How to get the other party to take the initiative to contact you after a breakup

Enhance personal charisma.

The biggest charm of a manly man is that he has a successful career, generally speaking, most of the boys who start to find a partner and fall in love have not worked for a long time, of course, they can't talk about a successful career, at this time the important thing is to make the girl feel that you are a self-motivated person, and you can talk about other things as you like, but you can't be vague on this issue, you must tell women that they are full of confidence in the future, and are not satisfied with the status quo and have a long-term plan, in short, they must show that their future is not a dream.

Chinese traditional culture has always emphasized "masculine and feminine", and most of the girls who grew up under the influence of this cultural environment are subtle, dependent, and have a strong sense of family. Of course, I hope to find a "man" who can be relied on and responsible, which requires my own confidence and sense of responsibility.

Remember, whether you want the other party to contact each other after a breakup, whether it is to redeem it, or to get back together, all of this comes down to the second attraction. How to achieve secondary attraction, you must first master these 3 methods:

When you have a higher sense of need, you lose the initiative. On the contrary, when your sense of need is lower, the initiative is in your hands and I am the tightest time. When you show a strong sense of need, it represents your low value.

If you want to redeem your love, you need to be distracted, you have to have your own rhythm in life, such as: traveling, reading books, learning to cook, doing more things you love, trying new things. Avoid doing things that are offensive to the other person, as this will create more points of conflict between you.

Therefore, do not act radically and reduce the possible contradictions between the two sides.

Learn to give the other person more time and space, use theoretical skills appropriately, and keep pestering the other person will only add more pressure to the other person, which will make the other person rationalize your breakup. So, instead of constantly pestering each other, use your charm to re-engage them. Enhance your own value, understand the needs of the other party, and let your change become the needs of the other party.

Let the other person feel fresh about you and take the initiative to contact you.

Re-engage the other person, don't take the initiative to contact the other person during the period when you are not talking, but you can attract the other person's attention through the display of the circle of friends. How to display the ** value in the circle of friends? Make your life interesting, do more things you love, and try new things.

Go to the place where the other party wants to go but has not been, take a good-looking **, and show it in the circle of friends, it will arouse the interest of the other party, she wants to know about your recent situation, and often takes the initiative to contact you.

You have to learn to look at yourself and improve yourself. Reduce the sense of need, reduce the contradictions between the two parties, enhance your charm, and let the other party take the initiative to contact you, and the probability of redemption will be greatly improved.

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1. Be an ordinary friend of the other party.

When the other party rejects any contact with you after the breakup, or even directly blocks you, it means that the conflict between you has reached the highest point of intensification. At this time, you must change the identity of your former lovers and treat each other as your ordinary friend.

As the saying goes: no desire is rigid. Lower your emotional needs for him and calm down, so that you can be confident. Since ancient times, you can't keep the deep love, and you always have routines to win people's hearts, and what you need at this time is routines.

2. Maintain a good attitude.

When it comes to recovery, there are countless techniques and methods, but these alone are not enough. If you always approach the other person with an urgent heart, it will be half the effort, and it may even get worse.

The ultimate goal of redemption is to get him back together with you, and the relationship will be stronger than before. If you fully reveal your urgent need for this relationship during the redemption process, it will make your posture very low. This will directly lead to the unequal status of the love between the two in the future, and this relationship will be difficult to maintain for a long time.

Therefore, the redemption should change from passive to active, so that the recovered party will be attracted to you again and actively seek reunion. The strength of the sense of need has a certain relationship with the position in the relationship, and the stronger the sense of need, the easier it is to lose the dominance in the relationship. Therefore, there is love in the heart and no variegation on the face.

Let him reach out to you after a breakup to do these 4 things.

Let him reach out to you after a breakup to do these 4 things.

3. Focus on self-improvement.

Self-improvement is a very important part, and it is urgent to ask him to take the initiative to contact you and improve himself. There are two parts here, one is inner ascension and the other is external ascension.

