Knowing the psychology of being adopted, how do you feel when you know that you are adopted?

As an adopted child, the first thing in your heart is loneliness and loneliness, because you can't see your biological parents, the second is low self-esteem, and the third is sadness. I'm sorry, that's all I know, and that's what I've experienced.

Personally, I think this psychology is difficult to figure out, he should have some thoughts about his biological parents, and even he will hate them. To the adoptive father and adoptive mother, it should be with a grateful heart.

After so many years, you found out that you were adopted, which shows that your adoptive parents are very protective of you. Although I can't accept it at once, I am disappointed and resentful of my biological parents. But after all, there are adoptive parents who love you, and they provide you with education and accompany you to grow up, even if you know that you are adopted?

Adoptive parents treat you slowly without you being biological. People must learn to grow, but also learn to be grateful, and accept the fact that it cannot be changed. There is no greater kindness in the world than the grace of parenting, and I hope you can understand and adjust your mentality to treat your adoptive parents well.

I never thought that my life was the same as the TV series, I didn't know that I was adopted after I got married, and I knew that it was a long time to ease up, and now I think about it, I still feel it. When I knew that I was adopted, I was sad at first, then I felt very excited, and in the end, I was definitely lucky.

1.At first it was sad

I only found out about my life experience after I got married, and it was inadvertently taken out of my mother's mouth, and when my mother told me, I was still in disbelief, thinking that my mother was joking with me, but the more my mother said it, the more true it became, and I believed it. At the moment when I first knew, my heart was sad, if I knew it when I was a child, I would slowly forget this feeling when I grew up, and I was already married and knew the truth, and it was really sad at that time.

2.Later became agitated

Then I was more excited, after all, I am also a person with a story. At that time, I really imagined it as the plot of a TV series, and I imagined that maybe someone would come to me in the future to make up for the damage done to me. But at the time, I thought about it, and I felt that my ordinary life had some ripples, and I felt a little excited.

However, this feeling was short-lived, and I can recall it very little now.

3.In the end, I feel lucky

Later, I felt that I was lucky, whether it was from TV dramas or from life, I would see some adopted daughters just as tools, and my parents were very good to me. I have never understood why my brother has godfathers and godmothers, and my father has never let me admit it, he is also afraid that one day someone will really come to me, I love my parents very much. I consider myself very lucky to have met such wonderful parents.

Although I said that I was adopted, it was my current adoptive parents who gave me life, and they put a lot of effort into me, and they are my rebirth parents. In the future, I will use all my love to repay their efforts and support them. Overall, I'm very lucky.

If there was a day, I think my own heart would be broken, I couldn't believe everything I knew, and I felt like my whole life was disrupted.

There was a feeling of being abandoned and lost, and my parents also explained it to me, but I couldn't listen to anything at the time when I was in a bad mood, and then I was also a mother, and I was slowly able to understand the feelings of my parents at that time.

I can't believe it, I feel sad in my heart, I feel that the world has deceived me a little, and the happiness of my past life will become unreal.

"Who am I? I'm from**? This is a line from a TV series. The first is to know who your biological parents are? I would also like to thank my adoptive parents for their kindness. When you know that you have been adopted, you may have too much doubt and gratitude in your heart.

I feel a little sad, but I'm still very grateful, because if they hadn't accepted you, maybe you wouldn't have lived to this point, so there is still some gratitude, these.

The whole outlook on life has been impacted, and I thought that only ** or the bloody plot that would appear in a TV series happened to me, and I estimate that it will take a long time to heal this injured heart.

It's very uncomfortable, I think that other people's families have parents, but I don't. But I am also grateful to the people who adopted me, who gave me a second life, and without them, I would not be where I am now.

If my adoptive father and daughter were kind to me, I wouldn't have looked for my biological parents. It's not good for me and will definitely look for it.

In fact, the child knows that he was not born by his own, but was adopted by you, and his soul will be traumatized to some extent, so what does this trauma refer to?

This trauma can include emotional trauma, which is a kind of injury that occurs in the process of communication between people. If a child's heart is hurt, it will naturally have an impact on later life, such as the following aspects:

The child feels that he or she is not born to his parents: a person who knows that he is an adoptive person will worry that he will not be able to be with his parents anymore and that his parents will not love him as much as they used to.

Especially when parents sometimes say a few heavy words, it may make the child's abandonment and boredom become serious, but the child may not understand the normal parent-child relationship, and there is also a situation of reprimanding and scolding, not only adopted children.

Children can not integrate well into the new family: the parent-child relationship is related, if the child and the parents are adoptive, then this relationship will appear thin, after all, the two have no blood search relationship, just a parenting model, so it will bring some insecurity to the child.

Children will have uneasy emotions in the family, and they are afraid to speak out about their needs, and parents are afraid that their words will sometimes hurt their children and are not conducive to their children's growth.

Parents will have a cautious and careful state in the process of taking care of their children, because they have to think about their children's emotions, but as the days go by, there will be a kind of depression, so it is not so natural to raise children.

Children will have psychological problems: a person who is closed for a long time and does not communicate with others and does not have contact with others, then psychological problems will exist, and he will become inferior, unconfident, and feel that he is living in someone else's family, and he will have an unfree emotion.

In addition, if one's biological parents abandon him, he will have a kind of hatred in his heart, and in the new family, if there are brothers and sisters, then the brothers and sisters may have a rejection of themselves, so they will be hurt to some extent in the process of growing up.