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For a remarried family, many people will find it troublesome because the relationship is complicated, and of course it is also true. But in fact, as long as we live with sincerity, we can become a happy family, but some people are entangled in this question: I remarried, and the other party still has children, so should I sincerely help her children?

In response to this problem, three people who have come over also told the truth: they should help.

However, many people are still skeptical, if it were you, what would you do? Leaving aside the others, personally, I think I should sincerely help the other person's children, and the specific reasons are as follows.

01.The human heart is made of flesh

Many people may feel that the other party's children are not their own, and if they help the other party's children, will their own heart be wasted in the end. Actually, what I want to say is that it is relatively normal to have this kind of thought, but this is definitely too much for most people. Because people's hearts are flesh and blood, if you sincerely help your children, of course the children will know to repay your kindness.

For example, I have a sister who divorced in her thirties, and when she divorced, she had a daughter with her, and then she met a man and planned to talk about marriage. Because of a daughter, everyone is worried about whether this thing can be done, who knows that the man on the other side does not dislike it, but my sister is worried that the man will not be good to her daughter.

As a result, after the sister took her daughter to get along with the man, she found that the man really treated this daughter as his own daughter, and the sister was moved and wanted to live with this man wholeheartedly, and the daughter, although she knew that this man was not her biological father, but she was no different from her biological father to him, because she was just a child, and he knew that this man was really good to her.

02.Abandon prejudices and distractions

Some people with backward concepts will still think that if they are not their own blood and blood, why should they be good to other people's children? Actually, I think this kind of thinking is really a bit cliché.

When you get married again and start a family, nominally you are his father or mother, and you have already established a new family again, which is not much different from the previous family, and you may be happier than the previous family.

No matter which child it is, he calls us dad or mom, which is the person we need to really care for, not that our blood flows in the bones, so that we can become the child we want to protect and love.

03.Home and everything is prosperous

You have to believe that if you treat the other half of the children sincerely, they will also know your mind, and the family will be harmonious and happy, and after the family and happiness, whether it is happiness or wealth, it will be endless, after all, the family and everything is prosperous!

I would be willing, because the emotional problems of parents do not mean that the child has mistakes, and every child is very simple and kind

I will be willing to help each other's children, after all, two people get married, and each other's children are also their own children.

If stepchildren know how to be grateful, they can help if they have the ability to help! If you encounter a stepchild who is a "white-eyed wolf", you take it for granted that you should help him, and even think that you are not willing to help! Or stepchildren who think "this little favor is not worth mentioning" will not help!

Since two people come together, they must understand and help each other, each other's children, but they must also do what they can.

My personal opinion is that the other party's child can't be sincere, and my personal suggestion is that you can leave without leaving, for the sake of the child.

Even if the remarried family gets along well, there will be a lot of contradictions, and at this time, the only way to impress each other is to be patient and sincere.

You're a good man, but you haven't met a good woman, but there are actually a lot of good women.

There are few really good, all of them are fake! In the end, it all ended in divorce.

If the other party's children are with their ex-husbands, do they also want to help?

Look at how the other person treats me, I only know that people's hearts are reciprocal.

1. Create a good family atmosphere: A good family atmosphere is conducive to the physical and mental health of the children of the remarried family, and is conducive to the harmonious relationship between the husband and wife. Take a little more time to communicate with your children every day, take them for walks, parties, travel, visit relatives, etc.

From time to time, there is a small family evening party on the weekend, and the husband and wife perform some programs that are beneficial to the children, and also let the children tell jokes, tell stories, read poems, sing and dance, and so on. A good family atmosphere for remarried families is beneficial but harmless.

2. Treat children equally: Children from remarried families are generally sensitive and suspicious when they come to a new family and new environment. Husband and wife should treat each other's children equally, don't only care about their own children, favor their own children, and ignore each other's children, don't care about them, and even often beat and scold, which will not only affect the children's perception of you, but will also seriously affect the relationship between husband and wife in the long run, and the consequences are unimaginable.

3. Let the children become good friends: Let the children study, play, and walk together, and share delicious food and fun with each other, so that the children can become good friends who talk about everything. Even if the children don't live together, let them see each other often, get together and become friends.

Don't let them develop a withdrawn, selfish personality.

4. Take care of your own children: Maybe you will care more for your children from the bottom of your heart, but for the sake of family peace and harmony, please take care of your children first and cultivate their caring, generous, optimistic and tolerant character. When necessary, we should give more love to the children who return to the forest, smile more, care more, and the feelings will be deeper.

Remarriage has to adjust the mentality.

I will, because I love this person, I love everything about this person, including children.

How to treat both parties in a remarried family with children.

