Whether the lover is lying to himself or not, how to quickly discern it?

The first point is that you have to look into his eyes, if his eyes dodge, then it proves that he must be lying, and the second is to distinguish his speed of speech, if the speed of speech is particularly fast, it is also proof that he is lying, because if he lies, he has thought about it many times in his heart, so he will speak very fast.

You can tell by asking him some questions to see if his reaction will be evasive or unclear, if you are very firm, it means that you are not lying, otherwise you are lying.

The first is whether the other party dodges when he speaks, and whether he feels that the other party has something to hide, and no matter how the other party goes, he will not tell you, if this happens, then it means that the other party may be lying.

Pay attention to details, use flashbacks, whether you are silent or not, open-ended questions, mainly through some details, to see if he is flustered.

Let him come up with evidence. If he wants to prove that he is not lying, he must come up with evidence for the facts to speak, so that he can quickly discern.

It can be judged by the way he looks, if the eyes flicker and sway, then it is possible to lie, and by observing his body language, you can see if there will be some signs of lack of confidence, and if there will be some small movements of his hands.

If two people have been together for a long time, they will judge whether they are lying from a look or a look, such as not daring to look each other in the eye when speaking.

Observe the other person's expression, if the other person is speaking with an unnatural expression and does not speak smoothly, it is a lie.

When two people get along, trust and loyalty are the basic conditions, but some people always wonder if the other half has cheated on themselves, and some people do have the habit and problem of lying to the other half, or the other half has really done something to deceive themselves. Let me summarize how to tell if a lover is lying to himself.

When asking a question first, look yourself in the other person's eyes, but don't take it too seriously so that the other person doesn't get nervous. Smile and ask with small talk.

Pretend to ask the same question casually at different times and places. For example: Where did you go last night?

Answer: xx. What were you doing at this time the day before yesterday?

Answer: xx. Be skillful and listen carefully to whether the other person is saying that the time, place and people are the same.

Usually if you lie and say it well, the answer will be different after a few days.

If the other person's eyes are wandering and they dare not look at you squarely, there must be a problem. If it is to avoid directness, it is almost certain that the front is a lie.

Some subconscious small actions, such as playing with fingers, or stroking the corners of the hair, playing with things at hand, etc., are all manifestations of weakness.

If the phenomenon of steps appears, you can directly ask where you are going to do it a little more severely, implying that you already know something, just wait for the other party to say it yourself, and then the possibility of the other party being seriously weak and telling the truth directly is very high.

If the other person is calm and completely flawed, and you think what he said is really suspicious, then use the first step to take a roundabout battle, and then ask him for the answer when he is not right in the first sentence and the second sentence.

When two people have been together for a long time, what the other party does and says, you can feel that the other party is real or fake, and you will know it by looking at each other's expressions.

It's okay to look at the other person's eyes, if the other party's eyes are more confused and don't dare to look at you, you should be lying.

First of all, you look him in the eye when you ask a question, and if his eyes dare to look you squarely, it is not lying. The second is to observe if he is suddenly very good to you.

When the other party lies to you, he will definitely have some small actions, such as not daring to look at you directly, or fingers fiddling with something and other details are a sign of weakness.

When you find that someone else is lying in love, ask him a question several times, look at his attitude of answering, and look at his eyes, if you ask several times in a row and answer it well, even a little aggrieved, the sincere eyes are not lying.

Lying is trying to hide something from me or for my own good. Don't let me know.

This is a time when you need to believe in your own lover.

Regard the wound of the lie

Harm, if du is just a general little lie, just tell him that you don't like him to lie. After all, no one is perfect, who doesn't have a lack of tolerance, love his advantages, but also have to accept his shortcomings, since love is more tolerant. But if his lies hurt your feelings, they cannot be easily forgiven.

Otherwise, he thinks that you can forgive and tolerate everything, and if you have once, you will have a second time, and it will become a habit.

1.Look at his body.

Psychologists have come to the conclusion that if what you say is true when you are discussing something, and his body involuntarily leans towards you, it means that he really wants you to understand what he is saying. Conversely, if the other person is lying, then his body will be at a distance from you, and his feet will be unnatural.

2.Look at what he said.

The American psychologist Weisman said, "When people lie, they instinctively remove themselves from the lies they tell." So if you ask someone a question and they always omit me, they have reason to be suspicious.

3.Listen to him.

Those men who never lie, once lying, have a voice mixed with a faint tremor that is easy to discern. For men who lie regularly, if his voice suddenly rises, or if he pauses in his otherwise fluent speech, or if he speaks at an unusual slow or rapid pace, he may be lying.

4.Look in his eyes.

