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First of all, you have to ask yourself what kind of psychology you have, do you want to be good?? Or do you want to share?? If you think about the benefits, just believe him, if he really has any problems with his ex-girlfriend, the paper can't contain the fire.
If there is no problem, your thoughtfulness and understanding, he will realize that your relationship should improve slowly, and there is no need to doubt anything, if his heart is not in you, people are not interesting in you, so don't quarrel because of your ex-girlfriend, it is easy to hurt even personal feelings.
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Not necessarily, but unless the man has made a thorough decision, he generally won't break up hastily, maybe he's still fighting for himself
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He should also have some nostalgia for this relationship, but he is a little exhausted! Everyone's way of thinking is different, and you can judge it according to your personality. Don't bother too much, there will always be results.
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A woman's heart, it's hard to guess.
What kind of breakup are you doing, my girlfriend too, always saying that I don't text her, it's annoying.
The man is upset, you always talk about breaking up, and he thinks that if you really want to break up, of course, you still keep it at first.
Thinking about it later, if you really don't like him, the twisted melon is not sweet, and he will let it go. Now that it's all right, what are you still thinking?
Really. Eventful.
That's my idea, don't be surprised if it's serious.
I'm sorry, I didn't see the problem clearly, and your ex-girlfriend didn't say anything clearly.
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Landlord, a friend of mine once said a classic sentence, there is only one situation when a man mentions breaking up first - he has another woman, otherwise he will not break up and drag it out.
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01 Under normal circumstances, men are relatively rational creatures, and men's way of thinking is linear, if the benefits outweigh the disadvantages, then do it, and if not, don't do it. In contrast, girls are more susceptible to emotional influences, and in most cases, girls are angry and unhappy when they break up, and then they say it as soon as their brains are hot, and they will regret it when they calm down afterwards. When it comes to breaking up, boys are much more sensible.
Usually the boy has the idea of breaking up, such as feeling that he doesn't like it so much, or finds that the girl has some small shortcomings that are unbearable, and he will not bring it up immediately before he has fully made up his mind. Because he is emotionally invested, or he is not sure if he can find a better one, or even some are just out of physical needs, he will drag it first to see if the problem can be solved through the next observation or start riding a donkey to find a horse. Men are creatures that are relatively intellectually dominant.
So at this stage, you will have a cold attitude and impatience, which will ignite at one point, that is, on the one hand, he will doubt the relationship and reduce his investment, and on the other hand, he will create contradictions to force you to conform to verify the idea of breaking up. However, this process is very painful for girls, so many girls will not be able to hold back to try to quarrel or even take the initiative to break up. In this way, in the hands of the boy, he will feel that this girl is too unreasonable, and it is the right choice to break up.
You must know that unless it is really time to choose one or the other, most men will not mind having a girlfriend. Girls will think that this boyfriend doesn't care about me all day long, I don't love me, it's better not to, men won't, it's good to have someone to chat with or come when you need it. So when a man makes the decision to break up completely, it is usually because he feels that the cost of maintaining the relationship is much greater than the gain.
For example, girls quarrel with him every day until they can't stand it, or they have another good choice.
If you think it's not interesting to fall in love like this, and this kind of person is not worth continuing to pay, then you can mention breaking up. But you have to be clear that this breakup is the final decision, not a temptation to him, and then resolutely do not look back, and it is only a matter of time before you let go. But if you think about it, you still want to try it.
Then we must have some consciousness to accept his state, find out where the core contradiction lies, and on this basis, improve ourselves in a targeted manner, reduce the demand for him, and recreate attraction. Of course, it will take time and patience, and if you want to be able to change right away, you might as well just give up.
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Because boys are all nervous, as long as girls are good-looking and have a passable temper, they will no longer demand anything.
Girls not only want boys to be handsome and good-tempered, but also to like what they like and have feelings for him.
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There's no inevitability.
