The marriage ruined by the 200,000 bride price, is the man too poor or the woman too demanding?

In life, many people hope to be able to marry love, and to have a happy and beautiful love, so that they can enter the marriage hall, in fact, many people are very envious of such a life. But the real world makes us feel very helpless, because when it comes to marriage, then the bride price is inevitable. The bride price is only tens of thousands of yuan in some places, which means a little bit, but in some places it is as high as more than 200,000 yuan, which is a little unacceptable.

For the marriage that was recently ruined by the 200,000 bride price, then I think on the one hand, the man is too poor, and on the other hand, the woman is too demanding. Why? According to the current salary income level, if it is 4,500 yuan a month, then 1,500 yuan as the usual living expenses, you can save about 30,000 yuan a year.

It takes him seven or eight years to save 200,000, and getting married will take away the fruits of other people's hard work for seven or eight years, which is inevitably a little unacceptable. <>

In fact, for many young people now, they have car loans, and some even have housing loans, so let him get a bride price of 200,000 yuan, which really makes the man feel powerless, and there is even no way at all. Therefore, when you get married, you must weigh it, and even know how to measure it in the matter of bride price, so as not to ruin a marriage, otherwise the two people who originally loved each other will end up with hatred. <>

In fact, the woman's requirements are indeed relatively high, after all, we are also very happy, and now the girls are married to a house, a car, a deposit, and a bride price。Think about it, in today's emphasis on equality between men and women, why do men need to bear these materials? Although the traditional bride price is not a bad custom, it cannot exceed the actual income of a family, after all, a bride price of 200,000 yuan will cost two generations of effort.

I think it's just because they don't love each other enough, if two people really love each other, then the woman will make concessions, and the man will fight for more bride price for the woman, and the marriage must not be lost because of the bride price.

If the man can't even take out 200,000, how can he give the woman a happy life; Then again, whether the woman loves money or the man is the one who loves it. I think that when two people are together, as long as the man can give the woman, no matter how much, as long as it is all, then this person is worth entrusting.

In fact, it should be that the man is too poor, because he can't even take out 200,000 yuan is very poor.

This is no longer an unreasonable question, logically speaking, marriage should not involve money, but since it comes to money, it must be two families sitting together to negotiate, the woman asks for 200,000 dowry, this is the condition for the woman to marry the man, and the man marries the woman, it also needs the corresponding conditions, if the man does not mention the conditions, then it means that the two parties are not equal, and it cannot be measured by whether it is reasonable or not.

Let's talk about the general process of modern marriage, generally divided into free love and blind date, there is nothing to say about this process, when the two people get along for a certain period of time, they think that they are suitable for each other, then they will negotiate marriage, take our hometown in the Northeast as an example. Under normal circumstances, the man has to have a house, and then will give a bride price, which is also negotiated by both parties, but some people also let the woman ask for it, and then the man decides whether to negotiate according to his economic strength.

But if the man wants to marry the woman, and the local customs are like this, maybe the 200,000 yuan is indispensable, and the dowry is another matter. Since the bride price is requested by the woman, the man is qualified and entitled to propose the woman's dowry during the negotiation process. If the woman declares in advance that the bride price is 200,000 yuan, and then there is no dowry, the man can also decide whether to marry the other party according to the conditions offered by the woman.

Therefore, don't care if the matter of no marriage is reasonable, think that the other party is suitable for you, and can live a sincere life, just negotiate less to give some bride price, and as long as the bride price is used for the two of them after marriage, you don't care about these subtleties, after all, marriage is a big deal, I talked with my girlfriend for so long before, and finally got stiff because of the bride price or dowry, which is not good.

This is unreasonable, because marriage is originally a matter between two people, you can ask for a bride price, but you should also marry appropriately.

The bride price can be given but the dowry can not be less, it must be of the same value as the bride price, and it must be a first-hand woman and the original natural woman, which is guaranteed for both men and women.

The woman's request and the woman's approach are completely unreasonable. If the woman asks for a bride price of 200,000 yuan, then the dowry must be given to be fair to be fair.

Otherwise, it will only make the man's family have a very disgusted attitude towards the woman's family, which is not conducive to the development of the relationship between the two families.

Of course it doesn't make sense. The woman asked for a bride price of 200,000 yuan, and she had to marry at least 100,000 yuan. But the woman didn't have a penny to dowry, which is obviously a cheating marriage. The bride price can be returned by legal means.

I don't think this is reasonable, both parties have to pay, the marriage will be happy, and unilateral payment will make the love life not harmonious.

