Why do you always feel that your parents views are different from your own?

As the saying goes, everything is done before you think twice. Listen to other people's opinions and suggestions.

Haste makes waste. Because you are two generations with your parents, it is normal. It is also normal to express one's opinion, but one must be careful with attitude.

If the attitude is fire, you may turn into a filial piety. This fact is actually quite simple. You slowly understand, and you will learn the truth.

In the same way, if the tone is different, it means very different. Learn to change your mind. It's easy to solve the problem.

Parents are our elders and must be respected. Parents and children are generations. It's time to move, very fast, the ages of the two generations are different, and there will be differences in the hassle of eating and wearing.

Parents experience more and feel more. It is said that "ginger is still old and spicy", parents have experienced a lot of things, they see a lot of things, young, we lack social experience, practical experience, and say good words "ideal, very bones", we think everything is too beautiful, our parents summed up from years of practice, this is the precipitation of time.

It is normal for the mother and his own views to be at odds. After all, it's two generations. The environment is different.

The education that has been received is different, and the ideological concepts are different. There are disagreements on some issues, and this is inevitable. First of all, I believe that I have a different opinion about my parents, and I am not filial.

As we get older, we have become more mature and there are some problems with this idea that parents are just against. For their opponents, they often do not know what they are taking, and sometimes take an attempt to confront them. But if these methods have no effect on the problem of the problem, we need to consider a more effective way to solve it.

How to fix it? It's about sitting down and communicating, telling your parents that it's in your heart and I hope they understand, support. At the same time, it also gives them an opinion or advice, listens carefully, and analyzes a strong relationship, and I feel that as long as you say that it is reasonable, parents will respect your choice.

Anyway, parents want us. We should also consider our parents. Forgive them.

There are little things, tickles, parents are different, it is better to listen to them better. Some major events, different points of view, do not rush to argue, look for opportunities and them, seek the best solution!

Because of the parents' point of view, that is the point of view of the older generation, we have a generation gap with the older generation, so it is normal to have a conflict of opinions.

The reason why we feel that our parents' concepts are different from our own is because the two generations live in different eras and have different views on things.

Mainly because the parents' views are generally very old, and the old ones are also very conservative, so they are different from their own.

The first reason why there is a generation gap between parents and their children is because the physical and mental state of teenagers is relatively large, and many teenagers are pursuing independence, and some parents are obviously not very comfortable with this change in their children, so there will be a modern gap. The second reason is that the age in which parents and teenagers live is different, most parents were born in the 50s and 60s, and the era in which teenagers live today is very different from the original era. In fact, fundamentally speaking, many teenagers are now more advanced in their thinking, while most parents seem to be a little backward in their thinking, and the two sides are not on the same level, so there will naturally be some gaps, or generation gaps.

Many teenagers always scoff at some of their parents' thoughts, and many parents don't understand or understand some of their teenagers' thoughts. Therefore, in many families, the most common quarrels between parents and children are those that occur. In fact, it is quite normal for this situation to occur, and most teenagers will always go through a rebellious period, if you want to solve this problem well, then you need parents and children to work together.

First of all, as parents, we must understand the child's various ideas, if we find that the child's ideas are somewhat biased, then we must guide them correctly, rather than blindly criticizing the child, or blaming the child, so that the two sides will gradually drift apart. From the perspective of children, we must also understand our parents, after all, it is the idea of every parent to hope that their son will become a dragon or a phoenix. And the education that most parents receive is different from the education we receive, so no matter when and where, we must learn to empathize and think about this issue from the perspective of our parents, so as to infinitely narrow the generation gap between the two sides.

When you first go to work, every day is like a roller coaster, sometimes you will be happy for a long time because of a praise from your boss, and sometimes you will be angry with yourself because of a little mistake at work. In fact, we are very tired every day, and it is not the physical labor that really makes us tired, but the heart. We don't expect our parents to understand, because in their eyes, we sit in the office every day at work, thirsty, hungry, windy, rainy, how can we be tired?

Yes, in their opinion, tiredness should be rural labor and factory labor, and not the fatigue of the invisible spirit. But it's not the parents' fault. Most of them have been engaged in manual labor and have also suffered too much, so in their opinion, it is called tiredness.

