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I suggest that you try to help your husband first, and if your husband really doesn't want to improve, you need to assess whether the two people need to divorce.

In real life, some boys are indeed very unmotivated, and at the same time do not have the corresponding sense of family responsibility. In such cases, a woman's life is usually very hard and she also needs to take care of the whole family. For a daughter, no one will like an unmotivated man, and at the same time, they will think that there is no hope in the life of two people.

I suggest you try to help your husband first.

I don't know what your husband's personality is, and I don't know why he is not motivated. In most cases, if you can try to encourage your husband in the right way, most men will be aware of their problems and will take the initiative to take care of their own family. If your husband is an introvert, try to build his confidence as much as possible.

If your husband is a person with a weak sense of responsibility, we can tell him what we think through communication. <>

You also need to assess whether two people need a divorce.

As I said above, if you think that your husband is indeed a very unmotivated person and does not seek improvement, you need to assess the realistic conditions of divorce between two people. For you personally, you need to further consider the issue of child custody for two people as well as the issue of financial conditions. If both of these issues can be resolved, the two of you can divorce because of this.

You also need to live your life well.

In a marital relationship, some women will put too much energy into their husbands, and at the same time, they will be too demanding on their husbands. I suggest you try to reflect on your own behavior, as you put more energy into yourself, you will find that you expect less and less from others. To some extent, it is impossible for two people to go well together, and if you can find common ground while reserving differences, there is no need for the two of you to divorce abruptly.

It's long time gone for a divorce, this situation may be better for your own life, not only is there no happiness with him, but you also have to worry about his affairs, the most important thing is that people still don't appreciate it, why do you keep this kind of person.

You should get divorced, because for a person who is extremely unmotivated, does not want to listen to the opinions of others, and lives a mess, such a person does not deserve sympathy, and it is not worth entrusting for life.

Divorce. Living with such a person will make you feel very tired, and you may even feel insecure, and the two people will eventually part ways, at this time you should solve the problems of the two people, and you should also go through the divorce procedures.

I don't think you should get a divorce, first ask your husband if he is in any trouble, see if you can help him solve it, and then observe his behavior in the future.

After getting married, you can give your husband a period of time and let him adjust slowly. At work he can complete his tasks, you can encourage him slowly, and he will excel. If you communicate with him, he still stays as he is.

If you don't work hard, you can choose to divorce him. There is no hope with such people.

In marriage, if the husband is not motivated, less and less want to work, and does not want to make money to support the family, this situation should first be communicated well, and if it is corrected, it should be cultivated well, as far as possible, there are no principled problems, and do not go to divorce.

If your husband is becoming less and less photogenic, unless his family is financially advantageous. Otherwise, then you have to press him. If he is still like that, then you will not see the future.

Because it's an irresponsible performance. Divorce is the best option.

I don't think there is a need for divorce, the reason why he is not online is because he may have encountered some peace at work, so that he has no way to change some things better, or should slowly understand him and enlighten him.

If your husband becomes less and less motivated after marriage, then you should really divorce him, and if you continue like this, it depends on your own efforts, then you can't afford it, so you should propose it to him. Let him correct it.

Maybe it used to be such a person, but you didn't see it clearly. It's just that he got married, and he was content with the status quo and lived his own little life, and there was nothing wrong with it. After all, everyone has invisible pressure these days!

First of all, you can remind him and let him change, if he doesn't change in the slightest, I think you still need to divorce, because if a husband is becoming less and less motivated, making money will definitely not be active, how to support the family?

After getting married, my husband is becoming less and less motivated, should I get a divorce? If your finances are still passable, you don't need to get divorced, you two work together, everything will be fine, why do you need to know your husband himself?

Everyone has a low period, at this time, as a wife, you should care for him, care about him, and see what causes him to be unmotivated

After getting married, my husband is becoming less and less motivated, I think you should have a good chat with your husband, and don't think about divorce for everything.

should be divorced, because this kind of husband is very unreliable, and this kind of husband is also a very irresponsible person.

You should divorce, because an unmotivated husband can't give you happiness, and it will make your life more and more miserable.

Self-motivated is actually a very important quality of a person, because he can directly improve our economic situation, improve our quality of life, for married people, self-motivation is also very necessary, so if our husband is not motivated, should he divorce?

We have to know that marriage is not child's play, and if we divorce just because our husbands are not motivated, I think it will be a big fuss. Because before getting married, we must have been in love with him, and we also know what his character is, and most of this kind of motivation is what they have been doing, and it is not after marriage that they are not motivated, so if we divorce after getting married, but because of this reason, I don't think it is too necessary.

