What qualities should a counselor have?

Regardless of the type of school of theory, the competencies and qualities that psychological counselors should possess are mainly considered from three directions: knowledge, skills and self-awareness.

**From Counseling Strategies for Counsellors (6th Edition).

What you should know.

Basic knowledge of psychology (general psychology, personality psychology, developmental psychology, psychometrics, ......).）

Basic knowledge of other social sciences (philosophy, sociology, culture, religion, etc.).

Basic knowledge of the profession (psychiatry, health psychology, psychological assessment and measurement, clinical psychology research methods, relevant laws, ethics, etc.).

Professional knowledge (general theories of psychology, basic methods, theoretical methods of various schools).

Diagnosis of different psychological disorders with **.

Skills to be possessed.

The ability to diagnose.

Ability to operate the program.

Creative problem-solving skills.

The ability to communicate one's thoughts and emotions to others through verbal and non-verbal means.

Sensitivity: The ability to perceive the emotions of others and one's own.

Master the skills of interview techniques

It's about self-awareness.

A help-seeker may trigger your response to react and feel in a certain way, and even cause you anxiety and insomnia. The reason why this happens is because each of us carries trauma from the past and from our families.

We are not flawless, without the slightest trauma, and perfection is unnecessary, because it is trauma that gives us the ability to carry out **. The most important thing is that we are aware of our own trauma. We need to recognize the wounds that the help-seekers have revealed to us, and at the same time, we need to take responsibility for these wounds.

The most effective counsellors not only have mastered the professional knowledge and skills of counseling, but also recognize and solve their own interpersonal problems. If you want to grow into a professional consultant, there are three main ways: "personal experience", "professional internship", and "supervision".

Strictly speaking, each ** teacher should have his own personal supervision.

Personality requirements. In addition to the above-mentioned qualities and characteristics that a good counselor should have, psychological counselors also need to have good personality and meet some specific requirements.

1.Emotionally stable.

The counselor should be able to solve his or her own personal problems, be self-accepting, self-regulate, and have no strong self-defense mechanisms.

2.A sound and optimistic outlook on life.

No matter what difficulties the counselor encounters, he or she should be able to approach life positively and cheerfully, and only such a person can trust the client's own strength and take responsibility for helping the client solve the problem.

3.Democratic interpersonal relations.

Counselors should have a deep understanding of interpersonal relationships, respect the value of others, trust others at all times, and acknowledge others' lifestyles.

4.Genuine Concern for Clients Counselors should understand clients, care for them warmly, love them, and be genuinely willing to help. This kind of person can gain the trust of the visitor, make the visitor feel safe and at ease.

5.Constantly improve yourself.

Counselors should be self-aware, understand their strengths and weaknesses, and constantly improve themselves. Modesty, integrity, honesty, openness, keep forging ahead, constantly broaden their knowledge, improve their education level, never stagnate, never satisfied.

6.We strive to understand the essence of human beings.

The counselor should constantly explore the essence of the human being. Understanding the essence of human beings is a difficult task, and perhaps a lifetime of exploration and effort will not reach the level of complete understanding. Counseling is a process of building new relationships and experiencing new human nature.

This requires consultants to constantly expand their limited understanding of people and strive to improve the essence of people.

1. Sensitive psychological reactions.

Excellent counsellor who is particularly sensitive to the mental activities of others. Both verbal and non-verbal (such as expressions, movements, clothing, hairstyles, muscle tics, eyes, etc.) reflect a person's mental activity. In response, the consultant should observe and respond sensitively to the situation as a whole.

Psychological counseling is a special interpersonal relationship formed by both parties, and this relationship process is finally realized through the interaction between the two parties. Since it is an interaction, of course, in addition to being sensitive to the psychology of the other party, it is always very sensitive to one's own psychology. Not only that, but you should also be sensitive to the activities and changes in the other person's mind caused by your own psychological influence.

It can be said that sensitivity to interpersonal relationships is an important quality and characteristic that the counselor needs to have.

2. Being able to listen carefully For a client who appears in the counseling room because he or she is troubled or restless about important issues related to him, it is a great relief and trust to be able to listen carefully, which will become the motivation and pillar of his or her life.

