What kind of personality flaws might parents often yell at their children?

Rebellion is normal, when entering the period of puberty, because of the physiological and psychological understanding of rapid growth and development, the child's personality will change dramatically, and it is very easy to quarrel with the parents, but as long as the parents solve the problem properly, they can survive the rebellious period peacefully. However, if the child is born to grow up in an environment where he is yelled, the rebellious psychology will be more serious.

When they were young, in order to be able to promote their strengths and avoid weaknesses, they would obey their parents, this kind of obedience is not sincere, but it will make the child feel ashamed and unconvinced, this mood has been accumulated in the child's heart for a long time, and when puberty comes, it will appear, the child will become very rebellious, manic, and even with the parents, and even if the puberty is over, this rebellious character will not subside.

Children are born to please their parents, this is an instinctive reaction, everyone knows that parents can take care of themselves and raise themselves to grow up, so they will be very attached to their parents and please their parents when they are young. This will also gradually disappear as the child develops. If a child still has such a personality even when he grows up, it proves that the yelling teaching has already distorted his personality.

When parents yell at their children, the child's fighting spirit will be focused, extremely nervous, and finally rise to fear. This kind of fear will follow the child for the rest of his life, even if the parents do not use such a loud voice to talk to the child in the future, as long as the tone is strict, the child will be worried. The child will begin to become more sensitive, timid, and unconfident, and in order to alleviate this fear, the child wants to please his parents, not allow his parents to be angry, and do everything according to his parents' wishes.

When entering society, the child will also retain this character, and will actively please those who are more assertive than us, and willingly be forced, so that he will be very easily led astray. Therefore, yelling teaching is incorrect, and parents do not generally use yelling to educate their children culturally. Patience is a prerequisite for parents' teaching, and children's development is a gradual process.

If you want to raise children well, you must understand them, understand their innermost thoughts, listen to what children say, and look at things from the perspective of children.

Professional knowledge is not mastered, can be grasped by spending more time, learning is not developed, can be improved by changing the teaching method, but the child's personality is wrong, which will take a long time to make up, and even a lifetime can not be recovered, parents must be cautious when teaching.

They will be very withdrawn, or very irritable, unwilling to communicate with others, and the personality of parents will seriously affect the growth of children.

It will make the child very irritable, sometimes there is no way to calm down, self-control is very poor, and sometimes it will be very inferior and negative.

It will lead to the child's low self-esteem, and it will also lead to the child's very humble relationship, and it will lead to a very poor relationship between the child and the parents, and will also affect the child's future learning state, and will affect the child's mood and emotions.

We often teach our children to be honest and down-to-earth. However, when children are subjected to violence by children, parents will also let their children know how to take care of themselves and not be bullied.

Children who are "yelled" at will have a variety of personality flaws, what should parents do?

If you really provoke your principles and provoke you, you will definitely "fight" with the bear child, don't spare the other party. The reason why we don't provoke right and wrong is because we love to be quiet and love to live peacefully with others. But if someone really provokes your principles and provokes you, you must not choose to be safe because of fear, like this will only increase the unscrupulousness of the bear child.

"Fighting" with the other party to the end, encouraging the children to tell us and the school, can make the other party reflect on their own behavior and at the same time change their ways.

In fact, the "cause" of many school violence is often the kind of bear children who are afraid of the strong and bully. We are always lenient with others, and do not care about others, this principle of doing things is right. But once we touch the bottom line of our principles, we will turn our faces when we should turn our faces, and we will not back down.

In this case, the abuser will usually back down and dare not continue to bully you.

Parents want their children to become kind, benevolent and benevolent people, but endless fear and forbearance are not good cultivation. However, it may make children not remember what they are pursuing, and it is easy to lose themselves, endlessly cater to others, become a good person, and even form a "pleasing personality".

In terms of heads-up, which one is stronger, Lu Bu or Cao Cao? Why can the latter prevail over the former? This is because the "latter" knows better how to make friends with heroes from all over the world and knows how to make friends. The "former" is arrogant and arrogant, thinking that only he can do it.

Therefore, in the face of the bullying of the bear child, having a group of friends who stick a knife in your ribs will also make the abuser back down. Such children will often grieve themselves in order to make others happy, and can only cry secretly, which is very detrimental to the sound character and physical and mental changes.

Communicate with your child more, you should not use some good tone to communicate with your child, and you should not use some loud ways to communicate.

Parents should be calm and round, have patience to communicate with their children, usually do not yell at their children, do not quarrel in front of their children's pure socks, do not fight in front of their children, and learn to listen. It is also necessary to play a high-quality accompaniment.

Parents should calmly tell their children that if their children do something wrong, they should also tell their children what is the right thing to do. Tell your child not to make the mistake of being a pure pickpocket next time.

Parents should have a correct communication with their children when they encounter or encounter anything, and they should also have a correct way of education.

Parents can take their children out to travel, or they can take their children out to play, or they can take their children out shopping, or they can take their children out to watch movies, or they can take their children out to buy things and lift their limbs.

Children will be particularly weak, especially inferior, and have no self-confidence, and if parents often yell at their children, they will form these fatal character defects.

Children who grow up in the yelling of their parents are prone to low self-esteem, are afraid of certain movements in the outside world, and will also cower into the character defect of thieves.

The most basic thing to do as a parent is to yell at the child, sometimes the child is ignorant and annoyed, and sometimes he can't bear the fire in his heart. All in all, few parents dare to make sure that they never yell at their children. However, children who grow up in the loud shouting of their parents are prone to three personality defects, which are very detrimental to the growth of children, and parents should attach great importance to them.

