My parents want to divorce, what measures should I take, be specific!

The first thing to say is that parents want to divorce, you can only comfort from the perspective of their children, and you can't stop it

In fact, if they are not happy, it is not a bad thing for the whole family to open points, because everyone has the right to pursue happiness, if you let your mother continue to live this unhappy life because of you, do you think it is good? Sooner or later, one of you will grow up, you have your life, they have your human body, you're so old, I think I'll say so much you can understand

It is recommended that you may spend more time with your mother and chat with her when you have time, although you may not fully understand her pain, you may be a good listener, care for her, and love her more.

Don't blame her for divorcing her father

You know! There is a woman who doesn't want her marriage to be happy and her life to be happy! If there was a way, she wouldn't want you to be a single parent

Understand that even if they are separated, they will always be your parents, and they will still love you as always

What you have to do is to care about them, continue to do well in school, and have a future career, which is what they care about the most, and what you can do for them the most

Remember that they will always be your loved ones, and this will not change because of anything

1.Understand the true cause;

2.Judge the difficulty of the problem;

1).You can solve it yourself.

2).Ask your parents' friends to help you solve it.

3).Find relatives such as: grandparents, etc.

Of course, there are different coping strategies depending on the age of your parents and your own age. If you know the reason and age group, the problem will be more specific.

It doesn't matter, since they don't want to be together, don't force it! (I'm from here).

The world of parents, children do not understand, but since they have decided, there is nothing to be saved, just respect their decision, but you can talk to them well, even if they are divorced, Dad is still our Dad, Mom is still our Mom, I hope they can take into account the growth and feelings of their children, especially for their younger brother. I also hope that one day, after calming down with each other, we can return to the family for the sake of our children.

As a child, of course, I don't want my parents to divorce, but if my parents are really unhappy together, it's better to agree with their separation. Whether they're together or not, they'll always be your parents.

You can find relatives who usually have a lot of contact with you to persuade them, who has nothing to do at home, so that the divorce will not be so serious, you can also ask your parents not to leave you at such a young age, because the future life depends on them.

If your parents want a divorce, if you can persuade me, you will persuade them, and if you can't persuade me, let them divorce. Follow and follow, maybe divorced.

The divorce of parents will affect the mood of the child, your sister is still young, but you are already sensible, you can try to version with them.

Let's talk, because of the matter of the right adult, sometimes the children have no way to understand, maybe they really have no feelings, they will not be happy together reluctantly, and you will not feel the warmth of home, first of all, your parents love you, they think too much about you, but you don't want this matter to affect your mood, you should go to school or go to school well, don't think too much, the advice to you is to talk to them, try to understand why your parents want to divorce, to see if there is room for recovery, If they have already decided, it is useless for you to be sad, what do you say, if you can get by, who wants to divorce? There is always one side who is too lazy, or has different views, or ......In short, they can't tolerate each other, and they can't change. As a child:

1. Communicate with your parents first to see if you can get it back. Compare the lives of a child with a single parent and a child with a complete family. Of course, the suggestion of domestic violence to divorce immediately will have a very bad impact on the child's personality.

2. Call relatives and friends to persuade parents, because adults know how to straighten out tense relationships. Parents with two children are seriously considering divorce. 3. It's irreparable, and divorce is also a good thing.

Two people who are worse than strangers are too painful to live together. 4. You must understand that parents will always love their children, and this kind of love cannot be parted.

I'm a mother, and I've been in a cold war with my husband for a long time, and I've always wanted to.

Zhi wants a divorce. Two children.

The dao is about the same age as you, and he doesn't answer much. I want to tell you that my parents don't have a good relationship, and it's really painful to be together. Tormenting each other, looking at each other unpleasantly, and small to a little living habits are the beginning of contradictions with each other.

It's all about being together for the sake of the kids. If their final decision is to divorce, you should respect your parents' choice, and they are not willing to separate their two children if it is not really too painful. An unhappy marriage can torment a person's body.

Theoretically, as a complex.

Children can't control their parents.

system. They divorced, and it's really hard for you to have a solution......

However, as the saying goes, "things are done by people" ......

They divorce and it is their freedom.

However, all this must not affect your life.

So, you can shout, call them to you, make your thoughts clear to them, and ask them what you want: I can't control what you do, and I can't control ......However, my life cannot be affected by your divorce ......From now on, you must give me enough money every month for living and studying! The specific amount is up to me, and you are not allowed to bargain!

If they agree to your conditions, then let them toss and turn.

If they don't agree to your terms, then firmly prevent them from getting a divorce ......Overwhelm them!

That way, you win!

In turn, your family will be able to preserve ......Your parents won't leave you.

You can persuade your parents that divorce is not good for your growth... Try to get them back together.

Let them solve their own affairs, you can't change anything, but you can talk to them, and ask them to fulfill their obligations and take care of the two of you even if they are separated.

If you don't want them to divorce, talk to them and tell them what you think, or you can be separated for a while to calm down with each other.

As children, they really can't mix with their parents' feelings, after all, they can't get by. What you can do is take good care of your brother, protect his heart, and take care of him. After your parents have calmed down, you can talk to your parents separately, say what you think, and understand them if they insist on leaving.

The actual parents are not happy together. Unhappiness, the family that brings you is not full of love, and we, as children, can only respect their decisions. But we ourselves need to have love in our hearts.

