The post 80s generation is lost, looking forward to the guidance of the predecessors

I'm the same age as you, my younger brother, I'm 86 years old, just graduated, I will go to Shenzhen to wander around, I haven't eaten for 48 hours in a row, and I went to the Internet café to drink a cup of free tea. (No money, really no, not a dollar is gone) I don't earn enough to eat myself, and finally I endured the pressure to send 300 yuan to my parents, and I went home as a travel fee. The 800 yuan I brought with me when I went out was also spent, and I lost all my money.

Live when realistic. When I was hungry, my mind was full of shredded pork noodles made by my mother.

Of course, I used to be incompatible with my parents, so I chose to go out, and after I went out, I realized that the real life is very cruel (I can't support myself) I now open a pharmacy with the help of my family, and I can live slowly, and the business is still successful. I also got married and had children, and my previous thoughts are completely different, and my mentality is different, I suggest that you open a small shop by yourself and start with small things, and remember to do a good job without a small thing to succeed. I thought of a famous quote; If you are afraid of hardship, you will suffer for a lifetime, and you will not be afraid of hardship, as long as you suffer for a while.

Hope you can find yourself again!!

Very well said upstairs.

I think you should set a goal.

Make unremitting efforts to do so

I think the exhibition is very promising, the most important thing is that you can't lose confidence in yourself Remember: facing the sun can see the light, facing the sun only darkness, what determines life is not where people are, but the direction people are heading Come on and encourage each other

I'm hard pressed to help you.

Although I would love to!

But first.

I want to say a little bit about you.

If you think others are short-sighted, you're wrong.

They're all struggling.

For the sake of life. I want to be elegant, I want to treat money like dung.

You have to have it first!

If you really want to leave this breathtaking city, study abroad if you have the money.

I am also a post-80s generation, and many experiences are similar to yours. 3 years before graduation, I basically got mixed up and still owed a lot of money. I was in Shenzhen at that time.

People always want to change, and so do I. So, I threw everything away and went north alone, to Hangzhou, Suzhou, and Shanghai. Then stay in one industry for another 2 years.

In the past 2 years, I have endured a lot, but also because I am very unsatisfactory. But I didn't give up, almost, it doesn't matter if it's hard, I'm a countryman, I'm not afraid of this. What I'm afraid of is that I won't succeed in my career and I won't have money in my pocket.

To this day, I can't say that it was successful, at least it is much better than before.

Really, I'm sure you can. As for doing exhibitions, if you really believe in it, stick to it. I'm sure you can do it!!

Don't give up, don't give up!! Borrow it, you and I encourage each other!

1.It doesn't matter if you don't have a woman, but you have your mother now. No matter what you say, I think you shouldn't understand your mother like this, and it's not easy for her to raise you alone.

From your words, it can be seen that your upbringing environment is not very good, and it is true that the death of your father was undoubtedly a huge blow when your outlook on life was being formed. But as the doctor said, you're just different from other young people, but you're not an outlier.

As the years gradually move towards the year of establishment, you should also set up a career first, learn English well, and then get a computer book, which is basically obtained, you can find a secretarial job, or do your favorite profession as you said, but do any job to do it well, do not do one thing for others to see, but to do it yourself, as an accumulation of experience. God rewards hard work, everything you do seriously will actually be watched.

3.Relax your mind, because society is like this, don't look at society with the eyes of school, flowers that have been in the greenhouse for a long time will eventually learn to face the wind and rain.

That's it, don't think about it, life is always beautiful.

Young people should have a sense of enthusiasm, work hard to do everything well, and persevere.

I am also a post-80s generation, and I used to say that the post-80s generation can't endure hardships or something, I think the post-80s generation is not necessarily a young master and princess, we can also bear hardships and stand hard work. When it comes to work, it's mostly up to you to make your own decisions. But no matter which life you choose, hard work is certain.

1, this is good to decide for yourself, I don't think time is a problem, prepare for a protracted battle, maybe it won't take that long.

2,Engineering is good.,It has nothing to do with gender.,I'm studying psychology in Japan.,There are still quite a lot of engineering girls in school.。

3. It is difficult to get into the University of Tokyo, you should be cautious about the university, it is best to decide after you go to Japan for a period of time, some schools are very good, but the requirements are very high, some schools are very easy, and the credits are easy to get, if the goal is to go to graduate school, the university is not too important, just try to find opportunities to contact the tutor.

4. That school seems to be good, I've heard of it, I haven't studied in a language school, so I don't have any suggestions.

5, there are still a lot of part-time job opportunities in Tokyo, the consumption is really high, when I was in Tokyo, the standard of 130,000 yen per month, the house is about 100,000, food, 20,000 yuan a month is enough, the salary of the part-time job depends on what you do, about 1000 an hour should still be relatively easy to find.

