Second married couples are often difficult to be happy, what is the reason for this?

Because you have already been hurt in your first marriage, you should be careful to restrain yourself when starting your second marriage, and most of your second marriages are with children, which usually leads to family disputes.

The reason is that they have been divorced and lack a sense of trust in their other half, and then they will also care more about their former children.

The reason is that the second-married couple is not sincere enough, the two people lack an emotional foundation, and if there are children in the middle, it will also lead to family disharmony.

The biggest problem is the children, they are all estranged, both sides want to think about their children, different positions, there will be more disputes. In addition, they will also care about each other's past, and no one can completely ignore each other's past.

The reason is that they are all injured people, so they are just trying to make the family whole again, and there is no emotion, so they are not happy.

Because they have all been hurt in their relationship, it is difficult to give all their sincerity to another person. Second marriages often have a feeling of making do with life.

Under normal circumstances, the second marriage should be happy, because everyone has experience, and it is normal to get married in a hurry anymore, and it is normal to prefer lack to excess, after all, no one wants to be hurt again.

Because after experiencing the first relationship, they will cherish the second relationship very much, and they will also have a great sense of tolerance.

The first marriage is also endured in the end: marriage is the biggest insight in life: everyone may meet the wrong person. Whether it is a blessing or a curse can no one say.

There are many examples of second-married couples who love each other deeply, but they have not seen each other's children who love each other's children so far.

From a male and female perspective, respectively.

1: At present, the men in our country are still in the social group under the moral oppression of the family, and the support of a family is still solved by men most of the time. And the original child just suppresses the moral norms of men in our country, and also oppresses the possession of men's "competitive" spouses, and the chance of regret as a man's love for each other's children is very small.

2: From the perspective of women, women are naturally soft, more sensual, especially with the most powerful maternal halo, if women marry for the second time, if there is no child of their own, women will regard the original child as their other child, assuming that this child also has many advantages, women are higher than men in the degree of acceptance of children, but when women have their own children, women will slowly transfer the "maternal love" of each other's children to their own bodies. Because of limited energy, women can't share too much love for everyone, and their children don't need to be wronged because of other people's children.

If a child would rather treat her child badly, then does she still have the brilliance of maternal love, and the aura of being a mother will also dim.

Tips for second-married couples to get along happily: give each other a little more trust, give each other a little time to adapt, treat each other's relatives with heart, mention less about the previous marriage, learn the lessons of the past, and cherish the present.

1. Give each other a little more trust: Because the grinding file is a second marriage, there will inevitably be some contact with the ex, and these connections come from their children. So maybe after he marries you, he will also contact his ex from time to time to ask if there are any other problems in the child's recent life, and then he should trust the other party.

2. Give each other a little time to adapt: Give each other a little time to adapt, because you have some other habits that he may not be able to change for a while. So give each other a little more time.

3. Treat each other's relatives attentively: Both sides of the second-married couple must have each other's ex-wives or ex-husbands, most of whom have their own children, and neither of them can pretend to be too exclusive of their existence, especially for each other's children and parents.

4. Don't mention the previous marriage: When you fall in love, you are taboo to mention the ex, otherwise there will be a lot of misunderstandings and contradictions with the current one, not to mention that two people who have re-formed a family should keep silent about the previous marriage, and no one doesn't care that their pillow person has been so close to another person.

5. Learn the previous lessons and cherish the present: Most divorced people will become more mature than before, because their ignorance and immaturity before led to a wrong marriage, so at the beginning of the second marriage, you should tell yourself to manage the current marriage well and don't let the tragedy happen again.

The author believes that whether it is a first marriage or a quarrel, a second marriage or a third marriage, the most important thing is to be honest and sincere. If you are not honest and sincere, no matter how many marriages you have, your marriage will not be happy.

If a second-married couple wants to live happily, they must forget the past, don't think about it, deal with the problems of children, respect each other, be tolerant, and take care of other family members.

1. Forget the past, don't think about it

Never compare anywhere in the past with the current one, don't compare the previous home with the current one, don't compare the previous housework with whom, in short, the comparison is harmful. Forget the past and let it pass.

2. Deal with children's problems

The child who forms the new family, as a stepfather or stepmother, should accept him and not indulge him. Children will one day build their own family, so you are the elder and you don't have to be hostile to your stepchildren and don't have to deliberately please them.

3. Respect each other

First of all, second-married couples must respect each other if they want to be happy. A good family life requires respect for each other, whether it is the other's living habits or work habits, whether it is the other's circle of friends or his interpersonal relationships, they all need to be respected. Respect for each other makes life better.

4. Three chapters of the Covenant

Whether it is a first-married family or a second-married family, it is still good to establish a good family life and formulate some rules, the three chapters of the covenant will let each other know each other's bottom line and principles, and there can also be some terms and systems to let each other get more happiness and a sense of belonging.

5. Be tolerant and take care of other family members

Those who start a family should understand the importance of tolerance. It is necessary to take into account the other people in the family, and also take into account the feelings of the other party, so that they can get along better and enjoy happiness and beauty.