Is it really not worth it for everyone to persuade them to share?

In itself, it proves that you yourself are already shaking. At this time, you especially need to be calm and think calmly about why the people around you persuaded you to break up.

1 An important attribute of a person is group, social, there are always friends, family, colleagues, and all kinds of people around you. They are also always in the habit of advising others on how to live their lives for various reasons. But do you have to listen to what others say?

Other people's advice is not always right, and it is more likely that it is not well-intentioned.

2 The people who like to give you advice the most with their own experience are definitely your parents and relatives. They have lived for decades, seen a lot of the world, and experienced a lot. A big reason for persuading you to break up is that you feel that the situation of the two people does not match.

Well-intentioned persuasion is not necessarily right. For example, if one party, especially the man, is in poor condition, the woman's family is generally reluctant in their hearts, because the family hopes that you will live a better life, and will tell you that if you are with him, you will suffer a lot in the future. But they couldn't see the man's efforts.

And you heard that the family broke up with the man. But later, the man soared through hard work, but you broke up because of someone else's suggestion.

3 In addition, there are many, many cases of regret after listening to someone else's advice to break up. But there are also the right ones.

Without my family, I might still be trapped in the trap of a scumbag. My friend is a graduate student and has a good family situation. One year, I went home to learn to drive during the holidays, and somehow I was captured by the coach and became boyfriend and girlfriend.

The male graduated from a junior college and has a complicated family. My friend's family disagreed. At first, my friend insisted that he believed in love and that he must be with the coach.

The family is in turmoil. In the end, my friend couldn't resist the opposition of his family and broke up with the coach. I've been depressed for a long time.

But during the second semester vacation, she couldn't help but sneak a look at the coach and found that the coach had a new girlfriend. Later, through many inquiries, I learned that this coach specializes in seducing female students, changing girlfriends is very fast, and he also picks good conditions. My friend woke up at this time, he was not a member of the family, and he was deceived by a scumbag.

4 Summary. There may be right or wrong to listen or not, no one can say for sure, the key is yourself.

In my opinion, other people's opinions can be heard and referenced, but in the end, you must make your own decisions, and you must know whether you still want this person and this relationship, whether it is worth it and what your own sincerity is. If you decide, you will move forward bravely, and you will just bear the consequences if you are wrong. In a lifetime and decades, who still doesn't make mistakes?

If you listen to others, don't blame others if you are wrong, because you still make your own decisions.

This is not necessarily, there are many people who persuade others to break up, it is entirely because of jealousy, not because the relationship between two people is not worth it.

This kind of relationship is really not worth it, because you may not be able to really measure your feelings in the face of feelings, but the people around you can see the essence of this relationship.

I think so, because the bystanders are confused, so they will see more clearly than they can themselves.

Yes, it's really not worth it, because a lot of people will see what you give and get in this relationship.

I think it's true, because outsiders can see it more clearly, and they can see your problems.

In this case, first of all, you must be vigilant, when the friends around you persuade you to divide, that is, you will easily find that the closer you are, the more you will persuade you to divide, and even the closer the person, the more ruthless you will be persuaded, and even sometimes in order to let you go, so that you don't want to redeem it, he may still scold you. And then in this case, you will have a lot of self-doubt, you will be very entangled in whether you should really give up, want to give up, and feel that you can't let go, but the people around you, you are easy to agree with the pressure you exert so much pressure every day, why because when a person is in a bad state, they tend to look for support from the outside world, which is often called social support in psychology, that is, the social support system.

In fact, the biggest social support system at this time is actually your friends, so when the people in this social support system tell you that you should give up, it is easy for you to finally agree to give up this behavior. All this seems logical and reasonable, but have you found a huge loophole? This loophole is actually what your friend heard about the two of you.

Most of them are bad, because the sweet things between you and your object are heartwarming, you won't share them all with your friends, and you won't share a lot, and even if you say it, you may not say it in detail, but once there is something unpleasant between the two of you, you will complain with your friends around you, the closer your friends, the more ruthless you will complain, and the more you will complain, and you will complain very carefully, and the more you complain.

