I spent my own money to buy a house, why did I let my in laws live in the master bedroom?

Updated on society 2024-07-15
24 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    There is no reason to talk about this, and there is no provision for inquiry. You can let your in-laws live in the master bedroom, or you can let them live in the secondary bedroom, and you and your husband will discuss which bedroom to live in.

    If you don't want to, you can discuss it with your in-laws tactfully. Before moving, introduce to your in-laws: "Dad, Mom, you see this is the bedroom I prepared for you, how about you take a look?"

    Is there anything else I would like to add? Let me know if you need it, and I'll buy it for you right away. ”

    In a word, it solves all the problems, and at the same time, the in-laws will be happy to listen to it。Even if they wanted to live in the master bedroom, they were embarrassed to speak. How nice!

    Of course, if your in-laws want to live in the master bedroom of your house, you don't have to reason with them. Don't you still have a husband? Why keep him?

    Let him go to negotiate, and if the negotiation fails, find another way. For example, according to their own conditions, you can help them buy a house with a small area to live alone (it will be your property in the future, so you should invest in it) or build a house for them.

    These are all good ideas.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Because you have filial piety, the master bedroom has plenty of sunlight, which is very suitable for the elderly to live in, good for their health, and it is not cold in winter, so that your husband can also see that you are good to his parents.

    Of course, if you don't want to, you can also bring it up, see what your husband thinks, and weigh it up to make plans.

    I don't think it's really necessary for young people to live in the master bedroom, they go to work when they get up in the morning, and when they come back at night, there is no sun, and they have to close the curtains when they sleep, on the contrary, the elderly spend a lot of time in the house.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    In the new house you buy, the master bedroom environment is the best, because it is sunny and airy, if you choose to let the in-laws and the elderly live in the master bedroom, it proves that you are a very filial piety.

    of people. If you are unhappy with your opponent's situation, you should consider it. The idea that exists is to honor the elderly.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    If you don't feel like it, you can talk to your husband about it. Even if you don't want the two elderly people to live in the master bedroom, you want to be the master bedroom. It's that you don't express that meaning, but when you express that meaning, I believe that your husband will respect your decision and will follow your choice, but if you don't say it, he doesn't know what you mean and thinks that you want your in-laws to live in the master bedroom, so they will make a decision like this.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    This is negotiated within your family, and if your husband allows his parents to live in the master bedroom, he respects his parents and treats them as parents, which is understandable. In fact, the priority of the bedroom in the house is set by yourself, and you can arrange the bedroom as the master bedroom? To be entangled in such a trivial matter, it will affect family harmony.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    The virtue of the Chinese is to respect the old and love the young, and put filial piety first, although you bought a house with your own money and let your in-laws live in the master bedroom, because you have a good noble character of respecting the old and loving the old, your practice is deeply admired by people.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    It depends on how you think, some people feel that they want to be filial to their parents and are willing to let their parents live in a better room, while some people are unwilling, in fact, it doesn't matter where you live, the important thing is to deal with family conflicts harmoniously.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Because you are very smart, for the sake of your own happiness in old age, be a good child's first teacher, let the child learn to respect the elderly in the first class, and your own happiness in old age will be ***.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    In fact, if the in-laws have a little quality and cultivation, they will not sleep in the master bedroom, if they are uncomfortable, they can speak out boldly, and they can chat normally.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    It's really not good, sometimes they go back to their hometown, sometimes they live here, it doesn't have to be the master bedroom, it has little to do with who buys the house.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If you don't want to, you won't let them live, you have the final say, and that's all it takes if you don't let them live.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Generally speaking, the male and female hosts live in the master bedroom. It's okay for the in-laws to live in a small room.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Honoring the elderly is also a virtue.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Why? Why? Why did you let your in-laws live? Ordinary in-laws don't go to live in the master bedroom? Have you met a wonderful husband and a wonderful in-laws?

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Oh, of course, they're elders

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Because your husband is a bit stupid.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    It should not be a problem to become a problem, or a hot question, I personally think that about the master bedroom and the second bedroom, it is solved by the parents and the child before the repair, respect the opinions of the parents, the parents are willing to sleep in the master bedroom to decorate into the style that the parents like, and the parents are willing to sleep in the second bedroom to decorate into the style that the parents need.

