Is it necessary to live together before marriage? Do you agree to live together before marriage?

Updated on society 2024-07-27
14 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-13

    <> if you're in a marathon relationship, and you already know each other well, there's no need to live together before marriage. If material conditions allow, it is the right thing to do to go directly to the marriage hall. If you really want to get married, it is actually very necessary to live together before marriage on the eve of marriage.

    When we are in love, we all leave the best side of each other to each other, and living together is to present the most authentic side to our lover. Habits and other aspects need to be in contact with each other, which helps to lay the emotional foundation for married life. In the meantime, if you both feel like you don't get along, stop your losses in time.

    I would not agree to live together before marriage, because as a girl, living together before marriage would make men think that I was not reserved enough and damaged my reputation. If I break up, it will also affect my relationship for the rest of the year. In addition, living together before marriage will allow them to enter their daily life in advance, quickly depleting the novelty of their relationship.

    If you are introduced to each other very quickly, and both parents are constantly urging you to get married, then it is necessary for you to live together for a while before marriage to see if it is a good fit. You can't marry for the sake of getting married. If it weren't for love and cohabitation, two people could see each other at all.

    There is no firewood, rice, oil and salt, no close contact, and there is no shortcomings in each other. There are many married couples who regret it soon after marriage and find that each other has various shortcomings that they cannot tolerate. The parties quarreled over trivial household matters, which eventually led to divorce.

    Divorce can also lead to property division and financial disputes, and both people are physically and mentally exhausted and scarred! They will also be for the custody of the child.

    Fight with custody and let the child be hurt together. Moreover, once the divorce is a second marriage, it is difficult for the spouse with children to remarry.

    Many people of the older generation, even young people with strong traditional concepts, believe that lovers should not live together before marriage, because if a girl lives with her boyfriend before marriage, it will have a very negative impact on the girl's reputation. I think that's outdated now. For young couples who are about to get married, it is still very necessary to live together before marriage.

    I am fully in favor of premarital cohabitation. Premarital cohabitation is actually a process that simulates married life, but this process is realized and executed in advance during the love stage. In the process of cohabitation, two people live together, cook together, do laundry together, watch TV together, clean together, and so on.

    Through these small details of life, it can be seen whether each other is suitable for marriage or not. Small details can reveal some of the other party's living habits and shortcomings, and of course, the advantages will also be reflected.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-12

    I think it's necessary to live together before marriage; I also agree with it, because this can help the relationship between the two parties, and if they encounter some problems in their lives, they will be solved in a timely manner, and it will not affect their marriage.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    I think it is necessary, because we can see whether our living habits with each other are suitable through this stage, and we can better understand what kind of person the other person is, and I am more comfortable with living together before marriage.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Personally, I don't think it's necessary to live together before marriage, because there will inevitably be some friction when two people live together, which will hurt each other, and sometimes even end the relationship.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    I think it is very necessary to live together before marriage, so that I can understand what kind of life the two people will live after marriage, and I agree to live together before marriage.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    I would not agree to live together before marriage because as a girl, living together before marriage would make the man think that I was not reserved, hurt my reputation, and if I broke up, it would affect my next relationship. In addition, living together before marriage will also allow the two to enter the life of firewood, rice, oil and salt in advance, and quickly consume the freshness in the relationship.

    Premarital cohabitation hurts reputation

    Although people's minds have become more and more open, cohabitation before marriage is unacceptable in the hearts of many people. Living with each other before you get married and entering your married life early may make the people around you think you are a casual person. Especially for girls, cohabitation before marriage will make men argue that you are not reserved, have no principles and bottom lines, get it too easily, and will not cherish you.

    Premarital cohabitation affects the next relationship

    Even if you live together for the purpose of marriage, it is easy to have conflicts and conflicts in the process of cohabitation, and if you break up after living together, it will definitely affect your next relationship. Most people can't accept that their partner has a history of cohabitation, and even in some people's perception, there is no difference between living together before marriage and breaking up and divorce.

    Premarital cohabitation consumes the freshness of Edaka

    When men and women are dating, freshness is very important, and if they don't live together, they will deliberately maintain the image in each other's hearts when they meet. Once you live together, the shortcomings of the other party will be easily exposed, and when you see the other party's unbrushed teeth, unkempt, and messy hair, can you still maintain the original intention of this relationship? Living together will allow two people to quickly enter the state of marital life, and it is easy to get tired of each other.

    Enter the firewood, rice, oil and salt in advance

    Love and marriage are two completely different emotions, love is when both parties can understand each other and share emotions with each other. But marriage needs to be shared and borne by both parties, and if you live together too early, you will feel the blandness of firewood, rice, oil and salt in advance, and you will also feel the trivialities in life too early, which is conducive to the development of the relationship between the two people.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I did not agree to cohabitation before marriage; Because if you live together before marriage, it will lead to a decrease in freshness and an increase in conflicts, which will lead to a breakdown of the relationship, which may also cause harm to women, resulting in some losses that cannot be recovered by nuclear energy.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I will definitely not agree, since two people should not live together if they are not married, this is a manifestation and manifestation of irresponsibility to themselves. It will also make the other party feel sleepy and very cheap ruler branches.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    I would not agree to cohabitation before marriage. Because I think that living together before marriage is very disadvantageous for women, and it will also lead to a lack of freshness for two people.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    I wouldn't agree. Because I think this is a more unrealistic thing, and it goes against my own tutoring, so I won't accept such a thing.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Of course I wouldn't agree. Because such an act is not good for women, nor is it good for the feelings of two people.

