The problem of long distance relationship, please help solve it

Don't be in a hurry, I suggest you don't go to her in December, give her time and give yourself time to get to know each other better. She is afraid of a bad reputation because you are online dating, in fact, the reason why everyone resists online dating is because it is generally believed that netizens are less sincere with each other, and knowing who is online dating will think that this person is frivolous, but in the end, after a long time of contact into the marriage hall, everyone will say that fate is very wonderful and beautiful. In the rush to the psychology of yourself and her and her family, please calm yourself down and use time to prove whether this relationship is worth pursuing.

Actually, you don't understand what you want now, if you really love him so much, you should go, her problem will be corrected later, but I don't think you will be together, so you can do it yourself.

I saw it, this should be love, but this kind of love may not last long, maybe in a few years you will change your feelings for her, how to say! I suggest you chase it, it's still a good feeling, maybe there is no result, but after passing and feeling, it's also very good.

What do you take with you when you go, and do you go empty-handed? If you want to go, go ahead, the money is ready, and strive to capture her heart on the first day of meeting, Energizer is not too attached to her, but you can be generous and clever.

I suggest you check her out, and maybe there's something else you don't know.

1. The connection cannot be broken.

It is very important to keep in touch, even if it is just a text message every day, or make a **, but also let the other party know that he or she has him in his heart, and that the person he cares about and loves is him or her. Of course, the time and frequency of contact are different for each person, and it varies from person to person, but you can't break the contact.

2. Be common.

If possible, aim to meet at least once a month. Although it is said that distance produces beauty, for long-distance relationships, if you want to have a stable relationship, distance alone is not enough, you need face-to-face communication and communication, and you need to talk about love words and little secrets face-to-face, which is an important method and way to promote the feelings of both parties, and it is also essential.

3. Learn to create surprises.

Give the other person a different surprise, such as a love letter every week. Although there are a lot of communication tools that are fast and convenient now, they are not worth a love letter, and when you see each other's words and words, your heart will be warm, suitable for introverts to express their emotions, and it will also make each other's hard work and persistence in a long-distance relationship feel worthwhile.

4. Tolerance and understanding.

Good at taking advantage of the differences in thinking between men and women, tolerating and understanding each other. In fact, whether it is a boy or a girl, there will always be a lot of misunderstandings and incomprehensions in a long-distance relationship, and in order to better promote each other's feelings, you need to think from each other's point of view, know the difference in thinking between boys and girls, and you can tolerate and understand each other, which can reduce a lot of nonsense, and can also ensure the stability and sweetness of the relationship.

5. The correct way of communication.

Looking for the best way to communicate, in fact, even if the couple is in a city and meets every day, there will be times when they quarrel, not to mention that two people are not in the same place, it is inevitable that there will be a lot of quarrels, and they feel that the other party does not love themselves, or they feel that the other party has a new love and other ideas will make them tangled and uncomfortable, and a reasonable way of communication can effectively avoid this.

Find common topics, for example, if you both like to watch movies, make an appointment to go to the movies together, you watch it in your city, he and she watch it in his city, exchange experiences after watching it, and of course, you can also talk about what happened in the process of watching the movie, and so on, so that the long-distance relationship will also have endless topics.

7. Strive to be together.

Strive to live and work in a city as soon as possible, even if the best relationship can't withstand a long time of separation, even if the other party's love for you is firm, you need to live together, and experience the ups and downs together to be practical. In order to better promote the relationship between the two sides, it is necessary to strive for living and working in the same city as soon as possible.

Let's talk about long-distance relationships. When in a long-distance relationship, especially in this situation, girls tend to be insecure and suspicious of their boyfriends, and these situations can happen. A girl once wrote to me to confide in:

I met a fellow countryman by chance on a foreign business trip, and I can talk very well, and the boy is also a capable person, and he is very humorous, and he has met a few times in private and has a good impression of each other. Now that I have returned to China, he told me on WeChat that he likes me very much and wants to pursue me, and asked me if I would like to be his girlfriend. I like him very much and want to promise him.

But because it's too far away, it's very insecure, and I don't know what to do? ”

Frankly speaking, long-distance relationships are much more difficult than ordinary relationships, and long-distance relationships are even more difficult than long-distance relationships. If the client agrees to be together without confirming the relationship, I am not optimistic.

My opinion on long-distance relationships is:

1. If the two parties have not yet "established a relationship", a long-distance relationship is very difficult. People who are in a different distance with their female (boyfriend) friends will say "my girlfriend will often mess with me in **", "we only see each other once a month, and there are too few opportunities to meet", "I heard my colleague say that my girlfriend went out with a boy alone" and so on. Therefore, it is even more difficult to start a long-distance relationship before the two parties have "confirmed the relationship", and there will be many unknown risks.

Here, I would like to share with all the girls the idea that in a relationship that is intended to be premised on a long-term relationship, it is necessary to learn more about putting risks in front of them. For example, if you're not sure if the other person is genuine or intent on playing with you, you can challenge him by saying "Do you really like me?"

Are you really serious about pursuing me? Are you really planning to be in a long-term relationship with me? I'm very serious, so please be serious too.

I don't want to be mistaken. "To put it bluntly, don't be afraid to challenge men. Because only when you put the risk in front can you really control your risk to the minimum.

There are obstacles to getting along with each other in reality.

It is said that both parties in love need to run in. The run-in here cannot be limited to communication on the mobile phone, and the daily communication and interaction of two people need to be run-in.

If you haven't been together for a long time, the friction between the two people has not been revealed, and there is no way to communicate and solve it.

There are even problems of principle, but they are not found. This can easily lead to difficulties in getting along in the future.

How to solve the differences in food preferences, entertainment preferences, living habits, etc. between the two sides? Can it be solved? This needs to be coordinated and solved by getting along with each other in reality.

Therefore, for a long time, Sister Feng is not supportive. Love is invincible to get along, and only by solving the obstacles to getting along can we love each other better.

You must maintain a certain frequency of meeting and getting along, you can see each other once a month or once every two months, and you will know whether the other party is suitable for you after getting along.

Falling in love with a couple who doesn't often meet on the mobile phone, communicating with the mobile phone for a long time, it is easy for them to fall in love with the other party in the mobile phone.

When Sister Feng is in a long-distance relationship, she usually meets every two months or so.

When they met and got along, Sister Feng always felt that the feeling of a male ticket was not the same as chatting on a mobile phone. Then, often switch between these two senses.

In the end, it was only after a long period of time in reality that Sister Feng slowly understood what this person was like.

Sister Feng's own example is a negative teaching material, and everyone must remember that it should not be too long.

The understanding on the mobile phone is absolutely one-sided, and the person who gets along face-to-face is your living object.

Unable to be in a normal relationship.

Everyone's love pattern is different.

Some people are in a "brotherly" relationship, where the couple gets along with each other as straight as brothers;

Some people are in a "husband and wife" relationship, where the couple goes to the supermarket, buys groceries, and cooks together, like an old couple;

Some people are in a "first love" relationship, and the couple has always been affectionate, romantic, and in love.

And long-distance couples can't fall in love normally, so they can't cultivate a certain love pattern. When it's time to really get along, I don't know how to fall in love, and I will only imitate other people's love patterns, but it is difficult to choose the most suitable for myself.