Should we forgive those who have hurt us?

Summary...Forgiveness doesn't hurt. This situation can be forgiven, but you must keep an eye on it, because you may betray you one day.

People's hearts are separated from their stomachs, and no one knows what he thinks in his heart. As the saying goes, if you eat a trench and grow wise, you will be regarded as making a new friend.

Should we forgive those who have hurt us?

Forgiveness doesn't hurt. This situation can be forgiven, but you must keep an eye on it, because you may betray you one day.

People's hearts are separated from their stomachs, and no one knows what he thinks in his heart. As the saying goes, if you eat a trench and grow wise, you will be regarded as making a new friend.

I'm still a little confused, can you be more detailed?

A: When you apologize to a friend who has hurt you, I don't think you should forgive easily. Because only by respecting and loving oneself can we gain the respect of others for us.

For those who have hurt us, even if we want to forgive him, let your tolerance and generosity have weight and value.

Depending on what the specific thing is, there are some situations that are absolutely unforgivable.

When a person has hurt you, even if he is willing to make amends, apologize, and redouble his hello and ask you to forgive him, if you have been hurt a lot, you may not be able to forgive.

Forgiveness is not about forgetting the pain, but about accepting the situation and understanding the hurt, not only for the person who has hurt you, but more importantly for yourself.

If it is a small injury, it can be forgiven, not that everything must be remembered, there is always a big or small injury in the wind and rain. The harm that you can't remember is no longer a hurt, let it pass in the past, and don't forgive the hurt that changes your cognition. I don't think holding grudges is necessarily a bad thing, just don't make yourself distorted in hatred, we just remember the hurts, don't forgive and make ourselves better for these people.

True forgiveness is a kind of relief and acceptance. When it happens, you stop dwelling on what that person or thing could have been, you accept what has happened, and admit that it will never change again. And it's all about your own state of mind, and it has nothing to do with what's right or wrong.

Choosing to forgive is not simply for the sake of the other person, but for oneself. Maintaining anger and resentment actually comes at a cost, and can have a negative impact on your physical health, mental health, and relationships.

But if I don't plan to forgive the other person, that's also my freedom, and it's all for my own sake to forgive or not.

Personally, I feel that people who have hurt themselves should be forgiven.

Because tolerance is, leaky fiber has let go of itself and others!

If you think you can forgive, forgive it, it's not a big deal. It's going to rain, my mother is going to get married, and there's no way to stop it.

No. I will not forgive a person who betrays himself. Because people who have betrayed themselves will leave scars in people's hearts, eliminate the shadow of argument, have no sense of security, cannot trust each other, disappointed, sad ......And so on, and these feelings make it impossible to forgive a person who betrayed him.

And betrayal will repeat, betraying you once will have a next time. So even if you forgive, you can't go back to the way things were.

Let's talk about trust first! Getting along with people requires trust. And the person who betrays you gives people the impression that they are insecure and cannot trust the other person.

It's like being bitten by a snake once and being afraid of the well rope for ten years. When you see the other person, you will remember that the other party has betrayed you and hurt you, and there is no sense of trust, let alone a sense of security. So it is impossible to forgive those who betrayed themselves.

For example, a pair of intimate lovers who were originally living a happy life, suddenly one day. One party betrayed the other party, no matter what the reason, it was a big blow to the other party, because from the sweet love suddenly fell to the bottom of life, this gap is unacceptable, and it is unforgivable, when you see each other, you will think of the other party betraying yourself, there will be a shadow in your heart, and this shadow will not be forgotten because of the passage of time, but firmly engraved in the memory, although you will think of it from time to time, you will feel sad at any time, insecure, and of course there is no sense of trust in that person. So I will not forgive those who betray me.

Because the damage caused to her by the other party is irreparable.

When a person is betrayed by a person, the hurt in her heart is always reminding her to avoid being hurt again. And for a person who has lost a sense of trust, how can it be forgiven. That's why I don't think anyone who betrayed me can be forgiven, because a shadow has been created in my heart, and the shadow is the most difficult thing to remove.

For example, if you cut a rope and you cut it, and when it breaks, you want it to come back to its original state, is it possible? Even if you reconnect it, there will be a knot, and the knot will always stay on the rope. If you stick it with glue, it is not as strong as before.

So betrayal is like a thread that has been cut. There are scars, there are knots, and it is unforgivable, to return to the way it was.

In short, I will not forgive a person who betrays himself. Because the person who betrayed himself has left scars, shadows, distrust, insecurity, disappointment, sadness ...... in the bottom of his heartand so on, and these feelings make it impossible to forgive him.