How should I educate my son from four generations?

Please, this is your child. Until the child reaches the age of 18, it should be supervised by a parent. First of all, I think there is less communication and interaction between you and your child, and there is a lack of family affection.

Secondly, it is not good for the elderly to be too protective of their children, and it will make them feel the idea of saying "I am the biggest at home". The situation that children still beat the elderly is because they love their children too much. I don't know if you've ever heard a story about a child who liked something when he was a child and stole it back, and he thought his mother would scold him, but he didn't.

Then there was the first time, the second time (omitted), and then he was put to death, and then the child came to blame his mother for why he didn't scold him in the first place.

However, this is not always the case for your children. Of course, I'm just giving an example. Now it is necessary to educate with all your heart, so that the children will not say it in the future, why didn't they talk about me in the first place.

But you should also communicate more with your parents so that they don't always protect him, it's not good. Let them think about when they first educated themselves, they must not have loved it so much!

Teach children not to hit as soon as they make a mistake. You need to let him reflect on himself. And also.

You need to communicate with the elderly, and analyze in detail with them what the consequences will be if you spoil your children according to their methods, and you should communicate more with your children to let them know that your original intentions are good, but the methods are wrong. You need to work with the elderly and children to find out what is suitable for you.

You should accompany him more, not fight. You are a father, and you have to act like a father. The Son does not teach the Father.

Now that every family is one child, and most parents are only children, so that children have become the treasures of many adults, so how should a family of three generations educate their children?

As the core of the "421" family, every move of the child is the joy, anger and sorrow of two generations of six parents. For eating, for learning, for all kinds of things in life.

There is a big difference between the two generations in the way they discipline their children. In such a family environment, children will inevitably develop bad habits such as willfulness, selfishness, and domineering. What to do?

There are many ways to do this, and the key is to discuss more often, gradually reach a consensus, and pay attention to the following principles in the process:

First, don't exaggerate your differences in front of your children. Young'Parents should reach a consensus with the elderly: when one party is disciplining the child, even if the other party has objections, they should not belittle or blame the other party in front of the child.

Wise children will exploit the differences between the two generations of disciplinarians to achieve their own ends. For example, he knows what kind of requests are easy to pass on which side; If you make the mistake of slowing down and want to escape punishment, you can move who will be the "protector" ......This will encourage the child's opportunistic habits and make it difficult for him to reverse his bad habits. Children who are relatively responsible will be caught up in disputes between their parents and the elderly. This situation is equally bad, and it is a huge blow to the formation of children's autonomy.

Second, even if there are differences between the two generations, do not belittle the authority of the other side. It is important to know that the disappearance of authority, whether from young parents or from old people, is terrible, and in a family where authority is lost, the child's stubborn nature will become a wild horse, and at that time it will be extremely difficult to reverse a small bad habit of the child.

Moreover, young parents are not necessarily right, such as the concept of labor, politeness, diligence and thrift, etc., which are generally valued by the elderly, and are the "details" that young parents do not look down on. However, this is the weakest part of the contemporary one-child hidden group model girl, and it is precisely from this that the most needed qualities in modern society, such as diligence, team spirit, friendliness and integrity, are derived. Shouldn't our young parents reflect on it?

Third, even if the differences cannot be eliminated for the time being, neither of the two generations of educators should strive for children's feelings or friendship preferences in a doting way, and encourage children to distance themselves from each other.

For young parents, adopting a humble and inquiring attitude towards the older generation is conducive to peace and elimination of differences, and many simple experiences are universal; At the same time, it is also necessary to pay attention to the new trends in the physical and mental development of children, pay attention to the blind spots that are difficult to solve even with simple experience, and take the initiative to communicate with the elderly to persuade the older generation to learn new information and new concepts in this area, which is another shortcut to eliminate differences.