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Yes. Any breakup is a long-planned plan, and freezing three feet is not a day's cold.
Regardless of men and women, what you say and do when you get along, coupled with realistic factors and objective conditions, if he or she feels that you are no longer what the other party thinks, the breakup will come in minutes, maybe you don't know which of your words makes him unhappy, or you are an unflattering person and have no charm, then the other party will dislike you more and more.
In my opinion, the fundamental reason for the breakup is that there is not enough love, there are many fuses, but the fundamental reason is that I don't like it enough, I don't have the courage to go to the wilderness, it's not the right person, if you are like Fan Bingbing or are particularly good in a certain aspect, see if he will give up on you, definitely not.
Therefore, for the breakup to make you grow, you have to learn to look at people, learn to understand what feelings are like, understand what kind of people you appreciate when you are suitable for potato socks, and finally have your own view of feelings. For example, I am still simple in my emotional outlook, do not do it, be sincere and good to each other, simple, down-to-earth, and do not make trouble.
So breaking up is a thing that makes people grow, all your painful failures and low EQ are to learn to count the fees, all for you to meet the most right person and prepare, don't be good to redeem, man, once he proposes to break up, it means that he has given up on you, give up do you understand, you have to understand the meaning of giving up, you have to know that you are impossible.
It's impossible, you know, it's just to be brave and have your own way, treat him as an interlude, bury it in your heart from now on, and never mention it. You can still love him very much, you can not forget him, the sincerity of your serious feelings and investment will always belong to you, love yourself, be a little confident, don't feel that you can't do without him, in fact, if he loves you, he won't mention breaking up, you have to be sober.
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The boy's proposal to break up does not necessarily mean that he is not in love. The complexity of relationships makes the breakup decision possible for a variety of factors, including but not limited to love. Here are some of the situations that might explain a guy's decision to break up:
1.Emotional changes: Feelings are fickle, and sometimes people's feelings may change. The guy may find that he no longer has strong feelings for the relationship, but it does not mean that his previous love is not real.
2.Misalignment of the relationship: Relationships can be problematic, and the expectations and needs of both parties may no longer match, leading the guy to think that breaking up is the solution to the problem. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, it's just that there are difficulties in the relationship.
3.Personal problems: Sometimes a guy may face personal problems such as work, school, family, etc., which cause him to be unable to devote himself fully to the relationship. In this case, he may choose to break up in order to solve his personal problems.
4.Growth and development: Sometimes a breakup can also be for the sake of personal growth and development.
A guy may think that breaking up is the only way for him to grow up, and even if he loves you, he needs to experience independence only to stop loving each other. It is important to respect the other person's decision, to find the best solution for yourself and the other person, regardless of the decision, based on respect and understanding.
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1. Want to cover up the fact that he is negative: If you propose to break up, many people who don't know the truth will think that you dumped him, and he is the one who was hurt. In order to cover up the fact that he was the first to be negative.
Many people are like this, they do scumbags but still want to leave a good reputation, obviously he has changed his mind, but he uses cold violence to force you to break up first, making him look like the abandoned person. Some will even pretend to be hurt when you propose to break up, so that it is really an external manifestation that you have given up first. We all know that the first person to propose a breakup will feel more or less guilty about his former love and loss, so that he can leave a good reputation and reduce his guilt, which can be described as killing two birds with one stone.
2. I can't bear to break up, and I am unwilling to stop at you: Sometimes falling in love is like picking up shells on the beach, and I always feel that there is something better ahead, so I keep moving forward, but I can't meet the biggest shell for a long time. Nostalgia for what I thought was the biggest shell so far, and I was still looking forward to something better ahead.
The same is true for love, especially if two people have been together for a long time, they will definitely have feelings, and they will be more or less reluctant at the moment of breakup, and they faintly feel that there is someone more suitable than you in front of them, and they can't make up their minds to break up. So the act of breaking up is handed over to the other party, if you propose to break up, it is equivalent to cutting off his back road, and you can pursue the forest ahead without distraction.