Treat each other's children fairly, and be slightly biased towards each other's children! Remarriage is a rebuilding of the capacity to love. If a remarried person wants to have a harmonious family, he or she must strive to change himself, adapt to his new role, and abandon the following 4 pathological psychology:

"Comparative psychology", that is, in the couple's interaction in a restructured family, comparing the current spouse with the previous spouse is often the fuse of many family conflicts.

defensive psychology", not being honest enough in dealings, "keeping a hand" in terms of economy and property, or wanting to control both parties, being too sensitive in terms of feelings, unable to get out of the shadow of the first failure, and suspicious of everything.

favoritism", so trembling down on each other's children, favoring their own children and regretting it; "Inferiority complex", some people (especially women) think that divorce is a dishonorable thing because of the failure of their first marriage, feel inferior, blindly give to the current one, and lose themselves.

Do you have to have another child if both parties to the remarried family have children?

In a restructured family, most of the time, at least one parent has children. There is a lot of pressure in society nowadays, it is easy to have children, it is even more difficult to raise children, and raising children is more of a responsibility, rather than for your feelings, to become the so-called bond of your feelings. has experienced some emotional ups and downs, and should know how to cherish it.

If the remarried family has its own ghost and has to rely on the children to maintain it, such a relationship is estimated to not last long. Having another child is actually extremely irresponsible. Manage your marriage well.

Maintain the relationship between the members of the restructured family. And if you have the financial means, the energy and the time, you can consider having another child.

If you remarry, you will definitely accept each other's children, otherwise how can you live together, if you can't accept it, then you don't need to remarry.

If you know that the other person has children before marriage and do not accept them, then do not get married.

If I am married for the second time, I will accept their children as my own, because I hope that most of my children will be hurt like his children in the future, people's hearts are made of flesh, I really don't know what those abusing children's hearts are made of, so cruel. Whenever I see these reports, I am heartbroken, the tiger poison does not eat children, and some of them are actually biological parents who attack their own children, and these people are not worthy of being parents.

There are many examples of second-married couples who love each other deeply, but they have never seen each other's children who love each other.

From a male and female perspective, respectively.

1: At present, the men in our country are still under the social and moral oppression of the family, and the support of a family is still solved by men most of the time. And the original child just suppresses the moral norms of men in our country, and also oppresses the possession of men's "competitive" spouses, and the probability of being a man who loves each other's children is very small.

2: From the perspective of women, women are naturally soft, more sensual, especially with the most powerful maternal halo, if women marry for the second time, if there is no child of their own, women will treat the original child as their other child, assuming that this child also has many advantages, women are higher than men in the degree of acceptance of children, but when women have their own children, women will slowly transfer the "maternal love" of the other child's body to their own body. Because of limited energy, women can't share too much love for everyone, and their children don't need to be wronged because of other people's children.

If a child would rather treat her child badly, then does she still have the brilliance of maternal love, and the aura of being a mother will also dim.

If the remarried family has children, they must also accept it. It is necessary to compare people's hearts with their own hearts, and treat the children who are late and hidden in the Danqin Fang, so that the other party can accept and accept your children, so that the family can be stable.

For those who remarry, how to deal with the relationship with the other person's children has a significant impact on whether the marriage can be happy. ......For a person who remarries, since he has chosen the other party, he must accept everything from the other party. Therefore, people who remarry should love each other's children.

First of all, the feelings between family members can only be harmonious if they love each other's children.

The affection between family members is the most crucial factor in maintaining family harmony. ......If you don't love each other's children, your feelings for each other will be affected, and your marriage will not be happy. ......Therefore, it is necessary to love each other's children in the future.

Secondly, loving each other's children can make life more harmonious.

An important prerequisite for a harmonious life is a harmonious relationship between family members. ......If you don't love each other's children, family harmony will not be realized, and life after remarriage will not be happy. ...Therefore, Brother Zheng, in order to live a happy life after remarriage, he must love each other's children.

In the end, love each other's children, so that the family can truly not distinguish each other.

If you don't love each other's children, the relationship between yourself and the other party will not reach the level of talking about marriage. ......Only when you love each other's children can you truly reach the level where the family does not distinguish between each other, and you can truly reap love and happiness after remarriage.

To sum up, only by loving each other's children can one's remarriage be possible, and one's filial piety can reap happiness. Therefore, the person who remarries must love each other's children.

I don't think there is love between people for no reason, and there is no hate for no reason.

If the child is well-behaved and sensible, does not act in heaven and earth, and does not reject adults unreasonably, I think he should love it too! If the parents really have a good relationship, then the other party will also tolerate your child.

But now there are many people who remarry, not to find a partner for themselves, but to find a mother or father for the child, I think the motive itself is not pure, remarry with such a mentality, the expectations of the other half of your child's fierce reunion are too high, if the other party does not meet your expectations, you will definitely be disappointed, and the contradiction will naturally arise.

Personally, I think that no matter if a man or a woman wants to remarry, there is no reason to force the other half to treat your child, your child has his own parents, if his own parents can't love him well, he should throw the pot of loving the child to the stepfather and stepmother, which is clearly a moral kidnapping.

Of course, if both parents have feelings and love each other very much, how can the other half be bad to your child? And such a small child is also very sincere, as long as the adult can pay sincerely, the relationship should not be very difficult, afraid of the adult himself to set limits, if you suspect that others will not be good to your child at the beginning, in such a heart secretly under the mu mu, even if you find a kind person, the result is not better.