Why are many women unhappy after marrying far away? There are several reasons

Nowadays, news is becoming more and more developed, and it is very easy to hear the voices of different age groups. Women's long-distance marriage has become a hot topic, and far-flung women, especially those who have had the experience of long-distance marriage, express their hearts in a variety of channels. A woman who marries far away has always revealed a kind of helplessness and a kind of life that is not easy.

Why do women who marry far away have such unpleasant life experiences, and do all women who marry far away have such a hard life? If it is negative, there are also some women who marry far away and live happily. Why are most women who marry far away unhappy?

It mainly includes these aspects:

After a woman marries far away, because of the main reasons of natural geography, the contact with the family is reduced, and it is rare for parents and friends to see each other for two years. Siqi is a native of the Northeast, and met her current husband when she was working in the south, this person is a northerner, and the two of them immediately considered getting married when they fell in love at first sight. At that time, the parents did not approve very much, because the distance was too far, Siqi repeatedly persevered, and the parents could only allow it.

After getting married, Siqi's contact with her family in her hometown became lower and lower, and it was rare to see each other for many years. Although the in-laws are all very good, the feeling of missing their hometown is getting stronger and stronger, and their hearts are becoming more and more bitter. Often crying quietly in the dead of night.,Sometimes the temperament is inexplicably bad.。

Sometimes when you are alone, you think about whether your decision was right in the first place.

Many women who marry far away do not have solid financial ability and do not have a long-term overall plan for their marriage. After getting married, many people will voluntarily give up their jobs for the sake of their babies and become housewives. Because he belonged to a distant marriage, his husband's own economic level was also weak, and most of them met when they were working together at that time.

After getting married, the cost of living increased significantly, and he lost his family's annual income and skills, and every pressure fell on the shoulders of his husband. The husband himself will not change much, the salary level cannot meet the expenses of the whole family, and he feels that the work pressure is very high. The differences between them are caused by economic development, and because of the lack of funds, it is difficult to completely resolve family disputes.

Every couple will have a run-in time after getting married, and there will be contradictions for various reasons, and the contradictions are not terrifying, but even more terrible and difficult to solve. A woman who marries far away, when she gets married, she comes to a distant place with infinite hope, and when she communicates with her family, she has always avoided the important and worried about her family's worries.

When a couple has a conflict, the general solution is to confide in family and friends, and then everyone helps to find a way to deal with it, and sometimes relatives and friends will personally go into battle to help solve the problem. But a woman who marries far away does not have this condition around her, so she can only deal with it by herself and in a way that she agrees with. Often, not only can the contradictions not be resolved, but often the problems are further expanded.

A woman who marries far away will regret her decision when there is a conflict between her husband and wife.

After a woman marries far away, many of them are unhappy, mainly because they are too far away from their parents' home, and their in-laws are not good enough for her and always bully her.

I think it may be because after a woman marries far away, she leaves her familiar circle and has no relatives and friends she is familiar with, so she always revolves around her husband and her small family, and after a long time, she comes back and loses herself, and she is not happy at all. Moreover, when they are wronged after getting married, they will not have no way to find their family and friends to vent their emotions, and if their emotions pile up, they will also feel particularly wronged.

Due to the remoteness of the region, the lack of dialects, and the different living habits, it is easy to cause a sense of strangeness and resistance in their hearts. Dialects are not understood, living habits are different, and husbands and wives are prone to conflicts; The mother's family is not around, weak and has nothing to rely on; I always feel indebted to my husband, and I feel indebted to my parents.

1. Discomfort from homeSecond, the troubles of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law3. Happiness depends on luckFourth, a man who says he will changeIn fact, many men will use rhetoric to deceive women before getting married, and they will make a lot of promises to be good to you in the future, but after getting married, because they are facing a lot of pressure, they need money for all the firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea in their livesAfter living for a period of time, you will find that it is not as good as you imagined, and at this time, you will slowly become cold to your own woman.

This phenomenon is very common though. But the reason for this is a lack of confidence in oneself. To have happiness in their home.

Learn to understand others. Know your talents, know your abilities, and show your best self to each other. So that they can't live without you.

We must learn to respect ourselves. It's good to gather and disperse.

The daughter who married far away is destined to be the child lost by her parents, and she really cried after reading it....

No way! I'm also married far away, and I have our friends, so I think it's very good. Of course, I was a little uncomfortable at first, but slowly I got used to it.

It's not that all of them are unhappy, it's really fate

Because the cultural region is ......There are a lot of differences.

There are two situations of long-distance marriage, one is that the parents are not good to their daughter Pei Song'er, and the daughter is sad and chooses to marry. Another kind of parents are very good to their daughters, which leads to their daughters being rude and willful, and parents wish their daughters would marry far away, and their parents can't stand the toss of their daughters when they are old.

The woman who marries far away is the biggest in this problem.

Compromise. Every parent doesn't want their daughter to marry far away, and women before marriage always can't understand their parents' thoughts too much, they all think that marrying far away is nothing, but the difficulty is indeed that life brings them involuntarily.

Girls are always the one who makes concessions in marriage, and this rule has long been written into everyone's subconscious in thousands of years of traditional culture. Once a woman is married, it means that she has to say goodbye to her mother's family, and say goodbye to her past self, thinking that she is married to happiness, but in fact, she is married to a long period of loneliness, even if there is no New Year's holiday, the busy work and family on weekdays also make a woman's way home extremely difficult.

The water spilled by the married daughter is a stereotypical rule that is deeply rooted in the hearts of the Chinese people.

Nowadays, unlike a few decades ago, most families have several children, and even if someone is not there, it will not seem too lonely on the day of reunion. But there are more and more single-child families nowadays, and every child has been pampered since childhood, and it is difficult for the elderly to accept it from the bottom of their hearts when they grow up, which is why the contradiction of who to spend the New Year at is becoming more and more intense.