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I think it's okay to break up, at least the one I met, he didn't take the initiative to break up. What I'm saying is just my own thoughts, after all, it's up to you to decide for yourself.
You don't feel love, he didn't mention breaking up, I said the following three points.
First, see if he is different from usual, for example, cold and violent, not texting for a long time, and a big change in his attitude towards you. There is such a saying on the Internet: "Men are not good at breaking up, but they are good at forcing people to break up".
If this is the case, there is a high probability that he doesn't like you anymore, but he has his own reasons and doesn't say it explicitly. I don't want to be a bad guy myself, I'm forcing you to say it first.
Second, if he's the same as usual, it makes no difference to you. Maybe he is used to loving you, and at this time you still want to continue to be with him, communicate well, and try to solve the problems that can be solved, after all, it has been so long.
Third, it has been said that when you don't feel love, it's when love begins. If you miss the other party because of your improper communication, you will most likely regret it in the future.
In short, if there are no major problems between you, I suggest that you talk openly and honestly, find the problem, solve it, and in short, don't let yourself regret it.
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Hello, I inadvertently saw your question and made me think, this can be derived from many, many things, not something that can be explained in a few words. What's more, people are individuals, whether they are men or women, you say yes!
First of all, what you call a tentative breakup. Trust me, I advise you not to do this, it will only make the other person get farther and farther away from you, no matter how much he likes you. Many words are easy to hurt, but it is better to organize the language well and tell the other person how you feel, which is communication.
After that, the other party's every word and every move, I believe it will give back to you and make you feel, whether it is good or bad, it is your own choice question.
Will men take the initiative to break up? Well. I will! My friends around me will too!
If you really want me to say, don't guess and try and tempte. How tired! For me, getting along should be relaxed and happy, supporting each other, reminding each other, and growing.
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One person's efforts are rewarded with another's neglect. Such a lifeless feeling not only hurt the other party, but also made me more and more tired. Emotionally, why do some men pretend to love and listen to the truth?
Why don't men take the initiative to say goodbye to you and tell the truth to those who have come before.
Mr. Yang, his heart is too soft to see the other party's heartbreak, emotionally, no one wants the other party to leave one day. After all, in this relationship, everyone has their own contribution. As a man, the last thing I want to see is the female ** tears I once liked, even if she deceived herself, she didn't want to take the initiative to break up.
When I was with my ex-girlfriend for more than a year, I knew that we couldn't continue, and I had different views. Being together can only be torture. I couldn't bear to see her sad, so I didn't end the relationship until she broke up.
Ms. Tian, consume your feelings and get the benefits he wants, obviously no longer in love, but you are unwilling to take the initiative to tell you, to a large extent, you are still interested in him. My ex-boyfriend at the beginning, obviously had someone else outside behind my back, but he never took the initiative to break up with me, and he never showed an attitude of boredom with me. It wasn't until the breakup that I understood why he was doing this.
It turned out that he was with me and could eat and drink. Imagine who wouldn't want to have a free ATM by their side. Such a man, after weighing the pros and cons, finds that the disadvantages outweigh the advantages after leaving, so at this time, even if he doesn't love it, he still wants to be tied to you.
Ms. Shan, to put it bluntly, I haven't found my next home yet, emotionally, such a man is afraid that once he breaks up with you, he won't find his next home. On the contrary, he might as well continue to be with you. Emotionally, it is a woman's misfortune to meet such a man.
You give it your heart, but in his eyes you're just a spare tire.
Since you don't love, you have to be brave enough to tell each other. Playing dead will not only make you more and more tired, but it will also be irresponsible for the relationship. From a man's point of view, since he has chosen love, he must be responsible for this feeling, and even if he no longer loves, he must take the initiative to tell the other party.
Emotionally, what I am most afraid of is to be slow, love well when you love, and leave generously when you don't love.
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