It costs hundreds of thousands of bride price to get married, is this to marry a daughter or sell

The bride price usually depends on the family economic situation between the two parties, if the woman's family wants the first bride price or even the sky-high bride price, it is undoubtedly suspected of accompanying the daughter, because the sky-high bride price makes the man undoubtedly smash the pot and sell iron to marry the daughter-in-law, which will make the daughter-in-law not be affected by the in-laws after entering the door, and the right look will make people feel that the bride price is used to buy the daughter-in-law. <>

Hundreds of thousands of bride prices have made it difficult for a large number of families to come up with, so such a bride price can be regarded as selling daughters, and it will also make the relationship between daughters and parents become weaker and weaker. Many women's families are reluctant to communicate with their daughters after getting these bride prices, and the daughters' in-laws will not be willing to have too much communication with their daughters-in-law because of these bride price money, and they are more complaining. Therefore, when marrying a daughter, don't blindly pursue the best bride price, but should decide how much bride price should be based on the economic situation of both parties and the other party's good or bad for their daughter.

In some families, both men and women will use the dowry money and bride price as the living funds of the newlywed family, and many families even give as much as the bride price of the man and the amount of dowry money the woman will give. Such a marriage model should be commendable, but there are many women who raise daughters in order to get bride price money to maintain their selfishness. Especially in some remote areas, the bride price is very expensive, such a custom can not be regarded as a good inheritance, but has reached a vicious circle of immorality, many families marry their daughters in order to get the best bride price, so that their sons can marry a good daughter-in-law.

Some families want to give a bride price, that is, to let their sons be able to give a higher bride price when they marry a daughter-in-law, and this vicious circle leads to a higher and higher bride price. The higher the bride price, the shorter the marriage will last, because the purpose of marriage is money. On this basis, when both men and women encounter problems, they will compare the bride price and dowry as the source of the quarrel, and they will not think about the reason for the quarrel from the standpoint of both parties, which also leads to their divorce rate getting higher and higher.

I think it's marrying a daughter, after all, it's not easy to raise a woman by yourself, and raising a daughter costs more than that, so it's just a basic expense.

I also think that this kind of behavior belongs to the sale of daughters, and this kind of bride price should also be resisted, and we should have a good social atmosphere.

Personally, I don't think I can't ask the other party whether to marry a daughter or sell a daughter because the bride price is high, and whoever wants the bride price also hopes that their daughter will live well.

In today's society, young people are indeed not living well, housing loans, car loans, have crushed them, and they have to pay the bank every month, which will be a lot of pressure on anyone.

Huge pressure will make people have negative emotions, probably in order to reduce the loss of money, some people began to talk about the bride price, as long as someone marries a daughter, they say that people sell their daughters, and even more excessively, they are still ridiculing whether to sell on the pound or on a sale, is there no woman in these people's families, is his family also bought and sold in this way. The bride price originated in ancient times, and was not proposed by modern people. On the one hand, it is very contradictory to promote the traditional culture of the ancestors, and on the other hand, to deny the bride price customs handed down by the ancestors?

Of course, if marrying a daughter-in-law has reached the point of bankruptcy, we do not advocate it, and those who cheat marriage and money should also be punished by law, but the bride price of 180,000 yuan is not much, as long as you are diligent and willing to work, you can earn it in a year or two for ordinary families, if you can't even take out the money, and say that others are selling their daughters, then don't get married again, you can only prove that you are not capable. The daughter raised by others with hard work did not go to the man's house to suffer and be wronged, and if she took a step back, even if the woman did not want a penny of the bride price, she might not get the man's house.

Respect, on the contrary, does not cost money to get what is not cherished. People often have this kind of mentality, and they will cherish things that cost a lot of money, and even provide them up, and they will feel distressed when they bump into them. If it's free to pick it up on the ground, you'll cherish it and throw it away if you don't want it.

Although we can't compare people and things, the principle is the same.

The bride price is a Chinese tradition and a necessary ritual. Of course, asking for a bride price for marriage is not the same as selling a daughter, but if the bride price is too much, it is extremely inappropriate.

What the woman's parents want is a kind of security for their daughter's future life, and if they don't have basic savings of more than 200,000 yuan, it is really impossible not to worry about their daughter's future husband's living situation.

How can the little princess who has been precious for most of her life be easily sent to other people's homes to suffer and suffer, of course, I want to ensure that she has a stable life, at least she doesn't have to worry about food, clothing, housing and transportation", presumably most parents probably think of this way, rather than the so-called buying and selling marriage.

