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The bad aspects may not be cherished.
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Women are too active in the relationship, but under the premise of taking the initiative, they get personal needs and satisfaction, what's wrong, the so-called bad, it's just her words.
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In the relationship, a lot of "unfairness" is due to the reason that they love each other, because love often makes people very blind, even if there is a sea of swords and fires in front of them. Therefore, in the relationship, if you want to get your own happiness, then don't always blindly take the initiative, because your initiative is likely to be exchanged for not the gratitude of the other party, but the disgust and rejection of the other party. Therefore, you must pay attention in the relationship, you can take the initiative, but you can't turn this "initiative" into a condition for the other party to look down on you.
Many times we can't help it, the reason is that we love each other deeply in the relationship, thinking that our efforts can be exchanged for equivalent gains. But this is not the case in many cases, and your continuous efforts will only make the other party feel that you are easy to talk about and have no opinions. Therefore, in the relationship, whether it is for a man or a woman, don't take the initiative in particular, because your initiative will not be appreciated by the other party at all.
In a relationship, although mutual respect and support between the two parties is the most important, the most important thing to test the authenticity of a relationship is the other party's attitude towards you when you are in trouble. Therefore, feelings are not as selfless as we see, because everyone has selfish desires, and this is also the case in relationships, and it is difficult to find people who are really good to you, so you must pay attention to yourself and strive for your own happiness in your relationship. Many times, those who are always very active will not only not get the respect of the other party, but will only come with the disdain of the other party.
In fact, the relationship needs to take the initiative, because each other's initiative can inject vitality into the relationship, but if the initiative is excessive, it is likely to be the opposite. Therefore, in the relationship, you must not be too proactive, because many times people who will only blindly take the initiative will not get the happiness they want at all, and will only become a slave of feelings. And those who have not taken the initiative will occupy a very important position in the relationship, which everyone must understand.
If you want to take the relationship to the next level, you must find the common ground between the two parties in the relationship, rather than just blindly taking the initiative.
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You must know that if a woman is too active in a relationship and does not change herself appropriately, it is because the woman is in a relationship, and a girl is too active in a relationship, which means that the focus of the weaker party in the relationship between these two people is to look at the proportion of the relationship, and the party who does not take the initiative will occupy a very important position in the relationship. But when the relationship is determined, if the girl always takes the initiative in the process of dating the boy, she will feel the initiative, but you must know that women should not be too active in the relationship, and they should face their lives confidently.
These emotionally active women generally like each other very much. If a woman who takes the initiative in a relationship always wants to take the initiative in the relationship, then the initiative to avoid is meaningless, because the girl is too active in the relationship and will part ways from then on.
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In the relationship, it should be the man who is more active, this is the law of nature, and the animal kingdom is also like this, and your feelings are only a few phenomena, and it is the woman's extroverted personality, or the man is too good, or he is too emotional, and he is too excited.
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If you really like each other, there is nothing to take the initiative and not take the initiative. Sometimes it depends on the relationship between two people.
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In a relationship, it is important to take the initiative to express and act, but being too proactive may cause the other person not to value your actions and feelings. Here are a few reasons why:
First of all, being too proactive may make the other person feel that your actions are too easily gratified and thus not value your efforts. When a person can easily get what they want, they usually don't feel precious. Therefore, if you have been offering to express feelings or offer help, the other person may think that this is your norm and not what you really want to give.
Second, being too proactive may make the blind person feel stressed or uncomfortable. If you always take the initiative to express feelings or make demands, the other person may feel compelled to respond or give instead of out of their own will and interest. This can lead to disharmony or tension in the relationship.
Finally, being too proactive can make you lose your value and attractiveness. If you're always offering to express feelings or help, the other person may think it's your norm and not what you really want to give. This may reduce your attractiveness and sense of worth, which can affect your interactions and relationships.
Therefore, in a relationship, it is important to express your feelings and needs in moderation, while also respecting the feelings and wishes of the other person. It is important to balance one's own initiative with respecting the autonomy of the other person in order to build a healthy, equal, and long-lasting relationship.
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Women do not take the initiative to express their love in their relationships, they need to take the initiative. If a woman is too emotionally active, whether it is a boy or a girl, and is too emotionally active, it is clear that she is at a disadvantage in the relationship between these two people. Although mutual respect and mutual support between the two parties is important, not all love is initiated by girls, but those who do not take the initiative will occupy a very important position in the relationship.
Instead, it will be the disgust and rejection of the other party. If you are too proactive in that relationship, you will gradually become the passive party.
There are also some women who are not active in their hearts, if the other party feels it, and the active woman will be very enthusiastic in the relationship, so she can't suppress her inner thoughts.
If a girl is emotionally active, as long as she is independent and self-reliant, not all love is for girls to stay active. Because girls are too active in their relationships, they generally like each other very much. The girl is very proactive.
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My point of view is that everything is in line with the principle of "no pain, no gain", except for love, there is always uncontrollability in the relationship, and sometimes it really makes us realize what it means to be powerless.
At the beginning of falling in love, women have blind confidence in the future of two people, fantasizing about growing old with each other, even if they have seen too many bad precedents, they do not have a long memory, and always think that their feelings will be exceptional.
So he was willing to give his all without asking for anything in return, thinking that this way, the man would have no reason to leave him, so he became more and more active in this relationship and completely forgot to be reserved.
