How should a divorced woman treat her children? Want? No?

Marriage and divorce are two different choices in life, and when some people choose to get married, there will also be some people who choose to divorce for various reasons. It is not the original intention of two people to go on the road of divorce, and everyone is looking forward to getting married and wants to spend this life with each other. Two people may have misunderstandings about each other because of some difficulties in life, and sometimes it is easy to go down the road of divorce.

Often, sometimes one party wants to divorce, but it is common for one party to be unwilling to divorce. So how can the husband get it back if he wants to divorce very resolutely? Let's follow me to see what the solution is.

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The biggest victim of a broken marriage is the child.

It is recommended that you bring it yourself, there will always be a suitable person to marry, maybe you just haven't met it.

Life is full of choices, and there are giveaways and takes, depending on what you want, and if your children are the most important part of your life, then you have to give up some of your gains, and vice versa.

When a husband and wife divorce, both parties and the children will be harmed to varying degrees, and the children are the most harmed. In response to the question you raised, I think that if you put the happiness of your children first, you should try to get custody of your children, and if you put your own happiness first, you should try to give up custody of your children. Mine is a theoretical analysis, not an emotional one.

I know that anyone who faces this problem will experience countless times of confirmation and denial, this is because of the family affection, so if you husband and wife put the happiness of their children first, it is better to not leave, otherwise your future life will always be troubled by this problem, and it will be difficult to get real happiness until the end of your life, although I also think that you have reached the point where you must be separated.

The key is what is most important in your heart, and I hope you can look at this calmly.

For both husband and wife, if the marriage really cannot be sustained, divorce is a better option. Now everyone's thinking has changed, and they are more open to divorce, and they will not feel ashamed. If you don't have children in a divorce, it is faster to negotiate, but if you have children, many women will be entangled in whether to have children, after all, women can't give up children.

So should a woman have children in a divorce, and is it better for a woman to have children in a divorce? Here is a detailed answer to this question.

Whether a woman wants children in a divorce depends on the circumstances

1. If the child is a daughter, it is recommended to still have a child, because compared with the father, the role of the mother is very important to the daughter, and the mother can understand some of the growth stages that the daughter needs to go through, such as entering the menstrual period, all aspects of development, etc.

2. If the child is older, you can follow the child's opinion, and according to the child's ideas, the child can follow whoever he wants.

3. To consider the economic conditions, especially if the child is a son, the woman should look at her own economic ability, the pressure of raising a son is not small, and she will marry a daughter-in-law for her son in the future, give a bride price, buy a house, etc., if the woman's economic conditions are good, you can have a child, but if it is not good, the man can give the child a better life, and the man is not bad, so that the son can follow the man.

When marriage comes to an end, the most difficult thing to deal with is the problem of children. In general, it is best for the child to be raised by the mother, but back to reality, it is still necessary to consider your own actual situation.

After all, raising children independently consumes a lot of time, money and energy. The child is the crystallization of marriage, and whether the woman should have custody of the child after divorce should be based on the actual situation, the conditions are allowed, the ability to raise is superior, and the custody of the child can be sought.

If the conditions do not allow, joint custody can be negotiated, and the child should not bear the fault of losing a single parent because of divorce. Divorce, no matter what the reason, both parties are at fault, and you can't be denied access and meeting with the children because one party is at fault, unless the parents don't want to see them and avoid seeing the children, I think such cases are very rare.

Second, insufficient education is not conducive to the cultivation of personality. The conditions are limited, and the child is busy with his livelihood all day long, and the child's own development is easy to go astray, so early cultivation and correction are very important.

Third, children need care and a good environment for growth. During the school period, children's comparison psychology and unstable mentality have a certain relationship with their own environment, and they will always compare themselves with others, and they will also be compared and pointed at by others.

Therefore, the growth of children requires the joint efforts of parents, and no one has greater responsibilities than others, and it is okay to negotiate and raise children together after divorce. However, for the sake of the happiness of the family, don't take marriage as a child's play, the child is right, and don't impose the pain of losing a single parent on the child.

To be honest, it is difficult for a woman to part with her child, unless the woman does not have any economic **, and there is really no way to raise the child alone before she does not fight for the custody of the child, but I think most women should fight for the custody of the child, after all, for the family and the child, women have paid a lot of hard work.

After a woman divorces, she should not have children. Of course you should have children. The child is the meat that fell from the mother's body, how can there be no reason not to?

Absolutely. Especially when the child is still young, the mother's love is the most important, how can love be missing? It is said that the most noble love in the world is maternal love, and the most selfless love is maternal love.

