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When you become the best person in a certain group, you will naturally attract jealousy, slander and even attack from other members of the group, because you have become a reference for their comparison, and they show their own inadequacy and pity compared to you, their jealousy, or the pursuit of so-called absolute fairness, or even the psychology of Ah Q, in their opinion, "you are not worthy of being better than them".
And when you become rich, they lose the basis of reference and comparison, everything about you is far away from them, they don't feel the threat you have to their life or spirit, and they are even proud that they have begged with you.
In short, a beggar in his kind is a far greater threat to himself than a rich man, which is a manifestation of a dark psychology in human beings, but it is a psychology that can no longer be normal. Living in various groups in society, we experience and experience such things and emotions on a daily basis. The right attitude is:
In the face of the jealousy of your colleagues, being able to be jealous is also a manifestation of your capital or strength. If you want to get rid of such troubles completely, then keep trying, keep moving forward, and keep leaving them behind.
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This is the psychology of sour grapes, he is very envious of the rich beggar who is rich, but this is the grape he can't eat, and he will laugh at the rich beggar: obviously he is a beggar, not like a beggar.
On the other hand, the beggar is in the same group as him, and is comparable to the beggar himself, while for him, the rich man and he are not members of the same world. This can be seen in connection with the experience of the bat in Aesop's Fable, where birds and beasts laugh at the bat as nondescript. This shows that people are often narrow-minded and self-righteous, and cannot accept new things.
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My teacher once said something like this:
He is envied because you are a little taller than him, and he is envied because he can't catch up with you.
Thinking about this sentence now, it really makes sense.
This is probably the psychology of many people. I hope that I will be superior by belittling others, and such people actually have a certain degree of inferiority complex and want to get balanced. It's actually very pitiful.
The colleagues who giggle with you during the day are not necessarily what they seem to be. It's good not to have a kick on your back. Because you're about the same as him, and you're just treated better than him.
If he is a clerk and you are a manager, of course it is natural to be treated well, and he will treat you like a god.
In such an environment, covering the edge is actually a kind of knowledge. Don't show off your cleverness, especially in front of your peers, and when it reaches a point where he can't reach it, show your awl from the cloth bag and let him envy you.
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Because the rich man is the ideal self, the poor beggar is the current state of mind, and the rich beggar is the real self. In the end, one has to keep denying oneself in order to achieve perfection.
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Because he knew that he could not be compared with the rich, which was mocking short-sighted and unambitious people.
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Any jealousy is within a certain range.
It's like a girl will be jealous of a girl who is prettier than herself, but she will not be jealous of a handsome boy. ~
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The battle between clean clothes and dirty clothes There is often competition between peers, and who will compare with each other in different industries.
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What's in there?It's interesting.
Give a source to look into.
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Personally, I understand that because "a good beggar" is a standard that can be met in the eyes of a "beggar", but he himself does not meet it, and other beggars have reached it, so there will be jealousy, but "rich" is already outside the scope of "beggar" cognition. That is, the life of another world, because the standards are too high, and there will be no extravagant expectations, so naturally there will be no jealousy.
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Things gather like and people are grouped. We are not jealous of ants because they are too weak, and we are not jealous of elephants because they are too strong.
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: Because millionaires and beggars are not in the same trade, as the saying goes, "If you are afraid of business, you are afraid of the jealousy of your peers".
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People are basically only compared to themselves in the same social class.
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Happiness comes from comparison, and comparisons that don't know are meaningless. Just as the so-called wealth does not return to the hometown, it is like walking in brocade clothes at night, it is just to show off in front of the people you know.
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The same beggar, why he earns more than him, because he can't figure it out. A millionaire, he will only think about his life, or his family's personal opinion.
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What if this millionaire is also a beggar, is he jealous or not?
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A beggar is not necessarily jealous of a millionaire, but he must be jealous of a beggar who earns more than him. What is the reason for this?
Because being a millionaire is a height that he can't reach, and other beggars are doing the same things as him and earning more than him, so they will be jealous.
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