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The steps to get rid of the undesirable are as follows:1. You can try to ask yourself: What is the effect of others being excellent on you? What does it make you feel?
2. Then try to ask yourself the second question: What does it look like to be good in my eyes? Be as specific as possible about what you think is a good trait, the more specific the better, so that you can make this broader word more concrete, so that you can find out your true voice within yourself.
3. So what can I do to make myself have this benefit? For example, you don't have to answer questions quickly in class, you can get this benefit by communicating more than authoritative and asking teachers more questions.
When you also get this benefit, will you continue to be jealous of those who are good?
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I can't see that others are goodJealousy, low self-esteem
A sense of self-dissatisfaction, as well as a strong sense of inferiority, when envious of the other party, but do not want to make self-changes, thinking that everything about the other party is because of innate conditions rather than acquired efforts.
Maybe it's because we've been immersed in the era of dogfights with scarce resources for too long, because there are few resources, so we don't have enough points, and because we don't have enough points, we need to grab them.
"Seeing people are not good" can be said to be a phenomenon of the whole people. "Everything must be robbed" is the true "universal value" of these generations of Chinese people, and it has been passed down as a creed of life.
Even now, when material things are no longer scarce, when we see other people occupying or displaying resources, we still instinctively flood with malice.
Not being able to see others is a kind of jealousy. It is actually very difficult to do without jealousy at all, but we minimize the negative value of this mentality. When we find that others are better than us, we will feel uncomfortable and uncomfortable, and we have the idea of surpassing in our hearts, which is often a driving force for forward growth.
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First of all, you are the kind of person who is very jealous and loves to be in the limelight, thinking that others will make you unhappy or compare, indicating that you are not confident enough and like to compare, afraid that others will not pay attention to you, this is a kind of heart disease, you must go slowly.
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We always don't see the good of copying others, because we have a kind of jealousy in our nature. In fact, this kind of thinking is very normal, but his family will deliberately disguise his flawed character. We can also use this idea as a motivation.
When we see someone better than us, we strive to surpass him. He will give us a heart to strive for.
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Because copying yourself is not having a good time, and no.
Bai ability to go well.
This is obviously the jealousy of Hongguoguo, and it can be seen from this question that you always want to drop the pie on the heavenly dao, and it has to fall right in your hands.
Most of us have an envious view of others' good lives, and then we aim for him to work harder and strive to catch up with the standard of living of others. But if others are better off than you, you are always angry in your heart, but you are unwilling to change yourself, you can only watch others get better and better.
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It's a very strong one.
Bai is jealous of the psychology and may be himself.
Du is not confident enough or self-sufficient.
My situation is not as good as others, in the final analysis, I don't work hard enough, I can obviously reach the height of others or even surpass others through hard work, but for some reason I didn't take practical action, and it is natural that I don't have a return.
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If you want to change this situation, you must make yourself excellent, read more excellent books, and enrich your life experience and life, so that you can be less jealous.
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The main reason is that I haven't adjusted my mentality yet, and I haven't had my own life.
I used to be jealous of others, but I found out later.
It's useless to be good to me, people are still doing well, and my own narrow-mindedness has become more narrow-minded, and I haven't surpassed others.
Later, I learned to appreciate the good points of others, learn a little success from them, apply them to myself, work hard to manage my own life, and enrich myself, so that I will not envy others.
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Hello, it is a pleasure to serve you, and to serve you well to give the following answer: Seeing people is a common psychological problem that may affect the normal life of an individual. To solve this problem, we must first find out the root cause of our own psychological problems, and we can explore our psychological problems through self-reflection, self-observation, self-analysis, etc.
Secondly, to build self-confidence, you can enhance your self-confidence by completing everything conscientiously, grasping every opportunity, and persevering in your efforts to improve your abilities. Finally, to learn to relax, you can relax by doing some interesting activities, such as reading, listening, practicing meditation, etc., to relax your self-calm mood and make yourself more comfortable and confident. In short, to solve the problem of unsightly people, it is necessary to fundamentally solve the psychological problem, build self-confidence, learn to relax, so as to change one's mentality and make oneself more confident and comfortable.
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Summary. If you feel this way, try to seek help, such as talking to family, friends, counselors, etc., or participating in mental health activities and classes to alleviate the situation.
If you feel this way, you can try to seek help, such as communicating with your family, friends, counselors, etc., or participating in some mental health activities and classes to alleviate this situation.
I'm sorry I don't understand, but can you elaborate on that?
If you feel that you are unable to move the bridge or have other emotional and psychological problems, it is recommended that you seek professional psychological counseling or psychologist help. They can work with you to understand your emotional and psychological problems and give advice and help accordingly. At the same time, you can also pay attention to your physical and mental health, maintain a positive attitude, and participate in activities that are beneficial to your physical and mental health, such as sports, reading, socializing, etc., which can help relieve anxiety and stress, and improve self-confidence and self-esteem.
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Hello, it is a pleasure to serve you and give you the following answer: There can be many reasons why this happens, such as: 1
Low self-esteem: Due to low self-esteem, you feel that you have nothing to show, so you are reluctant to see others and want to avoid the eyes of others. 2.
Fear of shame: Because of the fear of being seen by others, you are reluctant to see others and want to avoid shame. 3.
Fear of getting hurt: Because of the fear of being hurt by others, they are reluctant to see others and want to avoid getting hurt. To solve this problem, the following practices can be taken:
1.Enhance self-esteem: To be self-confident, you must first enhance your self-esteem, recognize your own value, and improve your sense of self-identity.
2.Accept yourself: Accept your shortcomings, don't be too yourself, don't compare yourself with others, affirm your strengths more, and enhance your self-esteem.
3.Overcome fears: Learn to deal with anxiety and fear correctly, not as inevitable, but try to overcome them to overcome your own fear of seeing others.
4.Make friends hard: Participate in more social activities, communicate more with others, establish friendships, gradually get acquainted with others, and you can also slowly change your mentality and no longer be afraid of meeting others.
By doing a few things on the backbone, you can alleviate your state of not being able to destroy people, improve your mentality, and better deal with others.
I think this sentence itself is wrong, and it is impossible for my parents to be unpopular. Because everyone's parents are different, everyone's parents are unique, and it is impossible to be unsightly. If it is really his own parents who have an unsightly situation, he should start with his own children, whose children did not use their own reasonable ways to let their parents appear in front of others.
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