Auntie, if I really have a bride price of 200,000 yuan, do you think I will marry second hand goods?

My girlfriend I've been talking about for two years is about to get married, but my family immediately fryed the pot when they heard this, and our whole family was very opposed at that time, because my girlfriend was married for the second time, and I am still such a young man, so how could my family let me go home and marry a "second-hand goods"?

My family conditions are not good, but my parents are very traditional people, and they have always been worried about my life's events, so I have been working hard to earn money in the past few years, work first, love second, so I delayed my marriage. I'm about to run 30 people, and I'm a foreigner, and the local girl doesn't look down on me, because it's very difficult to find it when I get home at my age, in my hometown, whether it's a man or a woman, get married very early, basically not as old as me, and have two children.

When I met my girlfriend, it was at a friend's party, and at first he chased me first, because I knew that her family was very good at that time, and later when we were together, she told me that she had been divorced two years ago, but had no children. In fact, when I heard this sentence, I couldn't accept it at first, but then I thought about the economic conditions of a person like me who ran 30 and my family, and I wouldn't have found a good girl at all.

I thought to myself that since she had already been married once, and the family conditions were very good, then if I was with her, I would definitely save a lot of money on the bride price and other expenses. Because he is now married for the second time, we can simply have a meal, and there is no need to have a big wedding.

And my future mother-in-law actually raised an objection, disagreeing with my family's concept that a grand wedding must be held, otherwise it is not important to the people of his family, at that time I thought that my girlfriend and her mother were very strange, because your own daughters have already married for the second time, don't you think it is a shame to hold another grand wedding?

More extreme things are still to come, my mother-in-law actually asked me for a bride price of 200,000 at once, at that time I thought this was not a pure lion big mouth? Besides, your daughter is now married for the second time, so it's not worth the money at all, okay, auntie, if I had 200,000 to accompany you, do you think I would marry a second-hand person?

If you don't have it, you can not marry, and besides, why should people marry you cheaply, what do you think you are?

Both men and women have problems, men don't think that women are married for the second time, so they don't respect each other, women have already failed a marriage, don't think that marriage is a sale.

This man's concept is very incorrect, he is very disrespectful to his girlfriend, very irresponsible, and should not continue to associate with this kind of person.

I don't think you should say that kind of thing. Even if you don't have that much money, you can negotiate with the other party. It's disrespectful for you to say that.

This sentence is very ridiculous, which shows that this girl is very worthless in this man's heart, and she will discriminate against this girl very much from the heart, this kind of psychology of men is very shameful, and such a man must not marry.

I think this man is very irresponsible, and such a man is also very unreasonable, he has a certain dislike and prejudice against his other half.

I don't think this man likes your daughter at all. So don't get married.

I don't think so, but the tone of the man's voice is too much, and if it were me, I wouldn't have chosen such a person.

I think this man is a complete scumbag, girls must not marry such a man, such a man should be spurned.

I think this is a kind of discrimination, you should have a good talk with the other party, even if you can't get 200,000, you can discuss with the other party to take less, but you can't give a bride price if you don't see it.

Don't care about the second marriage, as long as you love each other, you should give a bride price, and the second marriage can't be compromised.

If the in-laws say such things, then don't get married, because the in-laws look down on people very much, and life will not be easy after marriage.

If you don't give a single bride price, it is disrespectful to the other party, so in this case, you should still take the bride price.

The man should explain this matter with his father-in-law and mother-in-law. It should also be expressed that the man attaches great importance to the woman's daughter.

I think it's unreasonable to ask for these bride prices for marriage, mainly depending on a local bride price standard. There is also a financial ability of two people. If your boyfriend doesn't have that much money, that can be reduced a little.

Personally, I think it is appropriate to ask for these bride prices for marriage, because the bride price only shows how much a boy attaches importance to the girl, and does not care about the amount of the bride price, if the woman does not want the bride price, it will appear that the woman is cheaper, and the boy will not pay too much attention to his girlfriend.

I think it's very inappropriate, in my opinion, the bride price of 200,000 is definitely sky-high, and it is difficult for many ordinary people to afford it, if the relationship between two people is very good, there is no need to ask so much.

It is indeed inappropriate to ask for these bride prices for marriage, because you have not considered the man's financial conditions at all.

No. The bride price is only a formality, it does not represent everything, and the most important thing is to have a happy marriage.

The bride price can't represent everything, because you can't afford the bride price, it's probably because the other party's family environment is limited, so you can't take out so much money, but it can't prove that the other party doesn't love you.

The bride price is not everything. The bride price is just a ritual and sincerity in marriage. But the bride price does not represent everything in love. It doesn't represent everything about marriage.

Yes, even if you are married for the second time, you should not feel inferior, and it has nothing to do with how many marriages you have, but it depends on how important your status is in the eyes of the other party.

It's not about buying people, so it's not right to say it's expensive and cheap. Every marriage is worth remembering, because it is sacred and beautiful, the bride price is an attitude, since the question is raised, there will always be a result, and both parties can communicate, instead of poking other people's old scars like this.

Indeed, whether it is the first marriage or the second marriage, the bride price demanded by the woman is indeed relatively large, and if it is a heavy burden for the working class, I think this is a bad habit and should be changed.

may be because this mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law very harshly and is also very stingy.

Summary. The amount of the bride price in a marriage is decided by the husband and wife through negotiation, but it must also be in line with the reality and the level of family income. If the matchmaker says that the bride price is 200,000 yuan and says that you have a second marriage, you can consider changing to a reliable matchmaker or communicating with the other party to understand why you say so.

In addition, during the wedding process, be careful not to be burdened by the pressure of a high bride price, which is beyond your financial means. Love is the most important thing, and there is no need to blindly compare in terms of bride price. If you're really struggling or struggling, talk to a family member or friend for help.

The amount of bride price in marriage is decided by the husband and wife through consultation, but it must also be in line with the reality and the income level of the family. If the matchmaker says that the bride price is 200,000 yuan and says that you have a second marriage, you can consider changing to a reliable matchmaker or communicating with the other party to understand why you say so. In addition, during the wedding process, be careful not to be burdened by the pressure of a high bride price, which is beyond your financial means.

Love is the most important thing, and there is no need to blindly compare in terms of bride price. If you are really struggling or have more than enough to do, talk to a family member or friend and ask for help.

What I'm worried about is that she is 10 years younger than me, and she will take a 200,000 bride price and leave in a few years.

It's a bit like cheating on marriage.

I understand your concerns. However, the divorce and destruction of marriage is a complex issue, and age is not the only factor that can determine whether a marriage is happy and long-lasting. Marriage requires both spouses to work together to operate and maintain.

If you and your partner genuinely love each other, respect, support and understand each other, and work together to build a better future, you can overcome any obstacles. Of course, the amount of the bride price should be determined according to one's own financial situation, and should not be pursued excessively. The most important thing is that the two should communicate openly, make plans together, and support each other with practical actions.

I wish you and your partner a happy and fulfilling married life.

If you are still worried, you can go privately to learn some of her real situation, how to behave in the world, etc.