Can you forgive those who have hurt you?

In terms of feelings, I will not forgive the person who has hurt me, because feelings are not child's play, and if you hurt me by some means, I will hate him for the rest of my life.

Yes, because everyone makes mistakes, you can't forgive him, you can only forget the harm he brought you, after a long time, you forget, it doesn't matter, it's really like this, it was difficult to forgive before, but after a year or two, it's really insignificant to think about it, so it's relieved!

Haruki Murakami said, "When you get through the storm, you're not the same person anymore. "People have feelings, it is impossible to be unconscious after being hurt, some hurts, there is no way to forgive, because it is a suffocating pain, it hurts when you touch it, it is lying there and there is no way to smooth it out.

There is a saying that to forget to hurt is to betray oneself. Because the scar is good and forgets the pain, it will continue to hurt again and again. There are two things in this world that cannot be looked at, one is the sun and the other is the human heart.

For the rest of your life, you don't have to embarrass yourself, and you don't have to take the time to forgive people and things that deliberately hurt you. I believe that everyone is born with kindness, but be kind and measured. Some people, some things, you don't have to forgive, let alone pretend to be generous, you are not a saint.

Life is already hard, and we don't need to obsess over the hurt and pain. The injuries I have experienced still hurt every time I think about them, but obsessing over these pains will only continue to consume my emotions, and even extend the sequelae of this injury to people and things in my life. There is a saying that after experiencing harm, you think that all people come with knives, and later I can realize that when we reach a kind of emotional peace, we can treat people and things more rationally.

You can not let these injuries keep disturbing your life, you can not forgive, but you must reconcile with yourself, I often think, what kind of attitude should I have towards life, so that I can bring him some good education when I have a child in the future, so that he can grow into a healthy, positive, optimistic person. A lot of times, I don't know how to really comfort someone who is out of love, I fully understand that pain, but there's no way to tell them how to get out. Because every relationship is incomparably precious and important to the parties involved.

There are many solutions to things in the world, but only feelings, only when a needle is pricked to oneself do you know the pain, and you don't feel the same thing at all. But what we need to admit is that don't waste time on people who don't deserve it, people who hurt you will only hurt you repeatedly, and the more you hurt, the harder it will be to love someone later. It's like a cup you like very much, and one day there is a crack, and you are reluctant to throw it because you like it, but that gap is like a thorn piercing into your flesh, but it stings you from time to time.

Fate is turned in the world, living in the world is nonsense, and in the face of those difficulties that are not enough for outsiders, we can only choose to be optimistic and choose to reconcile with ourselves. You have to love yourself as if you have never been hurt; You have to believe in love as if you were never betrayed.

I will forgive those who have hurt me. Because it's his injuries that make me so strong. So as time goes by, some people who have hurt me, often I choose to laugh it off and choose to forgive him.

Everyone will eventually forgive everyone who has hurt them. No matter how painful it is, how unbearable it is, when you live a better life, you will find that it is they who make your happiness at the moment thicker and more precious. When you think of them, there is no hatred, only some light memories, and the remaining beauty.

Each of them has become a meaning of your life, where it should have been, and it has made a difference in your future. It is not uncommon to hear people say, "I will not forgive those who have hurt me even if I die."

But have you ever thought about it, does anyone really make you hate it to the bone? You are so persistent and unwilling to let go, and you refuse to forgive, and in the end it is only you who is imprisoned.

Because, the person you hate will not live in your feelings, and the person who can't get happiness in it is yourself. So, why not forgive the person who has hurt you and set yourself free? The true meaning of love in the Bible is described as follows: "Love is long-suffering and kind.

Love is not envy, it is not boastful, it is not arrogant, it does not do anything shy, it does not seek its own good, it does not become quick to anger, it does not count the evil of men, it does not like unrighteousness, but it loves the truth. Bear all things, believe all things, hope all things, endure all things. Love never ends.

Forgive those who have hurt you, and you will reap the rewards of a new life.

Therefore, let go of the hatred of others and let him go with the wind, not only for yourself, but also for others.

I won't forgive, and it's hard to forgive. It's just a matter of letting go of yourself.

There is a very amazing point in the strange saying, Ma Dong said: With the passage of time, we will eventually forgive those who have hurt us. Cai Kangyong said: That's not forgiveness, that's forget it.

This sentence, that's forget it. It perfectly interprets the attitude towards past grievances that we have not been able to express. It is impossible to forgive, just forget it.

In fact, many things, no matter how painful, annoyed, and struggling they were, they would become light and light after many years, and the years would be quiet. Did we forget? No, it's just that I couldn't fight back at the time, so I had to forget it.

However, when you think of the people and things that hurt you back then, your heart still aches faintly.

In fact, only the parties know best what is right and which is wrong. The difference between people is that there is always a small group of people who demand others with high standards and hold themselves to low standards. Some people have already hurt someone for the first time and will have to do it a second time, so forgiveness is impossible for someone who has hurt you.

However, sometimes it is difficult to admit that you have hurt others, and there are some people in life who, after poking you in the sore spots, blame you for not being generous enough, too narrow-minded to make jokes.

I saw a passage on Weibo: Whether old grievances are worth pursuing, report them on the spot if there is a grudge, how many people can do it, but the grievances left behind have to be endured day by day, year after year.

We calmly say that we are comfortable to let go of many things, but we know that we have not let go, and it is impossible to let go, we can only pretend that they do not exist or are used to bearing it, and the powerful time is fragile at this time, overwhelmed by hatred.

