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TV series Su Mingyu is a very good person, a typical working woman, it stands to reason that she should be liked by her parents, in other words, anyone will feel proud and proud because she has such a great child, but as Su Mingyu's parents, they turn a blind eye. In fact, they are used to Su Mingyu's state, and after a long time, their parents will feel that this is the mentality that a girl should have. has a natural psychological state, which shows that the "balance scale" in the depths of his parents' hearts has long been automatically crooked, even if Su Mingyu does it to the extreme, his parents will ignore it.

As the old saying goes: "Ma Shan is ridden by others, and he repays virtue with resentment", which is also applicable to the current social development. Especially in the relationship between children and parents, it is also vividly reflected.

Reasonable parents can keep their children's goodness in mind, but parents who are disobedient and do not know how to be grateful will become more and more excessive. The more filial and obedient the children, the stricter the management of the parents, and in the long run, the parents' mentality begins to become stronger, and they will feel that the more filial their children, the easier it is to provoke.

The above two specific contents are all reasons why parents do not like to be filial to their children. But in any case, every child is the flesh that falls from the parents' body, which is the result of the parents' serious shaping, and the child's filial piety and obedience are the blessings of the previous life, and the parents should be grateful, don't think that the more filial the child, the easier it is to provoke. In order to be more qualified in the family, parents must do these two things.

Every child is the treasure of their parents, and it is too late to care, how can they be willing to "bully". In daily life, it is necessary to treat children equally, and do not let children have conflicts with each other.

Filial children are very good, even if they have achieved the ultimate filial piety and obedience, then the parents should also have a certain reply. I will pay more attention to this type of child, so that the child feels warm and caring. With a very filial child, parents must learn to be grateful, the feelings between people are mutual, as long as they invest in each other, they will be stronger.

Paying more attention to filial and sensible children can bring certain benefits, on the one hand, it is conducive to the healthy and happy growth of children, and on the other hand, it is conducive to improving parent-child communication. It will help to build a harmonious and happy family in the basic construction.

Because the more filial the child, the more the parents take it for granted, they don't know how to cherish it, and they also feel that the filial child is unproductive and unworthy of respect.

In a family where parents often quarrel, the balance in the parents' hearts is tilted, and in the eyes of the parents, if the child is particularly filial, the child will be considered to be particularly easy to bully.

This question is not like this, if you just look at the phenomenon, it seems that it is indeed the rhythm of the more spoiled and the more spoiled, but the child problem still has to look at the essence through the phenomenon! There are two core problems that lead to children's disobedience, the first is the example of parents, parents' attitude towards their parents will greatly affect the child's attitude towards their parents, if adults are not filial to their parents, then the first education link of the family has a problem! So there is no controversy that the child is not filial to the "upward and downward effect", and it cannot be attributed to the matter of pampering!

The second point is education, as the Three Character Classic says, "If the son does not teach, the father is guilty." If you don't teach, the teacher is lazy", education is the core of traditional Chinese culture, and the core is to strictly abide by "filial piety", what is "filial piety", if you don't know, then the child is not filial, please don't blame him, that's a family education problem! The so-called "filial piety" at the core of Chinese culture is the basic virtue of people, that is, "filial piety to parents and respect for elder brothers", which is gradually forgotten by Chinese people!

So why "the son does not teach, the father's fault" will be in front, this is because the ancients knew a truth! Family education is far more important than school education! After all, the knowledge learned in the "school" of the family is the earliest to affect the child, and it is also the farthest to affect the child!

So spoiling children and children not being filial are completely different things, and there is no direct relationship! On the contrary, the more pampered the child is psychologically complete, the more he knows gratitude, and it is normal to be pampered and favorited, why? Because children come to this world passively, not voluntarily, as parents should give more tolerance and patience, of course, tolerance and patience and pampering cannot replace education!

Education is always the core!

1. Spoiling children excessively.

It is natural for parents to love their children, but if this kind of love goes too far and becomes doting, parents try their best to meet any excessive requirements for their children, which will lead to children not knowing the hard work of their parents, having no concept of life values, and not knowing how to cherish and respect, and becoming selfish. 2. Excessive favoritism towards children.

Everyone makes mistakes sometimes, and children are no exception, and some parents face their children when they make mistakes, and they are everywhere to protect them, and find all kinds of reasons to dissociate their children, so that children gradually become arrogant, self-centered, and unable to distinguish between right and wrong.

3. Arrange for children to cut.

At present, many parents put their children's academic performance first, thinking that as long as their children's academic performance is good, everything else is not important, and even many children will not wash their own socks when they are in middle school. Under the big bag of parents, children gradually lose the most basic self-care ability, and when they grow up, they become low-eyed, inferior and arrogant.

Children are the hearts and minds of parents, and parents love their children. But love children to be far-reaching, love children to have a degree, there are limitations, life does not start from scratch, cultivate children's conduct from an early age so that children can face the future life independently, the next long to give children the best love. Although I don't dare to "hope that my son will become a dragon, but also."

The more some parents love their children, the more unfilial their children become, and I think the main reason for this phenomenon is that the spoiling of parents causes children to be selfish and ungrateful and ungrateful to them. In some families, parents, grandparents, and grandparents, as well as grandparents, the whole family treats the child as a little emperor and a little princess, and unconditionally spoils and protects them, resulting in the child as the center of the world and only thinking about himself. Parents take care of everything for their children from an early age.

Whatever you want, parents will help their children get it non-stop. In the long run, children will take it for granted that adults do these things for them, and when parents refuse to do things for their children, children will think that it is against the norm. Children are used to being spoiled and served, and they have not learned to care about others, think about others, and give for others.

