Is it good to live with my husband s family?

There are pros and cons to living alone with your husband and your husband, and the pros and cons will not be repeated here.

The old man is only talking about how you live with all the members of your in-laws' family and how you should get along with each other.

First of all, you have to change your mindset, quickly integrate into this strange family, find out the temper and temperament of all family members, mingle with them (her), and don't isolate yourself. Take advantage of the absence of children, rush to do housework, do more, you can learn if you can't cook, you can get started, and learn to cook for your future. In the first year or two after marriage, you should establish a good image of a good wife and mother in your in-law's family, have a good relationship with your sister-in-law and brother-in-law, and take filial piety to your in-laws as your first priority.

Sooner or later, the family will be divided, and by then, your children will be older, and you will be freed from your body, and you will build your own happy home with your husband.

First of all, I'm a boy myself, and I'm also very family-loving. But if I get married, I will definitely live alone with my wife, after all, I am married, the biggest and oldest problem mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship. It is too difficult to keep two people who are not related by blood at all together forever and safe.

It's inevitable. Simply, I don't want to be tired. It's very difficult.

In addition, there are other siblings, and there are many inconvenient places, even if they can't afford to buy a house. I also live alone in a rented house!! Talk about this with your husband, if there is really no discussion, only you will be wronged.

After all, that's the elders.

No way! Very much trouble! After all, you came into this family later, and many things must be very different. And you are married, you still live together, what about your private space.

No matter what kind of family, living with parents, or siblings, there will be contradictions, to do well, really tired, if your husband is considerate of you, it's okay, if it's that kind of machismo, or the kind of whatever is right or wrong, it's your fault, then it's even more sad, the key is to see how the husband reconciles in the middle.

If you have another choice, it's better not to.

After getting married, once one of the parents always lives in your house, there is a high chance that the relationship between the two people will go wrong. Because after the parents live at home, it will disrupt the "family system" built by the husband and wife. In the family system model, the most basic role is "husband-wife".

Husbands and wives have a stable relationship, a flow of love, and space to nurture each other's affection, and there is energy to nourish other roles in the family system, such as children and parents. However, once parents are involved in the family system, they always instruct the couple to do things, disrupt their lifestyle, create friction, or do not give space to the couple, which will lead to the disorder of the family system. Should you live with your parents after marriage Moreover, once your parents are involved, the role binding of the family system will go wrong.

Didn't you agree with you or your husband before you got married? Now the key is what you have in mind, do you want to live independently with your husband, or do you want to live in your in-laws' house. If you don't want to live at your in-laws' house, tell your husband that you want to live in a two-person world.

If your husband always lives with his parents, you can also go back to your parents' house, and if you want to get along and leave, it depends on who you can beat.

If your husband does this, sometimes it may be more uncomfortable and he will feel like an outsider. When encountering some problems, it is inevitable that there will be some disputes.

But if you think about it carefully, you can actually understand him a little more, after all, it is his parents, and they are the people he respects the most, but how can he be a more filial person. Although he may feel inferior to his parents, they are all family, so they don't need to worry too much.

I can also have a good relationship with his parents. You can express your thoughts to your husband. If the relationship between the two people is not bad, and your husband is okay with you, you can communicate with him appropriately.

Husband and wife must have one heart and work together to create a good atmosphere and create a warm home.

Many women want to have an independent space with their lovers after marriage, enjoy the romance of the world of the two, and the reason why they don't like to live with their in-laws should be that they feel that there are a lot of inconveniences.

I am an ambiguous attitude, neither against nor support, everyone has a little bit of selfishness, it is an illusion to say that he is not disgusted, but his other half insists on living with his parents and does not object, after all, filial piety comes first, if a man is not filial to his parents, he will not bring happiness to his wife, so Tong is the first to think that if he wants to live together, I will also respect his choice.

Because you love someone, you will tolerate everything in the other party, this is how love and Wu come about, if you really love someone, you will compromise some things for the other person's feelings, because that person is worth paying for yourself, so even if you are a little resistant in your heart, you will try to do your best to make your home hail potato garden happy and harmonious.

This problem is actually quite complicated.

If you can accept it, that's fine. After all, there is so much social pressure now, if both parties are single, then it is normal to live with their parents after marriage, and for parents, they also hope that their children can start a family.

However, if you can't accept it, then think carefully! After all, after getting married, you have to face a lot of practical problems.

First of all, there is the economic issue. Although young people are very busy with work now, as long as you have the heart and work hard, it is not difficult to earn a good income. So, in this case, you can completely let your parents come and live with you, and in this way, it can also reduce your burden.

However, you should pay attention to one thing, that is, you must give all the savings of the family to your parents, because, only in this way, they will be relieved to take care of your life.

Second, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I believe many people know that since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a very difficult problem to deal with. As women, they especially want their husbands to be on their side, so when their mother-in-law has a conflict with them, they will feel wronged.

At this time, if you choose to complain to your husband, then he will think that you are hypocritical, and even think that you don't know the general situation. On the contrary, if you choose not to care about these things, but take the initiative to coax your mother-in-law, she may understand you and even have some good feelings for you.

The third is married life. You know, marriage is the grave of love. Once you enter into marriage, the relationship between husband and wife can easily fade.

And at this time, if you don't have children, then your relationship may still last. But if you have children, there may be a lot of conflicts between you. For example, the education of the child, or the child's upbringing.

At this time, if you can't communicate well, then, the relationship between you is likely to break down. Of course, this is also a bad outcome. But if you can communicate well with your husband, perhaps, he will change his attitude towards you.

Fourth, it is disrespectful to elders. You know, we are taught from a young age to honor our parents and respect our elders. However, when you get married, you and your partner don't understand this truth, and even behave disrespectfully with your elders.

Just imagine, such a family, do you think it will have a good development?

In some traditional societies, the male members of the family usually take on more responsibilities, both economic and social. Therefore, the traditional family model is that the son stays in his parents' home after he gets married, lives with his parents, and takes on the responsibility of caring for and supporting his father. This family model is also believed to ensure the continuity and stability of the family.

In addition, some seniors think that life with their son will be more secure and they can receive more attention and care. At the same time, some in-laws also believe that living with their sons can better pass on family culture and family values.

However, with the development of society and the diversification of cultures, this traditional family model is gradually changing. More and more people are looking for independence and autonomy, wanting to be able to choose their own way of life and where they live. At the same time, with economic and social development, older people can also enjoy more benefits and care and do not have to rely entirely on their children.

Therefore, the in-laws' tacit belief that their son should live with his son after marriage is gradually changing.