Although we often say that we are grateful to those who have hurt us and made them stronger, do you really forgive him in your heart? Actually, you didn't forgive him, you just forgot it.

So for those who have hurt us, you can choose not to forgive, but you must let go. You didn't forgive him, you just let yourself go.

I will not forgive anyone who has hurt me. They were so cruel to me, why should I forgive them and give them a chance to hurt me again.

I will not forgive the person who has hurt me, because once he hurt me and left a deep mark in my mind, and I will never forgive it in my life.

No, they didn't take my feelings into account when they hurt me, and they didn't think about how much damage it would cause me, so I wouldn't give them another chance to bully me.

I will forgive the person who has hurt me, because he may have hurt me unintentionally, and if I don't forgive him, the rift between us will always exist.

I will not forgive people who have hurt me, because I am a person who holds a lot of grudges, and the hurt of others to me is like a thorn in my heart that cannot be pulled out.

I will not forgive. Because if it hurts, it hurts, and even if they make amends, but the damage has already been done, I won't forgive them.

I will not forgive someone who has hurt me, because once this person has hurt me, I will remember it for a long, long time, and there will always be a hurdle in my heart that I can't overcome.

No one will forgive a person who has hurt you, that is not the psychology of a normal person, not hating is already the greatest kindness, forgiveness is impossible.

I will forgive those who have hurt me, because hatred can only make me more painful, and I will be generous to forgive the other person.

I will not forgive anyone who has hurt me, since there is a first time, there will definitely be a second time, and I will not give him a second chance to hurt me.

I will never forgive, I don't even bother to have emotions with him, I am a psychopath, I treat each other with my sincerest, friendliest, and most selfless feelings, even better than myself, so that it is like self-abuse, this is my own way, if you feel out of breath, you can say no to me, I will change until both parties are relaxed, free, comfortable, but you use my kindness to hurt me, it just can't be 300% good to you, and I hope you will make up for it, if I retaliate against you, the harm will be thousands, and I choose not to be emotional It's gentle enough.

No, the verbal violence you took the lead in junior high school took me a lot of time to adjust my mentality, or hide it. I will get better and stronger, and you, I will never forgive, if I see you again, I will unceremoniously slap the past.

Won't forgive. I actually hate it in my heart, and I forgive it on the surface, but I always remember that hurt in my heart, one by one.

Won't forgive. I won't pursue it, because they are all passers-by in the red dust, and they don't have boundaries, everyone lives their own lives and takes care of themselves! Too much pursuit, no point!

Not only forgiveness, but also thanks! Because everything you have, it turns out that it is not up to you! God has naturalized you a long time ago.

But you have to guess what is in God's heart in order to give thanks wisely! The other party's injury is to create your bullwhip, and you must not leave or abandon it, otherwise, you will never return!

I will never forgive, and I will avoid her when I see her.

Of course I can forgive the people who hurt me, after all, I am still very tolerant of others, and I feel that I must learn to let go of everything.

No. Maybe over time, there will be a slow relief, but there will be no forgiveness.

I won't forgive, but I'll let myself go, and that person doesn't matter anymore.

I won't, I won't forgive, I will treat myself as an enemy.

I can't, but I will put down my posture and look forward to Cong Lao and work hard to live, but I will take revenge when I have the opportunity. If one day you reach a certain height, the person who has hurt you may not bother to deal with him or her.

Those who have hurt you and framed you, they are not alone in harming you, but along with you and every family member, relatives and friends behind you. If you want to easily forgive those bad people, you can't be the master, you don't have that qualification, you have to ask them if they agree.

Why did Guo Degang say in an interview: "If you don't know any situation, you must be generous, you have to stay away from him, and he will be affected by thunder." "Many people think that he is narrow-minded and will be revenged.

But do you know the blows and suppression that Guo Degang was subjected to before he became famous? Do you know how much suffering and even humiliation he went through to get to where he is today? Do you know how many betrayals and failures he has experienced in the past?

Hou Yaowen once said that Guo Degang has not been easy all the way, and he is bound to be jealous and hateful. Hou Yaowen's words can only be said by knowing Guo Degang better than Guo Degang's parents.

Article 7 of Mr. Lu Xun's last words, "Those who damage other people's teeth and eyes, but oppose retaliation, and advocate tolerance, should never approach him." This is exactly the same as Guo Degang's words. It's always the case:

For unknown reasons, without knowing it, people who blindly persuade you to be generous and must forgive are either stupid or bad! Those people, they either close their eyes and talk about some empty big truths, they don't have backache when they stand and talk, or they have ulterior motives!

Or Mr. Lu Xun's last words, "I have many enemies, if someone of the new style asks me, what about it?" I thought about it for a while, and decided that I would not forgive any of them if they were resentful.

As we all know, "a man's words are good when he is dying". Mr. Lu Xun knew that he would soon die, but he still said that he would not forgive those former enemies, was he narrow-minded? No, it's because he understands human nature!

Whether he forgives or not, the bad guy or the bad guy, the bad guy won't change their evil nature just because of Lu Xun's dying word of forgiveness!

If you want to forgive someone, then you have to meet these three conditions:

1. Your strength is strong enough to destroy the other party but it does not trigger;

2. The bad guy has completely lost any ability to do any further evil;

3. The residual conscience and humanity in the hearts of bad people cover up the evil side, and they have abandoned evil and turned to good.

Only if you have these three can you be qualified to say, "Forget about the past!" ”