I work in a different place, how can I convince my wife to come with me?

First of all, whether there are many suitable places for your wife to work in the city where you work, you should consider whether your wife's current job is hard-won, if you have been working for many years, and even have the possibility of upgrading, it is best not to let your wife leave, and change a new working environment or start from the very basics, it is not easy for your wife to have a good achievement.

If your wife doesn't have a job, that's the best, you have to make sure that your wife will live better than now when she goes to your city, and the living conditions can't be worse than now, men just want to give their women a happy life, if your wife goes to your city to accompany you to endure hardships, then forget it.

As long as you can give your wife a good living guarantee, your wife will follow you no matter the ends of the earth.

Maybe it's different salaries in different cities, although the city you are in now is a big city, but you earn more, but in another way, the consumption of the cities that earn more is very high, and the cities that earn salaries at the general level are often very low, in short, there is not much difference in the living conditions.

If you want to settle your home in your current city, then you can show your wife that you are capable enough to let you have a home of your own, and only if you give a woman enough security will she follow you with all her heart.

If you are married, you are forced to transfer to another city to work, and you need to consider your family and whether the elderly on both sides need to be taken care of by your wife.

Also consider the child, the child has adapted to the current school, and you let him away from the current life to re-familiarize himself with a new environment, which will only make the child very introverted or even inferior.

The question you mentioned is indeed a headache.

I used to be in a similar situation to you, I was with my girlfriend for four years. And then it's been almost three years since I was out of town, I'm 22 years old, and my girlfriend is 21 years old. I've been working hard outside.

Every time we saw each other, we had to wait until the summer vacation, and then the Chinese New Year, and each time it was very short.

I am more than 1,600 kilometers away from her, and I can only chat on my mobile phone every day, and then call**,**. It's really tiring like this, and it is said on the Internet: The best test of the relationship between two people is to talk about a long-distance relationship.

My girlfriend and I have been away for two and a half years, and this relationship must be real. That's right.

But if I am in a different place, I will have a lot of conflicts with him. Every time we talk less than two sentences, we get angry with each other, and even the slightest thing can cause discord. It's because we haven't seen each other for a long time, and then the two of us have different lifestyles and habits.

In this way, it will only lead to two people going further and further apart, without a common topic. When she tells you how her day is doing, and you tell her how your day is, you can't listen to each other.

Every time I persuade her, I say come to work on my side. Then he always said that she was reluctant to give up the small town of her hometown, where there were too many memories and his family. Then I couldn't help it, and in the end, I also chose to go back to my hometown and come back to accompany her.

Then I plan to start my own business here and from home, there is no choice.

So if you want to convince your wife to work with you, over there, you have to talk about that.

I have to say that after a long time, the two of us will definitely be estranged together, no matter how good the relationship is, it will definitely be estranged. Then the realm of vision, if you are in a more developed place, your realm of vision will definitely be a little higher than your wife, and then the two of you will have different personalities and living habits, and there will definitely be all kinds of contradictions in the future. So for the sake of this family in the future, the two of you must be together.

You can find your wife a job in your city, help her settle her life, work and study, and then invite your wife to come and live with you when everything is ready.

Nowadays, more and more women are working in other places, which can reduce the financial burden of the family, and secondly, it also reflects the economic independence of women, who can freely use their own money, and do not need to reach out to men to ask for money. In fact, it is not easy for women to work outside the home, and the employment area is relatively not as wide as that of men. For example, heavy physical work, dangerous industries, etc. are not suitable for women to work, so they can only find some jobs that are relatively light and suitable for women's career development.

A woman who has been working in other places for a long time and can't go home a few times a year will inevitably have less emotional communication with her husband, and as a woman's husband, can she rest assured at home? Let's hear what the three men have to say.

Xiaohong's husband, 46 years old, has been married for more than 20 years.

My wife Xiaohong and I have a good relationship, and we have lived together for more than 20 years and have never quarreled. Now, the two children are getting older and both are studying, and the family's expenses are getting bigger and bigger. Xiaohong saw it in her eyes and was anxious, and took the initiative to work in distant places, she said that working in other places to earn more money than in the local area.

I supported her when she went to work in other places, and her vision was broader outside, which just met her wish for many years.

She is working in other places, and I am still relieved of her. I remember the first few years, when she was working in a factory near our hometown, just a few months after she went to school, there was a man of her age in the unit who wanted to bully her, and she was deliberately looking for fault and wanting to get close to her, she saw the man's thoughts, and said to him confidently: "I am a family person, and I have a good relationship with my husband, please stay away from me in the future."

