Do you believe you are in control of your own destiny?

I understand what is good and what is bad, but I also know what belongs to me and what does not belong to me.

If I'm on the ground, I can touch the leaves of the trees, but I can't touch the moon in the sky, because that's reserved for the astronauts. I can control most of what I can get with all my might, because I have the desire and the power, and there are things that we don't want to be more demanding, and those things never belong to us, just as three-dimensional creatures can't meet the mind.

Because many things can be achieved as long as you work hard, study hard, rise step by step, and continue to struggle recklessly, in order to receive the change of my destiny, I firmly believe in all this.

I firmly believe that when I am good enough to create value for others, someone will help me and will not be squeezed, although there is a limit of fate, but I believe that I can break fate, just like Nezha, my fate is up to me. That's what the movie says.

Since ancient times, what Jingwei reclamation, what Yugong moved mountains, what Houyi shot the sun, which is not the existence of struggling to resist fate, the ocean, the mountains, and the scorching sun can resist, and the small life experience is not enough to worry about. It's just that I didn't work hard enough.

Look at this vivid scene! I wish you and me the future!

Can a person be in control of his or her own destiny? Regarding this issue, some people believe that fate is destined, all life results have already been written, many efforts are destined to be in vain, and many achievements are nothing more than luck.

Some people believe that there are many roads to fate, and through their unremitting efforts, they can always go to the ideal road, and their fate is in their own hands.

Let's take a look at how psychologists answer this question.

Internal and external controls.

The American psychologist Julian Roth has proposed a "point of control" theory.

Through his experimental analysis, he concluded that people have two major tendencies when it comes to explaining things.

One is to attribute the consequences of one's actions to external factors, that is, luck, the influence of others, the external environment, the power of some invisible fate, etc., and he believes that this kind of person has the belief of "external control".

The other is to attribute the consequences of behavior to one's own abilities and qualities, and he believes that such people have the belief of "internal control".

Roth argues that a person's interpretation of the "point of control" becomes an important part of his personality.

If, in the pursuit of goals and solving problems, he always believes that his life is governed by external factors, then he will believe more in the so-called "fate".

On the contrary, he believes that life is controlled by internal factors, and he will give full play to his subjective initiative and be the master of his own life.

Are you internal or external?

If you want to know whether you are an "internal control person" or an "external control person", you can know through some questions.

For example, when something good happens, do you think it's deserved or lucky? When something bad happens, do you think it's your own responsibility, or is it the influence of external factors?

Different ways of behaving.

Because of their different beliefs, people in control and people in control will have different behavioral outcomes in many situations.

For example, in casinos, internal control people are more willing to bet with confidence after certain experience and analysis, while external control people are often willing to bet more without fear of greater risk due to excessive luck. Because luck is erratic, they will bet more often.

For another example, in the case of conformity, if faced with an obvious wrong answer, the person with internal control is more able to resist the influence of others, and will obey the opinions of the public less and insist on their own opinions; Outside-controlled people tend to be more in tune with the "surrounding voices".

Man's destiny is always in his own hands. It's just that smart people know how to see themselves clearly, and at critical moments, they will also "accept fate", follow the direction of fate, push the boat down the river, and let life go further. Heaven will not treat every person who works hard, nor will it pity every lazy person.

A person's success is providential and human-willed. You lie down every day, and God can't do anything but let you continue to lie down.

If you are a person who is stuck, you are not qualified to complain that God will not help you. People who fail are not qualified to complain about the unfairness of life. After all, successful people have experienced failure, and their hearts are "scarred" in the depths of their hearts.

Opportunities are always reserved for those who are prepared, and those who wait for opportunities, even if they really come, still can't grasp them because they are not "ready". People who complain that God doesn't have eyes are actually sand in their own eyes, and they don't really understand "Providence".

Time will tell who is the hard-working person and who is falsely industrious; Time will also tell you whose heart is the truest and whose words are not to be heard; Time will also make you believe in fate, and it will also make you change fate. If you don't want to succumb to fate, let go of everything in the past and start anew every day.

I have read a sentence in the birth of the demon boy, my life is up to me, it is a demon or a fairy, I said it myself. This may mean that your own destiny needs to be in your own hands, but this is not the case.

Controlling one's own destiny is like one's own future, who can know if their future will be smooth sailing? People who earn 3,000 a month, have a good vision for their future, and they are careful to plan from the time they enter the society, thinking that they can work hard and can definitely live out their dreams, but, an accident, he had a car accident, and the tens of thousands of dollars he worked hard to save were used to treat you, and the money was all smashed into it, not to mention, and his legs were not cured, and he returned to the company for a few days, and the boss thought that his legs and feet were inconvenient, so he resigned, and since then, he has been in a slump, thinking that his expectations for a better future have become so unbearable now, Tell me, can you be 100% sure that your future will not go wrong?

People often say that fate is in their own hands, and it is true, fate is in their own hands, your struggle, what you do will play a certain role in your destiny, so that fate is in your own hands, this statement is right, how many successful people in their struggle process? After all the hardships and hardships, but they never give up and continue to work hard, so, changed their fate, they can proudly say that their fate is in their own hands, and they exchange their own efforts for the brilliance of their destiny, which can be seen that fate is really in their own hands, they have achieved good results through their own efforts, and have a good future, many people envy their good fate.

