When others praise your child, how can you not be embarrassed or hurt your child?

First of all, you should also express your approval of the praise of others, secondly, you should have a humble attitude, and finally, you can appropriately show your child's shortcomings.

When others praise your child. You have to follow him in time to praise your children, and then respond to him by telling him that his children are also very good, and every child is very good.

Parents: "****, this is outside, at home, it can make me angry." ”

When others praise your child for being excellent, I think you should also be polite. The first thing to do is to say thank you for the compliment.

You can do that to him. You're so humble, but my kids are okay too. It's not as good as you say, and I need to keep working hard.

Especially when others praise the child's excellence in front of the child, you must not completely deny the child's excellence. This will hurt the child's self-esteem, but don't praise yourself too much, and don't put too much gold on your face. If you blindly praise your child, it will also cause your child to be easily arrogant.

If the child is not there, you can be humble in saying so. The child is still far away. We still need to work hard. Only in this way, the other party may think that you have a very high level of self-cultivation. Such parents will raise excellent children.

Text|Wen'er. Yesterday, the neighbor took the child out to play, and when she met the parents of her children's classmates downstairs in the community, she took the initiative to say hello and chat with someone. I heard someone compliment her child next to me:

I heard that your daughter took the first place in this exam, so she didn't work hard, it's not easy." The neighbor was very happy to hear this, and his face showed a proud expression, but he said modestly in his heart: "She, she must have met a dead cat with a dead mouse, and it was a pure coincidence that she took the first place in the exam."

Then, when I saw her patriarchal child, I was visibly unhappy.

Seeing such a scene, I feel very helpless, someone praised the child in front of the parents, the child must be full of anticipation waiting for the parents' approval, but the result was poured a basin of cold water, the child was completely denied by the parents. We all know that a child's self-esteem.

They are all very strong, they are eager to be affirmed, and at the same time, they need to rely on the evaluation of their parents, find their own positioning signs, and determine the direction of their efforts. Parents' excessive modesty will make children believe in the truth and doubt themselves, which is extremely detrimental to the growth and development of children.

In fact, most parents are happier than anyone else when they see their children making progress and performing well. However, when I heard someone praising the child, I couldn't help but be "humble" and say two words against my will. For example, saying that the child is not good, not good enough, etc.

Parents' "pseudo-modesty" is naturally not to demean their children, it may be that parents want to keep a low profile and not leave a proud impression on others, or it may be that parents are afraid that their children will listen to too many good words, and they will not be able to calm down and work hard in the future.

If someone compliments your child, as a parent, you should give a realistic response, and don't blindly "humble" your friends. For example, others praise your child for his good academic performance, very good, etc. Parents can affirm the advantages of their children, such as their children are serious when they study, they are usually very self-disciplined, etc., and parents are happy to have such results.

However, there are still some deficiencies in the child, so there is still a lot of room for improvement. Finally, parents should show that they have a lot of confidence in their children.

In short, when others praise your child, parents do not blindly put gold on their faces, nor deny their children too much, and generously point out the advantages and disadvantages of their children, others will not look bad on their faces, and it will be more conducive to the growth of their children, killing two birds with one stone.

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Parents freely deny their children and cause a lot of harm to their children.

Seeing this kind of sight, I can't help it. Someone praises the child in front of the parents, and the child must be waiting for the parent's approval with anticipation. But as a result, a basin of cold water was spilled, and the child was completely denied by the parents.

William Shakespeare, Hamlet, family) We all know that children have strong self-esteem, they crave recognition, and at the same time rely on their parents' evaluations, position themselves, and decide where to work hard. The excessive modesty of parents makes children believe in the truth and doubt themselves, which is very detrimental to the growth and development of children.

If the child says no, it's not good enough, and so on. The "hypocrisy and modesty" of parents is certainly not intended to belittle children. It may be that parents want to keep a low profile and don't want to leave a proud impression on others, or it may be that parents are afraid that their children will hear too many nice words, so they will calm down and work hard to get in in the future.

Someone praises the child in front of the parents, and the child must be waiting for the parent's approval with anticipation. But as a result, a basin of cold water was spilled, and the child was completely denied by the parents.

