Why are people born lonely?

Thousands of years ago, the ancients set off the idea of good and evil.

Are we born a little more evil or a little more good?

The benevolent see the benevolent, and the wise see the wise.

We can't say whether human nature is good or evil in the final analysis, because there will always be people who can give different examples. Two sides of the same word. "Are we born to be lonely? "It's a two-sided question.

What is loneliness?

Loneliness is first and foremost a feeling, a psychological experience.

We all feel this way, without exception, and even a happy person can feel unspeakably lonely in the dead of night. If you are interested in "what it is like to be lonely", you can go to my homepage to see the previous one. I won't go into detail here.

As for whether we are born to feel lonely, I personally prefer to say it on the whiteboard. It's not innate, we are born with a blank piece of paper, any color is acquired, whether it is melancholy blue, or happy pink, it is the acquired environment. You can shape it in any color, as long as the environment is complete enough.

And loneliness is one of them, we get used to it, we are changed by our family, society, we learn how to protect ourselves, and we become lonely. No one is born lonely, and this emotional experience is actually acquired.

Once we think that we are lonely individuals in this world, we will realize that we cannot rely on others for everything in this world, but only on ourselves.

But lonely people actually need love and warmth more.

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1. Loneliness may be hereditary.

You may have inherited loneliness from your parents. Studies have shown that there are about 15 genetic variants that can make you feel lonely easily. It is this trait that makes you want to distance yourself from others.

Introverts are a good example of hereditary loneliness. These people prefer a life of seclusion. They have a taciturn demeanor and are overwhelmed by the social activities of many people.

Some people are naturally introverted, while others develop this personality because of the way they were raised.

2. Expecting too much from friends.

Have you ever felt lonely with a group of friends? Well, it's possible to feel that way. Having a lot of friends doesn't guarantee that you won't feel lonely. Friendships are built on relationships, and there are often feelings attached to them.

If you don't feel connected to your many companions, you will feel lonely. People with a tendency to loneliness think that having friends can help them solve their problems. Unfortunately, not everyone in your social circle will come to your aid when you're in trouble.

There will be very few people to support, so you should strive to develop friends who have quality rather than quantity.

If you go looking for friends, you will find that they are very scarce. If you go out and be friends, you'll find them everywhere. ”

3. You're too nervous.

Some people often keep their "guards", which makes it difficult for them to connect with other people. If you're the type of person who keeps quiet at social gatherings and while others are talking, then you're contributing to your loneliness. This behavior can make it difficult for others to reach you and connect with you.

4. The fallacy of social **.

Ideally, socializing should bring people together, but ironically, it can make people feel lonely. How did this happen? People tend to post their best on social platforms, even if that's not the case.

When you're busy checking in on what your friends or colleagues have to say about their so-called "perfect life," you're likely to feel overlooked.

A recent study published in the Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology found an association between social** and loneliness.

Because each of us is an individual and has our own independent thinking ability.

and the ability to think, so rely on yourself, and these can be done. Then we will have partners, but partners cannot replace themselves, but can get along, so the human brain is still an independent individual. Therefore, people feel lonely because we always have to talk to ourselves and think independently with ourselves.

Face the problem alone and solve the problem alone.

Because everyone is an individual, no one will think the same as you, and no one else will have to be there for you when you are lonely!

People are born lonely, and that's because they're not good at socializing with others.

This is easy to understand, because people always have to learn to get used to being alone and taking care of their own life.

If you understand it this way, it is indeed lonely, because there are no people in the world who are exactly the same, even twins, whose thoughts cannot be the same.

Because when you reach a certain age, the people around you will slowly leave you.

When you are born, you come alone, and if you are introverted and unwilling to socialize, you will feel lonely, but in fact, loneliness is determined by your own personality.

Most of life is lonely, why? Because most of us are ordinary people. Ordinary means having an ordinary family, an ordinary job, and an ordinary group of friends.

Many people have dreamed of soaring, but reality is reality after all, how many can there really be soaring? Unless your platform itself is higher than others. So most of us, most of the time, spend our time slowly in the ordinary and lonely.

Thinking about life is actually quite sad, every time I return to my hometown in the countryside, I see those old people sitting at the door of the house, holding crutches in both hands, looking into the distance with dull eyes, looking like they are about to die. I recall what I saw when I was a kid, when they weren't that old, and they were still jumping up and down all day long, full of energy. Later, the weight of life continued to eat away at their energy, until they have come to this point.