So, how can a mother leave her child behind? And walk away on your own. Therefore, a woman should have children, 100 or 10,000.

Do you want? It's not the same as whether you can or not. As a mother, she will definitely let her child live well and have a good future.

At least live better than yourself in the future. But now, no matter what, there is no complete family to make the children feel comfortable. This is the conundrum that is placed in front of women.

So we have to fully analyze the two families after the divorce. Who is the child more advantageous to?

The child is still young, so he needs to be taken care of. To take care of children, you have to look at it from two perspectives, the first is human resources, and the second is financial resources.

Parents are earning money to work and take care of their children, and they may have grandparents, grandparents. Who is younger and more powerful? Who loves children more? Who has more time? These are the three points to consider. As for aunts and uncles, aunts and uncles, we don't think about it anymore.

Economic income also has to be considered, the cost of children is very large, and the current education expenses have been **. Who can give children a better education is also one of the requirements to be measured.

If the child is sensible, parents can put the situation on the table or let him make his own decisions.

But the most important one is to tell the child that even though her parents are divorced, she is still her father and mother. No matter who your child is with, you can find your parents at the same time at any time.

Raising a child is not a matter of words, from pregnancy to birth to being able to walk, eat, go to the toilet, and go to school. Wait a minute. It's a long-term and complicated matter. It requires a lot of manpower, material resources, energy, and financial resources. It's not something you can afford to support alone without working and without income.

First of all, you have to consider your own abilities. Can there be someone to take care of the children while they are going to earn their own money? Is the money you earn enough to cover the expenses of you and your children?

Secondly, before the age of six, the child must be at least six years old, and he cannot do without the care of adults for a day. You have to think about whether you can have someone to help you for a long time in the past six years.

Again, having children after a divorce. How to deal with the ex-husband's side. Whether the other party is against this matter.

After all, he is the father in the legal sense. Whether the other party can take custody of the child. Whether to fight with you for the child later.

Your current attitude towards divorce is whether you don't want to communicate with each other when you are old and dead, or whether you still have hope for the other party. Wait a minute. If you can't hide this for the rest of your life, then be sure to tell the other party beforehand.

Avoid all unintended consequences.

At last. Every child wants a healthy and loving family. I hope that my parents will be by my side. You need to consider whether your child can have a happy childhood and a healthy personality when he grows up.

If you don't have to do it, please consider all factors sensibly before making a decision. A child is a living being with a consciousness of its own, not an object.

There are several main reasons why women divorce and give up their children:

First, mothers cannot afford to raise their children. Because she knows that she can't give her children a good learning environment and growth environment with her own ability. Some women may not have a job or income.

Or they don't have their own house, but their parents won't help. If these things that the woman does not have happen to have the man, then the woman can only choose to give up.

Every mother bursts into tears the moment she gives up custody. She can't take care of the children. If the child follows the father, it seems natural that the grandparents can take care of it.

If you follow your mother, your grandparents will take care of you. That depends on whether the mother's family is willing or unwilling.

Second, she doesn't want to enter the next marriage, the child is the only relative by his side, and she is afraid that the child will be wronged with her. So the custody was waived. If the child follows his father, his grandparents are his relatives.

But if you follow your mother, only your mother is his relative. You will feel very lonely and not feel the warmth of being loved.

Third, women who do not have children have an advantage in the second marriage market. If a divorced woman wants to get married, it is better not to have children. Because many men are not willing to raise children for others as soon as they get married.

Will pick a better man.

Fourth, avoid the legal risk of the husband not paying child support. Some women have children, and as a result, many men have started new families. They often refuse to pay a woman child support.

makes women very poor in life and can't live the life they want. So he ruthlessly didn't want children. Leave all the responsibility of raising the child to the child's father.

So that the woman can live the comfortable life she wants.

She didn't think much about it, she didn't want children because she couldn't give her children a better life, so it was better to let her children follow her father so that the children would not suffer.

When a woman divorces, she decisively proposes not to have children, first of all, she does not want to be a single mother, thinking that it will be very hard, and secondly, if she wants to remarry in the future, the children may become a burden.

Because they know that if they bring a child, they will not give the child a good living condition, and after bringing the child, there will be no way to completely cut off the relationship with the other party.

She doesn't want her children to drag herself down, she also wants to find a love of her own, and she doesn't want to be tripped by her children.

As a divorced woman, I still have a lot of say, because I didn't have children when I got divorced, I feel that with my current conditions, it is really not enough to give my children a better life, and I don't want my children to suffer with me, but I have not left my children after so many years of divorce, and I have always taken care of them.