In this way, we have to mention the term "daughter of the fortune seller", which in most families should be a sin of unfounded desire. The daughter is the pearl in the palm of the parents' hands, if the marriage is a sale, I think the man will not "buy" the gift no matter how colorful it is.

Now parents will always leave the bride price to their daughters, and even if the family's economic conditions allow, the parents will take out a part of their savings as a dowry.

It's really not that I covet the amount of your gift money, but I hope that at least in front of marriage, my daughter is valued by her in-laws! This is probably the heart of the parents who marry their daughters.

Asking for a bride price for marriage is not the same as selling a daughter, but in the heart of a son-in-law, if the bride price is too high, there is actually no difference between selling a daughter. One is that he is afraid that his son will not be able to pay the bride price when he gets married in the future, and his daughter's bride price will be offset. If the two of them share the family responsibilities after marriage, and the woman also contributes financially to the family expenses, the bride price proposed by the woman's parents is used for the construction of a small family in the future or to keep a part of it for the elderly.

Summary. Pro, marrying a daughter to ask for a bride price is a custom that has been passed down in China for more than a thousand years, in the past, the daughter was not responsible for the issue of parental pension when she got married, the bride price was generally kept by the parents, and the parents themselves looked at the dowry, and now the children are equal, and the law stipulates that parents support their children.

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Pro, marrying a daughter to ask for a bride price is a custom that has been passed down in China for more than a thousand years, in the past, the daughter was not responsible for the issue of parental pension when she got married, the bride price was generally kept by the parents, and the parents themselves looked at the dowry, and now the children are equal, and the law stipulates that parents support their children.

I got married and asked for a bride price of 80,000 yuan, and my parents kept 50,000 yuan for themselves.

Is it a sale of a daughter?

Dear, I can understand your feelings very much, I feel that my parents don't pay enough attention to myself, many men's families will mind this matter, my biological parents don't pay attention to me, and I may have no confidence to go to my in-law's house.

My dear understands your <> very well

Do you have an older brother or younger brother?

There is a younger brother. How old is my brother?

Judging from the marriage market, how much money parents get from the bride price is selling their daughters.

Some say 80,000 and some say 30,000.

Dear, how much the bride price parents keep cannot be said to be selling their daughters, the bride price is a traditional custom.

Traditionally, the bride price is given to the parents, and the daughter does not support the parents. My dear, now there is equality between men and women, and the law stipulates that sons and daughters have equal rights, such as inheritance....It is also the same obligation to support parents in the future as it is the responsibility of younger brothers.

My dear, unless the family is particularly short of money in today's society, it is really sad that the parents leave the bride price behind<>

Is it because the parents keep the bride price because of the financial pressure on the family?

Summary. Marrying a daughter is not selling a daughter, the parents who sell their daughter will take all of it from the bride price, some parents will not want it, and in the end the bride price is still the daughter's, and it is reasonable for greedy parents to ask for it all, after all, parents raised their children.

Marrying a daughter is not selling a daughter, selling a daughter, how much money will the parents get from the bride price.

Marrying a daughter is not selling a daughter, the parents who sell their daughter will take all of it from the bride price, some parents will not want it, and in the end the bride price is still the daughter's, and it is reasonable for greedy parents to ask for it all, after all, parents raised their children.

Why is it not an exaggeration to say that parents take all the bride price, if you think about how much money parents spend on their daughters, there are hundreds of thousands of dollars accumulated over the years.

But when a daughter marries, she does not honor her parents, but honors her in-laws, why should she pay a bride price.

The reason for the bride price is that you are married, and it is natural that serving your in-laws like a nanny is free, giving birth to children is free, and doing housework and cooking meals for your husband is free.

I got married with a bride price of 80,000 yuan, and my parents received 52,000 gold and 10,000 dowry.

If you quarrel with your in-laws, then your husband is on your parents' side, not your side.

My parents got 50,000 yes, did they sell me?

If you get married with a bride price of 80,000 yuan, your parents will get 52,000 gold and 10,000 dowry, which is okay, no matter how much, it is natural for your parents to give as much as they want.

Originally, the bride price was sold to the in-laws.

Even if you don't sell to your in-laws, it's equivalent to free labor.

The bride price is necessary, and now many girls are reluctant to find a partner to marry, because they see the reality clearly, there is no help in marrying in the past, they are just a person with a foreign surname, and their in-laws naturally do not regard people with foreign surnames as a family, which is very xenophobic.

Good in-laws don't care about these, and the reasons for the discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are here.