Parents should learn to save face for their children and criticize them regardless of the occasion,

Updated on parenting 2024-07-04
41 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    Adults want face, in fact, bear children also want face. It may seem to parents that they are young and only know how to eat and drink a day. How can there be so much thought about not saving face.

    In fact, such an idea is wrong. Children also want to save face and have self-esteemWhen you talk about their troubles in front of others, they will also be unhappy.

    If a child wants face, parents need to give him face. Don't let your wrong behavior hurt your child's self-esteem and hurt your mind and body. What behaviors hurt the child's face?

    Parents criticize their children regardless of the occasion, which is one of the behaviors that damage the child's face. Some parents reprimand their children in public. Ignoring a child's experience and exposing them to criticism in front of the group can be a serious damage to their self-esteem.

    In everyday times, rewards are always applied casually. In addition to compliments, there are also some material encouragements. When it comes to bonuses, always negotiate terms with your child.

    What children often hear is, "If you don't score 100 points, you can't have small toys." This kind of conditionalism is also a kind of damage to the child.

    and even turned parent-child interaction into a conditional exchange.

    Some parents love to beat and scold their children, and subconsciously use these violent methods to teach their children. When the child makes a mistake in the slightest, he is very afraid. My sense of identity and satisfaction has been greatly hit.

    For example: "Why are you so stupid?" "Just what is the future of what you are losing day by day.

    Slowly, I don't like to do things very much, and I am afraid to do things. And for the child, it is also a damage to his self-esteem.

    When living with children, because parents do not keep their words and make some service promises, they lose trust between children and parents. And this behavior of parents is also a kind of disrespect for children, and children will also feel that their parents do not respect themselves. Always casually promise yourself, but never pay for it.

    Not giving face to children and disrespecting them is also reflected in communication. Some parents only care about their own words, and do not care about their children's experience and acceptance. The method of strong transmission does not give the child the opportunity to express it.

    The expression is created under the premise of respect, otherwise the child will feel annoyed, and feel that the parents do not understand him at all, let alone pay attention to it.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Of course, it will hurt the child, because the current child has self-esteem. Moreover, too much criticism of children will make children feel inferior, and even produce some psychological problems.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Parents criticize their children regardless of the occasion, which is one of the behaviors that hurts the child's face. Some parents scold their children with impunity in public. Ignoring a child's feelings and exposing them to criticism in front of a group can deeply hurt their self-esteem.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Yes, if you don't criticize your child regardless of the occasion, it will hurt the child, and it will make the child feel inferior and have no self-confidence.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Of course, education should start from an early age, which is why prenatal education and early education are so hot now, parents don't want their children to lose at the starting line, they must educate their children from an early age, and some of them will listen to light ** in the fetal period, what do I hope that children can like ** or become smart and lively. Early childhood education is the most basic and important stage of life education. At this time, good living and learning habits are cultivated, and children will benefit for life in the future.

    The moral character of the person is also crucial. There is an old saying: three years old is big, seven years old is old.

    Children's moral education or behavioral education, we must start from an early age, once the formation of bad habits, we will be too late to regret as parents. A child's sense of responsibility is cultivated little by little in life. Usually pampered with children, never caring, only giving money, hoping that the child can suddenly become responsible one day, that is impossible!

    For example, they put forward some unreasonable requirements, parents should say no to them, at this time the child will not do it, he must be lying on the ground, or crying to let the parents meet his requirements, at this time parents should stand firm, no is no, so when the child is young, from the time of politeness, garbage do not litter, speech should be civilized and do not swear, to respect the elders, to urinate and defecate to go to the toilet, not to lie and other small things to grasp, parents must lead by example, do a good example, Give children good things from small things and develop good habits.

    Start developing good habits from a young age, and over time, habits become natural. As I get older, I think more and more, and it will be more troublesome to change it when the time comes. This leads to personality problems or difficulties later in life.

