Children who don t like to talk, what is the problem?

Foreword

In our daily life, whether it is study or work, if we want to express our inner thoughts, we must describe them through words. Language is ubiquitous in our lives and is an important thinking tool for communication between people. So why do some children not like to talk?

What is the reason for this? Let's break it down.

Reasons why children don't like to talk:

1.The influence of the family environment.

If a child's parents usually don't talk much at home, the child will also be affected by this factor, so that he becomes silent, does not like to speak, and will not express his thoughts. Therefore, for the healthy growth of children, we must communicate with our children more often.

2.Parenting style.

If parents are too strict with their children, it may lead to the child being in a very lonely environment, and he has no friends to talk to, which will make his personality become introverted and withdrawn, which will cause the child to not like to talk. In the daily education of children, it is most appropriate to avoid putting too strict requirements on children, and gradual education.

3.Personality issues.

Some children are introverted by nature, so they don't like to talk or express their inner thoughts from an early age. After discovering that your child is introverted, you can often encourage him to express his thoughts and slowly make changes.

4.Insecurity.

After being insecure, children will also become less talkative and unwilling to reveal their hearts to others, and they will become wary of others.

If your child becomes less talkative, don't be anxious, let alone criticize him blindly, but encourage them to speak their minds and find out why they don't like to talk. It is also necessary to guide your child a lot, for example, when he wants something, you can encourage him to say what he wants to call it, etc. When you find that your child is reluctant to talk more no matter what, you should also find some professional doctors for professional guidance in time.

The reasons why children do not like to talk include family environment, personality reasons, lack of security, etc.

1.Family environment: If the child's parents do not like to talk or the child's parents are too strict, and the child has been in this environment for a long time, there is no friend to talk to, and it is very likely that the phenomenon of not talking will occur.

2.Personality reasons: Children are naturally introverted and do not like to express their thoughts, which in turn shows that they do not like to talk.

3.Insecurity: Children are born with a sense of insecurity, do not trust everything around them, and have a sense of defensiveness towards others, so they do not like to talk.

There are many reasons why children do not like to talk, it is recommended to go to the hospital in time, improve the examination, and give targeted ** after clarifying**.

Children who don't like to talk are generally affected by the environment, it may be that the family atmosphere is not very good, or they have suffered a lot of changes, resulting in introverted personality and reluctance to communicate with others.

First of all, do you see if your child is more introverted? If it's acquired, is the growth environment around you affected? It can also cause the child to be introverted and not like to talk.

Children who don't like to talk have a lot to do with environmental factors, but they are also influenced by the family environment. If the child's disability to talk is not resolved over time, the child may become introverted.

In fact, there are many children who do not like to talk, and personal subjective reasons occupy a relatively large part, because in today's society, most of the children living in the city are closed doors, so the children gradually do not speak.

1. Environmental issues.

If the environment in which the child lives is relatively closed or there are no children around, then you are prone to let the child have autism, but generally speaking, the impact of this autism is long-term become, rather than a short period of development, many children live in a dark and damp environment, or the environment is more serious every day, growing up in such an environment, children are easy to not like to talk.

2. Family issues.

If the parents always like to yell loudly, do not care about the child, then the child is easy to form an autistic psychology, so he does not like to speak, this situation is very deep, and even the child will go deep into the bone marrow from an early age, forming an autistic psychology.

3. Personal issues.

There is also a problem, over time, the child is affected by the family environment, so as to develop a self-psychology, this self-psychology is a subjective influence, the subjective influence is difficult to change, some children do not like to talk since childhood, this is mainly related to the child's subjective problems, there is a saying: the dragon has nine sons, each child is different, so it is not possible to guarantee the character of each child.

If the child has a lot of personal problems, parents should first act as the first place, pay more attention to the child, and answer more questions and puzzles for the child.

Children who don't like to talk may have personality problems, and the child's personality is more introverted and inferior, so he doesn't like to talk.

It may be because of the quarrel caused by his parents, or because he is introverted. Loves solitude and enjoys solitude. At this time, you should always enlighten him.

Why is your child reluctant to talk to you?

