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The elderly actually rely on themselves to provide for the elderly, because many times their children completely ignore themselves

Raising children and preventing old age is a Chinese tradition for thousands of years, and it has made direct and indirect contributions to the development and inheritance of Chinese civilization. In contemporary society, under the impact of pluralistic thoughts, raising children and preventing old age seems to have been more and more impacted.

Young people's thinking is different from that of the elderly, and it is easy to have contradictions when they get along. Especially the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, has always been a difficult relationship to deal with, some are really difficult to live, the elderly and children live together, it is better to arrange for the elderly to live in a house close to the ion girl, when the children need help, often visit the elderly, and have time to gather more.

Some young people want to live their own two-person world, and feel that living with the elderly disturbs their lives. They are still young, and it is understandable that they have thought about the two-person world, but the young people will also be old, and they will need to be taken care of when they are old, if they are not willing to live with the old people in the two-person world, more and more people have this kind of thinking and practice, and their children will also be affected by this kind of thinking and practice, and they also take it for granted that they want to live in the two-person world and are not willing to live with the elderly. There will be more and more elderly people who will live lonely and desolate in their old age.

Some young people are indifferent to the elderly and lack the heart of filial piety to the elderly. Mobile phones go deep into people's lives, and the intimacy between mobile phones and themselves, in many adults, can be said to exceed anyone around them, and they can leave their wives and children's parents, but they can't do without mobile phones, and mobile phones make them no longer lonely and boring. Mobile phones have also made many people communicate with relatives and friends a lot, and their feelings have become much weaker, and their feelings with their parents have naturally become weaker.

I think it is still necessary to be filial to your parents and live with them as much as possible, so that their old age will not be lonely and more happy. This meaning is not only to help the elderly, but also to help yourself, how many years later, you will also become your parents at the current age, will be old, need to take care of.

Some old people rely on their children or can be examined, our family has four brothers, the second died, the daughter-in-law is the same tribute to the elderly, and now there are ten years, and each is very filial, the old man has no salary, is rural, and now the two old people are more than 90 years old, each family lives for three months just one year.

Because only you are the most reliable, you can't guarantee that your son-in-law will always be willing to take care of you, and once he is unwilling to take care of you, your life will be very sad, so rely on yourself.

It's because they don't have the financial ability to do so in old age, people are powerful, and even if it's a relative, they will get farther and farther away from themselves, so the most important thing is to rely on themselves.

Your daughter got married, let your son-in-law buy a house and give a bride price, hehe, when you are old, you still want your son-in-law to provide for you? Funny? I'm sorry to say.

Because only one's relatives can provide for oneself, outsiders are unreliable, and outsiders will not take very careful care of themselves.

Because many people are unreliable, even if they are biological children, they will be impatient with you, so you still have to rely on yourself.

Because only yourself is the most reliable at all times, don't rely on others easily, otherwise you will become very depressed.

Because only oneself can make the decision in one's own life, relying on oneself is the most reliable, relying on others is just a support, and it is not necessary for others to take care of it.

It's because no one is reliable, and if you want to live a good life, you should still rely on yourself and not on others.

Aunt Qin and her wife only gave birth to one daughter when they were young, and they didn't have any more children because they thought that a child would be less stressful and they would have more time for themselves. Aunt Qin said that she originally wanted to have only one daughter, educate the child well, and find a reliable son-in-law when her daughter grows up, and count on her son-in-law when the time comes.

Aunt Qin thinks that she has educated her daughter well, but her daughter is a "love brain". When I fell in love for the first time, I was cheated of a lot of money by my boyfriend, and later the two broke up for other reasons. Later, when her daughter got married, the object of her love was actually Aunt Qin and her wife.

couldn't help but like it, and then the two got married. After marriage, the son-in-law found various reasons to let his daughter go back to her parents' house and ask her parents for money. Aunt Qin and her wife couldn't help the sweet words of their daughter and son-in-law, so they first paid for their daughter's car, and then changed houses.

But at this time, the son-in-law said that he had no relationship with Aunt Qin's daughter, and the two were not suitable. After the divorce, Aunt Qin's daughter couldn't come out for a long time. Now he is also supported by the second elder.

Aunt Qin said that she was still counting on her son-in-law to support her old age. Now that the situation seems to be, it is estimated that the daughter will have to rely on her and her wife for a long time.

How is the old man who has no son and expects his son-in-law to support him in his old age? Although Aunt Qin's experience is just an example, it can still illustrate some problems. This reality is also thought-provoking.

Is it reliable to expect a son-in-law to provide for the elderly? First, let's talk about these facts.

The responsibility on the son-in-law is also heavy: The son-in-law does not expect to be secondary, that is, the son-in-law is willing to provide for his father-in-law and mother-in-law, so don't forget the fact that the son-in-law still has his own parents to support. In addition to providing for the elderly, he also needs to support his own small family and his own children, which can be said to be the unshirkable responsibility of his son-in-law.

And if these are all counting on the son-in-law alone, can the son-in-law bear it.

The truth now is that many girls would rather be single than compromised: If the daughter is unwilling to get married at all, and the son-in-law does not exist at all, then it is impossible to expect the son-in-law to provide for the elderly.

Some people also say that they can't count on their sons and daughters to support their old age, let alone sons-in-lawA.M.A., I have to say, that's also a fact. It is a problem for the old man to count on his own children to support his own children, let alone his son-in-law, who has nothing to do with him.

Who should we count on for the elderly? When it comes to pension, every elderly person may have their own understanding. But no matter what, the older the more and more old people begin to realize that it is not very reliable to rely on their daughters, sons-in-law or sons and daughters-in-law for the elderly.

After all, when children grow up, they also have their own responsibilities and missions. In many cases, even if you have the heart, you will inevitably be weak.

Therefore, many old people said that in the final analysis, they still have to count on their own pension.

You didn't raise your son-in-law to grow up, why should people provide for you in old age? It's up to your own daughter!

With money in your pocket, everything is fine. No money, a thousand difficulties. The son-in-law must also have parents to support.

Son-in-law pension? One percent likelihood.

How many daughters-in-law do you have for your in-laws now? How do they dislike their in-laws? How are these in-laws doing? There are only two words to describe it; Grievance. And the mother-in-law is the Empress Dowager Cixi. Speak with facts to convince the public. Everything else is!

My family is my own, and my husband is also very good to my parents, every time my dad goes to the hospital, my husband accompanies him for a check-up