    For the baby, if parents want him to be better and better, then the following things must be done well, parents must teach their children in advance, so that children can become better and better.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Yes, because the child's heart is very sensitive and inferior, parents should respect the child and give the child enough face.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Of course, you have to save face for your children, although the children are still young, but they are also very face-loving, if you often criticize the child in front of others, the child will have a special inferiority complex, and it will also be very sad.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Want. If parents educate their children in front of other people, it is likely that the children will feel very undignified and will not be able to hold their heads up in front of others. Very low self-esteem and may have an emotional breakdown.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Of course, in fact, children should respect children at school and don't embarrass children, because children have self-esteem when they are very young.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    It should be that if you don't save face for your child, it will hurt your child's self-esteem and be detrimental to your child's growth.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    When educating children, it is still necessary to save face for children, only in this way can the child's self-esteem be very strong and the child will not be harmed.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Parents should save face for their children when they educate, even if they are children, small children have self-esteem.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    First, it can destroy a child's self-esteem. As the saying goes, people want faces, trees need bark. People have self-esteem.

    Second, to dampen the enthusiasm of children, the so-called teaching children in front of others is not to blame and criticize children in public, but when children make mistakes, they can be corrected immediately and told what should be done.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    It can hurt the child's self-esteem, because criticizing the child in public will make the child appear embarrassed and have no face.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Hit children's self-confidence and enhance children's inferiority complex; Criticizing children regardless of the occasion will make children lose self-confidence, and blindly criticizing children will make children have a strong sense of inferiority.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    It will easily lead to the baby's personality is more introverted, timid, and the ability to express itself will be poor, usually do not like to express their opinions, because they feel that no one will believe what they say. And self-discipline is not good, lack of self-confidence, personality will be more dislike to communicate with people.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Children should be given a dust stove. If parents teach their children in front of outsiders, it will cause their children to have an inferiority complex. Parents should consider the problem from the child's point of view, and do not blindly reprimand the child.

    Parents should communicate well with their children and point out their mistakes.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Of course, don't think that they don't need face when they're very young, they just need to be respected.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    You should save face for your child, because children are also human beings and have self-esteem

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Parents need to pay attention to criticizing their children, based on objective facts, not out of context, and must understand the causes and consequences of things before deciding right or wrong. At the same time, criticizing children should not hurt children's self-esteem, and they must not be used to combat abuse, but must stand from an equal and objective perspective.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    When criticizing, you must pay attention to your words and deeds, don't yell at your child, reason with him, and let your child consult teachers and parents in time for learning problems. If he does something wrong in other aspects, he must correct his thoughts and behaviors in time, so that he can understand the mistake and make changes.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Parents should pay attention to ways and means when criticizing their children, and do not speak excessively, let alone beat and scold at every turn. In fact, the child understands everything in his heart, so when criticizing the child, after saying a few words and expressing the key meaning clearly, the child has understood and realized that he is wrong, so he should close his mouth in time, and do not chatter endlessly, which will cause the child's disgust, not only will not have the effect of criticism, but will also be counterproductive.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    When criticizing children, be careful not to hurt the child's self-esteem, just reason with the child, and don't be too verbose, talk too much about the big reason so that the child can't understand or listen to it at all, and don't fundamentally realize his mistakes.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    If the child's grades are poor, it will be a scolding to go up. When children fight with children, indiscriminately educate children first, how can parents win the respect of their children by doing this? Criticism is not the goal, but real education can enable children to have a clear understanding after receiving criticism and have the desire to correct their mistakes.

    Encourage criticism and trust after failure. In short, it is necessary to let children see good prospects in order to motivate them to work hard. If the child encounters difficulties that cannot be solved, it is useless to blindly criticize at this time, and what parents need to do is to help guide and help the child solve the problem, instead of blaming the child.

