Xuanwa: Compare! What will the love of face of parents make children? Are you still happy?

Parents love face, and love comparison will affect their children, so that children also subtly like to compare, instead of studying hard. I am very unhappy that this hurts the next generation of my motherland.

Parents' "love of face" may require their children to learn well, have ranking, and be versatile, and the child must be ahead of everything and the child will become all-round, which will make the child very tired. I couldn't be happier.

Xuanwa: Compare! Parents' "love of face" will make children suffer the same influence, and children may become such people invisibly. Because of the psychology of comparison, children will compare food and clothing with others in school, and want to use the best things to gain the envy of others.

This doesn't actually make parents happy.

It will make the child feel very relieved, and in the process will also feel very inferior, and there is no way to get along with his parents.

Some parents have a good face, they always use their children as a capital to show off, you must know that this will also bring a lot of pressure to the child, the child is an independent individual, he also needs to be respected, if he finds that he is not respected, he will become rebellious, and sometimes he will become inferior. Don't hurt your child's young mind with such behavior. <>

1. Children can become very rebellious

I don't know if you have ever encountered such a situation, that is, during the Chinese New Year or when visiting relatives' houses, parents will force us to perform this performance, which is actually to save face for them. For them, the child's education is better, the child will have more things, and he is very powerful, but you must know that this kind of behavior is very bad for the child, he will feel that he is not respected, that is, because he is not respected, so he becomes rebellious, they will also learn to behave like this and compare with others, and the correct values are very important for children. <>

Second, the pressure becomes greater, and it may also become negative

And the pressure on children may be particularly great, because parents have been instilling such a concept, you will not be you are not smart, you will be a good child, some children in order to cope with parents, in order to get the praise of parents, slowly to demand themselves. It may be fine for a while, but being in such an environment for a long time will only make the child more and more unhappy and negative. <>

3. Help children form correct values

I hope that everyone can learn to let go, so that children have a complete childhood, let them do the right things at the right time, so that children can compare appropriately, which can also stimulate children's competitiveness, but excessive comparison will only affect the development of children, and will also affect the formation of children's values. Only in this way can children grow up healthy and happy.

This kind of harm is to make children have an inferiority complex, thinking that the love of their parents is conditional, and they will become very unconfident, because if they are not able to satisfy their parents, they will not be able to get the love of their parents, and the child's psychological inferiority complex will be stronger. It is also easy to breed children's vanity.

It is very harmful to the child, because this is likely to cause the child's personality to be affected, and it may also cause the child to become like to show off, or it will cause the child to be very high-profile, and then it is not conducive to the growth and development of the child, which will lead to the child's pressure is very large, which is not conducive to the cultivation of parent-child feelings.

It will make the child become very proud, it will also make the child become very irritable, it will also make the child become very irrational, it will also make the child become a lie, and it is not conducive to the child's physical and mental health.

It may affect the child's mentality, but also make the child become conceited, and there will be conflicts or quarrels with the child, which may increase the vanity of the parents, and the attitude towards life will be harmful.

Second, increase the pressure on childrenParents like to compare, saying that other people's children are good. This can add a lot of stress to your child. Children's learning pressure is already very high, and if parents add extra pressure to their children, children are likely to be unable to bear it.

3. Affect the parent-child relationshipParents compare and show off their children. If your children are better than others, you will be very proud, and if you are not as good as other people's children, you will go home and train your own children. This will affect the parent-child relationship.

You must know that there are people outside of people, and there are heavens outside of the sky. There will always be children who are better than your children. It's not interesting.

And the child is very disgusted with this behavior of parents, and hates parents to compare very much. Over time, it will affect the relationship between parents and children.

In general, children are not a show-off for their parents, and parents should not compare their children to others. Such practices will affect the child's mood, increase the child's stress, and affect the parent-child relationship. If parents want their children to grow up happily, don't compare them to each other.

Learn to appreciate your child, look at your child's strengths, and encourage your child more.

I think this phenomenon is very bad, this phenomenon is not conducive to the healthy development of children's body and mind, because there is a comparison will be harmful.

This phenomenon has existed since ancient times, and it has always been the thinking of most parents to hope that their sons will become dragons and daughters become phoenixes, but now there will be more such phenomena.