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The love that is not favored by the parents is really embarrassing, on the one hand, it is love, on the other hand, it is family affection, no matter how you choose, you are sorry for the other party.
First, figure out why your parents are trying to persuade you to break up.
Every pair of parents in the world hopes that their children can be happy, coupled with the parents' experience and rich life experience, they will see human nature very thoroughly, and sometimes they can find the hidden dangers buried in their children's love at a glance, and they are worried that their children will not have a good life, and they will block their children's love.
If the reason for the parents' objection is the character, the behavior of the other party's parents, and the behavior of the other party, then as a child, you should be calm, do not ignore the opinions of your parents for the sake of love, and look at the problems they ask from the position of your parents to see if it is true, if it is really a problem with character and behavior, then you must listen to your parents.
It is not excluded that there is also a kind of parents who feel that all people are not worthy of their own babies, and they are not pleasing to the eyes of those who like their own babies. I dislike the other party for not looking good, not making money, etc., just superficial. At this time, we have to make our position clear, negotiate with the two people, and strive to tell our parents that you are happy together.
Second, figure out the real reason behind your parents' worries.
The love that your parents are not optimistic about is, in the final analysis, what you did not convince them, and you did not let them believe that you would be happy together.
You don't have the ability to live the rest of your life, and you can't blame your parents for not being optimistic about your love.
Young people always put love first, and everything else is easy to ignore, but parents know that marriage is trivial.
If you want your parents to support your love, let them recognize that you have the ability to be happy.
In the end, if you choose love, you must first come up with the action to reassure your family, only if we live well, your family will rest assured that we can soar alone.
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I remember when I was studying, every time I saw the love of the hero and heroine in a TV series or ** being stopped by my parents, I was very angry in my heart. hates the parents who separated the hero and heroine, and sympathizes with the hero and heroine who have to break up and suffer for life. I'd like to:
Why can't you just go out and fly away?
When I grew up, I experienced feelings and saw many emotional stories around me, and my concept was slowly changing. With the same storyline, I no longer blindly hate the cruelty of my parents, nor sympathize with the so-called sacrifice of the hero and heroine, but feel that the love that is persuaded to divide is an independent abandonment. The opposition of parents is only one of the tests in love, and it cannot have a decisive impact, and it is the man and woman in love who affect the final result.
Some people will think that their parents' thinking is too old, some people will think that their parents' thinking is too realistic, and some people will think that their parents' vision is too narrow, but I don't think anyone will object to the fact that the starting point of parents is love. As we grow older, we can understand more and more where the care and worry that we once thought were superfluous came from, and it was nothing more than love.
In a society of free love, it is still common for parents to beat mandarin ducks, but most of them end in failure, because it is difficult for parents to screw their children. Even if parents have met their children who will suffer losses and pain in this love, they try their best to persuade them to separate. But as long as the child's attitude is resolute, the parents have no choice but to give blessings, hoping that they are just thinking too much, hoping that the children's choice is right, and hoping that the children's marriage is happy.
If you love each other enough, if you are firm enough, if you are willing to go and let your parents see your determination, they will change their minds and persuade you to be happy.
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It has been half a year since Yoshiko ran away from home.
She didn't dare to go home, and asked herself, how can she still have the face to face her parents at home now? They are not in good health, and they were angry at the beginning, and in order to pursue the so-called true love, they ran away in a negative mood, which has already broken their hearts.
Now that I have fallen into such a field, I can't go back to my home, and I don't dare to go back to my home, and I did it all by myself, and I broke my teeth, so I could only swallow it in my stomach.
Her parents had persuaded her a long time ago, that person didn't look good, and there was no need to put so much emotion and effort into him. As their own people, they tried to persuade her again and again to withdraw as soon as possible, and not to regret it when they found out his true face.
But Fangzi, who is in love, can't listen to half a word of persuasion at all, and even thinks that her parents are prejudiced at all, dislike the poor and love the rich. In her eyes, she only saw how good that man was to her, holding it in the palm of her hand for fear of falling off, holding it in her mouth for fear of melting, she firmly believed that her vision would not be bad.
Yes, Fangzi's boyfriend's family is very poor, he has been in the society for many years, barely in the food and clothing line, there are two old people in the old family to raise, and in order to build a house in the village a few years ago, he also borrowed tens of thousands of yuan in foreign debt.
Although I don't know much about the man, this does not affect the judgment of Fangzi's parents. They don't look down on such a person in their hearts, and it is impossible for such a person to give their daughter a bright future, let alone bring her a better life. My daughter, who has been precious for so many years, is reluctant to give it to the wrong person.
However, the daughter couldn't listen to it at all, so she still chose the man.