When the man heard this, he never approached her again.

Besides, the two of them have been together for so many years, so old, and the relationship between the two is very good. I understand her personality, she has principles and a bottom line, and she will not do anything that hurts her feelings. Therefore, she is working outside, and I am still relieved of her.

There must be a reason why your wife wants to work in a different place, because the family financial situation and some trivial matters should calm down and have a good talk with your wife, if the child is still young, you must take care of the child and let him work in a little more place.

Being away from home can lead to a breakup, and I feel like two people should be together, either leave her or you go along.

Everyone says that distance produces beauty, but distance produces not only beauty, but also estrangement and strangeness, I admit that there are some different places in the world, can join hands to whitehead, but the vast majority of us ordinary people, are unable to do this.

You may say that as long as you love each other, there is no problem in not being in the same city, but you must know that love is not only a verbal expression, spiritual communication, but also needs to be able to take care of each other and understand each other's difficulties.

If your wife goes to work in another place and you two have been separated for a long time. Who took care of her when she was sick? When she is wronged, whose arms will she lie in and cry? When she's upset, who takes her to a big dinner to make her happy?

You can't do all of this, and she can't do it for you. After a long time, there will always be another person to do these things, and the relationship between you will gradually fade.

Both parties agree on a consensus, as long as they calmly analyze the pros and cons (development, salary, the actual situation of the family in the year, etc.).

Then consider the overall impact on your family, whether you have the convenience of working in a different place, etc.

It is estimated that you have really broken your wife's heart, and people are afraid of being sad, if you really realize that you are wrong, you will use your actions to interpret and influence your wife, and recognize that your wife sees the hope of going down with you, and she will forgive you.

According to what you said, you quarreled with your wife, and as a result, your wife went to work in a different place in a fit of anger and you followed her, and she refused to come out to see you, since this is the case, then you have to seize the opportunity to move her with your true feelings, apologize to her, and obtain her understanding, and at the same time, you must also make yourself responsible and responsible, and be more tolerant and understanding of her, so that you husband and wife will definitely be able to release their previous suspicions and return to each other.

In fact, husband and wife must understand each other, communicate with each other, think more about each other, pay more, you have to believe that pay is rewarded, in life you have to make your wife feel that you are a person you can rely on, so as a man If you haven't worked for two years, you will be angry if you change to any girl, because the cost of the family is very large, how can you have income if you don't go to work? Without income, any woman will feel stressed!

This may be that there is something wrong with your relationship. Otherwise, if the couple has a very good relationship, they will not be separated.

I don't think this situation can be rushed. It's better to wait and see.

I think men can do this:

1. Communicate well with your wife to understand why she wants to go to work in other places.

Many men will think that if their wives stay by their side, no matter how hard and tired they are, they don't think this is the right idea. Now is an era of rapid development, every family needs money, if there is no money as a material basis, just to eat enough, such couples will definitely be eliminated.

If my wife wants to go to work in other places, I think her income in other places should be better than in the local area, otherwise she will not choose to go out, as a husband, you should understand your wife's thoughts, if it is reasonable, you should support her, because she will also drive you well.

Second, from the perspective of the development of two people, whether both of them go.

It is better for husband and wife not to separate, but it is understandable that one party wants to go to other places to develop and want to change the situation at home and improve the quality of life.

If you really don't want to separate, I personally think that it is best for both parties to stand in each other's perspective, consider where the two people will stay, and the development will be better. After a few years of hardship, it may be exchanged for a lifetime of food and clothing, which is also very good.

Step 1: First of all, we must adjust our mentality and let ourselves look at this matter correctly from the bottom of our hearts.

Don't get scared and unhappy when you hear the news. On the other hand, this is not necessarily a bad thing, the job in the field may pay more, and the treatment in all aspects may be much better than that of the local one.

Then your wife is going to work in other places, also to help you share some family responsibilities, but also to make more money and make your life better. Since you are both married and married, you should have a minimum of trust in your own wife, trust her and yourself at the same time. Think about it all.

Step 2: Calm down and communicate with your wife seriously, listen to your wife's inner thoughts, and learn to respect her.

If you communicate with your wife and her opinion is that you have decided to work in other places, then you can respect her ideas and make plans for your future and work together.