    First: I personally suggest that if conditions permit, it is best for parents and children to live separately, after all, work and rest time, living habits, and values.

    There is a big difference, distance produces beauty.

    The same applies between young people and parents.

    Second: if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

    Well, if the conditions do not allow, pay attention to the two are indispensable, parents and young people live together, then the decoration must be determined before the decoration, which is closely related to the decoration.

    Third: If you buy a new house in order to get married, most people's wedding room chooses to be in the master bedroom, if the master bedroom is renovated into a marriage room, then the parents can only live in the second bedroom. So make sure with your parents in advance, most parents want their children to live well, and if it's a parent who does this, I understand the parents, because parents love their children more than they love themselves.

    Fourth: If the parents want to sleep in the master bedroom, the master bedroom should be decorated according to the parents' requirements before the decoration, and the second bedroom should be decorated into a marriage room, which is basically the case in most families. Because the master bedroom at home is generally equipped with a balcony, the elderly stay at home and can bask in the sun on the balcony when they have time.

    Most of the time the elderly are busy with household chores at home, and they spend much longer time at home than younger people.

    Fifth: Young people have to go out to work, go shopping and make friends, and generally spend less time at home than the elderly. So going home is basically eating, sleeping, whether it is the master bedroom or not is not important for young people. According to this, I believe it is better for everyone to choose.

    Sixth: parents often get up more at night, if there is a bathroom in the master bedroom will be much more convenient, the master bedroom has more lighting, and living in the master bedroom is conducive to the health maintenance of the parents. The master bedroom has a large space, and the parents have more objects than the two people, so the master bedroom can have more space to use.

    According to this, there is a good reason to believe that parents sleep in the master bedroom, and when parents are there, home is there.

    All in all, out of respect and convenience, the master bedroom should be given to the parents, and if the parents are unwilling, they should also try to arrange the parents in the second bedroom with sunlight. Nowadays, most people will choose three bedrooms and two living rooms or four bedrooms and two living rooms, so it is more convenient to arrange.

    The starting point is still to respect parents and mutual understanding, after all, we as children also have the day of getting old, empathy, combined with the above suggestions, I believe that most friends will get a more satisfactory solution.

    Finally, remind again that we must reach a consensus before the decoration, and it is not very convenient to negotiate after the decoration. There is not so much attention, home and everything is prosperous, don't care about other unnecessary statements, how comfortable the family feels, how suitable how to come.

    Young people are now sleeping in the master bedroom, as long as they get their parents' consent in advance. In principle, it is recommended that parents sleep in the master bedroom, because it is really not easy for parents to raise us to grow up, and in order to buy a house, it is possible to empty their pension savings, so let parents enjoy it as much as possible.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Sleep for your in-laws, because the elderly are not very stable to sleep, and a larger bedroom is good for the health of the elderly and helps them sleep.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    You can let your parents-in-law sleep in the master bedroom, and you and your husband can sleep in the second bedroom, which is a way to respect the elders and will make the other party very happy. will feel that they are very filial to each other.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    You can let your parents-in-law sleep in the master bedroom, so that the other party will feel that they care about each other very much, and they will also make the other party leave a good impression on themselves, and they will feel that they are very filial.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Personally, I think it's better to live separately from your parents after marriage, you have your space, and I have my space. If the economic conditions allow, you can buy a house close to your own community for your parents, so that everyone's emotions can get the closest connection. Therefore, not living with your parents after marriage is a rational choice of modern people, which is of great benefit to either party.

    People always have their own living habits and three-view thinking, and often can not easily accept others, their own change is not so simple, the worst result of living together is that with the accumulation of time, some trivial things, will be gradually amplified, and in the end, like a volcanic eruption, one day it will be big.

    The best arrangement is to live in a community, bring a bowl of hot soup to the past, and keep the distance from the soup not cold, which is the most suitable. Elders, they have experienced decades of life in a world that is not a two-person world, and most of their yearning for home is lively and peaceful. Their minds and hands cannot keep up with the freedom and slippery sovereignty that young people now advocate.