When the human brain is thinking about weaving a lie, the direction of movement of the person's eye is the upper right. If people are trying to remember what actually happened, they look to the upper left. This kind of eye movement is a reflex action and is generally not fake.

5.Watch him in action.

A psychologist once said: when bad thoughts enter the brain, they will subconsciously cover their mouths with their hands, but they are afraid of showing too obviously, so they quickly touch their noses, wipe their noses and mouth, and use them to indicate deception when the speaker uses them, and the listener expresses suspicion of the speaker when they use them. Therefore, after lying, in order to alleviate the inner conflict, men will grope their noses with their hands, and at the same time cover their mouths, and they may also scratch the base area of their ears.

1.The position of the head.

When you ask a question directly, if the person answering suddenly makes an abrupt head movement, then he may be lying. For example, abruptly withdraw, or abruptly tilt, and so on. Behavioral analysts believe that this is his physical response to this immediate problem.

2.Breathing is intensified.

Behavior analysts believe that breathing is a "reflex behavior" that is often associated with lying. If you are not close enough to them to discern their breathing when you are talking, then pay attention to their shoulders, there will be a slight rise, and then listen carefully to their voices, as it may subconsciously become shallow, unclear, etc. Basically, this is due to the fact that a person lies, which causes an increase in heart rate and changes in blood flow, which can cause breathing difficulties.

Of course, this can also happen when you are nervous.

3.Body movements.

When a person is nervous, the body may appear restless or trembling. But in the same way, those who are stiff and have no movement, you also need to be vigilant. This may have something to do with the human instinct to "fight or flight", especially the instinct to fight.

When a person lies, he instinctively sees the person he lies as the object of the fight, and then the body is tense, which means that he is preparing for a potential confrontation.

4.Repeat what someone else has said.

When someone tries to convince you to support his point of view, he will repeat his point of view over and over again, trying to "implant" it in your brain. They will also try to convince themselves that they are not lying but telling the truth. Repeating "I didn't" is like they're somehow evading responsibility for what they've done.

5.Inconsistencies.

When you find inconsistencies in what he says, then he may be lying. For example, FBI Inspector Newberry once encountered an example of a woman who said she had gone into hiding after hearing a gunshot while taking notes at a crime scene. Then he immediately noticed the inconsistency in her words.

When we hear a noise, our normal reaction is to look at what's going on. So when she heard the gunshots, it was impossible for her to go straight without going to find out what was going on. ”

6.Abnormal behavior.

Maureen O, Professor of Psychology at the University of San Francisco'"One of the most important ways to judge a person for lying is a change in a person's behavior," Sullivan said. "If a person is usually a very anxious person, but now seems calm, if a person is usually a very calm person, but now they are very uncalm.

Then be alert that things may not be as he says.

7.Contradictions.

In general, if a person's words contradict the posture of his body, then he may be lying. For example, when he doesn't really compliment another person, after he says "She's really beautiful!" His head will shake slightly to say "no".

Such a gesture is completely contrary to what he said. These contradictions can arise between voice and speech, gesture and voice.

I personally think this varies from person to person, like the kind of person who looks honest and honest, in fact, the more he loves to lie, and he doesn't blink when he lies, because his honest appearance has become his protective color, and he is also used to lying in a way that others can't see, so he doesn't have a weak heart when he lies, and he looks very sincere, this kind of person, I personally think that the calmer and indifferent his face is, the more he is lying.

Like that kind of person who always has a flamboyant mouth, in fact, I personally think it is the best to distinguish, because if you wronged him, he will definitely lose his temper, and this kind of person is the most unbearable.

Like that kind of person who is particularly slick and accidental, he has habitually considered what occasion and what to say in order to be beneficial to himself, and when this kind of person lies, he will excuse himself again in nine out of ten sentences.

Like that kind of career is particularly successful, his expression management system has been particularly perfect, and it is generally not easy for you to see it, but nine out of ten sentences in his ten sentences are false, because I personally think that they don't need love anymore, they just need to fulfill their responsibilities, they lie with an indifferent attitude, whether you believe it or not, he doesn't care, because you don't do him any harm.

However, I myself think that in love, judging whether a person is lying or not mainly depends on the sixth sense.

Don't doubt, you have to believe in your sixth sense, when your sixth sense is warning you and making you feel suspicious, it means that you are no longer safe, even if the other party says that the sky is falling, even if you believe it at the time, but it will not be long before you start to doubt again, and in the end it will be endless quarrels.

Of course, this is my personal opinion, it doesn't matter if you believe it or not, anyway, I myself am most afraid of those so-called honest people.

But these words did not mean to fight against anyone, nor did they overturn a boatload of people, but only said what I had encountered or seen.

Don't spray.