  12. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    I felt the need to live together before marriage. Because the benefits of premarital cohabitation are:

    1. Living together before marriage can better understand the real person. When men and women fall in love just together, they will show each other their most beautiful and best side, and in the early days of love, both parties will not care about a little problem, always feel that the other party is the person who should be with him for a lifetime, there is no one more suitable for him than him, and whether it is suitable to live together or not to know, because two people will live together for a lifetime, if there is something in the other party's living habits that you can't bear, That may lead to the breakdown of the relationship because of the trivial matter of living habits, so living together before marriage is equivalent to testing the waters, and then considering whether to continue to be together after understanding the real other party, so that there will be no divorce after finding a little problem after marriage.

    Second, the two parties can divide the housework they do before marriage, generally in the case of love, the other half is very happy to help you share the housework, and it will become a habit after a long time, otherwise the other half of the marriage is not willing to help you share the housework, you have no way, you can only do it yourself, so the premarital cohabitation is also to make plans for the future married life, assign tasks, and the life after the marriage will not quarrel because of such trivial things as housework.

    But there are also downsides to living together before marriage:

    1. Premarital cohabitation will affect marriage, because the man will feel that he has lived together, and marriage is just a formality, so he doesn't care too much, which will make women who live together for the purpose of marriage feel uncomfortable, and it is very likely that they will break up unhappily in the end, which is a heavy blow to the woman.

    Second, premarital cohabitation will affect the freshness after marriage, premarital cohabitation is different from those couples who can only see each other once or twice a week, they can see each other every day after marriage, without waiting for the meeting time of each week as before, this situation will accelerate the heating up of their feelings, and for people who live together before marriage, marriage has no impact on their lives, except for a wedding, their lives are still exactly the same as before marriage.

  13. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    In the end, a relationship is not about falling in love, but about living.

    I don't know if you have noticed that there are many "sensitive" topics in relationships, money is one of them, once was one of them, and cohabitation was also one of them.

    Everyone has a different opinion about cohabitation.

    Some people think that living together is a terrible thing, and too close to each other will gradually wear out the freshness between two people, so that each other no longer has expectations for the future.

    There are also people who feel that cohabitation creates a "sense of accessibility" for their partner, which can lead to their own not being easily cherished.

    Because the beginning of most cohabitation is always full of ups and downs, but the ending after that is always inescapable. The long and trivial daily life can easily dilute love.

    But I still want to say that it is actually necessary to live together before marriage.

    After all, in the process of two people accompanying each other to old age, the wind and flowers are just an episode, firewood, rice, oil and salt are daily, if they live together, they will be chicken feathers, and marriage may not be very happy.

    I once read such a passage and deeply agreed:

    People will think that love or marriage is the sublimation of feelings and the beginning of happiness, but when they enter a long-term companionship, they find that the test has just begun. ”

    Getting along in close proximity can best see through a person and see whether two people are really suitable, which is the most important meaning of living together before marriage.

    Moreover, the key to premarital cohabitation is never "cohabitation", but "pre-marriage", which is only to add a probationary period to the marriage.

    In short, don't always look at premarital cohabitation with colored glasses, for the future of a relationship, premarital cohabitation is very necessary, for the simple reason.

    Only by living together can we understand each other.

    Some time ago, I watched a mediation show and found that many couples who want to divorce do not necessarily have many big problems, but there are always many trivial small problems.

    Xiao Yun, the guest of one of the issues, only fell in love for a year after marrying her husband, and then had a small quarrel for three days and a big quarrel for two days.

    What will they quarrel about?

    To put it simply, it is the daily trivialities of life. It's like who cooks and who washes the dishes, whether to go out for a walk at night, or whether to go out shopping together on weekends.

    During the relationship between two people, the guy is always willing to go out with the girl.

    But after getting married, boys always feel that they don't look down and don't look up, and there is no need to go out at every turn, or go shopping together at every turn, just like that, there are more and more contradictions.

    The same is true for many real-life couples, who find that each other is different from what they once imagined after getting along with each other at close range.

    In the past, because the distance was too far and it was too difficult to meet, there would always be a layer of filter when looking at each other, and they naturally felt that each other was perfect.

    But after living together, that person's laziness, gluttony, bad habits, etc. will be exposed one by one, and after knowing the real other party, it has verified whether the two people can get along, and they are qualified to say love or not.

    Living together before marriage is actually a process of getting to know each other deeply, and if living together is unbearable, it is even more difficult to maintain the marriage.

    If you can live, you are suitable for marriage.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    I think it's necessary, but there are a few things that have already been met before cohabitation. The parties are engaged or the parents have met and agreed to the family business. Both parties have decided that they want to get married and have planned their time.

    Living together for three months is fine, not too long. Don't let both parents know about cohabitation.

    I know that some people will doubt it, and I will say that I am still so conservative and feudal in the 21st century, so let's take a look at the root of this problem and why do we want to live together.

    Cohabitation is to have a deeper understanding of each other's living habits, three months is enough time to understand whether ta's various habits are acceptable to you, I have seen a divorce case before, because the two parties squeeze toothpaste in different ways, one from above, one from below, and then shout that neither party will let them, and they will divorce. This is just one of the things like sleepwalking.

    Is it acceptable for you not to brush your teeth and wash your feet before going to bed, smoke in your room, often get called out by your friends to drink and come back unconscious and incapable of anything other than vomiting?

    Marriage is made up of trivial things, and married life is more down-to-earth than a person's life.

    And cohabitation is to pave the way for future married life, not to let people only enjoy the pleasure of possessing each other without responsibility, and are not protected by the law, it is better to do less. Finally, don't let the parents of both parties know about cohabitation.

    In any case, it is still more unfriendly to girls, girls are always the disadvantaged group, China's thousands of years of tradition and habitual view, not overnight, nor can it be changed in time to the 21st century, the preference for sons over women can not be changed, let alone anything else.

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