Sure enough, just three months after he eloped with Fangzi, he finally left Fangzi behind and was with another richer girl.
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This question starts with figuring out which side your parents are against. Sit down with your parents and have a good talk. I summarized it myself, and the marital love that my parents oppose is nothing more than the following situations!
1. Parents see some fatal shortcomings in each other, such as character problems, and problems in dealing with people and things. Often this kind of shortcoming, which is not crucial in the love of two people, affects the life of two people after marriage. There is an old saying that you can tell how the person is from one thing, such as eating with this person, playing mahjong, traveling, etc., you can see the person's character.
Eating chopsticks picking and choosing on the plate, this person may be selfish, playing mahjong can see how a person's temper is, two people go out on a trip together, you can see whether this person is good to you, whether you care about your feelings or not, etc. If it's these or anything like that, I think your parents should be against it, and it's for your good!
2. If the parents are not good because of the other party's economic conditions, or the family situation is complicated and the family background is not good, these have nothing to do with love, but have to do with marriage! If it's because the other party's financial conditions are not good, then I think you should find a time, call your boyfriend and parents together, sit down and talk calmly about the plans of the two of you, whether it is a work plan, a life plan, or so on, and talk to your parents to let them know that the two of you have goals and plans. But only if the two of you have a plan and a good ability, and you need to act as soon as possible, not just on paper.
On the other hand, it also depends on your financial needs. As for the house and the car, to be honest, as long as two people work together, it will be five or six years, really! The most important thing is to see what kind of person the other party is, and whether it is worth your life!
If it's because the other party's family is complicated, this situation depends on whether you have the ability to withstand some of the things that will happen later. For example, if the other party's parents are dead, then with a child, you will be the most tired one, he needs to work to earn money, and his parents may also have their own affairs, and they can't take care of you, so you can only rely on yourself, which requires you to have a strong heart and strength! It's also very hard.
In the end, no matter what, you can't fall out with your parents because of your love with him, that is the stupidest thing and the most heartbreaking thing for your parents. Because two people in love are always fans of the authorities, bystanders! May there be lovers in the world who will eventually become married, and they will not miss the marriage in the previous life.
I also hope that I can have a happy and beautiful love in 2019!
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Tell your parents about the good things about your boyfriend. I also told my parents that my boyfriend was very good to me, and I hope that my parents can rest assured, and my parents also want me to be happy, and I will definitely agree in the end.
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I would tell my parents about the benefits of him, and then I would explain to them the problems between myself and him, so that they could understand me.
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First of all, I can talk about what is outstanding about the other party, such as work, such as family, and I can also talk about the emotional experience between two people, how the other party treats me, and expresses a firm attitude that he will not marry.
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Parents should be made to understand that they are very serious about this relationship, and to tell their parents how happy they are to have this relationship, so as to convince their parents.
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I will tell my parents that I am very optimistic about this relationship, and the other party is very good to me, so that my parents can believe in their vision.
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I will communicate well with my parents, and I will also praise my boyfriend in front of my parents, so that my parents will slowly accept each other.
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I would talk to my parents about the boy's future prospects and exaggerate the merits of my boyfriend.
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As an outsider, I can't decide for you whether to make peace or leave, because it's a complicated issue in your family. However, I can give you some advice:
1.Be informed: Before making any decisions, make sure you have a clear understanding of the specifics of your parent's relationship issues. This may require communicating with them or observing their behavior for more information.
2.Respect their decisions: If your parents decide to separate, respect their choices as much as possible. Divorce is not always a bad thing, and sometimes it can even lead to a better closed life for parents and children.
3.Provide support: No matter which path your parents decide to take, they may need your support and understanding. Try to provide emotional and substantive support, such as listening to their complaints, helping them solve problems, etc.
4.Professional help: If you feel powerless or confused, it is advisable to seek professional help, such as a family tutor or counsellor. They can provide you with better guidance and support.
Most importantly, you can't take on the responsibility of solving your parents' problems. Remember, it's their relationship, they're in charge of making decisions, and finding happiness in it.
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Persuasion. After all, people are emotional animals, and everything that should happen will happen, depending on the thickness and frankness of their branches.
So, don't tease too much, from the beginning to the end, someone will really take care of you when you need it. That's the original match.
Be brave, if you think he deserves your life, then be brave enough to do it for a long time! Let's cook raw rice and cook ripe rice, hehe......This is a helpless move. It's best to calm down and talk to your parents and relatives, "They are for your good, but you are also older, you should have your own choice, and two people live for a lifetime, and you can't let me give up because you don't like or feel unworthy of me, after all, it is me who will live with him for the rest of my life, not you."
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