But the more active you are, the more passive you are, the pay and interaction in the relationship are originally mutual, but the excessive care and enthusiasm you show has given the man enough security and superiority, you must know that human nature is the same, since he does not have to pay, he has completely captured your heart, how can he spend effort to pay.
Your initiative may not be able to exchange for a man's infatuation, but it will give the man enough security and cultivate his inertia in this relationship, and you will only get more and more tired, you will pay more and more, but gain less and less. A man is a very rational animal, he likes you, just because you have the qualities that attract him, if not, even if you take the initiative, you will not be emotionally attached to you, let alone cherish you.
When chasing "Perfect Relationship", I felt that the relationship between Marbonny and her foreign boyfriend Liszt was developing too fast, and Marbonny did not have the reserve of a woman at all, and was basically in an active position in this relationship.
Later, it also proved that Liszt did not take Marbonny seriously, just playing, and Marbonny's too initiative and enthusiasm will make us feel disgusted, because we will feel that she is really too self-loving.
If a woman is too active, she will lower her value, and a man will think that you are pleasing him, but in fact, he despises you in his heart, even after being with you, he will not cherish you, self-love and reserve are the best bargaining chips for a woman.
Ye Sijia is a person who seems to be more cheerful and talkative, but in fact her heart is very lacking in love and uneasiness, this is all due to her original family, Ye Sijia has been talented and intelligent since she was a child, but her parents are really limited, and the attention and love given to her is too little, in the whole family, she can't feel a trace of warmth and love, and all she gets is only the complaints and accusations of her parents, which causes her heart to be very inferior.
She has always been unwilling to fall in love, and has a negative attitude towards feelings and marriage, because she doesn't want to live the life of her parents, and she doesn't want to have a child similar to herself.
It wasn't until I was 24 years old that I met my current boyfriend.
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In relationships, many times it is not absolutely fair. Feelings need to be managed and maintained by both parties, and they need to be able to let go of each other's mustard to maintain each other's feelings.
A girl is too active because she knows her heart, she understands what she wants, and because she understands, she knows how to let go of her dignity and pursue her own happiness.
Love is always blind, even if there is a sea of swords and fires ahead, it will still make you brave and let yourself pursue your own happiness.
Therefore, in the relationship, if you want to get your own happiness, don't take the initiative too much, if you are too active, it will make the other party not know how to cherish and protect, if the pursuit is too intense, it will often make the other party have a feeling of disgust.
You can take the initiative in your relationship with you, but you can't take this initiative as a point that the other party doesn't look down on you. In a relationship, you should be sensible, in a relationship you think that as long as you give enough, you can reap the other person's sincerity, this kind of thinking is wrong.
So don't blindly take the initiative in the relationship, too much initiative will only make you lose yourself. Let yourself be disoriented and let yourself have no dignity. In the face of love, you must keep your sanity and let yourself live proudly.
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Maybe it's because girls are braver.
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First of all, gentle initiative is goodFirst of all, we should make it clear that gentle initiative is good. In a relationship, normal positive communication and interaction can increase mutual understanding and intimacy, and at the same time, it can also deepen the feelings of both parties. If the other party also really likes us, then the appropriate initiative to express their emotions and love will not only not make the other party feel pressure, but will enhance the relationship between each other!
Secondly, being overly proactive is bad, however, as with anything, being overly proactive is bad. Common manifestations include: too frequent **, text messages and WeChat, unconsciously listening to everything about the other party; Take the initiative to think about the other person and solve the problem, but the other person is used to your dependence; Excessive sacrifice and dedication make the other party become too relieved and don't care about you.
Such behavior is not only easy to make people feel tired and constrained, but can also lead to emotional exhaustion and withdrawal.
Therefore, to find more balance disadvantages, we should find the balance between ourselves and the other party's feelings. Take the initiative to express your emotions and love appropriately, let the other party know your sincere hopes and desires, but don't chase and force the other party's response. At the same time, you should also learn to maintain yourself in the relationship, learn to control your emotions and needs, and not rely too much on the attention and kindness of the other person.
In short, Bu Hongzhi, in a relationship, being too active will not make the other party not cherish himself. Moderate proactive expression can increase the relationship between the two parties, but being too proactive can lead to emotional stress and burnout. Therefore, we should find a balance between ourselves and each other, maintain a good relationship and attitude towards life, and make ourselves and the other person feel happy and satisfied.
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I think being too proactive will really be seen as cheap. First: the person who takes the initiative is not really good to pay on the knife edge that the other party needs.
It's like a kind help, the other person you give may not want it, and it may not be needed. Second: too active will make the other party feel that everything is too easy to come to the sedan car, we all know that the more difficult to fight for, the more precious, just like the rainbow that appears after the wind and rain will also make people feel better, of course, it is not excluded that the rainbow colorful colors, I think there is also wind and rain to praise it is more beautiful.
Anything that comes too easily will make people subconsciously bury the word "general". People are especially precious for what they have worked so hard to earn. Third:
Will there be that (: I know you're not going to go, so I can run amok?) )。
In fact, some people don't really feel cheap, but the enjoyment of the key road knows that there is a certain amount of insurance and will not disappear, so it is very casual and does not pay attention to it. For example, family affection, we are always more polite and polite in front of strangers. It's easier to release all your emotions in front of your loved ones.
In fact, I think I should be more restrained in front of my relatives, and I say that the love of parents is great and does not ask for anything in return, so is this kind of love cheap? I don't think so, and I can't think parents should do that. There is no such thing as a [rooo] that everyone has to do
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