In the face of opposition from her boyfriend s parents, whether to work hard or give up

Updated on psychology 2024-07-21
22 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    I used to have the same problems as you, I was with my boyfriend for more than 4 years, his parents didn't agree, and then for various reasons, I broke up with him! I understand your feelings, if your boyfriend is as insistent as you, then fight together, if your boyfriend gives up, it can only mean that the love he gives you is not sure enough! Then you will leave him silently!

    Make yourself feel better! Whatever the outcome, I wish you happiness!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    You say that he is like Zhong Yuemin in "Blood Romance", I think he may just think that he doesn't want to be bound by any woman, except for this, nothing else is definitely like it, will Zhong Yuemin compromise because of his parents' opposition?

    I don't like such a man, I think he, including his parents, are using their own family conditions as capital to negotiate marriage.

    If you don't have an advantage, it's better to withdraw from this relationship, otherwise even if you get married in the future, you won't be happy if you don't have a status in their family.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    You are 5 months younger, not older than him, it depends on whether he is sincere to you, some problems are not problems, such as giving up before you see him, if he wants to break up with you, the reason is arbitrary, there are many.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    If that man doesn't fight for it, you'll be in a lot of pain dealing with the two problems in the future....What you let him do is rebellious, for you, for your love!

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    If he doesn't want to fight with you, then you can split it up with him.

    Although it is not good to confront his parents, won't he try to convince his parents?

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    For your own sake, keep at it!

    If it really ends in failure! At least at that time, if you know that you have worked hard, then you will not regret it!

    We've got your back!

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Your boyfriend's parents are against the relationship between the two of you, and it's not very necessary for the relationship to continue.

    After all, in many real cases, we can see that where the parents object, what can be continued is the opposition of the woman's parents, and what cannot be continued is the opposition of the man's parents. If he really loves you, he won't let you know his parents' attitude towards your relationship, he will use his own ability to get his parents done, but he still let you know, so explain. His heart is shaken, maybe in the short term, he is willing to work hard for the relationship between the two of you, and struggle, fight against his parents, but in the long run, he will still abandon you and listen to his parents' opinions.

    At the same time, from your point of view, his parents are against it, which means that they are not happy with you. Such preconceived ideas will not change in any essence because of your efforts and changes, so no matter how hard you try in the future, you may not be able to change the stereotype in their hearts, and their dissatisfaction with you will last for a long, long time, and even if you can resist and successfully get married one day, it will still make them feel very unhappy in their hearts. In this way, even after getting married, it is very difficult and struggling for both parties to get along, so you can make an effort, after all, you must be worthy of all your efforts and feelings.

    However, behind the effort, you have to recognize the reality, because one day it may not be the opposition of the other party's parents who will give up on you, but the retreat of your boyfriend.

    Reality is always cruel, but many girls can't understand this, they think that their love is stronger than gold, and they think that their boyfriends are also on their side. As everyone knows, men's reason is always higher than emotion, they recognize reality, and they may give up on you and your feelings without reservation in the future. Therefore, in order to be less hurt for yourself, while opposing the other party's parents, you must also learn to keep your feelings and fight for a glimmer of life for yourself.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    You should choose to give up, and then my parents don't like you, and often oppose it, it won't come to fruition, and the average boy will still listen to his parents in the end.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Personally, I think this relationship should be given up, because if you don't get the love and support of your parents, this relationship will become extremely difficult, and even after getting married, it will be very tiring.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    This relationship should be given up decisively, without the support of parents, then this relationship will not last.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    This problem of yours is a problem that most young people will encounter before getting married, the man does not agree or the woman does not agree, and one of the family members does not agree, it will affect your relationship, whether it can continue, so it is more important to be calm and deal with this problem appropriately.

    If there are some hardware requirements and cannot meet your parents' expectations in a short period of time, then you can give your parents a promise to complete it within a certain period of time. The most irrational behavior is not to do right with your parents, and don't hurt your family for the sake of feelings, because your family is selfless love for you, and the reason why they disagree is also to hope that you can have a better choice, after all, they have experienced ups and downs, and they also understand what kind of person you are suitable for and what kind of person you will live happily with.

    You don't have to worry about it, because people have different opinions, so you find the problem, so that you can further enlighten your parents and empathize with them.

    I believe that people who really love each other will not give up unless there is a case of lying, but in this case, there are two solutions. One of them is to stick to love, to be with the beloved, the parents do not agree, there is no way, but to let the parents slowly accept the boyfriend. Second, in order not to hurt his parents because of this incident, he gave up this relationship as soon as possible and looked for the next relationship again, although this is a cruel choice, but he can maintain a good relationship with his parents.

    In the end, you love each other very much, but you are hindered by these problems of your parents, then you should also face and solve this problem together.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If you think that the two of you have a very good relationship and can spend the rest of your life together, I think you can still hold on, after all, good relationships are hard to come by.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Of course, you should give up, because love that is not favored by your parents is not good, so you will also live very unhappy in the future, and you should separate as soon as possible.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    If you and your boyfriend are truly in love, then you should insist, because marriage is a matter of two people, and whether you can be happy after marriage depends on yourself.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Abandon. Because unblessed love comes with ups and downs and tribulations, and parents are from the past, it is best to follow the advice of parents.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    If you are particularly confident in this relationship, you should stick to it, so that you will not leave regrets, and do not easily question this relationship.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    You should stick to your feelings, only you know whether it's good or bad, and you shouldn't listen to other people's ideas and opinions, and contact your other half by yourself.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    If your boyfriend is opposed by her parents, you should give yourself a buffer period and don't just give up or continue to insist. Parents, as people who have come over, must want their children to live happily, and many people do not listen to the elderly. After really marrying each other, life is very hard, there are often no regrets in the world, and there are many women who give birth to children after getting married.

