Why growth is accompanied by pain, growth is always accompanied by pain

The so-called growth is accompanied by pain, which means that if people want to experience something, real growth must be accompanied by pain and suffering.

In other words, only those who grow up with pain and suffering will have a certain amount of insight and commonality, and only such people can withstand the baptism of wind and waves and wind and rain better.

Of course, for most people, being able to get through the pain is to get a chance to grow and improve, and if you fall in front of the pain, then there is no growth.

So there is a very good saying that when you feel pain, that's when you grow.!!

Because the more you grow up, the more lonely you become, and the road to growth is often lonely, whether it is good or bad, you have to go through it yourself to know. Along the way, you will learn the truth of life while losing, although it is painful, but it is also rare.

Because the process of growing up is accompanied by pain! Growth is to experience and follow in pain!

Everyone has a growth process, the ups and downs can be tried through the process, no matter what people do, they have to go through growth and pain, and they can stand the test after suffering hardships, and the road will be smoother in the future.

How can you grow without pain? What do you grow on? You will only grow if you go through pain. People always grow up in a honey pot, and they will never grow up without going through painful tempering. Are you right?

Growing up is all about grinding and slowly tempering in order to refine young talents who are very persistent and proud.

I don't regret the mistakes I've made, and I don't deny the shortcomings in myself. If I could turn back the clock, I would be able to be aware of the mistakes I made and how I should have changed myself in those painful moments. However, I will not erase those past moments and walk a new path, because those experiences are precious to me.

Each of us has to experience pain in this life to grow up, everyone has experienced different, if it is not for the unforgettable, heart-rending pain that has been experienced, how can we better understand what a person's growth needs to go through, and how can we understand ourselves and others at this moment. Because I have experienced, felt, and understood this pain, I can see the pain and hardships of others, so I can accept and tolerate it.

I've made mistakes, so I know you're going to make mistakes, I've been in pain, so I know you're going to be in pain too. Therefore, every experience and all encounters have their own value, and it is these that have made me who I am today.

If a person has not experienced the pain of piercing the heart, he will not be enlightened and grown. Only when pain reaches the commanding heights can a person wake up. Therefore, experiencing suffering is a kind of cultivation for everyone, and it is something we must do.

When our relatives and friends encounter hardships and pains, perhaps the best thing to do is to quietly guard and accompany them silently.

I myself have experienced this experience myself, tasted the escalating pain, and experienced the transformation, so I understand the process of growth. The experience is indeed painful, but it is also precious.

As Rabindranath Tagore said, only by going through hellish trials can we develop the power to create heaven; Only a bleeding finger can pop out the sound of the world; Without the struggle in the storm, there will be no heroic flight.

Yohji Yamamoto once said: "self" is something invisible, bumping into something else, ** come back, you will understand "yourself". So, colliding with something very strong, something terrible, something of a very high level, and then you can know what "self" is, and this is the self.

Luffy said, throw away all the past and fetters, and don't spare the tears shed for your dreams.

We have a self-aware world in our hearts, and there is a self-consistent operating system in it, which is very harmonious but also very narrow, because the real world is much more complex and much larger. Every time you encounter a setback, you actually run into reefs that are part of the real world, but you never knew they existed, and they pierced us, bleed, and made us miserable. If we choose not to back down, then we can move on to the next stage and internalize what used to sting us into a part of the body, which is growth.

But if we go back in pain every time we hit the rocks, we will go into a different pattern, the world will shrink, it will become more and more narrow, and we will start to hate everything around us that is unusual, and we will start to mock and deny everything around us.

Growth is painful, no one's growth can be completed in the comfort zone, let us embrace pain and grow without fear.

Actually, I didn't want to use this topic because it seemed a bit pessimistic. However, from another point of view, growing up is not a simple thing, it is not comfortable, it can be. The so-called "how to get the fragrance of plum blossoms without going through a cold bone", it may be difficult to grow without experiencing some pain.

At our age, when we talk about growing up, some people may feel very hypocritical. There may be some hypocrisy, but at least we still want to grow, and we also want to be able to change a little, in other words, we still have dreams.

In the Internet era, many stories will appear in our field of vision in a short time. A mother, in her thirties, her husband died of illness, leaving a child waiting to be fed, facing the double blow of family and emotion, carrying a heavy burden, she knew that if she only relied on the existing stable income, she could not solve the problem of food and clothing for the whole family. So, she made up her mind to wipe away her tears, leave her children to her parents, and go out to work alone.

Because she was very successful later, her story was widely disseminated by the big picture family, but I believe that behind this inspiring story, there is a difficult journey. And after going through these hardships, I realized how important it is to be strong, so in the face of other people's evaluations, she seems to be a little angular.

I have seen the changes in her family's speech, and I have also seen the tenderness and helplessness when talking about her family, and I can also see her dedication to growth, I think her growth experience must have been painful, but under the strong outside, it covered up the pain well, or replaced the pain with some other inspirational words.

It's the best of times, it's the worst of times. However, we live in such an era, we cannot change the times, nor can we change the reality, we can only change ourselves, and we can only change the future. Zeng Guofan once said:

The past is not in love, the present is not mixed", the past is no longer nostalgic, and the present is not cranky.

If you still have a dream, in addition to thinking about it, you should also do it seriously, if you just think about it, it can only be a fantasy, only seriously pay your time and work hard to strive for it.

At this time, we must be prepared, this process must be painful, just like the college entrance examination we have experienced, looking for a job, falling in love, may be desperate, aggrieved, helpless, but at such an age we still want to grow, we should be able to accept all this, because we are born as a human being, we should work hard, and live to the bridge of death, and there is no fear of failure.