The "hypocritical modesty" of parents may not be malicious.

In fact, most parents are happier than anyone else when they see their children progressing and doing well. (William Shakespeare, Hamlet, family) But when I hear someone praise the child, I can't help but be "humble" and say a few things that don't suit my heart. For example, if the child says no, it's not good enough, and so on. The "hypocrisy and modesty" of parents is certainly not intended to belittle children.

It may be that parents want to keep a low profile and don't want to leave a proud impression on others, or it may be that parents are afraid that their children will hear too many nice words, so they will calm down and work hard to get in in the future.

Someone praises the child in front of the parents, and the child must be waiting for the parent's approval with anticipation. But as a result, a basin of cold water was spilled, and the child was completely denied by the parents.

First of all, the attitude needs to be humble, humbly affirm the advantages of your own children, and at the same time praise other people's children. Let two children stand on the same height, but you can't praise too much without combining it with reality.

First of all, when someone compliments your child, you should politely accept compliments, such as "thank you for complimenting your child" or "thank you uncle and auntie". Another point is particularly important, you also need to find the good points of the other child, praise the other person's child, and reciprocate courtesy.

First of all, you have to thank others for their kindness, and then don't be arrogant, tell others that the reason why they are so good is because they usually give more.

It depends on the age of the child and whether the child is present or not.

According to Erikson's theory of psychological development, for children aged 0 to 12, each stage has a conflict in the development of its heart cavity ambition. Although, in the daily conversation of adults, adults think that innocuous jokes or words have no impact on children's psychological development, in fact, adults' "talking points" often invisibly affect children's psychological development.

As a parent, the child is labeled as "handsome", and the parent may be proud for a while, out of politeness, simply respond to thank you, and do not need to continue to deepen, and then use the child as a "talking point".

If the child is present, parents can respond with "thank you" and express "he is not only handsome, but also very polite......"Affirming a child in terms of character (polite child, hard-working child, etc.) is more effective than affirming a child in terms of appearance. Acknowledging your child's character will perceive him as being polite and ...... personallyGood at sharing ......It is a hard-working child ....... Children will grow in the direction that their parents labeled.

From the perspective of children's psychology, children actually do not like to be used as "talking points".

Parents can try to avoid discussing their children with outsiders in front of their children, after all, not every parent can respond well to questions like "handsome".

Let's create a healthy and uplifting atmosphere for children!

Parents must be polite and modest when others praise their children, but they must not deny their children too much, because children will deny themselves because of this, thus forming a kind of inferiority complex for themselves, which has a lifelong impact on children. Parents should teach their children to know and accept their true selves, many parents will deny it at the first time when faced with the praise of others, in addition to their humility, what is the reason? It is also because parents have too much superficial perception of beauty, beauty is not only the face, when the children pile up the building blocks, we can also praise them for "doing a good job!"

There are many sides to beauty, and we must not define it narrowly.

When others praise your child, if you don't agree, don't correct it in person, let alone talk about your child's shortcomings in person; If you agree, then you can echo the other party's appreciation, and it is good to give the child some praise appropriately, the child knows that you are genuinely praising him, which will greatly enhance the child's self-confidence.

Every child wants to be praised, does not want to be criticized, especially does not want to be criticized in front of everyone, mothers should understand the child's psychology, properly meet the child's thirst for praise and the avoidance of criticism, do not expose the child's shortcomings in public.

If you find your child's shortcomings or problems, you may wish to talk to your child alone at home, so that your child will understand that his mother is taking care of his feelings and protecting his self-esteem, so that his child is more likely to accept criticism and humbly correct his shortcomings. When pointing out the child's shortcomings and shortcomings, the mother should pay attention to the tone and expression, and the tone should be as gentle as possible, so that the child knows that you are addressing the problem and not personally, so that the child is more likely to accept criticism with a happy and sincere heart.

Children's self-esteem is stronger than that of adults, and their hearts are more fragile than adults. Children who are not yet mentally mature often need to rely on the evaluation of others, especially outsiders, to position themselves! Your "modesty" will arouse strong disgust in your child and destroy his self-confidence step by step.

