It won t be annoying for friends to get too close, and don t get too close to each other

Live your own life, get back your self-confidence, don't affect everything because of one person, live yourself well is the most real, come on, believe in yourself, we don't live for one person.

This friend of yours is overly modest, very hypocritical, he only cares about his own feelings. A capricious person who is inconsistent with his appearance is indeed terrifying, don't look at his hot fight with his friends now, he still has no friends in the end. Socially he's not as good as you.

From now on, regain your confidence and believe that you are the best.

Friends are really complicated, and I've had a problem with this lately, and you don't know what's going on in her mind. I think it's better for two people to sit down and have a good talk, than guessing. Maybe it's all your cranky thoughts, and you start to alienate them, and they think that you value sex over friends.

Don't let there be a misunderstanding between you.

When you decide, you decide, that's how I am, and you may suffer a lot of criticism. I also had the experience of pretending to be innocent, having nothing to say in front of me, and speaking well of herself behind my back. Everyone thought she was a good person.

Then you have to adjust yourself, and a lot of things are what we subconsciously push ourselves to do.

This situation is normal、Friends get too close before、Friction will inevitably occur。 There are times when you should learn to be silent.

You can find a time to try to communicate well.

It's normal to be influenced by friends around you, since her influence on you is negative. Stay away from her, but not from all your former friends. People's personalities are constantly changing with time and many things happening, and it is easy to be yourself as you like.

The mind is sensitive, and you should be generous in the appropriate place, but in private, you can use QQ or mobile phone to leak the truth, and generally others will value the true feelings of friends.

From a scientific point of view, this is because relationships are complex and influenced by a variety of factors. Some friends may become closer to each other because of common interests and values, while others may become more and more distant due to lifestyles, differences of opinion, etc. In general, changes in interpersonal relationships depend on how they interact with each other and how they treat each other.

Dong Qing has a famous saying:

Everything in the world is an encounter. When cold meets warm, there is rain; Winter meets spring, there are years; Heaven meets earth, and there is eternity; Man meets man and has life. ”

Most of the encounters between people are beautiful, but after a short period of happiness, there may not be a perfect ending.

There is no need to sigh "if life is only as it was first seen", from the initial enthusiasm to the final indifference, it may not be that people's hearts are changeable, but because you are too close.

Keep a glass of water away from your friends.

Sanmao once said: "No matter how close friends are, they can't be misproportionate, and they think they are familiar, and they end up being isolated." ”

When I was young, I didn't understand, and I felt that friends should be intimate and wear a pair of pants, so I put twelve points of enthusiasm for each friend, and I wanted to pour out my heart and lungs for them.

When the relationship is good, you are like conjoined babies, eating together, shopping together, playing together, going to the toilet together, telling her any secrets in your heart, and treating her affairs as your own business.

It doesn't take long for you to find out:

The secrets you only told her casually told others;

Where she did not do well, you kindly reminded her, but she felt that you interfered in her life;

When she is in trouble, you do your best to help, and when you need help, she push......es back

In this way, the more you give, the more disappointment you receive.

There are many disappointments, and even intimate relationships will crack; If the heart is cold, it will never be warmed again.

Looking back now, most of those inseparable friends at the beginning have no contact; It's a friend who wasn't close before, and I'm still in touch.

As the saying goes, brothers also have to settle accounts, and no one can really be inseparable from you. Getting too close will only make an otherwise happy friendship heavy and complicate an otherwise simple relationship.

Seven points of fullness for eating, seven points good for people. Don't talk deeply, don't overestimate your position in other people's hearts, and don't expect too much from others.

Liang Shiqiu's "On Friendship" wrote:

The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, because it is light, so it can not be greasy and last.

A good friendship is like a glass of water, which seems to be bland and tasteless, but it is inseparable from it every day and can never be tired of drinking.

If you add too much honey to it, although it is delicious at first, it will be unbearable after a long time.

No matter how good a friend is, remember to keep a glass of water at a distance. It's okay to see each other, don't remember you later, only in this way can you make friendship go further.

I think of a very beautiful poem:

The farthest distance in the world is not the distance between life and death.

But I stand before you, and you don't know that I love you.

How far two people are, it is never about mountains and rivers, or even about life and death, but whether two hearts can understand each other and love each other.

It's a pity to be too far away, of course; Getting too close is also a disaster. This is true for friends, loved ones, and lovers.

For the rest of our lives, may we learn to leave some space for each other and support each other, but not overly dependent;

For the rest of our lives, may we be able to look at each other and smile, move forward calmly, watch the flowers bloom together, and walk through the sunrise and sunset.

1.Life trajectory bifurcation: With the change of life stage, people's life focus will also change, and they may leave the original city and enter a different workplace or environment, which will gradually diverge the original same life trajectory and gradually reduce the opportunities to get along.