But this also means that when my husband is not motivated, we should go to pick him up and then take him forward. Many people are not motivated, maybe because they don't know, and they think that this kind of life is also good, but if we can guide him and let him find that in this process, we need to be motivated, he will slowly start to work his own. If we consider divorce just when he is not motivated, it may not be a good choice.

And in a marriage, the most important thing is for two people to communicate, if he is not motivated, we do not communicate with him, but think about this problem by ourselves, I think it is not good. And it's also a bad practice for the relationship between two people. Marriage is not a one-person thing, and it is not as simple as falling in love, you can break up if you don't love.

So when we find that he is not motivated, we must go and lead him forward. If you find that he has not changed anything, and you can't stand it, you need to learn more about the people around you and what to do in such a situation.

If you can't stand it, you will get divorced, if the current economic conditions are even basic living problems, then why are you still suffering together, I am also very strange, did you just find out that he is not motivated? Why were you still together at that time, I can't stand it now.

You should get divorced, this kind of life will bring you a lot of troubles, and it will also make you depressed, so you should stay away from such a life.

In fact, you should get divorced, because such a man cannot guarantee your life.

As you, do you feel "very happy" to live like this with him, and do you "can't continue to live" because of this?

Although the Marriage Act does not require such an attitude to life as a condition for divorce, you can file for divorce if you believe that you and his life have lost their happiness as a result. But you have to know that a man who is "poor and white", even if he is very motivated, but he can't give you a satisfying day, you will be very "hard" for this.

Divorce or non-divorce is a difficult choice. Forget that you can think twice.

Happiness is not given by others, it is experienced by oneself.

Men stand at thirty! Your relationship foundation is very good, and it is not advisable to talk about divorce now. You should not be very old, give him some more time, and it will be fine when there is pressure!

Husbands and wives should promote each other ...

I would like to discuss it from three perspectives: a personal perspective, a friend perspective, and a social worker perspective.

1) Personal perspective.

As someone who once chose to break up because my ex-boyfriend was not motivated, I chose to divorce on this issue. It's my personal choice.

I used to think that he was motivated because I chose his ex, but in the end, I realized that those were his words, and in essence, he didn't want to try to change his life. The good examination is to read the book 1-2 weeks before the exam, and none of the results can be passed. It wasn't until the moment of the breakup that he said that he didn't want to make a lot of money, he just wanted a little bit of his salary to be enough in addition to daily life.

The fundamental reason is that our families are not wealthy, and our parents are not able to provide financial support, we all need to struggle, if we choose comfort at the age when we should be struggling, it will be difficult to raise a family and have children in the end. <>

2) Friend perspective.

A good friend of mine lives in a town in a second-tier city, and her husband and she both have a stable job, and her husband doesn't think about more ways to make money, and he enjoys resting at home more during the holidays.

She is an only child, her parents have a house and also bought her a house, and they also bought a car. Her parents help her take care of the children and also have a pension. Such a life is not very rich, but the basic life can be satisfied.

Her husband is very good to her, and he is still very considerate and listens to her for so many years. Therefore, there is no reason for divorce in such a marriage. <>

3) Social Worker Perspective.

I have been a social worker for 6 years and have seen many family disputes and conflicts. A family's economic prosperity can reduce a lot of conflicts. Because most of the problems in life can be solved with money.

I would follow up with the person who asked this question, what is her real heart's need? And what does she value about her husband?

Is not being motivated the most important part of yourself, and is making money more important than other things? If the answer is yes, then she already has the answer in her heart, and it is very possible to choose divorce, the key is whether she can take this step bravely. The social worker does not tell the client how to choose, but listens to her and helps her to sort out her inner choices.

There are some people who also aspire to be financially rich, but in the end, they figured it out, that is their own expectation, and it is good to work their own. For the husband's requirements, it is more about companionship and thoughtfulness. Then just let go of your expectations of your husband, and you'll be fine.

So, there is no marriage that should be divorced, but what do you need most? With this in mind, the choice becomes simple.

If he is not motivated enough, first of all, we should encourage him, believe in him, and try everything we can to make him go to work, ordinary people are just decadent for a while, not like this for a lifetime, if there is really no way to change, then it should be divorced.

No, you can wake him up. He couldn't have been lazy forever.

It's up to you.

But we hope to reconcile.

After all, fate is not easy.

It takes a lot of marriage before we can come together.