Exterior modification. External beauty is an important factor in attracting the opposite sex, and even on the road to success. At the same time, it is also the key to recovering success. Imagine if the reason for your breakup was your raunchy and sloppy.

Then now is the time for you to change. Even if it weren't for these, wouldn't it make him even more attractive if you made yourself more delicate and beautiful?

Go buy a few new clothes, change your hairstyle, change your jewelry, change your shoes and hats. In short, create a new self. This will help you a lot in your recovery.

Inner transformation. Inner beauty is to give people a feeling of being very comfortable. If a woman has a happy love, then she must be very good inside. There are many beautiful women who can often attract the attention of men, but they basically can't open their mouths because they look tacky when they open their mouths.

Reading a good book, reading a classic**, learning a dance, and practicing a musical instrument are all great ways to cultivate inner beauty. Inner beauty is not something that can be cultivated overnight, it requires long-term cultivation.

4. Circle of friends construction.

Letter QQ is a very good way to communicate, and it is also a necessary tool for recovery. Therefore, the circle of friends should be built carefully.

Avatar**. Don't use your previous avatar after a breakup. Don't use it to show your dedication, it will disappoint you. You can use a brand new avatar, not that kind of back, those non-mainstream people who can't see the face.

With some joyful types, you can use some very cute animals, beautiful avatars, or yourself.

You can be going for a new one.

I am good enough to be strong. The other person needs your moral and material support. This way he will reach out to you and ask for reconciliation.

How to get the other party to take the initiative to contact you after a breakupYou can often post your own messages on Moments to let him know how you're doing.

Make the most of your circle of friends, don't sell badly, but on the contrary, show off your current life. You also want to let him know how you are in life. Let him contact you through the circle of friends, and maybe he will inadvertently give you a thumbs up.

Then it will be eliminated, but he will still pay attention to you slowly. When he contacts you, you also have to take the initiative, and you can't act too much, too much will cause him to be disgusted.

Be an ordinary friend of the other party, maintain a good attitude, focus on self-improvement, and circle of friends building.

Quite simply, if a man breaks up with a woman, the woman's first time has not been given to a man. And the girl is very beautiful. Pull people. The conditions are not good either, then. Either how long will it take for a man to regret it, and he will definitely give a woman a **, don't worry!

If you are still friends after the breakup, then the other party will also take the initiative to contact you, especially when you encounter some happy events, you will be invited to participate.

This is not easy to do, if you want to contact the other party, don't expect the other party to take the initiative to contact you, you should take the initiative to contact the other party first, and show your sincerity to the other party first. I think that's better.

I can't do how to let the other party take the initiative to contact you after a breakup, what I can do is how to choose not to break up when I break up. Since you want the other party to take the initiative to contact you, it is better for you to be bold and take the initiative to contact him, sometimes love is not waiting for him, and sometimes you need to take the initiative. If you do it or not, you can get a result, if you don't do it, you can find out n more than one reason, why lie to yourself, take the initiative to know the result, and do whatever you should do in the future!

How to get the other party to take the initiative to contact you after a breakupThen you take the initiative to help him. Don't tell him you have to help him. If it's you who propose to break up. He will reach out to you, and if it is her proposed breakup, it will not be possible.

Since they have already broken up, why do you still let the other party contact you? Since you have broken up, you should divide it cleanly, so it should be the best, it is a harm to anyone, there is no need to let the other party take the initiative to contact you, so the breakup is not a playhouse.

After a breakup, if you want the other party to take the initiative to contact you, unless your relationship is still there, it is difficult to get the other party to take the initiative to contact you. If you are still in love with each other, you should take the initiative to contact each other and give each other a step, the effect will be better.

There is no such possibility, after all, we have broken up, I think if you want the other party to take the initiative, only you take the initiative to find the other party first, and explain the situation if the other party still cares about you. There are no other shortcuts.

1, the premise that you still love him, 2 you are a girl, otherwise the boy should take the initiative, 3** WeChat do not block, otherwise I can't find you, 4 He has not determined his plan to be with you, don't think that he can contact you, 5 feelings are like this, you care about her and take the initiative to contact, unless you are ready to separate, 6 He is not married or a new love.