1.There is a lack of equality in communication with children, and equal communication with children is something that many parents tend to overlook. When a child expresses some thoughts to you, as a parent, you must have said something like this::

You're still a kid, what do you know? This will not only discourage the child's willingness to express communication. More often than not, your child will feel that they have nothing in common with you, which will make them reluctant to talk to you more.

If we want to build a good relationship with our children, we should adopt a calm attitude to understand them and guide them appropriately. Instead of always communicating with others in a tough way. Parents have thought carefully about what we want their children to do.

2.Does the child really want it? Do you understand your child's needs?

Do you know what he wants? Like we said before "I'm doing this for your good", we may think it's for our children's good, but we never ask them if they're okay. A lot of times, we're making decisions.

children, even with the slightest option. Can't give to children, is that respect? It's impossible to empathize with each other, but you can take the initiative to understand your child's needs.

When we communicate, we often say "insincere", but in fact, the opposite is true. When many parents communicate with their children, they always appear in the form of scolding and saying something good to their children, but the tone between the words is sarcastic and hurtful. We must understand that children's sense of security mainly comes from their parents, even the closest people, and children are even more afraid to communicate with you.

3.Common forms of misunderstanding include criticism, abuse, baseless accusations, child suppression, and more. When communicating with children, we often have a misunderstanding:

We always treat questions as chats, and the content of the chat is very simple, either asking for learning or asking for food and clothing. It seems that the child has no other needs than these two. Not only that, but when children show different opinions on certain issues, they will also be blamed by us and indoctrinated with truth.

Many parents don't have a choice when it comes to communicating with their children. Our communication is often accepted by children under the banner of "for your good" and by means of "coercion and inducement". Success, it was a pleasant exchange, which proved that the child was willing to communicate with us.

On the contrary, it is difficult for children to communicate. We want to say that we care, not what children care about. That's why children are increasingly rejecting communication.

First, I don't care what my child thinks. When parents complain that their children don't communicate with themselves and ignore themselves, they can reflect on themselves and whether they have paid attention to their children's inner thoughts. Second, they keep making demands on their children, but they can't do it themselves.

Third, lack of patience with the child and often interrupt the child's words. Children have a desire to express, and the desire to express is very strong, especially some younger children, but parents often interrupt the child's words, or prohibit the child from speaking, the child will gradually lose the desire to express.

It may be because you are busy with work, it may be because you spend less time with your children, it may be because you often beat and scold your children, it may be that the parent-child relationship is not particularly good, it may be because you often perfunctory children.

Your child may feel that he doesn't approve of the way you handled something, so he doesn't want to pay attention to you and wants to calm down for a while.

Have you ever paid attention to his learning problems? This is not only about exams at school, but also about his interests and interests.

Children are now more precocious Some children in the sixth grade are about to enter puberty, and their minds are developing very quickly, is it because their parents' thoughts and children's thoughts are not synchronized? Even if we have someone who can't understand our own thoughts, don't we want to communicate with them too much? It's all the same

Therefore, if you want to communicate well, you must first look for his psychological development state from the clues in his life, so that he can communicate better

Introverted children are generally more precocious, they also like to think about some of their own things, when they feel that they have a difference or gap with the people around them, they often choose to self-enclosed protection, immersed in their own world, the efforts of parents are the most important Communicate more with children

Isn't it too serious, and children don't like to talk because it's a problem? Is it possible that adults who are emotionally disturbed one day and occasionally do some incredible behaviors can also be located as abnormal? What's so bad about being introverted?

Besides, even if you want to change, you can't define it as a problem.

I pay attention to some children, who are introverted, many of which are caused by adults themselves, such as parents not being around to take care of them, such as husband and wife have no common language of interaction, and they can't speak a few words at home.

Of course, there are many autistic children, that is a disease, this has to see a doctor. If it is not such a serious situation, there is no need to force the child to make any changes, just make the family atmosphere better, encourage them to express their thoughts and feelings, and do not close themselves too closely. That's what we're going to do.

The average elderly person will seem to say that the child is a bit introverted. Now I'm exposed to something new, which is ADHD in children. A check-up is recommended. OK.

It is recommended to consult a professional counselor for in-depth discussion. Regardless of your child's personality, don't force your child's personality to change.

It is possible to be hurt by other people's words, the reason is only known to you, if you want to know, you need to be a good and good friend.