Of course, everything is not absolute, there are also some families who are well-off, have good love for their children, and children will be very polite and grateful.

Saying that parents love their children more, the less filial they are to their parents, the more they torture their children, but filial piety, I personally think it is still biased, but if parents spoil their children excessively, then it must be bad for their children's growth, but they should not torture their children, but should give correct guidance to their children, so that they can really educate their children.

The more parents pamper their children, the less filial they are, the more parents torture their children but are filial, I personally think this is a matter of probability, and being strict also makes children upright, and pampering often makes children rebellious.

The more you pamper your child, the more you will lose your gratitude, take everything for granted, and be unfilial to your parents. I don't agree with the latter sentence too much, torturing children will not be filial, but it may also be because of the lack of love of children, and when they grow up, filial parents hope to be able to get the love that belongs to their parents. It should be educated normally, not too pampered or too tormented.

Hello! Because parents also pamper their children, spoil their children, and get used to their children, it is easy to spoil their children, and the children who are used to them are more willful, but the parents say that they have children, and the children are still filial, because such children often know the hard work of their parents, but I think that educating children can not be too pampered, nor too tormenting, and there must be a correct education method, and way, so that children can grow up healthy and happy.

This is not called pampering, this is called doting on children, you will give what the child wants, there is no reason, when he was young, he had a bad habit when he grew up, at this time the parents found out, want to change them, they have a rebellious mentality, think that the parents do not love him if they can't get something, so the child is not filial, if the parents' family conditions are not good, the child sees the parents suffering, of course, he will feel sorry for the parents, such a child filial piety is very normal.

Because if you spoil your child too much, you will become doting, and if you dote on your child too much, it is easy for your child to become a child who does not know how to be grateful to his parents. The more parents torture their children, in fact, it cannot be said to be torture, it can only be said to be a strict way of discipline, but more filial piety to parents. Strict discipline will make the child grow up to understand that his parents are for his good, let him know how to behave when he grows up, and also include gratitude to his parents.

Excessive pampering by parents will lead to the absence of children's self-care ability and responsibility construction, resulting in children having no ability to take responsibility, not only will they not honor their parents, but also generally do not know how to treat others well.

Parents torture their children, and the children may not all have a high probability of filial piety, and when filial piety occurs, most of them are because the children have no self and are habitually pleased.

Maybe it's just that there is a feeling that things are going to be the opposite! If parents pamper their children, they worry about everything for their children. After a long time, they think that their elders worry about everything, and they still take it for granted that they don't have to do anything themselves. It will not be filial.

Parents dote on their children, generally he is out of the bottom line of education, so that children can't tell which is right and which is wrong, and the child will only blindly ask for it, so he doesn't know how the money comes from, and he doesn't know how to honor his parents When he grows up, his achievements are very poor, and he is likely to resent his parents and there is no filial piety. Parents torturing their children should not be said to be torture, it can only be said that the stricter the parents are to their children, let the children know what is right and wrong, and what punishment should be received if they are wrong, the higher such a child is demanding of himself, and when he grows up in the future, he will be grateful to his parents, so he will be filial to his parents.

Because pampering is doting, this will spoil the child will make him feel that his parents should do everything, he will not know what is called Zhi'en Tu Bao when he grows up, on the contrary, those children who are strictly controlled by their parents, they know the hardships of their parents, and they will honor their parents when they grow up.

I think this view is one-sided. Admittedly, there is some truth in this sentence, but pampering and filial piety are not directly related; Secondly, the more tormented the parents, the more filial the children will be, I personally think that the word torture is not too appropriate. Not much to say off topic, just according to this, there is indeed this phenomenon in today's society, parents are too accustomed to their children, and in the long run, children will develop bad habits, so parents have to educate their children well.

The more pampered the children of the parents, the less filial piety, and the more tormenting the parents, this is because the parents spoil the children and think that the parents should pay to themselves, and they should not pay to their parents, if there is a little unsatisfactory, they will torture the parents, realize their own ideas, and achieve their own goals, which is the consequence of pampering.

I don't agree with this point of view, because whether a child is filial or not is mainly related to family education, it is not that parents spoil their children, they are not filial, nor are parents filial to torture their children. Children are filial because their parents are very good to them, they care about them very much, and their parents teach filial piety by word and deed.

The pampering of his parents, he is not really pampering, it is a kind of doting, so he will not be filial to his parents for such a child.

The more tormented the child is, the more filial piety he is, it shows that he knows that it is not easy for his parents, and now the family is a more difficult family, and the child understands the difficulty of his parents early, so he is very filial to his parents.

In fact, the more pampered the children of the parents, the less filial they are, and the more tormented the children of the parents, but the filial piety, what you say does not summarize everything, because some children, the more the parents toss, the more they are rebellious. Therefore, it can only be said that the situation you are talking about, belongs to the more favored children of their parents, the more dependent they are on their parents, and it is easy to develop the old family, and when the parents are old, they see that their parents are useless, so they begin to dislike their parents, of course, they are not filial. Children who are tortured by their parents, parents are always self-centered, so that children are at a loss, and this kind of parents have a kind of "high control", according to the traditional saying is a tough patriarchy, so that the child must obey, over time, the child is easy to obey.

Once this habit is formed, when their parents are old, they will try their best to meet all the needs of their parents, and naturally, they will become the most filial people.

In fact, to put it bluntly, whether a child is filial or not in the end depends on the education of his parents and the kindness of his child's nature, not entirely on whether he is pampered by his parents or tortured.