In their opinion, being able to have a decent job without being exposed to the sun and wind is the best way of life they can think of. This may also be a test of whether we can be a qualified adult, so that we can learn to get along with our parents, and the generation gap that cannot be crossed can only be filled with love because we are ignorant and ignorant of the world during this period of adolescence, and then we may have differences with our parents on some things. But as we get older, we also slowly understand some things in life.

Then, we and our parents should be slowly decreasing, although there will still be some things that are different from our parents' views. But at least it's a lot stronger than before. Therefore, if there is a serious generation gap between us and our parents, then it should be our teenage years.

Even in this era of rebellion, our view is more radical.

In the case of disagreement with our parents, we must learn to communicate positively, and in a positive and optimistic way, we must learn to respect each other and understand each other.

In this way, we will achieve better results, and it will also make us feel the warmth of family affection and the beauty of life, so that our mentality will become more positive and sunny. Bow down.

1. Be calm and humble.

Many young people are always self-centered when chatting with their parents, which can easily leave the impression of "self-righteousness" in their minds, knowing that parents may have traveled more than you have eaten, and communicating in such a strong way will certainly not win their favor, and the consequence of this is often that the conversation has ended in a quarrel before the core topic has been touched. However, if you face it in a different way, with the attitude of "asking for advice", instead of deliberately challenging the authority of your parents, it is easier to get pertinent advice.

2. Knock on the side, step by step.

The reason why we have a huge "Hongpai Spring Gap" between us and our parents, the fundamental problem is still in the concept, the concept of parents is generally conservative, and young people are more in pursuit of knowledge and openness and freedom, so on many topics, each other will show diametrically opposed two attitudes, in order to reverse this situation, you can ensure the benign interaction on the premise, try to "knock on the side" way to communicate, parents are worthy of He Xiao is an experienced person, you say a lot of things they understand when you hear it, if you are like this" The "edge ball" style of communication is not disgusting, proving that the topic still has room to maneuver, and they can slowly do their ideological work step by step, and if parents show special resistance, it is best to terminate it in time to avoid embarrassment.

3. Respect your parents and insist on yourself.

Not all parents are enlightened, in fact, the "conservative old-fashioned" faction accounts for a large proportion of them, they often use the old saying "don't listen to the elderly, suffer in front of you" such an old saying to admonish their children, some are indeed useful, but some have not been able to keep up with the rhythm of the times, even if they do not agree, should not show excessive emotions, this is the minimum respect for parents, if some things do need their support to be able to do, it is best to temporarily choose patience, waiting for the right opportunity, If you can operate alone, you should still insist on your own opinions, otherwise you will always live under the "wings" of your parents, and it will be difficult to have room for growth, even if you eventually encounter setbacks, it is also an experience for yourself.

4. Often take the elderly out for a walk around and establish a communication environment.

The environment changes people's minds. Look at the high-rise buildings in the big cities, look at the city and have to queue for two hours to eat, few people use cash, thieves have changed careers, they can't steal money, they have to steal passwords for mobile phones, how to decipher, this requires technology. If you look at the world's old people's perspectives, they will change, just as we see new things, not at home.

5. Face up to the existence of obstacles and do not deliberately change them.

We do not seek to communicate barriers, allow barriers to exist, and do not force them to be eliminated. The living environment of the two generations is different, many concepts are changing, and most of the elderly are very frugal. At that time, I was afraid of being poor, afraid that I would not be able to eat, and now I am reluctant to throw away the leftovers, and I still eat them with hot water when the taste has changed.

But this is not good for the body, and it costs more money to eat and get sick, and people still suffer. All we can do is do less and try to leave as little as possible.

It can be analyzed from two aspects, the first is the age gap, and the age gap between parents and parents is generally in their twenties. So the formation of what we often call the "generation gap". There are many opinions that are different from those of parents, and that parents' views are relatively traditional.

Father and Son. If you are a little higher, you will be less likely to share your daily life with your parents after participating in the work, because outside, more often you may be unsatisfactory, and the reason for the unsatisfactory spring source is more from the work and future parents can't help, and it will only make them worry, so they will gradually not share their daily life with their parents.