When it comes to college dormitories, there is always a knot in my heart

I used to have a bad relationship in the dormitory, but the so-called go your own way and let others say it, aren't there any kind female classmates around you, usually communicate with other classmates in class, find your own bosom friend, I get along with a girl in the bedroom next door, and the other girl next door also chats with me very well, I usually visit the door when I have nothing to do, and I don't care too much about them, it's really hard to get along with the dormitory, it's not a big deal.

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I think part of the reason is selfishness. Because everyone is oriented towards himself, and if he is not for himself, heaven and earth will perish. Therefore, everyone will often have conflicts.

The dormitory is a group living environment, and some people only think about their own feelings and ignore everyone's feelings because of selfishness. This is also a cause of contradictions. Another is because of his own low self-esteem.

It may be a class division, and those who don't have money will feel inferior because they don't have money.

To give a simple example, some roommates are more selfish. Tend to only think about your own feelings. You can't talk like a brain, you can say whatever you want.

Doesn't observe roommates' faces. Even if it's a joke, there will be a degree. But he never looked at that degree.

Always verbally attacking others, and then satisfying yourself in your heart. Such people are the most selfish. There is also the fact that it always disturbs the rest of the roommates.

Every time, when others are sleeping, they still have something to do. In fact, there are some things that can be done the next day, but he has to finish them now. For example, making ** porridge, and playing games.

It's not that you won't be allowed to play, but you should also be careful about the time. It's a collective, and it's not just one person. Such people are also selfish and prone to conflict with others.

Selfish people often have contradictions in them. Therefore, in group life, everything you do must be considered first, and everyone is thinking about yourself.

As a university student, I have first-hand experience of this problem. From high school to college, we all have a longing for college, especially about the roommates we get along with day and night. At the beginning, they were all enthusiastic about each other, but after a long time, there would be conflicts.

This phenomenon is very common, and I think there are several reasons:

First, there are many students who live in dormitory for the first time. When I was in high school, some of my classmates were close to home, and the school did not force them to live in the dormitory, so I basically lived at home from kindergarten to high school, and I was very casual at home, and I didn't have so many things, and I developed the habit of "calling the world by myself". When I arrived at the university, I had to live in a dormitory, and suddenly so many people lived in a common space, which inevitably caused discomfort, and dormitory conflicts also arose.

Second, there is the issue of personal character. Some students are naturally withdrawn, not good at getting along with others, over time, no one wants to be good with him, and he himself is under great psychological pressure, if there is a problem between roommates at this time, it is easy to stimulate.

Third, some roommates are "outspoken". That is to say, such a roommate will say everything no matter what, and if you don't do it to him, he will directly say about you, without saving you any face. You buy a dress, and before anyone else can speak, he directly says that it is really ugly, too ugly, will you not be angry?

Especially girls, it is easy to worry about these, and after a long time, contradictions will emerge.

Fourth, the only child. Some students are only children, and they are used to being alone at home, and there will be many problems outside, especially when it comes to getting along with others.

Fifth, bad habits. Some people don't like to wash, which may produce a peculiar smell, and after a long time, other roommates can't stand it, and it is easy to quarrel.

It's normal for roommates to have conflicts, no one is perfect, no one is perfect, don't forget each other's good because of some contradictions, four years of college are very fast, cherish the remaining days together!

The reasons for the dormitory conflict are as follows:

First, everyone has different personalities, and if they are in the same room, there will inevitably be conflicts.

People tend to have a good impression of strangers, which is why we often hurt our closest people intentionally or unintentionally.

Therefore, when everyone has just come to the university and entered a dormitory, they are very good, very polite, caring for their classmates, hospitable, and helping each other.

Then, when they are ripe, they begin to show their true character. For example, a girl who likes to be quiet can't stand liking that kind of noisy girl, so they are prone to conflicts between them. For example, if there is no one leaf in the world, so people are the same.

Everyone comes from all over the world, and the character they have cultivated since childhood is impossible to change the character of more than ten years when it comes to college.

So, personality determines a lot of things.

Second, there are many problems at home, and after everyone is familiar with them, they are brought to the dormitory.

As mentioned above, after getting acquainted, everyone's problems have been revealed. Everyone is a little fairy of their parents at home, a little princess, a little prince, and a young master, who is used to by their parents, and they don't have to do anything by themselves, they worry about it.

However, when I arrived at the dormitory, I had other things to do besides doing my own thing. For example, when everyone is cleaning or having group activities, some people are often opportunistic, cheating, and unwilling to do it. And such a selfish person is very annoying.

Also, some people are used to being at home, they don't know how to wash clothes, they don't know how to clean up their peppers, and they don't know how to love cleanliness. So often her clothes need to be washed by others, she usually doesn't wash at night, she starts to wash in the middle of the night, noisy others, and then her feet smell the same as what, and she doesn't know how to wash others if she smokes them.

Third, as people get older, they think more about things and are more selfish.

There are many reasons for dormitory conflicts, and I can give you some more common and specific examples for you to experience.

The gap between the rich and the poor in the dormitory can sometimes become the cause of contradictions, and some students spend money very generously, and it is inevitable that they will have a different vision for those who are very frugal and picky. In fact, this is not to look down on the poor. But he has not been short of money since he was a child, and he doesn't understand that money is not easy.

I don't understand why someone would pick the door so hard. This is bound to be uncomfortable for people with poor family backgrounds, even if it is a look. He will remember you too.

will find a chance to get along with you.