2.Personality differences: As people grow older, their hobbies, values, and outlook on life will gradually form, and some people may find that their personalities are getting bigger and bigger from their former best friends, resulting in fewer and fewer topics to talk about each other.

3.Complex relationships: Relationships can become more complex over time, and some people may have misunderstandings or conflicts due to the involvement of some other people, leading to a gradual estrangement from their former best friends.

4.Changes in the way people interact: As people get older, the way people interact will gradually change, and some people may pay more attention to family, career, etc., and there is not much time to communicate with friends, resulting in a gradual decrease in contact with former best friends.

Knowledge Expansion:

Relationships are complex systems that need to be maintained and managed on an ongoing basis. Here are some ways to help maintain friendships:

1.Take the initiative to contact: take the initiative to contact friends, make an appointment to meet, share your life and feelings, and increase mutual understanding and interaction.

3.Communicate honestly: When there is a conflict or misunderstanding, it is necessary to communicate in a timely and frank manner to avoid the further expansion of the problem and increase mutual understanding and respect.

4.Be respectful: In the process of getting along with friends, maintain mutual respect and understanding, and avoid unnecessary conflicts and misunderstandings due to personality differences or other reasons.

5.Cherish fate: Everyone's life will go through different stages and changes, cherish the fate with friends, and try to maintain and strengthen the connection and feelings between each other.

There are many reasons why good friends can get apart, whether it's because of personality differences, or because they're separated, or because they don't have much contact.

Whether it is friends or relatives around them, in fact, in the end, they all have their own ways to go, Jianbi completes their studies, completes their dreams, and pursues their own lives. For example, the friends you made when you were a student are likely to be separated after graduation, and it is very difficult to maintain a relationship only online. Because after all, you can't show up in time when your friends need it, and you can't find each other when you need them.

It is easy to cause the feelings to fade away. So in the end, there is a high probability that there will be fewer contacts, and each will have a new life and a new beginning, new friends, and so on in their respective cities. Slowly, the old people seem to be slowly forgotten or no longer relevant.

Or even if both friends are often together, but because of the incompatibility of personalities in the end, or because one party has their own plans and priorities in life, it is easy to cause the relationship between friends to fade. For example, studying hard or working hard leads to neglecting friends. Or make new and better friends.

In short, there are many reasons for the final dispersal of good friends, but in the final analysis, it may be that the fate is too shallow and the feelings are not deep enough.

If you are gone, let go of Zhaozheng, those who have left footprints in their own world, just remember. If you leave, you don't have to regret it. After all, there are very few people in this world who can accompany you for a long time, and even reach the end.

Once you enter the society, a lot of things have changed, and they are not as innocent as before, because of this kind of thing, they can change a lot of things, maybe they are stronger than you, they will feel that there is no value in being with you, maybe they are weaker than you, they feel that it is difficult to raise their heads with you, and they are afraid that you will look down on them, so they can only stay away from many factors, and sometimes it is not that there is a reward for paying, so they still quarrel to become stronger, and tell them that you are not stupid in their eyes, and that you are stronger, and there are more friends around you This relationship chain It's the same as the animal chain, only the strong will have the so-called friends

Because friends have more important people and higher pursuits in their hearts, family, work, children, parents...There are many, many things.

You're getting in touch less, aren't you?

Either they are busy with their own things, and slowly they will have less contact, and the relationship will become weaker and weaker...

In the process of growing up, people will become, I have a few good friends, but after high school, there is less contact, and each of them teaches new friends, the relationship is weak, you think she is far away from you, she will also feel that you are far away from her.

Run counter to. Sometimes it's not your friends who are far away from you.

It's that you're far away from your friends.

Time is really scary, it will dilute many of our feelings, but no matter what kind of relationship needs to be maintained, you should contact him more, so that you will feel warm, and you will feel this way! The most important thing is to make friends with your heart, and you will make true friends!

Infrequent contact is getting farther and farther away. Or the achievements and status of the two sides are too different and easy to distance themselves.

Each of us will meet different people in different processes in our lives, and we may have a good relationship with certain people at a certain stage, but after this stage, we may be estranged due to a long period of incontact due to different geographical reasons, which is normal. The edge is light and shallow, and it is destined.

This question is very tangled, but I want to say that the separation of real friends is only temporary, and if you don't reconcile in the end, it is really just the end of fate. Sometimes friends are like that, you get used to it, just look away.

For example. Some friends are fine at first, but gradually they become estranged from each other and don't keep in touch. But some of the new friends are getting closer together.

That's how everything changes. I've been through this, to be honest, it's painful, but we just have to learn to face all the difficulties, and it's better to think about it, these things can't be forced...

I think you need to talk straight to the point, understand what the other party thinks, so that you can know that the other party is not good enough, and then slowly correct your bad habits. Because I've had this experience before, we have this way to get closer to each other (we're girls). I don't know if it will work well for you, but you can try.