Therefore, in addition to praising the child in a timely manner in life, when the child is appreciated by outsiders, the mother should also express her approval in time!

It is a good thing for children's psychological development to let children be willing to pursue the favor of others, and often express themselves in front of outsiders, which will also make children get a good exercise in interpersonal communication.

As a parent, the child is the center of gravity, and when the child is criticized, he feels sad; When a child is complimented, he or she is happy. So, when someone praises their child, how do you respond? That's how I generally do it :

Clause. 1. If the praise is in line with the facts.

In this case, accept it generously and then express gratitude. For example, the boss reads a lot and can often say some amazing things when he speaks. If others compliment him, I will naturally say that it is indeed so, and he has always read a lot more than the average child.

There's no need to be embarrassed, just accept the fact that it's like that. When the child sees this, he will become more and more confident, because he feels that his actions are encouraged and recognized.

Clause. Second, if the exaggeration does not conform to the facts.

Some parents are very polite and don't know their children very well, so they praise their children. In this case, I will make it clear that this is not the case. For example, a parent complimented the boss for being very high.

In fact, I know for myself that his height is medium at best, and he can talk about tall. I made it clear to the other party that the child is not tall, at most medium height. If it does not conform to the facts and accepts it, it will affect the child's judgment and make him misleading.

Of course, this also depends on the child's personality. If the child has a cheerful personality and is very positive and sunny, then start from the facts and let the child know his position; If your child is already introverted and in need of encouragement, you can give your child more encouragement. Others praise that is also actively accepted, and you can also praise your own children.

The more times you go, maybe your child will become more confident!

I think it's good to be objective, neither arrogant nor overly modest.

Tsundere makes people think that you are too floating, give you some color and you will open a dye shop.

Being too modest will make people feel that they can't communicate with you, too hypocritical, and don't tell the truth!

So in addition to a sentence or two of appropriate modesty, such as winning a prize, you can also objectively say a few words about the child's own efforts, such as he is not a particularly smart child, he has really put in a lot of effort, we as parents can't help too much, and we have to rely on himself!

Others praise your child, many of them are sincere, as a parent should be happy in your heart, you can say thank you, and some are a little exaggerated, you should also say thank you, as an encouragement to yourself.

Go find the shining point of his child and praise it back.

Ouch, ****, you've won the prize.

When someone compliments my child, I ask him to say thank you to the person who complimented me.

The Chinese nation is a country of traditional etiquette, knowledge, and civilized behavior, and has always paid attention to treating people politely and with human affection. When some people praise your own children, the Chinese pay attention to humility, but too humble, but like pride. If you are in front of the baby, so be humble and say that I guess the children of the empty family are not good-looking, especially the ones that are not good-looking, and the children will hear it, and the little heart will be hurt, and they do feel that they are not good-looking, which will affect the child's mental and physical health.

Moderate smile, civilized and polite to say thanks, if other people's children are around, must say that your children are better looking at learning and training is good, we want to learn from you, children are happy, adults are also happy, the atmosphere is more harmonious and harmonious. Parents must be civilized and polite and humble in the case of others praising their children, but they must not deny their children excessively, because children will deny themselves for this, and then produce a kind of self-confidence, which has a lifelong impact on the baby.

Parents need to teach their children to understand and accept their true selves. When others praise your child, if you don't approve of it, you can't correct it in public, let alone talk about your child's defects in public. If you approve of it, it can be accompanied by the praise of the other party, and it is also good to give the child some praise in moderation, and the child understands that you are genuinely praising him, which will greatly improve the child's confidence. Every intellectual child wants to be praised, not to be blamed, especially not to be blamed in front of many people, and the mother wants to know her child.

Moderately achieve the child's desire for praise and the avoidance of blame, and do not have to expose the child's shortcomings in public. The new generation of parents who are open to the outside world is receptive to the praise of others, but in order to better promote the rare opportunity for children to be affirmed, riding the hot iron, and then carefully promoting and praising again can renew the child's confidence and strengthen the baby's positive personal behavior. It is difficult to distinguish tricks in the world, and only sincerity is the most valuable.

As long as parents use and appreciate their children in their hearts, children will definitely become more and more confident.