Become better, let her know that there are other members of the opposite sex around you besides her who like you (don't be ambiguous with other members of the opposite sex), and then have a lofty hobby and go out to travel.

Let them understand that you are doing well without them, and with them you give up a lot.

After the two break up, they should leave a message on each other's WeChat, explain the situation, and make it easy to contact each other in the future, since they can't become lovers, they can become good friends in the future, everything should be normal, they can help each other if they have any difficulties, and they can greet each other during the festival.

Personally, I think that the person who will take the initiative to contact the other party after the breakup must be the one who loves each other deeply. If you want the other party to contact you, you can post a text like thinking about him in the circle of friends, and he will feel distressed when he sees it, and he will contact you.

Now that you've broken up, it's a little difficult to get the other party to take the initiative to contact you, so you can ask a mutual friend of the two of you to talk about it and see what the other person thinks.

If you are very good, there is no major fault, it is just a small problem impulse, and the anger is gone, and the other party will contact you.

Since the two have broken up, is there still a need to contact, falling in love is not a playhouse, and after a relationship is over, there is no need to break the connection.

Hello, after a breakup, I want the other party to take the initiative to contact you.

Strengthen self-improvement and make yourself better.

Dear, you can post yourself unwell or sick in the circle of friends, more realistic! If this doesn't contact you, then don't be obsessed!

Questions. It's been two months since I broke up with my boyfriend Before October 1st, he suddenly followed me, watched my circle of friends and liked, I haven't paid attention to him, and now it's been more than ten days, and he has never followed me anymore, and he doesn't like or look at my circle of friends, it seems that he has a girlfriend now.

Because ten days ago, he posted on Moments to talk about his parents' introduction to him, and then he hasn't looked at my Moments and likes.

Is it so cut to the bottom and broken.

His words may also be a test of your attitude! As for whether he has a girlfriend, you can observe, or you can do what I say and see his attitude!

Questions. I have a girlfriend, I can see the distance, and then I see that he rarely goes to Momo anymore, and he used to go to Momo every day.

Today, my parents introduced me to the object again and asked me to add her WeChat to talk to her She said that she is 1.55 meters tall and weighs 140 pounds My parents like fat people Say Wangfu I don't know what logic it is That girl knows that I bought a house here It hasn't been renovated yet I want to talk to her after I finish the house I still want to find it myself Inadvertently I will always meet the right one Rather lack than abuse They say that you can't find true love on Momo I don't believe it Not everyone with tattoos It's just that bad people feel that there are still a lot of good girls on Momo It's just that everyone is defensive So I won't easily chat with strangers for fear of being deceived!

So he posted it on Moments to talk about it, and then he posted it again in less than a week about how his parents introduced him to him, and then now he rarely goes to Momo, and the distance is different.

In this way, if you really can't let go, try to redeem it, if not, then don't pay attention to him!

If you want to let the other party take the initiative to contact you in the process of dating, you can try the following methods:

1。To properly disconnect and calm down to solve the problem, you must first find the root of the problem. You want to know why the other party is so disgusted with you?

Every time you contact the other party, every word and sentence you say reveals something, and at this moment the other party is the most repulsive. Therefore, it is necessary to deal with it calmly, in order to prevent further deterioration of your relationship, and also to leave each other a space to think.

2。Make him feel good about you in some ways. When a man proposes to calm down, there must be a reason, at least a reason, either your approach touches a point on him, or your shortcomings provoke his opinion on a thing, and then your image is discounted in his heart.

3。Spending time away from each other can enrich yourself. People are often easy to get lost in relationships, especially in the early days of a breakup, deceiving the heart and lungs, and humbling to the extreme for a man who has been lost, this is not the best for you.

It is also the saddest thing for a person to lose himself. Therefore, it is better to correct your distress, rather than being depressed every day, it is better to live a good life. You can change your outer self and enrich your inner self.