There is always a breath of resentment in my heart, and I can t get rid of it, what should I do?

If a person is always angry and does not know how to resolve or express it, the fire will be staggered in the heart, and if you have been suppressing your anger for a long time, your heart will be like an inflated ball, slowly expanding, making you feel resentful, and you will make yourself very uncomfortable.

When I was studying in Tianyin psychology, there was no good or bad emotion of anger, it just told you that what you are facing now makes you feel very angry because you feel attacked. On the other hand, anger and fear are a kind of self-protection, protecting one's interests from harm, protecting oneself from harm, if a person who is not even angry, how to know that his boundaries are in**?

Therefore, resentment and sullenness are because anger is not expressed, or it is not expressed well, and the other person does not receive the signal of your anger and does not produce corresponding behavior. So I think you should first look at your emotions more objectively, whether it is someone else who violates my boundaries, or whether I don't express my thoughts clearly, and have unrealistic expectations of others, resentment that others don't follow your own ideas, and the reason behind the resentment is something we need to think about. There is also a kind of resentment, which is anger towards ourselves, resentment for why we didn't express it, and this kind of self-attack hurts ourselves very much.

What should I do when I have a grudge in my heart? In fact, we should have a calm mind in life to deal with, a group of grievances, indicating that you are in, dissatisfied with your environment, not satisfied with your position, or not very understanding of your own ability, unclear about your company's corporate direction and personal positioning, and slim thoughts. Everyone's growth is extraordinary.

It is also normal to have grievances, because in today's society, there are more and more contradictions in the society we live in, and the gap between the rich and the poor is becoming more and more relatively obvious. I even rely on a house and a car for a lifetime, and I also take out a loan to support it. This kind of unfairness can only be said to make them, the complaints in their hearts, continue to arise.

Then he will have an unpositive attitude in any place where he works, he does not seek, personal reasons, his own reasons, and a sense of social value.

Our value, should no longer have the voice of resentment in the explosion, we have no luck, then it means that our own ideological positioning is not mature enough, so we pity ourselves in life is not strong enough, maybe one day someone will be for you what you will do, what you will do, your personal ability is not a skill, then you you will not be able to stand in life.

When there is a celebration in our hearts, we must release it, for example, to travel, to do something we want to do, to release our mood, so that the resentment in our hearts will not be so deep, we will become calm, we will work harder, we will work harder, we will work harder, we will work harder, we will work harder, we will work harder. Come on, friends, when there is a mass of resentment in your heart, releasing yourself is the best choice for yourself, and it is also the best yearning for a new life.

There is no one in this world who does not have shortcomings, think about it is easy for us to forgive ourselves, but we demand perfection from others, if we turn it around, we tolerate others with a heart of self-restraint, and we condemn ourselves with the heart of others. Then you will get better and better, and there will be no resentment, and don't take yourself too seriously, think about others.

You can observe: all the troubles and grievances are because you take yourself too seriously, then take yourself seriously, if you can slowly look down on your own gains and losses, the heart is filled with others, then I think you should not have resentment, and will live a very happy life, all the world's happiness, are beneficial to others, all the world's suffering, salty from self-reliance, all Buddhism says: selfless, can resolve all troubles, the Heart Sutra says:

There is no obstacle in the heart, no obstacle in the way, no terror, put yourself down.

If a person has grievances, the victim is always himself, and he has no meaning to figure it out for a long time, so relax and self-adjust It's too unwilling to be unwilling, how can unwilling people's hearts change so quickly,One second he was still saying that he loved you very much, and the next second he was saying that he was tired, and he was leading someone else's opponent in the back.

People inevitably have wishful thinking, all like this, people who pay true love will have this feeling, in fact, no matter how much others say, it is useless, the key is to see how you come out, happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why let yourself live so tired, besides, if you torture yourself so much now, will he come back! If you are like this, he will only laugh at you, pity you, make yourself happy, you are better without him, and make him regret losing you! If you have a bad temper, you should change it, be humble, understand more, and be happy for a long time.

If you have a grievance that you can't dissolve, you will choose to divert your attention.

Vent out, sing, shout, find someone to talk to. Buy, buy, buy.

Don't take yourself too seriously, think about others.

If you don't think about it, people can't figure it out when they're sad, and if you let it go, you might see a new world.