warm. There are always a thousand words to express in my heart. But I don't know where to start.

It is also the port where my soul docks. Wherever I go, wherever I go. As long as I turn back.

They're always there. Forever.

They all looked at me with gentle eyes. Give me courage. Give me strength.

Your boyfriend has something to hide from you, you have to consider whether your boyfriend is reliable and whether his personality is like this;

If he is an honest and reliable man, you have to think about the question of whether he has anything difficult to say;

Generally speaking, if your boyfriend has something to hide from him, it is usually because he doesn't want you to worry about it, so he will hide it from you;

Lovers should be tolerant of each other and understand each other, when you find out that your boyfriend has something to hide from you, sometimes, you don't have to poke it;

If you are really worried about your boyfriend, then you can ask him carefully, and if he is willing to speak, you can solve the problem together;

If there is something, don't try to hide it from the other party, be sure to let the other person know, don't have a thought that you don't want the other person to worry, sometimes it's easier to solve it by saying it.

It feels like your boyfriend is hiding something from you. First of all, it depends on what is hidden from you, if it is a very important matter, or something related to the safety of your life, you don't have to pay too much attention to it. However, when two people are together, mutual trust is the most important thing, they can't hide it, they can help each other when they discuss things, trust others, and be tolerant of themselves.

You don't have to worry too much about it, and of course, you have to make it clear to her. I can't hide it from you anymore.

Don't ask him yet, observe and experience it yourself, and see if he has something to hide from you. Maybe he is well-intentioned and has some troubles, and he doesn't want you to know that he can bear it silently by himself and solve it by himself, which is a sign of love for you. Maybe he has a distance from you in his heart and doesn't want you to know, if this is the case, then you have to pay attention and see what the problem is.

If you still want to be with him, try to win back his heart. In short, don't be unreasonable, don't stalk, experience with your heart, touch him with sincerity, and let him have the desire to share everything with you.