Before marriage, people will naively think that love can overcome everything, and life after marriage is still a matter of rules. At the wedding, he swore that "he will dig wherever he is", but the times will always be there, and there will always be a little loosening of the original deep-rooted ideas.

Some things just can't have it both ways, and no matter how you choose, you will still end up in a dilemma and will not get a satisfactory result. Not all questions will have a fixed answer, and not all enthusiasm should be answered.

The husband and wife may be able to set a rule in advance on this matter, but it is not suitable to add some rules and regulations to future marriages, which will do more harm than good to the health of the marriage. Perhaps the best thing for both husband and wife to do when facing this problem is to be understanding and tolerant, and make the greatest concessions, and maybe the problem can be solved.

1. The living habits of marrying far away are different, and I will inevitably feel lonely.

Whether a woman is married far or near, from a family she is familiar with to another family life, it is inevitable that she will be a little uncomfortable at first, and even more so for women who marry far away, women are naturally sensitive, and men cannot take care of this so carefully, and they will think that it is a woman's hypocrisy.

Second, the in-laws are not good to themselves.

The main reason for being unhappy is the second point, the in-laws are not good to themselves, of course, including the husband, in a strange environment, the husband is the home field, and he does not stand by his side to support himself and love himself, but when he is in collusion with his family, I think all women feel that they must have been blind at this time to find such a man.

My mother-in-law can bear it if she treats herself badly, but how can her husband endure it if she treats her badly?

3. It is too far away from my mother's family, and my family can't help me with something.

After many women get married and have children, they hope that the elderly will help take care of them, but their mother-in-law will not help, but they are too far away from home, and their parents cannot come to help them.

Thinking about the mother-in-law who loves her parents and makes things difficult for her everywhere, the sadness and grievances in her heart arise spontaneously, and it is strange to feel happiness.

But no matter whether you marry far away or not, the most important thing is to find a man who loves you, so a woman must take her eyes when choosing a husband, others are carried away by love and forget to consider the real problem, marriage is not a child's play, and it cannot be said that it will be scattered, especially if you have children.

When you encounter a bad marriage, you will either have the courage to break up, or you will suffer for a lifetime.

Although love has no borders and no regions, she seems to be very reasonable, and she has also been verified by many couples who marry and marry far away, but in reality, long-distance marriage and long-distance marriage are not as perfect as ideal, and couples or couples have to face many hurdles.

Those women who marry far away seem to be very happy, but in fact, they have experienced a lot of practical obstacles and psychological persuasion behind them to be able to get on the right track and a happy marriage.

Reality is multi-faceted, what you see may only be one side, but you have never seen many facts, so women who marry far away, only they know the bitterness and sweetness.

However, when choosing to marry far away, women, you ask your heart: "Are you really ready?" ”

Try to think about these three questions.

1. Do parents agree with each other?

After all, in the eyes of Chinese parents, most parents are reluctant to marry their daughters, for a very simple reason: "It is difficult to meet when you marry far away, and the information about whether your daughter is doing well is also isolated." ”

These are the two core reasons why parents are worried about and oppose their daughters' distant marriages.

2. Although they love each other, can couples and husbands and wives overcome differences in culture, region, customs, and habits to live together?

Love is beautiful, not into the step of marriage, she is a work of art, once into marriage, because to live together, all kinds of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea life will take turns, in such a situation, love is no longer a finely crafted work of art.

In this love, it is the woman, not the man, who needs to overcome the difficulties, because you are married far away, so you may have to endure the existence of some customs and living habits that you are not used to. For example, in terms of eating, the north eats pasta, while the south eats rice, can you get used to this lifestyle?

Furthermore, if a southern woman marries far away from the north, can you stand the character of a northern man? For example, machismo, not careful enough, big grin, etc.

Before getting married, love seems to be very beautiful in most cases, which may be an illusion that has not entered the state of life, which women must recognize. In other words, it is not completely impossible to marry a man from a foreign place, here is just to tell you the truth of the facts, you can recognize it, and then choose whether it is rational, correct, and what you want.

Marrying to a husband's house thousands of miles away, due to the remote region, dialect incomprehension, different living habits and other reasons, it is easy to cause their inner strangeness and resistance, which accumulates over time and causes great harm to the feelings of husband and wife.

A woman who marries far away is far away from her parents and siblings, and lives alone with her husband in a foreign land, and she does not dare to be willful when she is wronged, because there is no one around to support her. Although marrying far away and marrying near, there will be small fights between husband and wife, but when marrying far away, women will always feel that they have no confidence, so they silently bury their grievances in their hearts.

Many women who marry far away are difficult to be cherished by their husbands and their families, so they always feel that their husbands owe them. Once this "sense of indebtedness" is magnified, it is easy to cause the inner balance to tilt, and there is no scruple between indebtedness and demand, which can easily cause disagreement between husband and wife.

On the other hand, a woman who marries far away rarely sees her parents several times a year because of distance, financial ability, work, time and other reasons, and feels indebted to her parents, and is also prone to get into trouble with her husband because of the matter of returning to her parents' home.

Many women who marry far away do not have a solid economic foundation and do not have a long-term plan for their marriage. After getting married, many people will voluntarily give up their jobs for the sake of their children and become housewives. Because of the long-distance marriage, my husband's own economic strength is not strong, and most of them met when they were working together.

All couples will have a run-in period after marriage, and there will be contradictions for various reasons, and the contradictions are not terrible, but the terrible thing is that they cannot be solved. A woman who marries far away, when she gets married, she goes to a distant place with infinite hope, and when she contacts her family, she always reports good news but not bad news, afraid that her family will worry.