In the end, there will be a situation where your friends around you are in their perception that the relationship between the two of you is much worse than the relationship between the two of you. So when you break up, it's easy for your friends to jump out and say to you: You see I've told you a long time ago, keep an eye on it, I've told you a long time ago, you two can't do this, I've always been optimistic about you, but I didn't say it before, wait.

And then what did I tell you, fortunately, you broke it up, he was a scumbag, what he didn't deserve you or something, what was already told to you. Why don't you have a long memory, etc.

It's really easy to mislead you, but I have to say that these friends of yours are really well-intentioned, and they are really thinking about you. But in your current situation, the fastest way for your friends to get you out is actually to persuade you to give up and persuade you to look forward. So, at this time, it is the advice of friends to you, you just listen to it, know their kindness, and receive their concern for you, it is enough, whether to give up or redeem, or follow your heart, don't leave regrets for yourself.

You should separate, because if everyone persuades you to divide, it means that the other party does have a certain problem, and it is a more serious problem, and your friends will not harm you.

Should. Because the bystander is very sober and sensible, he can detect the relationship between the two of you.

should be separated. There is a saying that the bystander is clear. They can see that your relationship has deteriorated, but you can't, so if everyone advises you to do so, you can take a good look at whether there is a problem with your relationship. Stop losses in time.

Of course, it should be separated, because other people can clearly see the other side of the matter from their point of view, which is difficult for you to see.

Of course, you should separate, if everyone wants you to break up with each other, it means that this person is not suitable for you, and most of them are fans of the authorities, and bystanders are clear, you should think about this problem.

Of course it should be divided, since others are not optimistic, then why do you continue to stay by his side and be with him, the bystanders are clear, the authorities are confused, maybe the two of you are really not suitable.

It depends on the individual, if the other party really loves you, then you shouldn't separate, if the other party doesn't love you at all, then you must separate, don't force yourself, be a spectator in front of love, and be a bystander, you must follow your heart.

should be separated, in fact, everyone does not support it, which shows that there are many problems in this relationship, that is, I am afraid that I will regret it later.

Look at yourself, if you feel that the two of you can help each other and make each other better, then don't separate, if you are not in a good relationship, then you must separate.

If the two of you get along very well, and you think that the other person is very good, you should not separate, because the relationship is your own business, don't be swayed by others.

Such feelings should not be separated. Because it's up to you to decide what to do, you shouldn't follow other people's advice.

Of course not, you still have to look at your own inner thoughts, don't be swayed by other people's ideas, don't be impulsive.

If everyone is persuading you to break up, maybe you are really not suitable, you can consider breaking up, if it is one person who advises you to leave it alone, but they are all persuading you, it means that there is really a problem between you.

If you have special confidence in this relationship, don't break up, feelings are like people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowing, not outsiders can understand.

At this time, I feel that I can separate, after all, everyone is not optimistic, and the relationship will definitely end in the end.

The lack of affection for all people is not something I personally think is true, because for everyone, each of them has a different concept of love, since they all advise you to break up, it means that this person is really not suitable for you.

Yes, you can only choose to break up, it can be seen that the two people are not suitable, and many friends in life can't stand it anymore, which shows that the other party is not a reliable person.

First of all, let's think about a misunderstanding: who is in the hands of the love decision? Many people have a very brainless attitude towards love, listening to the wind is rain, and even some gossip has become the possibility of breaking up. But in this way, can you be sure that you are in control of the love decision?

Let's talk about the persuasion of the people around us, in essence, one thing will not happen for no reason. In particular, when the attitudes of the people around you tend to be the same, it shows the problems that exist. In other words, the people around you persuaded you to break up because they found the disadvantages in it, or they saw the bad things in others.

So at this time, it is necessary to figure out why the people around you persuade you to score, not whether the feelings are worth continuing.

In other words, you can love a fruitless scumbag for as long as you want. You can also love someone who is full of gossip, but loves you very much. The purpose of affection is not to lose in the persuasion of those around you, but to grasp your own feelings and win your own love!

So you need to make these three judgments::

1.Find out the real reasons for the persuasion of the people around you.

This step is the most important part, not to ask directly, but also to figure out the root cause. If you ask directly, there will definitely be a rhetoric that adds fuel and vinegar, and it is not easy to say it too bluntly, after all, there is a saying in China: It is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage, so do not ask directly.