6. The study atmosphere in Japan is not so tense, but I have to learn Japanese well first, and the scholarship is very easy, and I got it. It's just to write an application form, write some future ideals or something.

7. The city is safe and secure, and people get along well, but Tokyo is a little chaotic, which is inevitable.

8. There are spring breaks, summer vacations, winter breaks, and various holidays, even Arbor Day.

9. I don't know the difference in**.

10, half a year is enough.

11. The employment prospects are good, our company recruits a lot of engineering girls in Japan every year, and we are doing mechatronics.

12. Electronic devices are not expensive, mobile phones, it is really not possible to buy au for free, there are a lot of them.

13. You've asked this question.

My experience with Japanese learning is to watch anime, haha.

1. Yes, it is very difficult to cross majors, not to mention the language barrier, it is not a good choice to consider Japan from the perspective of time, if the tutor is not very satisfied with you, you may have to study for an extra year, and I personally think that it is more cost-effective to go to Japan for undergraduate studies after graduating from high school. If the financial conditions allow, it is best to go to the UK, it is OK in one year, even if you change majors and add pre-master's courses, it is only one year, and if you don't have enough money, you can go to Ireland, which is very fast.

2. Interest is the best teacher...

3, Todai... It's a bit more difficult, there is not much difference between the public and private schools, and if you go to a language school, there will be guidance for further education.

4. I haven't heard of it, but I personally think that the language school is an excessive, not like the university, the teaching quality is far from the same, and you can find an excellent school with a good geographical location and convenient transportation.

5. Part-time work to earn some pocket money, or study is the most important, and if you have a high degree of education, the salary is naturally high, study hard in a language school, and studying less time is equivalent to making money, the tuition fee of language school is much higher than that of university, and there are many scholarships for universities.

6. I haven't experienced it, I don't know, some of the scholarships in language schools are work-study in nature, you work for it, it pays you tuition and accommodation fees, and there is also a monthly salary.

7. Everywhere there are good and bad people ...

8. The vacation time of each university is different, and there are generally three holidays per year. The summer vacation is generally from early July to late August, lasting for two months. Winter break (New Year's Day) is generally from late December to early January, about two weeks.

Spring break (winter vacation) is about a month from late February or late March to early April.

9. Only students from universities and accredited language schools can get a student visa, and others can only get a student visa.

10, it seems a little difficult to see how you learn...

11. It's hard to say, but at least it's much more competitive than your current domestic university, and many people don't want to work in Japan because the pressure is too much.

12, I don't know.

13, the accommodation is generally 600,000 yen...

Going to Japan is not the best choice, of course, if you like this country very much, it is recommended to learn the language in your home country and spend less time in a language school...

The answers to the above are more comprehensive, and I would like to add a student visa and a student visa:

Language schools generally have a student visa for a period of six months or one year (in rare cases, a student visa), universities and graduate schools have a student visa, and a student visa with a duration of one or two years can enjoy student discounts (transportation, scholarships, medical care, etc.).

You don't even know what your major is, and you want to go to graduate school. It's just that I attach importance to diplomas, and my attitude is wrong.

But that's off topic. You should first ask yourself what major you prefer.

You're still lucky, it's good to find a job with the right major. It is recommended that you delve more into your own technology, and there will be a way out.

Many graduates come out to do sales and customer service, and their majors are basically deserted. Many of them are just as bad at dealing with people as you are. But in order to survive, they still have to do it, and it is difficult to find a proper job, and many people fall into a vicious circle of being forced to do sales-poor performance-job-change-change sales-jump again.

In particular, graduates of third-rate universities, if they do not study technical majors, have an introverted personality. It's really hard to survive in this society.

Let's put it this way, if you really want to do a good job, don't stay in Shanghai, experts say that there are many opportunities in big cities, but in fact, it is not like this, there are many opportunities and talents, and there are few opportunities left for you, and you also said, you don't like to deal with people very much, this is a fatal wound in big cities, and it is difficult to be found and recognized in a competitive environment if you don't like to deal with people. If you really want to engage in technology yourself, go to the mainland, don't care about other people's incomprehensible and disdainful eyes, just believe in yourself, the development of the mainland is suitable for you, it is good to be a technical executive, and from the perspective of environment and housing prices, Shanghai is not suitable for you, this is a personal opinion, you should consider it.

I advise you to keep going to work and don't think too much, the more you think about it, the more you lose. After saving some money, you can do whatever you want, and you can have a plan now, and you can't get by. There are more than enough than the above, and there are a lot worse than you in China, even if you get 10,000 or more a month, aren't you also working?

Who can you compare with, and who are you going to compare with when the time comes? Therefore, people should be content and happy, but it does not mean that they must be satisfied with the status quo, people always have ideals, but they must come step by step, from the current point of view, accumulating work experience and saving some entrepreneurial capital is the first choice!