    Don't make judgments too early and observe your child for abnormalities. After learning the truth of the matter, stand with the child to face the problem and defeat the problem together.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    When criticizing children, we must pay attention to our own ways and methods, the most important thing is to pay attention to our own attitude, and be able to use better words to help children get out of their confusion.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    When parents criticize and educate their children, the precautions are: first of all, they should communicate with their children to find out the reasons for the matter, and the parents' attitude must be modest, so that the children have no pressure, and they can raise any difficulties with the active parents.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    Parents should criticize their children, first of all, in front of many people in public, because this will hurt the child's self-esteem. At the same time, criticizing the child should pay attention to the child's psychological state at all times, and stop in moderation.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    When parents criticize and educate their children, they must pay attention to the time and occasion. The second is that you should praise first and then criticize, which will reduce the inner damage to the child, and the most important thing is that you should be right about things and not people, and better analyze the reasons to solve the problem, so that the child can grow.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    From the perspective of respect and understanding, we should help him recognize the problem, so as to guide him to take the initiative to correct his mistakes.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Hello, don't criticize your child in public, pay attention to the occasion; Do not criticize your child at meals, in the morning, at night when you go to bed, pay attention to the time; Don't criticize your child indiscriminately, praise and criticize.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Answer: Parents should pay attention to criticizing their children: one is to criticize the way of language, and the other is to aim at the wrong point.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Hello, I think more attention should be paid to attitude and approach. Children can criticize, but they must not be abusive, let alone violent; After the child has criticized, you should also reassure the child, and do not let the child think that he is useless.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    People do not make mistakes from childhood to adulthood, children make mistakes, parents need to pay attention when criticizing their children, they must find out the cause of the problem, and then decide the method of education. Do not beat and scold the child, hurt the child's self-esteem, but follow the good persuasion and convince others, so as to be conducive to the child's growth.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    It is important to remember that you should not blindly belittle your child because of his mistake this time, and encourage him to correct it in time while criticizing, so that he will not be afraid of you.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    When parents criticize their children, they must have a valid reason, and they should focus on education, not simply criticize, but still let him realize that he is wrong and how to correct it.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    Parents should pay attention to their child's self-esteem when criticizing their child and do not forget to encourage their child's strengths.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    It should be noted that sometimes the help of parents has become a stumbling block that hinders the growth of children, and what is even more terrible is that some parents are happy to continue to stack large and small stumbling blocks in front of their children.

  38. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    The first principle is to take matters into account and not turn over old accounts. The second is to educate children for the purpose, not for the parents themselves.

  39. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    Pay attention to the context, tone, rationale, and so on.

  40. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    Find out the reason for this before deciding whether to criticize the child? Instead of ignoring the indiscriminate and criticizing first, let's talk about it.

  41. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    There are some old people in life who are short-tempered, and when they see their children doing something wrong, they open their mouths to scold them, treating them as children's lessons, completely ignoring that their children have become parents. Moreover, many elderly people always scold their children's parents in front of their children, mercilessly. In this way, young parents will feel disgraced, disgraced in front of their children, and unable to get off the stage ......

    1.Remind your child first.

    If it is always because of the problem of educating children, it is always criticized by parents. When encountering such things, young parents with a heart can prepare early. You can start by reminding your child, "You can do what your grandparents or grandparents do."

    But in front of us, we have to do what we have to do. Otherwise, you won't let them play with you again in the future. In this way, no matter how naughty and mischievous the child is, he will often not be so unscrupulous anymore.

    When the elderly criticize you again, the child will also feel that it is not all your fault.

    2.Be generous with criticism and set an example for your children.

    In order for the child to know how to respect his parents, so that he knows that the younger generation should respect the elders. Then, when the old man criticizes you, don't immediately contradict it, but accept it generously. Don't argue with the elderly, but admit your own shortcomings and set an example for your children.

    Let your child know that no matter who makes a mistake, he must be criticized and advised. So that the child can learn to be a "filial" person, in fact, this will also be a capital for you to educate your children in the future.

    3.You should give way to your parents.

    If your parents criticize you and you argue with him, and the old man is unhappy with his bad luck, he will move out of his elders. Identity scolds you so that you can't get off the stage in front of your children. In fact, the methods of the elderly are all accumulated over the years, so they will often stick to their own opinions and will not easily give in to you.

    Then, you might as well face the opinions of the elderly with a tolerant attitude, and you can put it forward tactfully afterwards, especially in front of the children, so that you can save your face.

    4.Communicate more with your parents.

    In order to let the elderly understand your point of view, and let the elderly understand some scientific methods of raising children in today's society, young parents should communicate more with the elderly and exchange opinions with each other, especially the things that the elderly are not satisfied with must be discussed with them. When the old man agrees, use your method to educate the child. Through friendly discussions, the elderly will generally compromise and will not accuse you in front of their children.

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