If there is still affection between the parents, they must oppose their divorce, after all, the divorce will affect several families, and the emotional parents will regret it very much after the divorce. At this time, we who don't want our parents to divorce can play the emotional card, talk about the happy memories of the family together in the past, and let our parents imagine how pitiful they will be in the future, so that when they think about it, they will immediately soften. You can also talk to both parents individually and tell them how they care about them behind their backs.

If so, there is no affection between the parents, just for us to be reluctantly together, at this time we can't be selfish, we should support the divorce of our parents. Family is our safe haven, and we want to come back every day and feel the warmth of family, not the constant quarrels every day.

There is no affection between the parents anymore, and they are already tired of each other, so why force them to be together, they will not feel happy together, more often they are bored and painful with each other. You have to think like this, they are reluctantly together every day, it is better to be separated, and find the life they want in various ways, so that they may live a happier life.

Divorce has become an increasingly common phenomenon. Some people may not be very lucky, but they just bumped into this divorce incident in their own home. When a child is faced with the divorce of his parents, his first reaction is often, "After my parents divorced, I will have no home", and then I want to cry.

If he thinks about it a little longer and more, he may start to disbelieve in love and fear marriage. So I want to say to these children:

When encountering such a thing, it is normal for people to want to cry. There is no shame in having such emotions, you don't have to force yourself to endure it, pretend to be rational and calm. You need to release and you should release.

So, cry if you want to. You can find a friend to lean on his shoulder and confide in him; You can also curl up in a no-man's corner if you don't want to be seen; You can also hide under the covers and sob, and let yourself sleep well after crying.

You won't be without a home, though. After the parents divorced, the only difference was that the legal marriage between them ended. They no longer have the legal rights and obligations of husband and wife in the past, they no longer live together, and they may start a new family.

But the blood relationship between you and them, innate, will not change with the end of their marriage. They are still your loved ones. They loved you in the past and will love you now and in the future.

After untying your knot and accepting the status quo of your parents' divorce, what you should do is to spend more time with your parents who are on the passive side. There should be a lot of grievances in his heart. He or she may have paid a lot and sacrificed a lot for this family, so there may be knots and resentments in their hearts.

At this time, as her closest person, you should always accompany him and her, walk around, scatter your heart, and let her express all these grievances, so as not to force out faults or go to extremes. Of course, you can't snub the parent who filed for divorce because of this. This will alienate you from your parent-child relationship.

If you do, you will lose someone who cares about you, and you will allow yourself to really become what you feared, without a home.

Of course, you should also learn from the root causes of your parents' divorce. Past experience, if not forgotten, is a guide for the future.. If their divorce is due to domestic violence (including cold violence), then you should remember that in the future, in the marriage, you must not use violence, let alone cold war, and have something to say; Of course, if you are the one who has suffered violence, then you should also learn from your parents and decisively stop losses in time.

If your parents are divorced because they are no longer able to communicate on the same channel due to the growing gap between the two parties in their daily lives, then you should always push yourself to learn and improve throughout your life so that you don't follow in their footsteps in the future.

In addition to these, the most important thing is that you yourself need to take precautions against secondary emotional disasters. You have to really understand that your parents are not suitable to be together again, so they choose to separate. Only then will you not become depressed or depressed when you can't think about it.

Only in this way will you not be afraid of marriage and intimacy in the future. In the future, you will still believe in love and look forward to marriage.

The best way to cope is to respect your parents' decisions. If you want to have a complete home, everyone understands the mood, but many children can't experience the hard work and pressure that parents put in to maintain a home that is not harmonious enough. So, be yourself, study hard, work hard in the future, and reassure your parents, these are all things you can do, which is equivalent to reducing their burden.

The second is to care more about them, take the time to communicate with them as much as possible, truly understand their thoughts and feelings, and express your expectations in a timely manner. If there is still love between them and they want to regain it, then bless them; If that's the end of it, don't force them to stay with you for your sake. You just have to be yourself and bless them, no matter what the outcome, they are still loving you and your loving mom and dad.

If you are an adult and your parents have been grudges for a long time, then it may be a good thing for you to divorce your parents, and for them, it is also a relief, rather than both of you struggling in pain, it is better to let go and let each other find a new life! The struggles of your parents when you are young may be to give you a healthy living environment, and when you get older, you should also understand them! If your parents don't understand that your silence means that you don't want to hear another person being vilified, you may have to say what you think.

Instead of blaming them, let's talk about how you feel.

Due to the inappropriate living arrangements, the family relationship is often in a tense and contradictory atmosphere after the parents divorce and marriage. In the chapter on guardianship I talked about my views on the concept of guardianship'The right to own the child as a prize or property creates a sharp antagonism between the parents. I don't advocate the use of guardianship, but I strongly advocate replacing it with responsibility.

I believe that the affection of whom the child wishes to live is very important, and therefore they should be consulted and given serious consideration, but the child himself should not make a decision on the matter of guardianship. The matter should be left to the parents or the relevant legal authorities to decide. Unfortunately, many decision-makers on custody and visitation issues make decisions that are more desirable to adults than to children.

Once the mother and father have custody of the same thing, the best interests of the child can be taken into account more reasonably. Part of the problem is that mothers are reluctant to give up their childcare to their fathers for fear of being left behind. In fact, the more our minds are unrestrained, the more the responsibility for raising children lies with the father or mother who is better equipped to shoulder this responsibility.