Dear, I personally think it's unreasonable, marriage is a matter of two families, and the man shouldn't have to bear it alone.

I don't think that's reasonable because it's unfair to boys.

1. Look at the other party's family background, if the woman wants a bride price of 200,000 yuan, it still depends on the other party's family situation, if the man's family conditions are very good, and the other party is willing to give it, then the 200,000 bride price is not too much. 2. Feelings are the most important, feelings are the most important when talking about marriage, bride price money is secondary, don't let the feelings of both parties be kidnapped by money, so the bride price should be discussed by both parties, under the condition that both parties accept. 3. Looking at different regions, girls ask for 200,000 dowries, if they are in Fujian, then it is reasonable, and even a little low.

Because the bride price in Fujian is relatively high, 200,000 is considered to be less than the orange. However, if it is in Chongqing, 200,000 yuan is a sky-high bride price, which will definitely scare the man away. If you need to look at the old age of your own area, you will know if it is too much.

Not excessive. Cities and regions have different values for the amount of the bride price. Everyone's lifestyle is different, so the amount of bride price may be different.

In general, everyone will give the bride price, but in some areas the bride price and the bride price will be taken into account. The bride price may only be tens of thousands, but the corresponding will also give away the most valuable items such as cars or houses.

Return of the bride price: 1. The decision on whether the bride price is returned is based on whether the parties have entered into a marriage relationship. If a marriage relationship is not concluded after the bride price is paid, the bride price shall be returned in principle; If they are married, in principle, the bride price will not be returned (except for some special circumstances); Where a marriage ceremony is held in accordance with custom but no marriage certificate is obtained, the bride price shall not be returned in principle when the cohabitation is dissolved.

2. Generally speaking, the payment of the bride price is often forced by local pressure and social pressure to give, and the payment is completely voluntary and without any additional conditions is a general gift, and if there are no special provisions, the request for the return of the bride price is usually not supported.

3. If, after the bride price is paid, during the existence of the marital relationship, the payer requests the return of the payment, it will not be supported, because at this time the husband and wife are still a community and follow the legal property sharing system of the husband and wife. If the parties submit the request at the same time as the divorce proceedings, and the court grants the divorce, it may decide whether to support the request for the return of the bride price according to the circumstances; Where a judgment does not grant a divorce, the parties' request for the return of the bride price cannot be supported.

4. After the two parties register their marriage, if they have not lived together, there will be no experience of mutual support and living together between husband and wife, and the real common life in the essence has not yet begun.

Legal basisCivil Code of the People's Republic of China

Article 657:A gift contract is a contract in which the donor gives his property to the donee free of charge, and the donee expresses his acceptance of the gift.

Article 658:The donor may revoke the gift before the transfer of the right to the donated property. The provisions of the preceding paragraph do not apply to notarized gift contracts or gift contracts that have the nature of public interest or moral obligations such as disaster relief, poverty alleviation, or assistance to the disabled, which must not be revoked in accordance with law.

Look at your family's situation, if your family has money, you don't feel that there is a lot of lack of money, and you don't think it's high, but in most people's terms, it's high, and you have to buy three gold and wine for Erfu Xun, and you can't do it if you don't have three or four hundred thousand.

The man gives a bride price of 120,000 yuan, and the woman generally does not need to return it. However, the following circumstances are excepted: 1. Although the man and woman have registered their marriage but do not live together; 2. Pre-marital payment that causes hardship to the payor; 3. The parties have not gone through the marriage registration procedures.

Interpretation of the Supreme People's Court on the Application of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China on Marriage and Family (1).

Article 5. Where a party requests the return of a bride price paid in accordance with custom, the people's court shall support it if it is ascertained that it falls under the following circumstances:

1) The parties have not gone through the marriage registration formalities;

2) The parties have gone through marriage registration formalities but do not live together;

3) Premarital payments that cause hardship to the payor. The application of the provisions of items (2) and (3) of the preceding paragraph shall be conditional on the divorce of both parties.

Interpretation of the Supreme People's Court on the Application of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China on Marriage and Family (1).

Article 5. Where a party requests the return of a bride price paid in accordance with custom, the people's court shall support it if it is ascertained that it falls under the following circumstances:

1) The parties have not gone through the marriage registration formalities;

2) The parties have gone through marriage registration formalities but do not live together;

3) Premarital payments that cause hardship to the payor.

The application of the provisions of items (2) and (3) of the preceding paragraph shall be conditional on the divorce of both parties.