For them, the rest of the time was nothing but a long period of loneliness and torment.

The sages of our forefathers once said, "Man must learn to face loneliness." "We are afraid of the ordinary and loneliness, but we must learn to face it first, because only by facing the bleak life can we find the sunshine from the cracks of existence. Whenever I look at those old people, I always wonder if my twilight years will be the same, what do I need to do now to change my life when I am old.

In fact, the reason why I feel lonely in life is nothing more than material deprivation and spiritual paleness. So my decision was to achieve financial freedom and read hard and work hard. In order to be materially rich, spiritually interesting, successful in learning, thoughtful and earning, no regrets in themselves, and contribute to society.

In this way, when I am dying, I will not sit and sigh that time is fleeting and nothing has been accomplished.

People who sit on the bench for ten years and can't stand the loneliness in front of them and are often ready to move are often the losers in life. I don't want to fail, and although I am lonely most of my life, I hope it is not forever lonely. This article is only for self-encouragement.

My daily life is constantly switching between three states. Sometimes I write something, sometimes I try something new, and sometimes I just want to catch a fish.

But no matter what state you are in, the impetuousness of the mind still exists, and even intensifies.

You can intuitively see that for me, I feel unusually tired when I only do things that are too repetitive for a long time, and I also have a slight headache.

Sometimes I think it's a disease, but in fact, I went to the hospital for a checkup the year before last, and it was indeed a disease. But I don't think that says much.

is like Su Hongyue wrote in Uncle Li's biography: "People are always lonely ,...... in this world."People need to join the WTO as well as ......Fill in the gaps in your life with many different experiences and share the content of your life. ”

Indeed, people are born alone, and if they want to spend every day in vain, they can only experience a lot after entering the WTO, and then keep their hearts and use their ambitions as the driving force for progress.

In this way, we can understand a lot of things, and we can know how far we are from what we want to be, so that we can give birth to the desire to actively seek knowledge, and thus gradually grow.

Related: Loneliness is a state of mind, and you have to learn to enjoy it.

Yes, the only one who can accompany you from beginning to end is yourself, so you must protect yourself, love yourself, and warm others when your heart is full of energy.

Yes, everyone has their own life and their own path to follow, even if there are people at a certain stage, but in the end they are alone.

Man is born alone"The meaning of this phrase is that each person is born alone, separate from the world. When people face various challenges and difficulties in life, they need to deal with and solve them themselves.

While people make friends, build families, have social circles, and have relationships, everyone ultimately has to live their lives in their own way. When an individual experiences loss, pain, or setback, no matter how many people around them support and accompany them, it is ultimately up to them to face and overcome them.

This sentence can be understood as a reminder to learn to be self-reliant, think independently and grow, and not to rely too much on others, and it also shows that everyone has their own unique life trajectory and destiny.

Along the way, you will find that at the end of life, you have to learn to live alone, someone to accompany you is lucky, and no one to accompany you is the norm.

When I say accompaniment, I don't mean that there is someone by your side, but that there is a person around you who knows you and understands you, and you understand him and knows him, but such a person, even if we spend our lives, it is difficult to find.

Life is destined to be lonely, you don't expect others to understand you, because the people who really understand you are almost no one except yourself, and sometimes, you can't even understand yourself, let alone others.

Walking on the road of loneliness, loneliness is normal, but if we continue to be lonely, we will become abnormal. Therefore, we must learn to practice in loneliness, cultivate our minds, find ourselves in loneliness, live our own lives, and live a wonderful life alone.

The essence of life is loneliness, and if you can't adapt to loneliness, you won't be able to live this life well, let alone live yourself.

Everyone is an individual and necessarily lonely.

The difference is that you are not forever alone in the long river of time. There are moments when you suddenly feel a little happier, a little more gregarious, but this fleeting pleasure is still alone in retrospect late one night.

Facing loneliness with dignity is the least lonely way of life, and I hope that we will be lonely all our lives, not flattering or pandering, and being flowers that bloom alone.

If you feel lonely, but you enjoy it, then you are really mature!!

It has been said that the more people at the top of the pyramid, the more lonely they are!!

Do you think that makes sense?

If so, what would it be?

Could it be that your spiritual position is already in a high position now, so you have experienced "the height is unbearable" and "the mountains are small"?

If so, are you glad? Or is it melancholy?

I believe you have your own answer!!