Guiguzi teaches you how to have a heart

Always watch advertisements saying Guiguzi, teach you how to improve emotional intelligence, improve this and improve that, it should be very powerful.

In fact, Guiguzi is really a magical character, and many of his apprentices are very powerful.

1.Sentiment observation. What exactly is the use of emotions in persuasion?

One of the answers is that it can be used as a method of observation. Because people's emotions are actually more emotional, what you call rationality is also a kind of perceptual rationality. For example, you can't control yourself from getting angry.

When you encounter something angry, people will definitely get angry, in fact, you can't control it. Even Wang Yangming said that joy, anger, sorrow and happiness are not yet in place. The implication is that it's normal for mood to change, and it's normal for you to be happy and angry, but it's important to grasp the degree and don't go too far.

Undeveloped is the practice of saints. It's a pity that there are more laypeople in this world, otherwise there is really no way to use it. For example, you and I, when we are angry, we have no scruples, and we say everything that should be said and what should not be said, which is called emotional.

And Guiguzi takes advantage of people's emotional changes to deliberately provoke or please each other, and then collect information, speculate on people's hearts, and then read people's hearts.

Therefore, Guiguzi tells us that if you understand the changes in other people's emotions and use them, you can make others obediently say their true thoughts. Guiguzi's original words are: Those who are in love will be extremely eager when they are very happy, and they will not hide their feelings when they have desires.

2.Social Application Method. Man is a social animal, like each of us has loved ones.

The social application method refers to the fact that when we meet a person and cannot obtain the other person's information, we must adjust our strategy. For example, look for people close to the other person. That is, side knocking, or roundabout tactics.

In life, we will always meet some people who are moody and angry, and we can't figure out their psychology. At this time, you can use this method to understand the timing from the other party's family and friends. Zhang Yi played this method back then, first getting Zheng Sleeve, and then getting King Chu Huai.

Through Zheng Sleeve, King Chu Huai's hobbies and habits are all clear. This kind of game is actually unbalanced and unfair. But it is precisely because of the asymmetry of information that the Zonghengjia can persuade successfully.

3.Facial expression. It is actually not surprising that Guiguzi can put forward many scientific theories ahead of time. For example, Guiguzi innovatively said: Those who change their feelings on the inside will see them on the outside.

This sentence is explained by psychology as "the law of conservation of mind". When there is a change in a person's heart, his appearance will manifest itself. For example, when a person is angry in his heart, although he wants to suppress it, in fact, his speech and demeanor will definitely be manifested and not controlled by the brain, which is the basis for the establishment of "micro-expression" and "body language".

In fact, if you don't have a heart, you don't need to pay Guiguzi, you can find a rare one if you usually have nothing to do.

1.Tell it to be difficult and watch its bravery. If you want to know if a person is brave or not, tell him that it is difficult and dangerous, and his reaction can reflect whether he is brave or not.

2.Drunk with wine and look at its sex.

3.Those who are good at reason will be easy to understand, and those who are rough will be crazy in their words.

4.When there is no continuation, it will be disturbed.

These four methods are: one with the poor according to the word, the second with the lowly according to the humble, the third with the brave according to the daring, and the fourth with the poor according to the sharp. These four methods enable us to distinguish between people and right from wrong.

The first step is to quiet the speech: the one who speaks, the one who moves. Those who are silent are also quiet. Because of its words, listen to its words.

Guiguzi's routine is like magic, and when we break down the mystery, I believe that friends often sigh "I see". To find out what others think, it's actually very simple, start by asking others to say more, and encourage others to say as much as possible. In this way, we can know what other people's intentions are by what they say.

This is actually the way to play with static braking in the Art of War.

Listening is the key to the first step. Listen to what others want to express in what they say. Many times, when we communicate with people, we are too anxious, so we do the opposite. It became a self-talking, so it was low-level.

The second step is anti-heart: if there is a disagreement, but ask for it, it will come out.

Speaking is an interactive process. Many friends have such a habit of listening silently and not saying anything. In fact, in Eastern philosophy, it is said that "existence is born from nothing", and nothing is the beginning of existence.

So listening is never an end, it's just a means, it's about being able to understand what others are thinking. In this world, in fact, 50% of people have taken the initiative to say their thoughts, but we often turn a deaf ear, which is really a pity.

Since it is listening, it is necessary to have yin and yang, and still and movement. When we find something unreasonable in other people's words, we might as well ask a rhetorical question to get the other person to tell the truth.

In fact, the remaining 30% can be used to ask the other party's true thoughts through anti-heart techniques.

Is it hard to ask a rhetorical question?

The third step is the elephant comparison: the elephant is like his thing, and the elephant is compared with his words. Seeking sound with intangible, its fishing language is in harmony, and it is true.

If you still can't get the other party, what can you do?

The first two moves, one static and one moving, one yin and one yang, can already get 80% of people's thoughts. If you want to know what the remaining 20% of people think, you really need to talk about it, and this trick is called elephant comparison, which is actually to tell a story that can move the other party. As long as you can resonate with each other, Guiguzi said:

Seeking sound with intangible, its fishing language is in harmony. What does that mean? By telling a story that touches others, analogy with the other person's heart, moisturizing things silently moves others, and then understanding the inner thoughts of others.

Some friends will talk about it, but I can't tell a story. The key to elephant comparison is not the story itself, but the ability to tell a story that resonates with others.