And through a roundabout way, for example, I am very annoyed by the shortcomings of so-and-so, as long as you find a shortcoming and gain empathy from the people around you, then the people around you will say the reason why you are persuading you to score.

2.Find out the lover's attitude towards him.

In a relationship, especially during a period of passionate love. The question of attitude will become less obvious, because the sweetness of love has carried away. So at this time, it is necessary to selectively start to judge whether the lover's attitude towards himself depends on love or material, or time, or something else.

Because the bystander is always clear on the issue of attitude, in many cases, the bystander, that is, the people around him, will act to persuade him.

3.Find out your options.

Many people often say that friends persuade me to break up, and my mom doesn't approve of us being together. In fact, there is another situation in this kind of rhetoric, that is, the parties themselves have given up the choice of love. In order to reduce his image as a bad person, and in order to redeem himself in the eyes of others, he will say his true thoughts through the mouths of others.

Therefore, a person's choice of love is much more important than the persuasion of the people around him.

Finally, I would like to advise you: many things do not come out of nowhere, especially when many people around you persuade you to divide them. But if you don't think that's a big deal, then maybe your love will be better.

Only you know whether the shoes fit or not, and you should ask yourself this kind of question, and you should also have ideas and opinions, and don't listen to others about everything.

You should listen to the opinions of others, and you should also think about it yourself, this relationship that others are not optimistic about must indicate that there is a problem and should be separated.

You should not separate, as long as you believe in the relationship and feel particularly secure about the relationship, do not follow the advice of others.

I think we should separate, because the eyes of the masses are bright, and they see more thoroughly.

Many people like to ask the other partner if they really loved you before, or if they still liked you. I can't say anything else, but I can be sure that you must have a deep affection for each other.

Film and television works usually like to use "separation and integration" to render feelings, each other is bruised, one will love and one will be disgusted, one will be together and one will be separated, with the passage of time, the relationship between the male and female protagonists is not only not more stable, but the uncertainty is getting bigger and bigger, but in the end it can go to the end.

I thought this was the film, and if there were actually few groups of lovers who could persevere. But love is indeed the reason why you want to risk making mistakes again and again, it is too difficult for others to see, but in the eyes of many people, this is also an emotion that is not willing to be broken, can not be broken, and cannot be forgotten, even if they are bruised and tortured each other, they are not comfortable with each other.

Separation and integration indicate that the difficulties are not solved in essence, but only reconciled in the same way. Many people have not thought clearly about the problems in the past, and they are worried that they will reunite rashly if they break up completely, but they are not clear about their feelings, but they have a lot of pastime in a separation and reunion.

The problems of coexistence, which are also the reason for your instability, are generally difficult to recover the later you go, until the hidden breakup becomes pathological, due to the other party's reluctance to "explore" anymore. There will naturally be a chance to redeem each other, and there is a sincere existence between each other, and several previous reunions have also shown the probability of redeeming this matter. But I think it's also done!

Wake you up, don't imagine fooling around in love! When the feelings are gone, they come and talk to me about this problem.

But it is not 100% successful, and there is no doubt that the difficulty factor of compounding will increase compared to the first breakup. There are a lot of variables in the aftermath of a breakup. You don't have to think that the irretrievable factor is the mentality of others, in fact, there are many characteristics in your own body that are very difficult to change, and this relationship is equivalent to a painful again, only a few days of temporary happiness in the complex.

Therefore, if you only want the other party to turn back and are not willing to actually change the status quo, I suggest that someone else is more important than feelings for some people. Since the division and union also shows that although you are loving, you are not suitable, and you really can't match without changing it. As for how to run in with each other and how to change the other party, it can only be guided correctly gradually after being together, and the recovery starts with itself.

After going through previous mistakes, not dealing with previous problems, and worrying about making mistakes again and again, there is no doubt that the sense of trust will decrease. It's not that you haven't struggled, you must have done a lot of things for the other party before you broke up, and you have experienced a lot together. But time gradually consumes your mystery, and the process of separation and integration increases the pain, reduces the degree of tolerance between each other, and some of the self-confidence drive that has been accumulated so hard fades with the reminiscence of pain and the advice of good friends.