In fact, the real reason is that everyone has too many edges and corners and does not know how to accommodate others. The so-called newborn calf is not afraid of tigers, which means something similar. By the time of the third year, there will be almost no more conflicts in the dormitory, because everyone has run in with each other very well.

I learned about each other's conduct and knew how to cherish friendship.

And in the senior year, as college life is coming to an end. Even if there is a conflict in a dormitory, it will be resolved, because there is no conflict more sad than separation. Roommates will also cherish each other more.

When the relationship of the past four years really came to an end, we realized that those contradictions were really just a small thing. It's not worth the conflict at all.

Cherish it, forgive them for some small mistakes, you can only spend a few years together.

The roommates in the university dormitory are generally from all over the world, and everyone has different living environments and growth environments since childhood, as well as different living habits and personality characteristics, so there will always be all kinds of contradictions when getting along, which is a very common problem, because different places have different customs and habits, even if they are in the same province, they will get along with each other because they are different nationalities. So many times what others do may be something that you can't understand, and you think it's incredible, but there is a saying called "follow the local customs", you can't look at others with different eyes because of this, so you won't get everyone's respect and like, because no one will respect and like a person who doesn't know how to respect others.

And most of the people standing are only children, who have been pampered by their elders since they were children, and they may be a little unable to stand the life in the dormitory, they may be a little squeamish, or they look down on their classmates from the countryside, and they don't know how to empathize, thinking that they are still in the dormitory and at home, everyone must spoil themselves, love themselves, and when they are awkward with others, they know how to cry at home, and they don't know how to solve it, which is also the reason for the conflict in the dormitory.

There are also some people who are always sleeping and she is still playing with her mobile phone, and she only goes to wash up after everyone else is asleep, or she fights with others, eats, and the next morning everyone else gets up and you are still sleeping, and you have to blame others for making noise about you, maybe once or twice everyone can still accept it, if you do that every day, others will definitely hate you. In this way, everyone will isolate you, so not being able to have a consistent schedule in college will also cause conflicts among everyone.

Many times when everyone needs help, they are still closest to the people in their bedroom, in a dormitory, behind closed doors, it is a family, and everyone looks up every day and does not look down, so it is best not to have conflicts with their roommates, so the impact on themselves and others is not good, and it will make others see jokes and feel that their bedroom is not harmonious, which is not good.

As we grow up, we go through one stage after another. I have to admit that the college entrance examination is really a watershed. As it passes, our lives will rise dramatically.

I believe that most people go to university before going to university, and they are relatively close to their own home, even if they live on campus, they can usually go home once every half a week or a month. However, college is different, most people will leave their hometown and return three or four times a year at most.

Moreover, the biggest difference between college and high school is that we are completely divided. It's no longer a hodgepodge of all staying in one class. What kind of person you are determines what kind of person your roommate is.

Some of the qualities of each of us are different. Also, when I was busy in high school, we didn't have much time to pay attention to some small shortcomings of others. College is different, there is really a lot of free time, and then everyone spends more time together, and some small problems of each person will be exposed and become a habit that the other party can't bear.

Also, in high school, you can choose your own circle of friends. Even if your academic performance is not very good, there are always some friends who have good grades and are kind. Everyone's three views are also relatively the same, and college is impossible, they are all people on the same level, and they have no share in you, me and her.

The last reason, and I think the most important, is also the most important reason. I don't know if people who went to college felt that they were quite rich in high school, and they could have fun and eat well on weekends, but when they went to college, they were so poor that the living expenses given by their parents were not enough. Even if the cost of living in high school is much lower than in college.

That's because we need to make more decisions ourselves, no longer like in high school, everyone eats together, and just does the questions, college life will be more realistic, which will trigger more conflicts.

After entering the university, the relationship between people in some dormitories is very good, but there are also some dormitories where there are often some conflicts. In fact, there will be all kinds of things happening in the university dormitory, after all, we have to live together for 4 years, during which it is inevitable that there will be friction due to some small things, resulting in an awkward relationship between everyone, but under the same roof, we have to get in the way of face and continue to get along well. So what did everyone learn from the college dorm relationship?

1. When you see people, you talk about people, and you talk nonsense when you see ghosts.

Not every college dormitory relationship is very harmonious, some dormitories are not very good relationship between people, all kinds of contradictions behind closed doors are frequent, but after opening the door, facing others are smiling, after all, we have to live together for 4 years, we should get along well when we should get along, but if the contradiction is stimulated, it is easy to produce some physical friction and verbal language friction, so many college students do not get along very well in the university dormitory, But after leaving the dormitory, the feeling of people is very intimate.

2. Don't trust someone easily.

People are separated from the belly, you never know what the relationship with your own spirit is, it looks very good on the surface, but in fact some people are different from the outside, although they play very well with you on the surface, if a person trusts his roommate very much, and then tells his roommate his little secret, it is possible that the roommate will turn his head and tell others, making it a laugh after dinner. Therefore, college students should not believe in a person casually, everyone is very complicated, others say that the university is a small society, and the relationship between people cannot be as good as it seems on the surface, so it is necessary to be on guard, in fact, living in a dormitory for 4 years, don't tell others your little secrets casually, shut up when you should shut up, and don't say bad things about others behind your back, it is easy to be caught by others, and it is easy to get caught by others, and it is easy to have an incident.