In fact, it is right that fate is in your own hands, but there are also opportunities, and there are many people who are struggling and working hard, but the ending is not as good as imagined, and it is not as good as they imagined the development of the development, so the fate of this thing must have its own struggle, but also have the opportunity in it, so the time and place are favorable, these aspects come together, it is your life, if you meet a noble person in your life to guide you, and you yourself are diligent and hardworking, under his guidance, You work hard to master some things, to realize your dreams, and there are many conditions for cooperation, so your chances of success are really high. But there are many examples of failure, if you blame it on fate, it may also have a certain connection, so, successful people are in control of their own destiny, but unsuccessful people also have a lot of helplessness in it, in short, people work hard to affirm their lives will be better, to any time, people strive to do what they want to do, and strive to make their own destiny.

Surely we can, when we experience the variety of life and hear the heartfelt laughter of that person; When we are overjoyed and thrown into that crazy dance; When we finally celebrate our victory after going through hardships, we can all have a variety of positive life figures.

Life itself is short, but some people live a colorful life, full of vigor and enterprising spirit, while some people live a boring life, without a little scenery and vitality. Life may be a flute and a gong, blowing it soundly, knocking on it, it all depends on whether you are actively blowing and knocking, to create the rhythm and melody of your own life. Some people say, what if I can't blow or knock, a positive life will tell you, don't blow it, don't blow it, don't knock it, and wait passively can only waste your life.

Yes, to live in the world, why wait, why be lazy. Waiting is tantamount to suicide, and a lazy man can't last a minute or a second of life.

Neither will dodge and retreat. What is going to come will always come, whether it is difficulties, frustrations, unsatisfactory, or broken love, bankruptcy, illness, and death. You can't stop it, you can't hide if you want to, and the more you try to dodge, the closer they seem to get to you, always pestering you, not letting you get out, not letting you go to the happy crowd, not letting you enjoy the joy of life.

Why bother? Instead of not being able to hide and retreat, it is better to step forward, actively engage in life, and face life boldly. Only by actively investing, thinking positively, and acting positively can we put aside all the pain and things, or simply create a new, happy world.

The key to everything is to put in the money, and the investment can be happy. When you watch a game, you want to play a game by yourself, you must make a meal that is colorful and fragrant, you forget to sleep and eat when you conduct an experiment, and you get carried away when you write an article, everything is so attractive and interesting.

A positive life is a conscious and enterprising life, and self-consciousness is a very important premise. A person cherishes his own life, plays and enjoys his life, all by the power of self-consciousness. With self-realization, it is possible to be less limited by the environment and conditions, find a breakthrough in life in various situations, and find a way of one's own where there is no road.

Being actively involved in life will make people quickly discover themselves, including their strengths and weaknesses, so that they can quickly determine their goals in life. From then on, he devoted himself to the goal of life, and began to overcome all difficulties and persevere, until he achieved success.

There is one such fable:

When God's messenger came to the world, he happened to meet a fortune teller who was divining the future of the two children, only to see the fortune teller pointing to one of the children and saying, "You will become the champion in the future." Then he pointed to another child and said, "You are destined to be a beggar." ”

Twenty years later, God's messenger came again, and he found the two children to verify the accuracy of the fortune teller's predictions.

However, the result surprised him: the child who was ** would become the "champion" has now become a beggar on the street, and the child who was judged to be a "beggar's life" has become the champion.

The messenger was puzzled, so he went to God and asked for answers.

God said: "The talent I have given to each man determines only one-third of his fate, and the remaining two-thirds depends on his personal grasp and control." ”

We often hear many people lament when they encounter a bad situation: this is all fate! When he said this, he was already planning to give up his efforts and give up all possibilities for the future.

But all successful people are still firm in their goals and beliefs after experiencing many setbacks.

He believes that through all his efforts, everything he wants to change will eventually change, and all the goals he wants to achieve will definitely be achieved.

Everything is fate, not at all, I don't know how many people's hearts are said in this sentence, and the helplessness in my heart is expressed.

When we are fighting everywhere for life, for family, career, but in the end we fail, at this time the heart is lost, empty, in line with their own efforts are in vain, at this time it is easy to think that everything is fate, at the bottom of our struggle, when we do not succeed, we can always blame all this on their own bad life, over time, it is more and more believed in fate.

When a person comes to this world from the moment he comes, he is already destined to walk the road of life in the future, no one knows the truth or falsehood, and no one can distinguish the truth from the false, but when we go longer and longer on this road, we have experienced more and more things, and we will always unconsciously think of these things to the saying that fate is determined by heaven, and only in this way can we comfort ourselves a little bit of failure.

Similar words are also said, a foot in life, it is difficult to find a foot, sometimes there must be in life, and there is no time in life to force it, all of which are almost the same truth.

In the eyes of those who are successful, they may feel that these words are not positive and affect the development of society, and in the eyes of successful people, thinking that you have not succeeded means that your efforts are not enough, or that the method is not right. Success is not for everyone, success in the eyes of different people, there will be different qualifications, and the success of others cannot be replicated. When we fail, we can get up and continue to walk, the moment of failure, the mood is the most depressed and lost, these words can actually play a comforting role in early spring, if you fail, you are still happy and excited, can only say that either this is not a failure, or your mental state has a problem.

In life, we should not only think of these words if we fail, but we should also think that there is no end to the road, and in the dead end, there will inevitably be a glimmer of life.

Life seems to be long, but it is also very short, we should not be too forced on whether they are successful, do what they should do, have worked hard, only require a family harmony, career income can ensure the needs of the family, relatives, friends and lovers are healthy and healthy, then this is not a kind of success.

We can trust fate, but we can't just resign ourselves to fate.

It's hard to find a foot in life.

Life and death have a hand to open the wheel of life, and wealth is in the sky.

Everything is fate, and nothing is up to anyone.

The heart is higher than the sky, and life is thinner than paper.

The hit was only eight meters, and it was not up to the sky to rise.

Everything is not up to man, everything is fate.

Fate sometimes has to happen, and there is no time in fate to force it.