    Children maintain the relationship between husband and wife, even if the relationship is poor, they will barely maintain the marriage for the sake of the children, and the whole life will go into darkness. You can learn from your parents' words, but you can't listen to them all, so let's find out more about it!

    First, the boyfriend's own and family conditions are not good

    Some girls are attracted by each other's promises and sweet words when they fall in love, and some boys are not good in all aspects, and they can also win the hearts of girls. After the two have been dating for many years, they have plans to get married, and when the girlfriend brings her boyfriend home, she is opposed by her parents. After all, no matter who wants to find Jackie Chan's quick son-in-law, not to see his daughter with a person with a bleak future.

    Such parents are more realistic, but they are just to make their children feel better, after all, it is the marriage of their children, and they are not involved in it, no matter whether their daughters marry well or not, there is no direct connection, they just love their daughters too much.

    Second, should you give up or persevere?

    You can use a year to buffer, see if your boyfriend has changed within a year, and if the family conditions are not good, you can work hard the day after tomorrow, it is difficult for ordinary people to turn over, and if they are not self-motivated, it is even more difficult. There is no future with a person who has no sense of responsibility and no responsibility. More often than not, parents are just afraid that their son-in-law is too lazy, rather than really disliking their son-in-law's family background, and they should carefully observe whether their boyfriend is worth entrusting for life in all aspects, rather than being swayed by their parents.

    In short, there are some parents who interfere excessively in their daughters' marriages, which is also not advisable, after all, life is lived by themselves. Whether she is happy or not, it is the path chosen by the daughter herself, and the parents only need a little guidance.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Many girls will encounter some confusion during their relationship, especially when they have a more satisfactory boyfriend, but they are opposed by their parents, in this case they may also be a contradiction, I don't know whether I should choose to give up or choose to insist, when I encounter this situation, first of all, don't be too anxious to make a decision, you must think calmly about what you need, then you must have the answer in your heart.

    First of all, it's really important to know if you want who you are or what you are doing. If your boyfriend is a very self-motivated, hard-working, very filial, and loves you very much, and you believe that he will definitely be able to make you live a good life in the future, even in this case, although his current conditions are not very good, but as long as he has enough ability to bring you happiness, he can persevere. Although it is said that your parents' opposition is also for your own good, and your parents also want you to live a happier life, but the matter of finding a boyfriend ultimately depends on yourself, and you must consider whether you can be happy in the future.

    In addition, if you are a person who cares a lot about your boyfriend's financial conditions, and at the same time cares about your quality of life, and you feel that your boyfriend may not be able to make yourself happier in the future, and you think that your boyfriend's current situation may bring some burden to yourself and your family, in this case, it is best not to insist. There is also to consider whether the shortcomings of the boyfriend outweigh the advantages, if so, it is also necessary to be cautious, for example, the boyfriend is not self-motivated, and he himself is not practical and enterprising, his ability is not proportional to his statement at all, and it is best not to insist on it.

    In general, it is necessary to insist or give up, to consider from many aspects, as long as you are willing to believe in him, even if he is a little poor now, but the two of them can still live well through hard work.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    You should choose to give up, your parents must be for your own good, your parents know a wide range of people, if you oppose it, it means that your boyfriend has a problem.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    You should choose to give up. Because your parents are for your good, you will not be happy when you get married in the future, and your parents are from the past, so don't be too willful.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Because in this relationship, you are the parties. It's in love again. On the grounds of the so-called party madness, your understanding of your boyfriend is often biased, and it is difficult to have a correct understanding.

    As a parent, you should be very concerned about your marriage. Outsiders may have a more comprehensive view and understanding of your boyfriend than you do. Because marriage is related to the happiness of your life, your parents will be particularly concerned and concerned about your marriage.

    The observations and tests of your boyfriend will be more detailed, and they will be more appropriate to evaluate your boyfriend.

    Parents are the whole person and know what the factors are that affect marriage. In the investigation of your boyfriend, you will see that they are not suitable for you, and because you are insurmountable in the future, it makes sense to intervene to intercept them. Your parents are old and walk with more legs than you walk, so they must have a lot of experience.

    Your comments are invaluable. I think it's best for you to cut ties with him as your parents have arranged. If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer.

    If you take matters into your own hands and do what you want, you will encounter many difficulties and problems later. Actually, this question is simple, but it is really difficult to say.

    When you ask this question, it shows that your feelings have slackened. I don't know if I should stick to it. I don't know what your feelings are like in your heart.

    Let me share with you that two people in my own relationship, men and women, persist and give up in the face of opposition from parents, and persistence does not always end well. Giving up isn't always a bad outcome. You need to control it yourself.

    Feelings are hard-won, do and cherish. Why parents don't like men.

    Because there is no economic foundation, it is not possible to live a stable life after marriage. So parents are against it. His parents don't like this type of person because he thinks he is not satisfactory in terms of physical condition or personality.

    Parents were unhappy with his parents and his original family. What kind of person are parents looking for. Parents will have an ideal son-in-law image in their hearts.

    Or there are already people who are optimistic about themselves. It's like the introduction, and in comparison, I don't think the people you're looking for are very good.

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