Why is there a situation where children are not filial?

Hello, first of all, it may be the influence of the family of origin. The second is the interference of external factors.

The influence of the family of origin: poor family education, parental quarrels, and beating and scolding children have an impact on children's childhood, resulting in the impact of children's values when they are young.

Interference from external factors: being bewitched and disturbed by some illegal religions, not being filial to parents.

1. Dote on your children.

blindly spoils the child, develops his selfish character, and doesn't know that he feels sorry for his parents at all.

It is true that there are no parents in the world who do not love their children, but sometimes the love of parents is too much and has turned into doting.

There is nothing wrong with giving your child meticulous care, but once this kind of care is excessive, it is not a good thing.

Do everything for the child, give the child what he wants, and even try his best to meet some excessive requirements, and never say no to the child.

This practice is ostensibly to love children, but in fact, it is harming children and themselves.

The result of this is that the child will become very selfish, only think of himself, never understand the difficulties of his parents, and if he cannot be satisfied with anything, he will lose his temper and even resentment towards his parents.

Such children don't know how to feel sorry for their parents since they were young, and they won't be filial to their parents when they grow up.

Article **1 II. Habits.

If a person is used to being rude, he dares to say something disobedient to his parents; If a person takes care of his parents and behaves simply, he dares to do something presumptuous. Parents are accustomed to leaving good things for their children to eat first, not eating themselves, or even eating less, and over time the children will become accustomed to it, and the children will no longer understand whether their parents are used to eating; Parents often drag on housework when they are seriously ill, and as a result, over time, their children have become accustomed to it and no longer care about their parents' pains.

3. Beat and scold children.

The child is invited to the parents, and when he goes home, he will be beaten and scolded! If your child doesn't do well in the exam, he will have to teach him a lesson when he goes home!

Anyway, as long as parents are unhappy, as long as they feel that their children are unhappy, they are "filial sons under the stick".

When a child is beaten by his parents, he will be psychologically disgusted and hate his parents, and he will easily use violence to counter violence and take the initiative to beat others.

Article **2 Fourth, heavy substances.

Use material to try to cover up the defects of the child's mind.

The child's own problems are not really solved, but only coaxed by buying things.

For example, if you buy your child a bunch of things that he doesn't need, say, "Look how good I am to you, I'll buy you whatever you want!" "In the future, you must be obedient and filial to me, you know? ”

The children are growing up, but the parents' education methods remain the same.

As the saying goes, "filial piety comes first", and filial piety has always been a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation.

Because people are not immutable, when they were young, they were innocent and cute, obedient and well-behaved, and with the growth of age, there will be changes, some people will become unfilial children, some people will gnaw the old people, and some people will be filial to the elderly, in addition to their own economic ability, that is, character also accounts for a large part.

Children are not filial, many people will be the first time to point the finger at the child itself, because parents will always think that what they do is for the good of the children, naturally the children should also be good to their parents, but the fact is not so, what you think is good, in the eyes of the children is likely to be a burden or pressure, in fact, many children want to live a very simple life, that is, to be happy every day.

But parents want their children to attract more knowledge when they are young, so all kinds of cram schools and so on have followed, in their opinion, the more things children learn, the better, which is also a manifestation of their concern for children. But all this is seen by the children as the pressure exerted on them by their parents.

Once the children reach the rebellious period, at this time the children will definitely have resistance to their parents, and seriously regard their parents as enemies, in this case, do you still expect the children to be filial in the future? Of course, some children will slowly change their hatred of their parents after the rebellious period, but the probability of these situations not happening is very high, so parents should not get too hopeful.

In fact, the main reason for children's disobedience is that parents always impose their own ideas on their children, and we should respect children's ideas a lot of time, and at the same time do our own things. In the case of three generations in the same house, we should also be very caring for our parents on weekdays, do not engage in any double-standard behavior, while not treating our parents badly, while educating our children to be filial when they grow up.

In these years, children's learning ability is very strong, since you are not good to your parents, how can you expect your children to be different from you, parents are the first teachers of children, your every move will affect the children's character and behavior, so if you want children to be filial, you have to do it yourself.

Not enough that some families now have more second-generation families, this kind of problem will not appear, but parents can not take it lightly because they do not live with their parents, like usually on vacation or when there is nothing to do, take their children to see their parents, so that the seeds of filial piety can be planted in the hearts of children.

When you are old, the children will also be very filial to you, so that you will not be alone after the other half leaves, but if you like to live alone, then I haven't said these words.

The problem of unfilial piety is not only in the children, but we should see the most essential problems between parents and children. First of all, whether parents are doing their best for their children's education in the process of their children's growth, and whether parents have handled the relationship with their children, or whether they are in a harmonious atmosphere. If parents are involved in the growth of their children and their relationship is very close, then their children will have a filial heart when they grow up, and they will repay their parents for their nurturing kindness, and there will be no situation where they are not filial and do not support their parents.

On the other hand, if the parents do not fulfill their duty to support the children when they are young, do not play the role of parents, or if some behaviors hurt the children, causing the children to grow up with resentment, they will blame the parents, so that they are unwilling to support their parents and are not filial.

Some are the parents of the original family who are too harsh or spoiled by their children, some are environmental influences such as children making friends, and some are not living with their parents for a long time.

Parents who are too strong and children who are too doting when they are young are the main reasons for the unfilial piety of their children in the later stage.

First of all, what is filial piety? Different people have different answers. Cognitive biases may also be formed if the understanding is not the same.

Some people think that it is filial piety to take care of the elderly. However, Confucius said that dogs and horses can also be raised, so why not?

Some people believe that there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time, and the real state of life is surrounded by various things, and it is not realistic to ask ordinary people to be filial for a long time.

This is all based on the premise of being able to be conditional and filial piety, and you can't live well, so how can you say filial piety?

The development of society has given young people too much pressure, so naturally there are a lot of unpleasant interactions, and even going their separate ways for life. I don't have time to take care of the elderly at home.

Perhaps, when you are old, young people will treat themselves in the same way.

Either way, get strong first.

People are selfish, asking this question means thinking too much, when you don't think that children must be filial, you must live in obedience to their parents' ideas, it is normal for children to be filial and unfilial, it is always the environment that creates people, and if there is a problem, think about the people and things around him, basically there will be an answer.

There are many reasons, some of them are the elderly, some are the children of the elderly, and some are the combination of both.

The family of origin brings a lot of factors.

I care too much about gains and losses, I just want to ask for it, and I don't want to pay anything.

What is filial piety and what is not filial piety, right? This thing doesn't have an agenda, it's a ghost.

The elderly in rural areas should pay attention to the fact that most of the children who are not filial to their parents have these three manifestations, which are too accurate.

If your daughter is not filial, your parents definitely don't want to be with him every day.

It's relatively simple, well, sometimes you don't ask, and you don't buy him anything, and sometimes you blame your parents.

It's good to get older and better. Don't be in a hurry.

There are many reasons for unfilial piety, it may be that the parents are not doing a good job, it may be that the parents are spoiled, and then it may be that the child's personality has changed because of the charming eyes of the flower world outside.