"Listen carefully" is easy to say, but it is never easy to do, and it is not something that can be learned overnight. For example, a client comes to the counseling room and is overwhelmed and extremely uneasy because of the psychological burden. The counsellor listens carefully and patiently to the client's complaints, and responds appropriately, such as simple repetitions, acknowledgments, and interjections, which can help the client to sort out the problem, so that the client can feel relieved and comforted.

The upper line is too small, a relatively strong psychological quality, and secondly, it requires a certain level of professionalism, and I think they are also very strong.

1. The ability to express love

When a person has love in his heart, he must dare to express himself in the source state and be good at expressing it, which is a kind of love ability. Expressing love is an expression of self-confidence.

2. The ability to bear love

In the face of other people's love for oneself, whether a person can make timely and accurate judgments about love, and whether he can accept this love calmly, is also a kind of love ability. Accepting love is also a sign of self-confidence. A person with low self-esteem does not dare to accept the love that belongs to him.

3. The ability to reject love

Love that is careless, unwilling or unworthy of oneself should have the courage to reject it. When the love you don't want to get comes, you must be decisive and brave to say "no", and at the same time you must master the appropriate way to refuse, because cherishing every sincere feeling is a kind of respect for others, and it is also a kind of self-cherishment.

4. The ability to discern love

When a love comes to you, whether it is from the love of ordinary friends, or from friends of the opposite sex, or the love of future lovers, you first need to have the ability to distinguish clearly.

5. The ability to deal with the conflict of love

In the process of love, it is inevitable that there will be some disharmony, and whether it can be properly handled is an important aspect of the ability to love.

6. The ability to withstand the frustration of love

How to deal with this frustration when love is lost is also an important aspect of the ability to love.

7. The ability to maintain long-term love

Love can be kept fresh, as a mature person, is capable of continuously learning the art of love, improving their own connotation, self-cultivation, and improving their personality characteristics to obtain the ability to maintain love for a long time.

The ability to love. The ability to love is a kind of integration of comprehensive qualities, and it is the various components of a series of abilities in the process of love. Psychological counselors conclude that the ability to love includes the ability to express love, bear love, reject love, distinguish love, deal with the conflict of love, bear the frustration of love, and maintain the ability to keep love for a long time.

A good psychological counselor needs to have three important and basic qualities.

The first is self-control.

The sense of control is expressed as a sense of power, that is, no matter what the personality of the counselor, whether he is cold or cheerful, he has a sense of power in his body. This power comes from a stable self-awareness, clear self-boundaries, and a clear control and certainty of one's words and deeds brought about by long-term self-awareness.

Counsellors need a certain amount of authority in their work. A counsellor who is not in control of himself or herself can find it difficult to establish a sense of authority in the counseling relationship.

The second is the integration of the heart.

The higher the degree of inner integration, the more advanced the "core" level of the counselor. The more powerful it is for the visitor.

The inner world of many visitors is more or less fragmented or entangled, which gives rise to a lot of conflicts.

Only when the counselor has integrated himself can he or she talk about helping the client integrate himself.

The third is the combination of sensibility and reason.

Only when the counselor is sensitive and delicate can he have a heart of cherishing the Zen chakra, deep remorse, sincere response, and warm support.

At the same time, the counselor should not allow the overflow of emotion, but need to be guided and controlled by reason.

The balance and combination of the two is an art.

Summary. Normally, we believe that a qualified psychological counselor needs to have two conditions, one is the external conditions, such as relevant qualifications such as obtaining a degree related to psychology, national industry qualifications such as psychological counselor certificates, etc., and the other is internal conditions, such as the need to systematically learn relevant counseling skills and techniques, as well as the counselor's personal style and temperament, etc. Hopefully this will help you.

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Normally, we believe that a qualified psychological counselor needs to have two conditions, one is the external conditions, such as relevant qualifications such as obtaining a degree related to psychology, national industry qualifications such as psychological counselor certificates, etc., and the other is internal conditions, such as the need to systematically learn relevant counseling skills and techniques, as well as the counselor's personal style and temperament, etc. Hopefully this will help you.

Of course, the acquisition of qualifications in these two aspects is complementary to each other, and both require continuous learning and practice.