    So sometimes when they move in, you don't know what to say, they won't feel anything wrong, and the hard-working in-laws Bi Ranghui will take care of the housework in your life a lot of times, and they won't feel that it will add any trouble to you.

    Many troubles in life are unsolvable, and I feel more and more that many things can only be chosen and given up, and it is impossible for everything to get what I want.

    If it is a house bought by your in-laws or husband independently, in the face of the situation that they live together, this bad mood can only choose to self-digest; Of course, if the house also has your share and you have uncomfortable places, you can make better arrangements as a hostess.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Summary. This is possible, but in reality it is illegal. If a person takes the house bought by his in-laws as his own, then this person is encroaching on the property of his in-laws.

    Legally, the house bought by the in-laws belongs to their property, and the person cannot consider the house their own unless the in-laws have expressly expressed their willingness to give or transfer the house to their son or daughter-in-law.

    Can you add, I don't quite understand it.

    This is possible, but in reality it is illegal. If a person takes the house bought by his in-laws as his own, then this person is encroaching on the property of his in-laws. Legally, the house bought by the in-laws belongs to the property of the person who attacked them, and the person cannot consider the house to be his own unless the in-laws expressly express their willingness to give or transfer the house to their son or daughter-in-law.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    1. The husband and wife have a regular income, and can provide sufficient expenses for their small family and still have a surplus, and the house bought by the mother-in-law is necessary to improve her own living conditions and to provide most of the funds by herself, and in the absence of other means, you can provide some assistance as much as you can.

    Second, money is not a big deal for the couple, to provide financial support to the mother-in-law who really needs to improve the original living conditions, but the heart is reluctant to give up, that is to say, giving the money to the mother-in-law does not affect the normal living state, in this case, as long as it is not too excessive, you can also support.

    Here, I can give you a suggestion, since the mother-in-law has put it forward, and your husband has not objected, then you can discuss it with your husband and say your true thoughts appropriately, however, it is not appropriate not to give at all, how much to give will make the mother-in-law feel that the money is too easy, and it is not a matter to reach out if you want to reach out in the future, you can discuss it with your husband, you can use a compromise method quickly, and organize the language, so that the mother-in-law feels that it is not easy for you to laugh and make money. But he still supported her more or less, so that she would have some concerns about wanting money in the future.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    No, you should stick to your bottom line and not let your in-laws and your husband continue to bully you. My friend Kobayashi is in the same situation as you. She told me that after I once again refused my husband's request to take his parents over for a long stay, he dropped his chopsticks, saying that I was selfish, cold-blooded and unfilial.

    I remember that in the second year after marriage, I was preparing to get pregnant and have a child, and my mother-in-law suddenly came to our small house without saying hello to us, saying that she missed her son and came to live for a while, saying that the people in the village said that the eldest son enjoyed Qingfu in the big city, and did not accept his parents to live in the city, so she came by herself.

    It was my husband who told me that he wanted to take his in-laws to live. I was stunned and asked him how long he was going to stay. He said calmly: Just come and live for a long time, live together, our family will live, and they will be able to help bring them up if they have children in the future.

    I refused, I said my parents bought the house, what would they think if they knew that your parents were coming to stay for a long time. I won't mention what you told me about how your parents treated you before, as long as you don't care about this, I am not qualified to care. But when it comes to our marriage, I can say it, your parents are very inauthentic, and I won't let them come to live.

    I refused to surprise him a little, all along, I have never cared about anything he has done to his in-laws, and I have never let him be filial, so that he forgets that many things have a bottom line. After this time, for about 2 weeks, he didn't mention it again.

    However, tonight, he mentioned it again, I don't know if my mother-in-law cried with him, anyway, he brought it up again. Naturally, I refused again, and when he saw that I didn't agree, he left in a rage. When he returned, it was already 11 o'clock in the evening, and I didn't rest, sitting and waiting for him.

    I know that if this matter is not resolved, we will quarrel repeatedly.

    After a few hours of calmness, I still didn't want my in-laws to come over, and he didn't give up this idea, and in a hurry mentioned that he wanted to divorce me, saying that he would take his parents with him even if he rented a house. The two words divorce stung me deeply, and in the past few years, I have fallen in love with him and got married, it was like a dream, and he divorced me for this matter.

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