Parents are the best teachers for their children, and they are both the targets of their children's imitation. If parents only teach their children by scolding and yelling, then when the child is unhappy or has a mentality, he will only vent according to the way of temper tantrums. It will become **, the child is short-tempered, and it will be difficult for parents to teach in the future, so it is said that this kind of bad emotional catharsis is easy to hurt others, and interpersonal communication will be poor.

Therefore, parents should pay more attention to their own education methods, and learn to make decisions when they are good.

Some children have better personalities, and usually parents reprimand their children at home, and the problem is not visible. If parents do not take into account their children's self-esteem and shout loudly in front of outsiders as always, the children will feel very embarrassed, and they will resist the parents' education methods in their hearts, and become more and more rebellious. For a long time, the child is tired of talking and shouting, hating others to express opinions for him, and it is very easy to ignore good and bad words, and feel that advice is contrary to the ear and good for action, and the child will not listen to it, and it will be easy to fall on this issue in the future.

Just imagine, children are often reprimanded by their parents, and their opinions are often denied, how can children have self-confidence? It is important to remember that no child grows up without annoying his parents, and the same is true for children with weak temperaments, but if parents still choose to beat and scold education, the child's character will be very weak, less and less confident, cowardly, and worrying in the future.

What kind of person a child will become in the future is closely related to the way parents are educated. If parents do not want their children to have shortcomings in their temperament in the future, they must use less scolding and yelling, and can adopt scientific and reasonable methods such as corporal punishment, cold violence, punishment and housework to educate their children, so that children can realize their mistakes and feel that their parents love them.

Children who grow up with yelling at their parents are prone to two fatal character defects:

1. It is easy to form a pleasing personality;

Second, the child becomes more rebellious.

Children are naturally relatively lively and very naughty, and it is inevitable to make mistakes in daily life. Many parents will take the way of yelling at their children when they make mistakes and are naughty, but they don't know that this way will bring a lot of harm to their children, not only to make their children's hearts hurt, but also to make their children's bodies harmful. For example, it is easy to lead to low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, and the child's temper is very irritable, which may also lead to serious stress in the child, and finally affect the growth and development.

Parents who are too strict with their children and take improper ways to educate their children will lead to the gradual loss of self-confidence and introverted personality, which will enhance the psychological pressure of children. If the child itself is more sensitive, then the parents yelling at the child for a long time will cause irreparable psychological damage to the child, and may not want to communicate with others, and in severe cases, it will also lead to the child's autistic tendency.

Parents are the mentors of their children, so parents often communicate with their children through the improper way of coaxing their children, and the children will also learn this way, and after a long time, they will be very irritable and irritable. The way parents do things is the vane of their children's way of doing things, children will imitate like their parents, and may even disrespect their parents in the future, shout, and when they have conflicts with others, they will also solve problems through violence, which will have a great impact on children's socialization.

If the child is in adolescence and is more rebellious, parents disciplining the child in this inappropriate way will stimulate the child's inner rebellion, and the child will often want to challenge the authority of the parents and act against the parents, forming a bad circle and intensifying the relationship between parents and children. Parents will also lose the opportunity for their children to communicate, and children will form a kind of protective wall for their parents to distance themselves from each other.

Children who are often yelled at by their parents are prone to these two defects: 1. Children will become more and more introverted and timid. It's easy to be overlooked because of your inexpressive and introverted personality.

2. Inferiority complex and sensitivity. Afraid of mistakes, dare not try, this is the first step of inferiority, inferiority for a long time, become the most inconspicuous person in the corner, everything has to hide behind, never dare to take on new challenges, not good at seizing new opportunities.

Children are particularly timid, their personalities will become very introverted, their hearts will be particularly sensitive, the relationship between children and their parents will be particularly poor, and children will become particularly rebellious and resentful.

Children often feel conceited, have low self-esteem, and often do not take the initiative and do not communicate when interacting with others. It leads to the injury of the child's young heart and the lack of love. I don't want to communicate with my father in the rest of my life. Children are also prone to violence. Emulate the actions of your parents.

Around us, as long as you pay a little attention to Hanyuan, you will find that there are many parents who often yell at their children. They think that they are parents, they can yell at their children and even point fingers, they think that by yelling at their children, they can make them submit to themselves.

In fact, this is just wishful thinking on the part of parents, who don't know their children at all. If parents often yell at their children, it can cause many problems for their children. The analysis is as follows:

1.I often encounter children whose parents yell at them, but they are actually convinced on the outside, but according to the research of psychological experts, most children are actually not convinced in their hearts. It's just that they don't talk about their inner sadness, but just because they don't have to say it doesn't mean they don't have advice for their parents.

According to the survey, children who are often yelled at by their parents will find ways to resist their parents and alienate their parents. The most common situation is that they are not good at words in front of their parents, do not want to communicate with them, and do not want to share things with their parents.

In their hearts, there is a gap and distance between them and their parents.

2.Parents like to yell at their children, and as children, they are likely to form the habit of yelling, which will have a negative impact on the development trend of children's personality.

My friend, despite the fact that she is often not good at words and refuses to speak to her classmates, is very comfortable with her quiet appearance. But once when everyone saw her, they yelled at her own mother, as if they were very tired of their own mother from the bottom of their hearts.

It makes us feel quite unreasonable when we see it, because it does not match her elegant appearance and usual character. Later, I figured out that when she was a child, her parents always yelled at her, so she formed that kind of personality.

3.Parents often yell at their children, which will make children form a character of love to avoid and have no patience, because parents yelling means that they lack careful communication with their children, and they have no patience to teach their children to do what they should do, so children are also prone to lack of care, and they are not willing to take the initiative to ask their parents when they encounter things that are not easy to do, and will also make children form a weak and only want to shirk their responsibilities.